[lasaidso]

I NEED women to get comfortable telling folks “You’re not doing enough for me” and “I need more than what you’re capable or willing to provide.” I need my ladies to say it, mean it, and STAND on it, because that’s where your best life and best LOVE resides. It’s not selfish, it’s self preservation. Too many times, people come into our lives, leave with more than what they had, when they came, and we are left depleted and broken when they’re gone.

Dead it. ♥️

[thevirgodoll]

Doll Diaries: 10 Ways to Begin Living the Doll Life.

To introduce my brand and my mission, I have created the first guide on how to Live the Doll Life.

This is the first of many posts to build around what a Doll means.

This is a compilation of all of my advice from past posts, my values and things I recommend aspiring to. It's an initiation of some sorts, and will be a sneak peek to what my website and Patreon will entail. This covers who you want to be (your ideal self), who you are right now (your current self), your measure of confidence and value (your worth), and your reality of who you are (your traits and individuality).

Welcome to the Dollhouse!!!

A huge part of what made me choose "Doll" as a brand is the movie, Life Size (2000).

In Life Size, Eve stood up for what was right, was ambitious, and learned how to honor her feelings as a real person. I highly recommend giving it a watch (I haven't seen the second movie, only referencing the first) to really get a feel of the energy I want to cultivate and embody. Now, let's get into it!

1. Embrace everything you already are.

Just because you are in a pursuit of becoming someone new does not mean you have to discard the things that make you who you are. Embracing who you already are and who you were is key to building self confidence. Who you are now is worthy of love and gratitude.

Ask yourself:

What can I forgive myself for?

What are my current strengths and weaknesses?

How can I show myself gratitude today?

2. Love people and speak life into them.

A true Doll does not engage in taking other women down. The biggest issue in today's world is that negativity has become a hot commodity. It is so insidious once it gets started, and it has been normalized to tear other people down in shady, subtle comments. These things bear no fruit. Understand now that talking badly about people and hating them only increases their sun.

What makes the difference between a Doll and another person is that everything she says has a purpose. Before speaking ask yourself:

Is this necessary? Is this true?

What do I gain from saying this?

Would I want to hear this?

These questions will make you distinguish between feelings and facts. You may not even know why you don't like someone at first, but asking yourself critical questions will teach you to see things from a different perspective. Most of the time, this has taught me to keep certain things to myself! If you don't know what you feel yet, the best thing to do is be quiet. It really is true that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all. ***There are obviously exceptions to the rule, such as emotional abuse, bullying, etc. Defend yourself. Just don't be the one to be a catalyst to someone's downfall.

3. Be a student of life.

In this Dollhouse, we are eager to learn!!! If you want to lead others, you have to be willing to admit that you can be wrong. Even though Dolls are well adored and well educated, we aren't always right. Well, a lot of the time I am, but that's not the point!

Ask yourself:

What is this trying to teach me? What can I take away from this?

When was the last time I opened my mind to something new?

What could I have done differently? If I am resistant to feedback or change in this present moment, why?

4. Take pride in your appearance.

We aren't perfect...but we might as well be the closest thing to it. Make the decision now that you want to look your best every day. This doesn't mean wearing a full face of makeup 24/7, but this does mean being put together. A Doll should never leave the house without looking presentable, and if this is difficult, it's time for a change! Remember in The Princess Diaries when Mia got a makeover to become a princess? She looked like a completely different person and all it took was a new routine in beauty maintenance.

Obviously, you don't have to go to the extremes like she did. There's nothing wrong with glasses, thick curly hair, or thick eyebrows. It's all about making those things cohesive, which is the point of the makeover. I suggest you go on Pinterest or other platforms to find inspiration for what you want to look like. Create a routine around looking your best for YOU...only you know what flatters you the most.

Ask yourself:

What do I feel when I look in the mirror?

What influences me? What does a Doll look like to me?

What would a physical change do for me right now? And why am I doing it?

5. Have people in your life that align with you.

Friends can inspire us, or derail us. It is extremely hard as you get older to sustain friendships because once you leave grade school, there aren't any commonalities keeping you around people you know. Sometimes, we hang onto people longer than we need to.

A verse from the Bible that I often keep in mind regarding friends is Proverbs 12:26:

The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.

Ask yourself:

Would I take advice from this person? Why or why not?

What are the pros and cons of having this person around? How do I feel after hanging out with them?

What do they do for me? Is this reciprocal or transactional?

Is this person bringing me closer to or further away from my dreams, goals, and aspirations? Do they value what I value?

During conflict, how has this friend treated me? Do I trust them? Can I go to them when I need them?

As far as relationships, that is different for everyone but the questions are relatively the same. Some people stop their entire journey towards becoming the woman of their dreams because of love. Guard your heart!!!

Ask yourself:

Does this person align with my beliefs and values? Have I vetted them to see what type of person they are?

How does this person take care of themselves spiritually, mentally, and physically?

What is their story? Is this person aware of that story (whether it's with family, exes, friends, etc.)?

What can they offer me that I cannot give to myself?

Why do I want to be with this person?

6. Truly begin to believe you ARE 1 of 1.

Everyone is different, especially you. Your energy is highly sought after, all you have to do is acknowledge that. In order to live this lifestyle, you gotta appreciate differences in people around you so you can avoid guilting yourself into assimilation/conformity.

Individuality is everything... don't trade that for the approval of others. Social media has revealed how much originality women lack... so be a breath of fresh air. Think of this as Miley Stewart becoming her alter ego, Hannah Montana. The best way to see the new you is a alter ego. Celebrities have used alter egos to embody a side of them that is full of tenacity and candor...basically what they wish they could be. Real life examples are: Sasha Fierce (Beyoncé), Roman (Nicki Minaj).

The arc of an alter ego comes full circle. At some point in the Hannah Montana franchise, Miley came to terms that she lacked nothing in being who she really was because the star power was already in her. Therefore, she let her go and embodied those qualities in herself as "Miley". After hard work it will be the same for you, and you will appreciate who you are even more and not have to separate the two.

Ask yourself:

Who am I? What makes me special?

What do I love most about myself?

What is my signature and aesthetic?

What are the qualities of my alter ego/archetype?

7. Be a woman of substance.

It's useless to work towards being an it girl if you have nothing to talk about. So many women have star quality on the outside, but they are surface level and it prevents them from being seen positively and it takes away their chance of being an it girl.

Learn about current events. Learn about past events. Learn about events that are yet to come, and form an opinion.

You have Google at your disposal, so there's really no excuse to be lazy. Find your passion...most people are empty because they don't do anything they love. Be well versed in multiple topics. I know we say beauty and brains, but it really is hard to come by these days. Most people do not read anymore, nor do they take the time out to learn things themselves.

When it comes to school, that counts as substance as well if you're actually taking classes you're getting something out of (which is a whole other post). I would be remiss if I did not mention that education isn't for everyone. But for those of you that are going to college or are in college like me, this is one of the most important stages of your life. You're on the cusp of greatness. Life happens, but no matter what, we gotta get that degree no matter how long it takes.

Ask yourself:

What's going on in the world right now?

When is the last time I read a book or did something educational?

What are my hobbies? What are my habits? How do these things speak to my intelligence and who I am?

What are the things I want out of my education and what are my goals for this upcoming semester?

8. Dedicate time to your healing.

Just because everything looks perfect, doesn’t mean it will always be that way. This journey towards being that girl will not get rid of your need to heal.

Healing is a rugged path that one must travel their entire life...your journey in becoming the person of your dreams never ends. Give yourself grace on things that you didn't know before.

As always, I recommend journaling to understand your thought process. Sometimes, I look back at my entries in my diary and realize that things weren't as bad as they seemed. Sometimes, though, they were...and for my healing process it became crucial to (when I have the capacity) revisit the moments that shaped my perspective.

I know everyone says this, but there no shame in getting help. No amount of Doll Diaries I give you or confidence lessons/advice from others will matter if you are ignoring what fills your heart with dread at night. Like Megan thee Stallion says, bad b*tches have bad days too.

I am in therapy and I take medications for my mental illnesses, and that made all the difference. Tips are in my mental health tag.

I recommend a spiritual routine that works for you. This may include meditating, praying, going to church, taking quiet time...it's all up to you, but it gives me purpose and structure when feeling existential.

Dedicate life to something bigger than yourself. Remain on the path by upkeeping discipline. Outside influences can lead you astray, but you are the difference between stumbling and getting up, and stumbling and remaining flat on your face. This will involve giving up certain things, such as music or shows or even people that push you further away from what you believe in.

Lastly, have a list of coping mechanisms that you review in crisis. Often, things get overwhelming and we won’t get the chance to sit down and journal or go read something. With that, it’s helpful to make a list of things that you know will help you cope and survive no matter what (while acknowledging the absence of these means you’re getting bad again.)

Here is a very small portion of my list:

cleaning my space

spending time with my dog

playing video games

writing, drawing, music

Ask yourself:

When's the last time I had a break without feeling guilty or lazy?

What positive practices do I have in place to keep me stable? What negative practices do I have in place that prevent me from being stable?

How am I currently working towards improving my mental state? What do I know about myself mentally and spiritually, and how can I use that to transcend?

9. Learn the art of detachment.

People talk about being unbothered, but I don't think everyone truly understands what that means. In this Dollhouse, unbothered does not mean being nonchalant and void of all emotions. Feelings are natural, and I am not sure where someone mixed that up. What creates "unbothered" energy and "detachment" is by realizing you cannot control everything and that majority of the time, it isn't personal. This is one of the hardest lessons out there.

Ask yourself:

Is this really in my control?

How can I focus on the present moment?

And ultimately, remember you cannot fix or please anyone. Keep your composure even in the face of negativity. Your reactions and perceptions to everything you deal with is the most important thing, and will be the common denominator when it comes down to your experiences. Two books I read that changed my perspective and helped me maintain this lifestyle on this was The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty.

10. Above all, live in YOUR world!!!

Make your world exclusive. Keep certain things for yourself so it retains sacredness. Be your own best friend before anyone else. Learn to embrace your own company. Don't always be accessible. Cultivate richness in your life...be willing to take risks and have a variety of experiences.

The main and most important question to ask yourself is: What does my dream world look like?

This is where the Doll Life comes into play. Barbie was marketed as being an all around sweetheart and "girl boss" with the dream life. Bratz were marketed as having individuality and a dream world experience driven by passion.

Both have core values in making sure young girls dreamed big and remained authentic. Honorable mention: Disney, as they did a great job at emphasizing dreams can come true with Disney princesses.

What I want my version of a Doll Life to be marketed as is a world where we indulge in endless possibilities and be multiple versions of ourselves at once. Where we feel like something wonderful could happen, even in the midst of trials.

We can be gentle, yet demanding. We can be feminine with masculine energy, and vice versa. We don't have to choose between one aesthetic or the other. We don't have to conform to the world, because we are in it and not of it. Dolls are seen as "perfect", and that's just the thing, I don't want my brand to be a cookie cutter definition! That's why I say I am the Doll that no one can play with. To be a Doll means to be uniquely you and standing out amongst the rest. It's a mindset, it's a lifestyle.

Don't box yourself in... remember growing up the dream life of Bratz and Barbie refused to box themselves in and remained true to themselves. Live without limits!!! Dreams really can come true. And this Dollhouse is a safe space to DREAM!!!

Even if you don't believe it now, day by day, if you start dedicating yourself to this and remain congruent with your philosophy, you will be more than you could ever imagine. It took so much time for me to do this, but my life is forever changed. So indulge in your wishes, and create your own "life of luxury" or "dream world". Simply live by YOUR rules, and use mine as a outline to get started. I can't wait to see what all of you come up with. I hope this helps Dolls!!! *gives you the keys to your suite in the dollhouse* Proud of you!!!

xoxo,

thevirgodoll ♡

see also:

confidence tag

other doll diaries

advice

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Validate Yourself & Stop People Pleasing

A comprehensive guide to learn love & trust yourself and break out of your people-pleasing identity. Hope this helps xx

HOW TO MASTER THE ART OF SELF-VALIDATION:

Remember the longest relationship you have in life is the one with yourself. While we all need an external support system to be well-rounded & healthy individuals, no one else will be with you throughout your entire life except for you. So, acting as your own best friend is the secret to living your happiest and most fulfilling life. You ultimately need to do what's best for you. Otherwise, you're damaging the only relationship you will have to confront in every aspect and stage of your life.

Acknowledge your humanity and fundamental right to have needs, goals, and personal desires. Validate your personhood and individuality. Remember you're only human and are bound to have your own physical/emotional limitations and preferences. If you would be willing to cater to others' schedules, boundaries, and limitations, give yourself this equal level of respect and expect others to do the same.

Know everyone is self-centered to a certain degree. No one cares about your happiness as much or is watching you as closely as you are. They all have themselves and their lives to worry about. People are paying attention to their own self-interests (or want you to accomplish things to boost their own credibility or self-esteem). Being your greatest personal cheerleader is the only way to fully give yourself the praise and spotlight you deserve for your accomplishments.

Self-confidence is magnetic. It is the secret to showing up as your best self in all areas of life. Being secure in yourself makes you a better friend, family member, lover, partner, spouse, professional, conversationalist, etc. Validating yourself will make you feel good, but also radiates into every relationship or interaction in your life.

Discover what you love about yourself. Reflect on the personality traits, skillsets, and behaviors you know to be admirable about yourself. Are you constantly making others laugh? Do you get endless praise for your cooking, drawing, singing, or problem-solving skills? Would people come to you first to manage a crisis like a champion? Are you a master disciplinarian when it comes to going to the gym or reading? Do people regularly compliment your outfits or nails? Think of all of the aspects of your being that make you unique and help you to feel content with your existing, authentic self.

Take control of your life to cultivate your ideal self. While you should consistently praise your naturally admirable qualities, remember that you always can change aspects of your life that will help you feel like your best self. Know that you're in control of your decisions and have the mental freedom to think & act in any way you desire to reach any goals or implement lifestyle changes to feel like the person you feel destined to be.

Block out the noise and negative self-talk. We're (almost always!) our worst critics. Consider every new experience or interaction as a learning opportunity. Mistakes and failures are life lessons that facilitate self-reflection and opportunities for growth. Remember not to beat yourself up for past mistakes: You did the best you could with the information you had at the time. If you weren't embarrassed by your past self, you never gave yourself the chance to evolve and grow. Every success, failure, and new life stage offers its own lessons and teachable moments. Remember that we're all our own unique life paths. Comparing your life to someone else's is like comparing apples and oranges. Both entities may be fruitful but have vastly different flavor profiles, growing seasons, and rates at which they ripen. As Dita Von Tesse shrewdly said: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there will always be someone who hates peaches."

HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING:

Acknowledge that people-pleasing is a form of self-neglect. By prioritizing another person's desires or approval above your own, you're ultimately neglecting your physical, emotional, energetic, or spiritual needs. Consider acting in your best in your own best interest as an act of self-care that safeguards your well-being.

Set boundaries. State your limitations, calmly, clearly, and directly. Understand that boundaries are your response to other people's actions, not a means to control other people's behavior. An expectation would be to ask someone not to call you during the workday. A boundary is stating that you will not pick up the phone during the workday and will only make/return calls in the evening after leaving the office.

Communicate your needs & expectations clearly. While you can't control what others will do, being upfront with your needs and expectations can eliminate unnecessary stress, logistical issues, misplaced hurt feelings, or disappointment in any type of relationship. Direct communication between parties will allow you both to respect each other's boundaries and to prioritize interactions that are mutually more positive, helpful, and emotionally nourishing.

Express your "no" freely (and without over-explaining). Remember that "No" is a complete sentence. You do not owe someone your time or emotional energy simply because they asked or expect you to do something/attend an event out of perceived obligation/guilt or simply to make someone else happy. Making sure you're okay is your first priority. Feel free to say "no" to any requests that would emotionally drain you, make you overextend yourself, or compromise any of your personal values/goals/priorities. You don't need to justify your needs. Just kindly decline, and let it be.

Remain consistent with your boundaries & priorities. People will treat you how you let them treat you. Once you set a boundary or share your priorities will someone, stick to these words through your actions to show you're serious about how you expect to be treated. Teach people how to interact with you in a way that doesn't feel self-sacrificing. No one will respect your boundaries and priorities if you don't and are easily swayed to forgo these self-imposed standards on a day-to-day or case-by-case basis.

Consider the long-term consequences of people-pleasing. While it may appease immediate conflict or anxiety, people-pleasing offers a one-way ticket to resentment and misplaced anger. By ignoring our own needs for the sake of others, we place unspoken expectations on these individuals' obligations to reciprocate our emotional labor – whether it be with their future actions or matching our generosity with unprompted favors or emotional support. We start keeping score as we continuously give ourselves over to others of perceived obligation. When someone doesn't return the favor, we get upset, despite never expressing this expectation of someone else or that we're even self-sacrificing in any way. This can lead to us feeling depleted or guilt-tripping others, and from their perspective, seemingly out of nowhere. It is best to remember we always have a choice whether to give to others and it should be of a genuine desire, love, or support for the other person – not as a way to gain external validation or manipulate a situation to create a false sense of obligation that we keep ourselves or the receiving party beholden to. Think of your energy, time, and personal resources given to others as a gift, not a bargaining chip.

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[aidashakur]

Normalize saying “that’s not in alignment with me” with no explanation.

[germansugarbaby]

Dating Rich Men

Hypergamy is not a bad word!

Some women feel guilty about wanting to date wealthy men. But those wealthy men must marry someone eventually. Why not let that someone be you?

You deserve to have the best in every area of your life. That includes your career, social life and romantic life

Rich people don't feel dirty about teaching their daughters to practice hypergamy. Their daughters aren't told that they are golddiggers, even if they are living of their parents money and using their parents connections to meet other wealthy people.

I once heard a man say that if he was a woman, he'd be rich. He's not the first man to say this. Men know the power that women hold. You could literally become rich just because you're a woman.

Identify Rich Men:

Avoid men who are overly flashy in the photos. They likely aren't very rich at all and are in debt.

Avoid men who have high end designer logos all over the jacket or shirt.

Look for men who are properly fitted suits or business casual outfit outfits in the photos. As they are likely businessman of some sort.

Don't discount men wear dress down. I know plenty of millionaires and wealthy men who wear jeans and a T-shirt.

Just check to see if he is well groomed at the very least. Does he take care of his hair? Does his clothes at least fit him right?

Many truly wealthy men, except for the nouveaux riche, don't want people to know they are rich and don't want to attract the wrong people, so they purposely dress down.

Make affluent girlfriends

The goal should be to build a network of classy, successful women are living the lifestyle that you desire. At least one of them should be married, single and in a relationship

Many successful men are going to trust the close friend for recommendations on the great girl, instead of trying to approach random women in public or going online

If they're getting married sometime soon, and you are invited to the wedding many of his and her male friends will be there, and they are most likely is just as successful as your friend and her boyfriend.

Meghan Markle didn't stumble upon prince harry by accident, she was introduced to him by a friend.

It is also important that you become the woman that other classy, successful women want to be around. The relationship shouldn't be one-sided in value you should offer them value as well.

You do have to carry yourself as a classy, successful lady would. You should have interesting things going on in your life. This is another reason why I tell women to build a side income, even if their goal is to meet a wealthy man who takes care of them.

If you've upgraded your friends, you will be up and dating again in no time, because they can introduce you to someone new.

You should always be working on your network and your net worth. Think of all the rich people who went bankrupt but remained fine because they had not only the knowledge but the network of other successful people who could help them in someway.

"Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman and lose enough to show you're a lady." - Edith Heard

most men want something to fantasize about. If you're overly proactive, they have nothing to daydream about.

If you dress overly conservative or worse, if you dress masculine, then he won't want to fantasize about you at all.

It's easy to find a man but finding a good man of quality and requires you to do some upgrading to yourself and your life.

finding a good man is like finding a job good job, you don't stop improving yourself and looking for one until you finally find it.

Subscribe to magazines that wealthy people read in your town.

Many magazines that are popular and lower income areas are filled with gossip and celebrity topics because they know what people in these environments find entertaining.

Magazines that I popular amongst wealthy people tend to be filled with very different topics.

Only accept expensive Dates!

Some men and women make the argument that if you meet online, the guy doesn't really know yet and it may be a waste of money...but it's not a waste of money if you're selective about who ask out on dates.

If he is swiping right on every woman online, dating a new woman every week and taking none of them seriously, then of course a coffee date with him best because he's not looking for a serious relationship to begin with.

Remember, men follow the standards that women set. Men wouldn't offer a coffee date when Every woman said no to coffee dates.

You should want to date a man who is generous towards you, loves to wine and dine you and treats you the best.

Dating Etiquette:

Keep phone calls very short during the beginning of the relationship I'm talking 5 to 10 minutes.

If a man wants to know more about you and talk to you for hours he needs to take you out on a proper date.

If he hasn't asked you out with and text exchanges, start taking even longer to respond to his text messages. I'm talking days.

It is OK not to give an answer to a question that is too personal. Many women make the mistake of feeling the need to give an answer to everything.

But not a classy lady! If he asks you how many men you've slept with respond with "I'm a lady and I would rather not discuss something so personal".

Whenever man asks any other question that you deem to be too personal, just let him know that you would rather not discuss it at the moment and change the subject

Don't try to tell a ton of jokes, ask ton of questions or talk to much about yourself. All these are signs that you were trying to impress him

This doesn't mean that you should act shy and boring. Show that you were impressed when he tells you about his accomplishments. men love feeling smart.

The people who talk the least tend to be the most interesting. The people that let us do most of the talking are usually the people we find to be good conversationalist, when in reality, they just know how to keep you talking about yourself. Which most people enjoy doing.

Only allow him to see you once per week until you become exclusive. Why? Because why would he buy the whole package, when he can get it for free?

If he already has full access to your time, and can see you whenever he would like anyway, what incentive does he have to take things to the next level?

A woman who is living her best life doesn't have time to go out with the guy multiple times per week. She's not that easily obtainable.

I don't care how much he begs you or tells you he enjoys being around you, always keep it once per week. Men will always fast track a relationship and see you as much as possible in the beginning.

And most of the time they will genuinely mean it. You are new to them so the excitement (and let's be honest, the lust) makes them want to see you as much as they can. If you allow it, that excitement will die out fast and quickly turn into boredom.

Avoid serious topics like Marriage and starting a family. If he brings it up first then give them a light answer for example: "I could see myself getting married to the right person", "I could see myself having kids with the right man" etc.

How to get him to propose (or do anything else you want him to)

I once had a man admit to putting off proposing to his girlfriend because he already knew she would say yes. He said he thought no rush to propose because he knew she wasn't going anywhere.

Most guys are used to women constantly nagging them about marriage, so let them wonder why you don't mention it at all. Be more mysterious than the rest.

Many women make the mistake of nagging their partners in order to get what they want, yet this technique only leads to the man resenting you.

Now when I say ignore him, I'm not talking about doing the silent treatment. Not only does the silent treatment create the opposite effect of what you want, but it's very immature.

I once knew a woman who wanted to get married, but her boyfriend wasn't even bringing up marriage. Of course she didn't nag him, as it would go against my advice. Instead she told him she was taking a mini vacation to Europe and she didn't invite him.

Prior to that, she was constantly staying busy and texting and calling him less. She "punished" him by giving him less of her time. By the time she got back from her four-day trip, he asked her for her hand in marriage

When you show them that you care too much the chase is over.

Men are used to being spoiled by women's emotions and over-affections. It's part of the reason why the silent treatment doesn't work.

When you are sitting right next to him being angry and silent as he tries to talk to you, it shows that you truly do care too much and he knows it.

If you truly didn't care you would have walked out and left along time ago are you would be too busy to be sitting next to him and pouting.

When you pull away from the relationship even just a bit he will notice. He will begin to worry that you might leave or that you found someone better. He will feel losing you and he will do anything to fix it.

Now the catch is that if he isn't that into you, you will soon find out with this technique. So be sure that you are ready to handle the truth.

If you are following this rules, the wealthy man that you are seeing will have invested too much time, money and energy into you, to want to lose you so quickly.

Don’t build with a Man!

When you help a man build his career from the bottom up, you represent what he can get while he's on bottom. Which is why many men cheat or leave a woman altogether once he gets on top and becomes successful.

You want him to be doing well in his career before you except a proposal. This allows him to see you as a woman that he got while on top.

Keep them chasing you from the beginning. He will feel like you are still the prize to be won, once he's on top, because he still hasn't fully "caught" you.

And after that, the fact that you let him build his career alone without you helping him, he will feel like he truly got to impress you.

In the end men just like to feel as though they got the best women that they could while they are successful. They don't want to feel like they've settled.

Source: „The seven rules of Dating Rich men - Learn How to Attract AND Marry The Rich Man Who Will Love And Spoil You Forever“ By Grace Harper

[thevirgodoll]

Hi, how can I improve my conversation skills and be more charismatic? I’ve been so shy my whole life and never used to talk to anyone, now I want to make a change. I love your blog so much💕

The Charismatic

Charisma holds weight in the world of socializing. Some people have it naturally, some may never achieve it, because they do not have what it takes. Everyone can become charismatic.

Charismatic people are alluring and enthralling. You can tell the difference between an individual with charisma and an individual without it. The room is absorbed with their presence. To be charismatic you must achieve a level of confidence and be free of all cares at all times. You must be self assured in every social situation. Charisma isn’t something I can necessarily model for you because you have to do the self improvement it takes to get there. Become confident, own the room, and make others feel important. It’s a simple formula that many people get wrong.

I get told I am charismatic so here are my tips.

Posture is everything. Shoulders up, back, and down. Do it everytime before you walk in somewhere. You will never see people of high stature walk with poor posture.

Have a self assured mindset.

Social Skills

Charisma and being sociable is all about how you make people feel.

“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Maya Angelou

You only get one chance to make the best first impression and this is actually true.

•Take the initiative. Engage the other person in conversation. Not dominating, there is a difference.

•Use the other person’s name when speaking to make a good first impression.

•Don’t try to be the next so and so. Be the most enthralling version of you possible. This is very important because you can be literally any version of yourself that you want to, but being someone else will be way too obvious.

•Speak with clarity and enunciate your words. Mumbling will get you nowhere. Someone that is sociable and fun to speak to is not going to be remembered if they speak underneath their breath or become meek.

-> In that same grain, don’t speak too quickly. Slow down your thoughts and let the words flow naturally. Force yourself to pause before speaking and pause between speaking — for a few seconds, not astronomically long...

-> Maintain eye contact when speaking with someone. It makes the other person feel important and as if you care about what they’re saying and are paying close attention.

-> Keep your composure. Do not fidget about while having a conversation, as this will be a giveaway of anxiety.

-> Body language is everything... Don’t fold your arms, turn your body away... non verbal cues such as that can be a turnoff to others. Read the other person’s body language as well so you know when to wrap up.

-> In order to create a sense of warmth in your conversations, be sure to smile.

Don’t: Overdo it. When you smile, be authentic.

•Small talk is key to master. Whether you like it or not.

On the flip side, listening gives you the power. If you are not a fantastic listener, you will not impress anyone. Your goal is to be a master of conversation.

Abandon your ego. We all have egos. If your ego is huge, check it at the door.

-> Listen without fixing. Ask questions for clarification, mirror words for understanding, and validate the other person.

-> Let the other person finish. It is absolutely inconsiderate to interrupt, no matter how badly you would like to. You ruin the art of charisma if you interrupt the other person.

-> You want to ask open ended questions and maintain interest in whoever you are speaking to. This creates an environment for active listening, and it breaks the ice which makes both you and the other party comfortable.

Examples:

“Why....”

“Tell me more about...”

“How did that happen?”

“I wonder if...?”

Don’t check your cell phone. Don’t look around the room. Your goal is to make this person feel important.

Social Situations:

•If someone is upset with you, don’t be overly apologetic and kissing butt. Understand how THEY feel first. Listen. Only explain a position when they’re open to hearing it. Make the OTHER PERSON speak about THEIR emotions. That is the goal.

•If someone is rude to you, ask them to repeat themselves. Most people will rephrase it nicer. “Excuse me, what was that?”

“Pardon?”

“Can you please repeat what you said?”

Both said in a genuinely confused and calm tone.

•Never argue via text or social media. Never subtweet or air out your business over social media.

•If someone is cute, hilarious, or funny, tell them. This makes them want to speak to you. But be genuine not fake.

Persona

•Become easy going. Your way is not the only way.

•Criticism is welcome. Listen to what is being said and accept what is being said. Never be defensive.

•A positive attitude wins first versus a negative Nancy.

•Be confident, but not as though you are inherently superior to others (even if it may be true).

•Politeness. Stay kind when you are upset. Learn how to effectively wrap up a conversation.

“It was a pleasure speaking with you.”

“It was great catching up with you!”

“Nice to see you again!”

•Speak with conviction. Use words like “I am sure” vs. tentative words like “I think, I hope and I feel.”

•Humorous. Know how to play the crowd and tell a humorous story. Be relevant and know what’s in the know.

Examples:

Negative: Regina George, Mean Girls — she uses her charisma to manipulate individuals and maintain status quo. She is confident, sure of herself, yet insecure deep down. She is a textbook narcissist and mean girl, but it works because she is a master of socialization. See how she makes other people feel important when interacting with her. She uses some of the tips I have given here.

Positive: Naomi, Wolf of Wall Street — see how Jordan is hanging on to Naomi’s every word? She is giving him open body language and smiling with her mouth as well as eyes. A seductive feminine character.

-> Jordan’s speech, also showcases his charisma

Positive: James Bond

Celebrities:

Oprah Winfrey

[obsidian-media-deactivated20220]

Hypergamy rules

A man’s words mean nothing. His actions mean everything.

Don’t nag, find another better man to do the job, competition breeds perfection.

You’re not competing with other women, your competing with yourself.

No man will live in your head rent free, have a roster of at least 3 guys.

Never give up your hobbies, plans or ambitions for a man. Ever.

Never stop improving-physically (gym, procedures, surgery) mentally (school, tutors, learning languages, reading), emotionally (reading, therapy, medication), and financially (paying down debt, investments, real estate, savings, stocks, bonds, etc)

A stingy men are just as bad as broke men.

Closed mouths don’t get fed.

Restaurant first dates only.

You’re single until married.

Goes without saying but

No sex until a relationship and commitment has been established.

(No broke men. Duh.)

[kingess]

How to manipulate men to become obsessed with you -

Toxic psychology edition with tangible steps #2

Be unpredictable. Change your schedule every now and then to keep him guessing and focusing on what's happening in your life and stay alert remembering are you going silent for your new schedule or avoiding him.

Love bomb for a short period of time intensely to make him open up and trust your emotional support. Then start pulling back slowly to create an unconscious need to keep the therapeutic payoff around.

Instill competition insecurities. Subtly bring up your "previous positive experiences" with men and how they used to, for example, bring you flowers every month, this will set an expectation and trigger their primitive competitiveness to one up the previous suitors which will make him very likely to get you what you want. Males are very territorial.

Find out his core parental traumas. Don't ask directly, make him open up. People will subconsciously be drawn towards toxicity that they're familiar with because our brain seeks to correct those parts of ourselves that made us unlovable as vulnerable young children - once you know what makes his inner child feel unlovable you unlock the key to making him obsessively try to fix his subconscious unworthiness with you. As you give him glimpses of both being loved and accepted & familiarly rejected he will feel like he's close to getting something important fixed, all while being completely unaware & oblivious.

Ignore his manipulation tactics (*unless you're trying to gain leverage; see part 1). When you act like none of his ways of controlling you phase you, he'll feel powerless & more desperate. Silent treatment? Talk to him excited like he's replying to you normally. Little sad threats? Ignore them and laugh them off and make fun of him while staying cute. You'll be untouchable while simultaneously available and that will drive him crazy as you make him powerless.

Tell him you have sexual trauma and you're afraid of men and you need time and trust to be able to let anyone close to you because you're a wounded angel.

The lonelier and emptier his life is the more he will have time to obsess over you bringing light into it. Whether this means picking someone who's a loner or isolating him further from his circle of people by planting seeds of doubt in his head about how their intentions towards him are disingenuous, it will push your importance up. Be very careful with this one not to come off as negative; try disguising it as support by telling him at least he can always count on you not to do x or y (unlike the others).

Once you've made him feel powerless enough, start breadcrumbing him by gradually giving only a little bit of affection. When he starts complaining, gaslight him by saying he's too needy or dramatic as if it's pathetic. When he receives the normal amounts of care and consideration from you he'll be ecstatic. Give him attention when he gives you enough of what you want, people value what they work for.

DISCLAIMER

These are powerful psychological tricks that shouldn't be used unwisely, unjustly or for the purpose of building love. I think it should go without saying but DO NOT give them access to your body until they're fully hooked. (unless it's part of your thing but even then, delay) and do not get attached. Do not entertain dusty low effort males without a good reason. Don't forget a wealthy male with a dusty mindset is still a dusty.

[asiansiren]

F*ck Him: Nice Girls Always Finish Single

Summary: 

A high-value woman knows her way around men, regardless of whether or not she’s good looking. 

High-value women repel bad men, or men who won’t bring anything to the table in a relationship.

Men are repelled by the ‘nice girl’ or ‘good girl’ because:

She’s looking for the one, and she thinks she’s found him in her new partner.

She’s led by the belief to accept less than exemplary behavior in hopes that he will one day change (not happening).

She tries to impress him, often overcompensating by being overly nice and appeasing, driven by the belief that she’s not worth enough. It should be the other way around.

Your actions define how valuable you are.

Never seek a man’s approval.

Never let a man call all the shots.

The high-value woman doesn’t play games. She considers herself to be a prize, one he needs to chase after.

High value women have more important things to do than to chase after a man, regardless of whether it’s mundane or not.

Mental fucking:

Two important rules to remember: 

Never share your body with him too soon. You will fall in love too hard, and way too soon.

Mentally fuck him as soon as you can: creating a challenge will force him to look past your looks.

First impressions are critical towards cultivating the impression of high value.

If you want him to treat you like a queen, act like a queen right out of the gate.

How to mentally fuck a guy:

Decide what you feel are just feelings, which come and go, rather than falling head over heels for him.

Want a relationship, but not just any relationship. Be happy to stay single for as long as necessary.

Neediness comes from natural instincts.

You never need a man or a relationship.

She consciously wonders, “Is this the best guy to give my time to?”

“If this guy never changed, would I really want to be with him ten or twenty years from now?”

She knows she doesn’t need her looks to get a great guy.

Setting the rules:

After the first date, she doesn’t reach out. She’s busy with her life.

She’ll see when and if she contacts her again. She isn’t willing to spend time on a guy who isn’t putting in the work she deserves.

She never behaves like a bitch. Instead, she has a take it or leave it mentality.

The first couple weeks of interaction set the stage.

Whatever is set is difficult to change later. Create the right habits as soon as you can.

For ambitious men who want success, they work for what they want:

That’s why high-value women are so attractive. Her standards are not an act. It is the only acceptable way.

Three most important traits:

She’s a queen, and she has a lot of self-respect, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

He is not the center of her life.

She never, ever pursues him. If he seems to lose interest, she withdraws. She has better things to do. 

Managing men:

Is he playing games?

When he says he’ll call and doesn’t - this places the ball in his court.

Right way to respond: don’t care. Don’t even become fazed when he steps back. 

You can find a guy who cares and does better.

Creating distance by disappearing.

Right way to respond: Put energy into your passions, interests, and other men you start dating.

Men who are not sufficiently interested will disappear.

Claiming he’s not ready for a relationship: a phrase used to create space and lead women on.

Right way to respond: Say, “Take all the time you need. I’m not sure about you either.” 

Respond with low investment by even lower investment. 

Never consider him nor the relationship as important as he does. 

Counter-intuitive way of getting him to do what you want: 

Give him the feeling it was his own decision. If he comes to the conclusion, he will stand by it.

Reinforce good behavior. Ignore him when he shows bad behavior. Consider him less important.

Ignore him when he doesn’t add value to your life to train him. 

If you want a man to do something, ask another man to help you, or tell him you’ll take care of it.

Men are governed by their own egos.

The more you need him, the less he will want you. The more you want him, the more he will need you.

Don’t show him you need him. Have extra activities, so he won’t become the center of your life.

Work on your mental strength. The more you try not to lose him because you need him, the higher the probability he will eventually leave.

Ideal praise to criticism ratio in relationships is 5 to 1.

Avoid getting played:

High-value women are in short supply. Make men earn your attention.

Your emotions are never to be trusted.

Establish a strong set of boundaries. 

Self-respect is #1. 

Men always treat you the way you allow to. They cannot respect a woman more than she respects herself. 

When his attention declines: do the same and withdraw.

A man should never, ever be totally sure that you unconditionally love him. For if he is, he will move on to the next item in his hierarchy of needs.

[sk-lumen]

27 Red Flags of Low Value Men (LVM)

In previous articles, we have established what constitutes a High Value Woman, the dating commandments of a High Value Woman, and the most common obstacles that hold us back from implementing such dating strategies. But in order to replace our toxic dating habits with healthy ones, it is equally important to have a clear understanding on the difference between a High Value Man (upcoming articles on that next) and a Low Value Man.

Remember, this system of values is not about qualities that people are born with. It is not something outside our power that we have either inherited or not. Instead, this system of values is something that we all develop for ourselves, choose for ourselves, create for ourselves. It is about values, beliefs and principles. It is about priorities, morals and mindset. It is about good manners, empathy and emotional intelligence. And that is the responsibility of each and every individual.

And if you hold yourself to high standards, you should absolutely do the same to everything else in life, especially a partner!

Here are the most common red flags of a Low Value Man, so you don’t have the learn the hard way…

1. Love bombing

Too much committment, too much adoration too soon is a tell-tale sign something is off. It can be a marker of insecurity, of unhealthy idealism or obsession. It can also mean they don’t actually see you for who you are, but are infatuated with an idea, an ideal, a fantasy. Not a crime by itself, but it foretells a relationship that will lack a stable, healthy foundation. Instead it will be a relationship built on how you make him feel, on what the idea of you means to him. Is that the kind of man you want to be with, or the kind of relationship you want to be in?

2. Future faking

The escalation of lovebombing. Just months, weeks or evend days in, he will already be discussing engagement and marriage and kids, and paint a fairytale fantasy with such dedication that you may wonder if it’s too good to be true.

Such soulmate stories are certainly possible. However, if he promises the sun, moon and stars (which is all great) right off the bat, and other issues start popping up one after another, you should be on high alert! Other red flags can be: inconsistent behaivor, blowing hot/cold, his words (all beatiful fairytales) not aligning with his actions (not actually showing interest in your passions, aspirations, goals, not actually listening to you, making you cry on multiple occasions and lacking empathy in his reaction to it, etc), and any of the ones below.

3. Gaslighting

First, let’s review what gaslighting actually means: “Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories. People experiencing gaslighting often feel confused, anxious, and unable to trust themselves.” – Medical News Today

To exemplify, he may gaslight you by saying phrases like…

“You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” (invalidating your feelings)

“It’s just in your head.” (making you question your ration and discernment)

“You’re overreacting.” (downplaying your feelings)

“You shouldn’t be upset/affected by this.” (trying to control your feelings or tell you how you should feel)

Someone who exhibits gaslighting behaviour needs therapy, and will never make you feel truly safe or be beneficial for your wellbeing (and mental health) until they have sorted through their issues.

4. Lacking interest

If they’re not listening to you, if they’re not initiating interest in your day, hobbies, skills or interests; if they’re not congratulating or hyping your achievments and success; even worse, if he shows signs of envy over said achievements, and actively belittles or downplays them, in an unhealthy sense of insecurity and seeing you as competition (when in fact they should be on your team cheering for your success) . . . it’s time to take the hint. They don’t actually care about you.

5. No respect for boundaries

Disrespecting boundaries, challenging them, debating them, finding counter-arguments for them – if he does any of these things, he lacks basic respect or understanding for boundaries. He may say things like…

“Well you need to face your anxiety with ___ and just do it, then you’ll be fine”

“Come on, I know there’s chemistry between us, why follow some stupid traditions & old values instead of enjoying the moment?”

In either case, this is a person that believes anything is negotiable, including your feelings, thoughts, privacy and dealbreakers… Read more

[spcylv]

[theambitiouswoman]

[succulentsiren]

what oppressors don’t want women to know

1. your life should be centered around yourself.

2. you are not required to compromise.

3. parenthood is a choice.

4. princesses get all the gifts.

5. bitches get respected for having standards.

6. you don’t have to give anyone a chance or the time of day.

7. you don’t need to smile or laugh at anyone’s lame jokes.

8. you don’t need to explain yourself. your no is enough.

9. never accept what you don’t want. keep your standards.

10. if a man threatens/disrespects you take it seriously. don’t brush it off.

11. having and keeping your standards is reflective of your self worth.

12. don’t silence yourself because of the fear that someone will get angry. you aren’t responsible for anyones feelings but your own.

13. it’s not your responsibility to take care of and nurture everyone.

14. assertive women are attractive.

15. never center your life around men.

15. when you’re being courted, they must to prove themselves to you.

16. you don’t have to act fake satisfied when you’re not impressed.

17. staying in a relationships that’s toxic is self sabotaging and abusive.

18. you’re not required to please others to prove your value.

19. finacial literacy is not just for men to know. ladies learn how to handle your money independently.

20. you must put yourself and your goals first.

21. be confident. always walk with your head high.

22. you are worthy. you instantly become more worthy once you remind yourself of this!

23. always speak your mind. those who don’t speak up get nothing.

24. never settle.

25. not a single soul has the right to judge you. opinions are just opinions and have no value unless you give them value.

[sugarsilk]

You are the prize

stop trying to impress men. don’t be so enthralled by them you think you have to prove your worth. that’s a form of chasing. masculine men can sense that subconsciously. observe how men scramble for your approval when you only give them a glimmer of your intrigue. give them all of your interest from the get-go and they have nothing to work for, to earn. an impartial attitude places the power into your hands. It’s magnetic, pulling a man in to pursue you with more effort, vigor, and directness. the same attitude as manifesting, don’t be so eager with receiving or become too obsessed. once you realize you don’t need someone or you surrender an intention, it tends to follow through immediately.

[asiansiren]

Understanding Freestyling

It’s obvious that the bowl is somewhat over-saturated, particularly on sugaring sites, with salts and salt babies - and thus, the proposed solution to finding generous men and procuring effective arrangements is freestyling and meeting these men in person, rather than online. Despite freestyling being praised as the new way of sugaring, there seems to be confusion on what exactly it is and what exactly to do when you’re at high-class establishments.

The most common definition appears to be going to high-class restaurants, clubs, and places where “rich people frequent”, looking as though you belong there, and then having a rich man approach you or vice- versa, but it seems as though this method is becoming outdated. As the sugar bowl has become more popularized as journalists and college students try to capitalize on this sensation, the richest men and ideal targets are skeptical. If you’re on one of the many establishments of Wall Street, Capitol Hill, or downtown LA, you’ll hear hedge fund managers, bankers, and trust fund babies talk about avoiding gold diggers when picking up women - and they’ve learned to tell the signs: expensive, attractive, well-dressed women sitting alone, waiting to be approached by men. Moreover, the wealthiest men generally will not approach women if they are strangers they don’t know. Such developments call for a new approach in freestyling, which is not to say the old one should be completely abandoned, but rather that it no longer produces the level of success that it used to.

If you’re looking for genuinely rich men (especially not just new money, or those who think that because they have a $100K salary, they’re rich), then the way of entering arrangements is through networking - which is not just meeting these men at wealthy establishments, but entering and mingling with their social circles. If you’re serious about this life and are looking to enter the upper class, become a socialite, or become a trophy wife, then nailing this skill is very important. The best arrangements, the most generous men, and the most valuable services I’ve acquired have always been through men that I was introduced to through social circles or a friend. Example: I have a male acquaintance that I was introduced to by a mutual friend, and when it was obvious there was chemistry, he introduced me to his other friend, a trust fund baby, and together with two other girls we went on a weekend trip to the trust fund baby’s lakeside house, complete with a jacuzzi, jet skis, and tubing. His net worth/income is impressive for his age (one year older than me), but isn’t enough for me to pursue a physical arrangement with him. However, he works in finance and has a knack for investment, and we’ve entered an agreement where he invests my money and keeps 20% of the investment, but over a year he’s nearly doubled the thousands of dollars I originally gave him to investment. You’ll see this through practice as well: how did Prince Harry and Prince William meet their current wives? Through their social circles and current friends. You’ll understand why rich men tend to date rich women, isn’t necessarily because they have a preference for rich women or that rich women are more attractive (though there may be correlation) but rather because in their social circles that is the kind of woman they’re often introduced to. When you’re wealthy and powerful, it’s not in your interest to talk to most people - because naturally, people will be coming to you. In this way, social circles act as a means of both protecting their wealth and status and separating the cream of the crop to include those that are attractive, have social approval, and have a lifestyle fit with these men for ideal romantic partners.

So how do you ‘break’ into such circles? How do you make the results of freestyling become a reality?

•First, if you’re just starting out or are looking for an allowance, it will be relatively difficult to find the *exact* results that you want. You can see from billionaires or men renown from their wealth, they take care of women who aren’t necessarily at their financial level, but have stability and some income of their own. This makes them more attractive because for super wealthy men, they are used to groupies/women throwing themselves at them, so when they encounter someone who is attractive, interested in them, yet has a level of financial independence, this poses a challenge and makes them more likely to invest in you for sponsorship, SGF, or trophy wife, whichever you wish.

•That being stated, I encourage freestyling from the very beginning, since even on standard dating platforms there’s an inundation of time-wasters and irrelevant folks who try to capitalize on the beauty of a young, attractive woman. So to get started, first, you have to network. Assuming you already know how to take care of yourself and to network, the next step is finding out where the rich and successful people in your area hang out. Humans are naturally social, and so when a girl claims she cannot find worthwhile men, it must be that she’s investing time or social energy into the wrong kinds of men. Envision the kind of life or standards that you’re looking for, and delete any man who doesn’t meet these standards or contributes no use to you. This will free up space and social networking so you can pursue relationships with men who CAN invest in you. If you’re looking for men who can do more than buy you fast food and share Netflix subscriptions, delete those that do.

•Next, do some research about which social circles to join. It’s good to decide what kind of interests you have - are they political? Financial? Perhaps you’re interested in philanthropy. If you’re not sure, that’s fine and join as many as possible, and make sure they have a certain level of status or are inviting the right people, or else they will just be another waste of your time. Go to the introductory meetings and dress to impress, and make a great first impression. Introduce yourself, have a story about yourself, and make small talk, and if you’re attractive and reasonably socially-skilled, you’ll find that people are drawn to you. Once one person is interested, the rest will follow. Some women are too transparent by only mingling with the men - take great care to establish good relations with the women there, because they can put in a good and very influential word for you.

•Go to these events, meet new people, and continue going to them. Men will want to contact you and will ask for your number - you should give it, but don’t get overexcited or too eager. You have to refine through these men and ensure that they’re ones that you’d like to date or to pursue arrangements with. So contact them, be approachable, but also ensure that you present yourself as having other things going for you. You don’t have to necessarily be working but having your own savings, own assets, whether those are from yourself, your family, or another man, are important. Always, always, always have the man approach you first. If he doesn’t seem interested, never seem discouraged and just move on to the next one. Have a mentality of abundance. Next step is testing him and doing your research.

•Before doing anything, you should be able to answer the following questions (outlined in books like Ho Tactics):

-Where does he work and live?

-Is he wealthy, and if so, where does his wealth come from? (Trust fund baby, old money, self-made) What profession is he in? Does he look wealthy or is he actually wealthy?

-And most importantly, is he generous? (How much money does he drop on his hobbies, is he cheap/frugal, does he like spending money on women)

Most women get caught up in the generosity, because sadly, wealth is not equivalent to generosity. Test him by going out on a date and seeing what he proposes. Generous men tend to be quite obvious, in my opinion, and won’t show any hesitation in paying for services, calling you Ubers, or taking you on spontaneous trips and otherwise showing off their wealth. If he doesn’t seem generous, drop him immediately. If he makes any excuse that seems disingenuous, drop him immediately. If he tries to force any physical contact, drop him immediately. If he makes any complaint on spending, drop him immediately. Trust your intuition. Filter through the trash. A superior man will take his place.

•By the second date, you should already have established that you’re high-value. Be nice and pleasant, but don’t be so easily impressed. This is where he should be spending more, and you should establish the dynamics of the relationship. Hold off on physical contact until you’ve filtered through his intentions and gotten what you wanted. Some girls are confused as to whether or not they should be upfront or not, whether to ask for allowance straight up or not. It’s difficult to say, because this varies from person to person - and I would say go with what your intuition tells you and do what’s most comfortable in the persona you adopt. Maybe making up a sob story or emotional manipulation is what you’re best at. Maybe it just suits you better to be blunt. Maybe batting your eyelashes and asking to go shopping is your forte. Whatever works for you. Just make sure you establish the grounds of the relationship and get what you want before anything physical happens. Have foresight on what you want and get the money/gifts FIRST.

•Next is… upgrade. Play the dynamics of an arrangement/relationship and see what his relationship needs are. Fulfill them. But always play the game, and never get too attached. Women may get insecure in relationships - “What if he finds someone hotter than me, younger than me, with a better body than me?” Don’t get insecure and don’t rely on male validation. Have confidence in yourself. He is with you for a reason. You can also do the exact same - there will be better men in the midst, and continuing to be desirable to check his ego is important. But in the meantime, maintaining your looks, beauty, and hobbies is important if you are dedicated to this lifestyle. If you want to date vanilla, fine, go ahead, but if you’re looking to escort/sugar/sell pussy.. whatever you want to call it… you need to consistently upgrade using the resources you’re given. Take great care to not get emotionally attached if you’re not satisfied with the lifestyle you have right now - which requires emotional discipline. Remember that there will always be richer men, hotter men, more successful men, or men who have more of all three qualities.

[limperatricedesvices]

This. I’ve been obsessed with networking. Free events take time to meet someone really interesting to introduce me to other people and expensive networking events. Private ones are my target

S says about networking during studies « you can still use networking platforms like LinkedIn even if you don’t work yet, it’s easier for beautiful women ».

[asiansiren]

One of my oldest posts on freestyling. Still applicable. 😉

[asiansiren]

Very old post.

[thesnobbyartsyblog]

P+H