Mad Fairy's Realm

Me passing the time. Lots of Feminism and Politics, I will occasionally post links to my fanfiction. I'm on AO3 if you want to take a look.

[bowlby4]

[shubbabang]

its not funny but i do think about it a lot

[cranberrybogmummy]

Yeah I don’t get this.. glad I don’t have kids. I mean what are you supposed to say?

[chrismerle]

it’s about the context. if a kid feels bad about doing something, they are unlikely to do it again unless they feel like they have to or if they don’t know another way to get it done. children are just small humans; they don’t like feeling bad/guilty/etc. any more than anyone else does. so if a kid comes forward and says ‘I did this bad thing and I feel bad about it’ and you scold them for doing that thing that they already feel bad about, then you are effectively just scolding them for coming forward. if the kid already feels bad, they don’t need an adult to tell them they should feel bad. in reality, the kid was probably coming forward about it because they wanted the adult to explain how to make it right, or how to do it properly.

[cranberrybogmummy]

Thank you, this helps. I like kids but being autistic sometimes it’s confusing because here in don’t know what the script is.

[queeranarchism]

An appropriate script could be:

Telling the kid that it is very brave of them to come forward and admit that they did something wrong.

Having a conversation to find out why they did the bad thing. Sometimes there’s an underlying reason that needs to be addressed like ‘I’m worried the other kids think I’m not cool enough so I broke a rule’ or ‘I was mad at my sister because she called me fat so I broke her toy’, etc. These conversations might be more important than the bad thing.

Telling the kid that we all make bad decisions sometimes and while we should try not to do that again, making a bad decision doesn’t mean we’re bad forever.

Telling the kid that the best way to feel less bad about it is to try to make things right. Did they secretly take mom’s piece of cake? Maybe we can go bake a new piece of cake together and give it to mom. (The point here is not to make the kid really produce something of equal value to what they stole/broke/etc. A child often can not do that. The point is to practice what fixing the damage you have done looks like).

Finishing the conversation with supportive words and maybe a hug, depending on the child and your relationship to that child. Above all the goal is making sure the child leaves the conversation feeling happy that they chose to come forward and committed to doing so again if they mess up in the future.

[quasi-normalcy]

[5ammi90]

Kid: Does something and feels bad, is worry to tell adult

Adult: just tell the truth I won’t get made

Kid: tells them

Adult: gets mad

Kid: I can’t trust this adult

[bowlby4]

[gaslit-dipshits]

[groanings-0f-a-dying-empire]

💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥

Nothing but facts

[bowlby4]

[bowlby4]

[futileexercise]

[mommahoney]

SCOTUS

[mommahoney]

Epstein

[itsmythang]

[porterdavis]

[progressivepower]

You think? http://news.usaunify.org/TSqcPr

[jilli1205]

[saywhat-politics]

I would rather these birds live good happy lives than have Jared Kushner create his own version of Epstein Island in Albania.

[robertreich]

"Efficiency."

[saywhat-politics]

Republicans AGAIN blocked Sen. Ossoff’s amendment…

[maudit]

[profeminist]

RIP Marjane Satrapi, author of the amazing graphic novels Persepolis about living during the fundamentalist revolution in Iran in the 70’s and 80’s. She also created the animated movie based on the graphic novels, which is where these gifs come from.

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[missbliss12]

Reblogging in honor of Marjane Satrapi, one of THE great graphic novelists. Her comic Persepolis was a crucial text for shaping my belief that comics can deeply explore identity, culture, politics, and history.