M Dawg

26 ~ AuDHD (She/They)

[sadhoc]

i really don't get why people act like "hating your disability" and "being proud to be disabled" are opposites. i hate the inconvenience and pain and discomfort and isolation and not being able to do the things i want to do. i'm proud that i'm still truckin along anyway, and that i'm part of such a resilient and vibrant community.

[briarpatch-kids]

I think the biggest thing able bodied people don't understand about physical disability is that life doesn't just... stop because you're sick. The dishes still have to be done. You may not be able to do them, but they're there and they need washing. You can't put it off till you're feeling better, there is no feeling better. You have to figure out how to get those dishes done whether you do them or hire someone else to do them.

[jenacat8-blog]

Being neurodivergent and chronically ill is crazy because you already have issues with executive functions and then your body hinders you even more. AND your sensory issues are heightened by the pain you feel.

[stars-and-branches]

Chronic pain pisses me off cause I'm not even incapacitated for like a cool or badass reason instead my body is throwing the world's biggest temper tantrum because it's raining outside

[fibro-memes]

[my-random--thoughts-deactivated]

[ho3hologram]

Y'all, I'm begging you not to be weird if someone turns you down or says no to pics/sexting/literally anything, even nonsexual things.

It's so uncomfortable when I'm like "no thanks :)" and then I have to spend 15 mins soothing you. Like it's okay if you didn't realize that was a boundry—now you know. It's okay if you misread signals—it happens. Just say "no problem, thanks for letting me know," and move tf on. Deal with that embarrassment in private. It's happened to everyone, and it sucks, I get it. Also, you need to deal with it without making it my continued concern.

[itsaspectrumcomic]

Behold, my new favourite item

[c3rvida3]

When I was in the hospital, they gave me a big bracelet that said ALLERGY, but like. I'm allergic to bees. Were they going to prescribe me bees in there.

[mothocean]

[asphodelimago]

So there's a medication called hyaluronidase. It's used to make other medications absorb better, because it makes the cell wall more permeable.

One common usage is to make local anesthetic more effective during surgery, for instance. It's used in a number of injected medications.

Bee stings contain an enzyme very similar to this medication, so sometimes, people with bee allergies have an allergic reaction to hyaluronidase.

This is called cross-reactivity, where your body mistakes something for the thing it's actually allergic to, and has an allergic reaction anyway. For instance, sometimes people with latex allergies also are allergic to bananas and other fruits. They don't actually contain latex, but there are some similar proteins.

Apparently, hyraluronidase used in humans is derived from one of four sources: sheep testicles, cow testicles, cow testicles again, and GMO hamster ovaries.

tl;dr: They won't inject you with bees, but they might inject you with purified cow testicle juice, and your body might say 'eh, cow balls are BASICALLY bees' and try to kill you anyway.

[bearbellyblog]

The world is full of such beauty and wonder. Thank you for that sentence.

[hemipenal-system]

petplay? oh you mean that kink for burnt-out neurodivergent people with abandonment issues who need simple easy directions and assurance that the person giving them will still be there at the end of the night. yeah i got you i know what you're talking about

[milkmilkymilk]

𝐓𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐞𝐥𝐭𝐝𝐨𝐰𝐧𝐬.. ˚🍼˚.🍓🧸

₊˚⊹ᰔ Your meltdowns do not make you scary.

₊˚⊹ᰔ Your coping in meltdowns arnt weird.

₊˚⊹ᰔ Your meltdowns do not make you dangerous.

₊˚⊹ᰔ Your meltdowns do not not make you unlovable.

₊˚⊹ᰔ You are deserving of love.

₊˚⊹ᰔ Just because they don’t understand doesn’t make what they’re saying true.

₊˚⊹ᰔ What people say don’t define you.

₊˚⊹ᰔ Sometimes meltdowns are necessary to self regulate, and that’s okay.

₊˚⊹ᰔ Meltdowns are not embarrassing or shameful.

₊˚⊹ᰔ You are deserving of support during your meltdowns.

₊˚⊹ᰔ It’s okay to take time to heal

₊˚⊹ᰔ I see you little one, and it’s going to be okay in the end.

ʚ🌱₊˚Always make sure you are safe 𓍢ִ໋🌷͙֒

[azulcrescent]

Subscription

[magicducky420]

My Antidepressant + ADHD meds are my lifeline. It basically is my monthly subscription (thankfully my medications are free but insurance is not)

[ithelpstodream]

[jomasays]

“I want to live, not just survive”.

[magicducky420]

And it leads to such frequent burnout because my body is always in survival mode

[funstyle]

having audio processing issues is so humiliating like yeah i heard you and yeah i was actively listening but the problem is i dont know what the fuck you sayed

[jacobtheloofah]

i was paying attention, i was listening, but you see the problem is....it didnt work

[toomuchdivergentformyneuro]

me: *reads over symptoms of autism once again* “see but i don’t get upset over changes in routine, we change the routine all the time and i’m totally okay with it!”

also me since i was a kid: *gets irritated, stressed, angry, aggravated, and depressed for the rest of the day after something is switched to another day* *gets angry, stressed, and depressed, and has a breakdown when i find out we have to cancel plans, even if i didn’t really wanna go to wherever we were planning to go* *gets aggravated and is easily upset and is depressed the whole day after i get to cancel something that i had been planning for but also are relieved that i don’t have to go since i really didn’t want to* *is depressed, angry, irritated, and stressed after we cancel plans that i had zero feelings for up until that point* etc.

[reasonsforhope]

By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.

Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.

This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):

How to Sharpen Executive Functions: Activities to Hone Brain Skills

Executive functioning skills range from working memory to cognitive flexibility to inhibitory control, and beyond. They power our daily func

Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):

Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults with Autism

Practical Strategies for Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults With Autism - Living with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) as

Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.

But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:

Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.

Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation

Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.

Meditation

Martial arts

Sports in general

Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)

Woodworking

Cooking

If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers

Things can be easier. You might always have a disability around this (I certainly always will), but it can be easier. You do not have to be this stuck forever.