don't follow this blog /srs

aleks, he/they, adult

[makayuri]

Apparently having "don't follow this blog" as the header isn't enough so pinning a post too:

Do not follow this blog. I will softblock anyone who does and hardblock blank blogs who do.

It's not personal, but I don't trust anyone but my partner/FP to follow me here due to being candid about my mental illnesses. Please respect my boundaries.

[visorforavisor]

I think disability justice would be easier if abled people understood that being disabled is a mixture of all three of

I can’t do that without negative consequences

I can’t do that unless I have support for it

I can’t do that

and that trying to treat one of these as if it’s another one will get you nowhere.

[sodomit]

It's called "transandrophobia" and not "trans emasculation" because it describes the way trans men not only are denied the socially positive parts of manhood, but forced into the socially negative ones.

If you focus on how trans men are not seen as proper men and don't engage with the topic further, you'll miss how we aren't really seen as proper women either, due to being perceived as tainted and made dangerous.

Transandrophobia discusses how fear of manhood impacts the social position of trans men.

[snivy]

literally everything is unisex if u stop giving a fuck

[kyrianne]

When I worked at Target, it was during the winter, and this guy comes up to my register with a neutral-colored beanie with a fake fur pompom on top. All embarrassed and cringing, asking me if it was a woman’s hat and if it would be weird for him to get it.

I was like, “It’s just a hat. If you like it and you wear it, it’s not a woman’s hat, it’s just your hat. You don’t need to follow what the tag says if you don’t want to.” And it was like I gave him some kind of awe-inspiring wisdom he’d never considered, and he left with that hat on his head.

More cishets need to hear and internalize this message because so many of them are avoiding things that would make them happy just because of it having a label on it for whatever gender.

[lysimachias]

❌ Is this ship well supported by canon

❌ Does this ship make any sense whatsoever by any reasonable metric

✅ Does the thought of these characters standing next to each other make you want to chew concrete and then break apart a nearby automobile with your bare hands

[dionysiaproductions]

Ides of March Writing Challenges:

🗡️ Stab it: Write 23 words (or 23 sentences if you're playing on hard)

🗡️Settle a debt: Finish an old unfinished work

🗡️Become a dictator: Outline a version of your narrative world where your protagonist has complete control. What would they want the world to look like?

🗡️Kill Caesar: Outline a version of your story where the main character dies. What would all the supporting characters do?

[dickgraysonsptsd]

i think MORE characters should be rape survivors. i think more characters should be csa survivors. i think more characters should be dv survivors. i think strong and noble and attractive and charming and brilliant characters with indomitable spirits should be survivors. i think the most powerful characters in the world should be survivors. i think characters who are cultural icons should be survivors. i think victims and survivors should see ourselves in the most admirable and beloved characters around! i think we should be protagonists!!!

[dickgraysonsptsd]

#‘it’s so unnecessary’ . okay . god yea this one drives me CRAZY. people will yap all day long about how it's "unnecessary" to make a character a survivor like do you think it was necessary for any of us to be abused or raped irl? was it narratively essential? did it teach the audience an important lesson? why do we, who have to justify our experiences and existences and reactions all the time in real life, also have to justify why we should exist in fiction? people act so repulsed by the thought of us. i've really fully and truly had enough of that. there is nothing so uniquely disgusting or repulsive or unspeakable about our victimhood or our survival that justifies this obsession with keeping the reality of our existence hidden

[malkaleh]

YES THIS (apologies for adding comment to the main body of the post but one of the things that has really made things worse for me is feeling like my trauma is too much/too awful/too unbelievable to be talked about and honestly the reason I have a tattoo of an Inej Ghafa quote on my arm is because I saw Inej and how her trauma is mine and felt so so much less like I was just some kind of horrific dirty thing)

[vajracchedika]

[what-even-is-thiss]

I’m not gonna platform this idiot but I saw somebody reblog a post from a radfem I think by accident. But the post claimed that men who hire prostitutes are “rapists who buy their victims silence”

I don’t think I need to explain to y’all why this is wrong but in case I do, buying a service from someone and following their rules as a client is not a breech of consent.

A lot of the danger that comes from being a prostitute has to do with its illegality. If a client breaks the rules and the service provider can’t file a complaint without risking imprisonment of themselves and/or their client, that’s not a safe work environment.

The idea that nobody would willingly sell sexual services unless they’re desperate is just false. There’s also a lot of other jobs people do when they’re desperate and they don’t like doing. For me it was working retail.

The difference between me pretending to be happy for clientele while working retail and someone pretending to be happy while selling sexual services to clients is that while I was working retail I at least theoretically had sick leave, health insurance, and a way to file a complaint if a customer assaulted me.

Sex work isn’t inherently any more degrading or miserable than any other kind of work. The issue is the lack of protection and workers rights.

[i-suggest-transing-your-gender]

"Get a job"

❌️ ableist

❌️ encourages capitalism

❌️ people can be losers and be employed

❌️ makes being jobless sound like a moral failing

"Get a hobby"

✔️ keeps disabled people who can't work in mind

✔️ does not encourage capitalism

✔️ if they already have hobbies you can tell them to get a new one

✔️ encourages a better use of autonomy and freetime

[i-suggest-larp]

That's a good suggestion!! I know a great hobby to try out btw!!

[edlingsbjorkman]

Haha hey hi

[cornona]

transandrophobia is real

transmisogyny exemption doesn’t exist

gender abolition now!! essentialists DNI

[edlingsbjorkman]

This blog will block anyone who uses TMA/TME.

[therapatical]

somebody apparently tried to get the Wikipedia page for discrimination against trans men deleted entirely because of the use of the word "transandrophobia". y'all are part of a fucking extremist hate group at this point. it's pride month and the government is killing us and you're actively trying to destroy documentation about trans people's discrimination? really? how fucking evil do you have to be to do this shit?

can we finally admit that these anti-transmasc people are part of a hate group? can we finally address this fucking problem and acknowledge it exists?

[malkaleh]

First attempt at sticker idea (obviously it needs some work but am pretty happy for a first go)

[malkaleh]

[edlingsbjorkman]

@makayuri re: angst ideas 👀

[hunny--hunny]

" replace 'trans man' with 'cis man' and the response would be completely different " yeah its almost like when you lob of half of someones identity and replace it with something else it changes things.

[makayuri]

Tempted to list out my angst/vent ideas to see if that eases anything internally but unfortunately they range from projecting to Projecting to Dead Dove: Do Not Eat

[neogeopet]

🌷🌱⛅💐 springmix 🌼🍃🌸💐