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If you have a serious case of the Mondays, move and shake it out! You got this!

#gif #monday #dance #silly #fun #shake it off

Worthy

A man who isn’t true to his words is a man unworthy of your time. Never find yourself constantly having to prove your worth to a man or anyone else. Because by then my dear, you have already forgotten your value.

You can have it all, just not all at once.

Bethany Frankel

#patience #life quotes #dontgiveup #moveforward #keep holding on

Dating App Frustrations

Hey again! H here. I know we’ve posted a lot in the past 24 hours, but boy, it’s been an exciting few days. I wanted to write about an experience I had last night with a dating app, and figure out where I should go from here.

To start off with, I hate dating apps. I absolutely hate them. K says they’re good for me to put myself out there or whatever. BUT, I’m super awkward with talking to strangers online, and I’m not good with the pressure of dating apps. You’re supposed to be sexy, cool, mysterious, enticing, adventurous, and confident, and you’re supposed to relay these qualities in about 5 pictures and a carefully crafted bio about yourself. Well, it’s safe to say I don’t possess any of those qualities, so that makes it very difficult for me. I also don’t really want to mess around. I’m at the point in my life that I want to settle down and have a serious relationship that might someday lead to marriage. I’m slightly old fashioned, but dating someone means a lot to me, so I’m not doing this to play games and sleep around. If that’s something you like to do, cool and keep doing it! It’s just not for me.

Anyway, I posted some new pics on my dating profiles, and killed some free time I had this weekend swiping left and right on various male profiles. I matched with some guys on Bumble, and decided I was going to message them, since the girls have to initiate conversations, and the hope that maybe something would come from it.

I got a notification that I guy I messaged had messaged me back, and I was nervous and excited! Who knows, maybe this one would finally work out? Well, I was extremely disappointed. A transcription of the conversation is written below:

Me: “Hey, how’s your weekend going?”

Boy: “On a scale of 1-10, how much do you want to suck my dick?”

Me: “Lol 0 bye”

Boy: “Dang”

DANG. He must be so disappointed that he didn’t get better results from that message. Part of me wants to ask how successful he's been with that approach. Unfortunately, that isn’t the first time I’ve received a message like that on a dating app, and it probably won’t be the last. The problem with these messages that continue to flood my inbox is that they make me want to give up.

I originally wanted this post to be empowering, but if I’m being honest, I’m having a hard time feeling empowered. I feel discouraged, frustrated, and disappointed, and I wonder if the multitude of those types of messages amount to my worth. I’m extremely tempted to delete my dating apps, say “fuck love”, and be done with it. However, if I do that, I’m wasting time being alone and not trying to find my person. Finding love is hard, finding a decent person to spend time with is hard, and getting over your insecurities and problems to put yourself out there is FREAKING HARD. Despite how hard it is, I know what love has done for me and for those around me, and I know it’s worth the hardships. Unfortunately, that doesn’t make it suck less.

I don’t have all the answers, in fact, I don’t have any answers. I don’t know how to brush those messages off and keep going. I don’t know how to let go of the feeling that I’m just going to keep being disappointed with every match I get. I don’t know how to remain positive and hopeful with this process. This shit is hard.

If you have tips on how to feel empowered through dating app frustrations, good dating apps to use, or helpful tips on how to navigate online dating, let us know. Our dating culture has completely changed, and we need to support each other if we’re ever going to figure out this whole love thing.

For me, the quest continues.

-H

#datingappstruggles #findingempowerment #notgivingup

Happy Monday/Labor Day!

Hello dear friends!

K here! I just rolled back into town from a long weekend. I was able to spend some time with my family and catch up with some old friends. Taking a break from school and campus is a MUST. Driving also helps me forget my current stressors and I get a chance to listen to my favorite songs along the way!

While I was at home, I met my brother’s new girlfriend and we hit it off right away. This is my brother’s first time bringing a girl over, so we were all excited! Ah...YOUNG PUPPY LOVE. It was adorable/annoying at times, but nevertheless I was so happy for my brother and was exited to see what type of girl my brother wants in his life.

I also had my LAST interaction with my ex. I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt, but he said some hurtful things and I finally mustered up the courage to delete him and his family/friends. This was HARD because I loved his family and friends, but I know if I kept seeing posts with him in them, all the pain would start again. I was able to lean on my family and friends while at home, but now that I am back at school, it is time for me to take hold of what I want in my life and MOVE ON AND UP!

How will I work to achieve that? Well, I really enjoyed these fitness classes that our recreation center had to offer. So I will be joining 3-4 classes a week!

-Pilates Sculpt

-Absolution

-Muscle Max

-Cycle Jam

Working out and managing my health is a great way to get back on track and I really enjoy doing fitness classes with other folks rather than running on a treadmill alone.

It is never too late to focus on health, fitness, and happiness!

#monday #health #fitness #happiness #family #friends #movingon #movingup #love #relationships

BEAUTY POST!!

Hey y’all, H here. So I had some amazing beauty changes this week that I want to share with all of you. I had a Colourpop order come in this week AND I got my hair colored for Fall. I have pics and reviews coming up in this post, so stay tuned!

First up, Colourpop. For those of you that haven’t tried Colourpop, go to their website and put in an order. Like right now. It’s extremely high quality makeup for extremely reasonable prices. Every product they make is very pigmented, long lasting, and has beautiful shades. In my latest Colourpop purchase, I got a Super Shock Highlighter, a pack of 6 Super Shock Shadows, an additional Super Shock Shadow, and 3 Liquid Lips (in matte finishes). Below are my reviews on these products. The Super Shock Highlighter (Glazed) is shimmery, pearly, and very natural. It was exactly what I was looking for for a natural glow for my fair complexion. The Super Shock Shadows are amazing. They last all day, don’t crease, and always come in amazing shades. I got one of their last call packs, Mile High, which had a ton of fun fall colors! The Liquid Lips are the most long lasting lip products I have ever used. I have a new love for matte finishes for lip products, but it’s hard to find ones that are smooth, don’t dry out your lips, and don’t transfer. I can put one of Colourpop’s Liquid Lips on at 9am and it will still be on well past 5pm, with very little color loss and little transfer. Their formulas, specifically their matte formulas are moisturizing and leave a smooth finish, which I love. I got three, part of their buy two, get one free deal, and I got shades that are great for fall, but natural enough to wear for work. They are beautiful!!

Swatches and names of the products I just got are below, in order from wrist to elbow.

Highlighter/Shadows:

Glazed- Super Shock Highlighter

Truth- Super Shock Shadow (Mile High Pack)

La La- Super Shock Shadow (Mile High Pack)

Nillionaire- Super Shock Shadow (Mile High Pack)

So Quiche- Super Shock Shadow (Mile High Pack)

Cricket- Super Shock Shadow (Mile High Pack)

Mittens- Super Shock Shadow (Mile High Pack)

Sundance- Super Shock Shadow

Liquid Lips:

Top 8

Bumble

Frick n’ Frack

Now, onto my hair change. Last time I colored my hair (March), I did a dark red balayage from my natural brown color. I let it fade over the summer, but then it started to be this weird orange color. I knew I needed a change, so I went to my hair stylist for help, Tera. She’s amazing. Anyway, I wanted a darker brown/red something, so I put her in charge and let her surprise me. What’s fun is that I don’t actually know what my hair color is now! In some lights, it’s red, and in some, it’s dark brown. Regardless of what color it is, I love it! The colors are so rich and perfect for fall! You’ll know what I mean when you see before and after pics below:

Before:

After:

See what I mean? It looks different in different lights! I’m interested to see what it looks like after I wash it a few times.

Anyway, I’ve probably bored you enough! If there are certain beauty things you’d like to see on this account, let us know!

Have a great Labor Day Weekend!

#beauty #fallhair #fallbeauty #newhair #colourpop #makeup #newlooks

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Happy Monday, Friends!

Since H is in class, I thought I would take this time to share a bit about the weekend. I would like to post a series each Monday and share a few ups and downs about the weekend and what my goals are for the week.

H and I decided to scout out what was new at Sephora this weekend. Since we are on that grad school budget, we decided to look at EVERYTHING in our local store and pick out what we wanted to try, so when we get paid...we will ONLY buy what we truly need/want and not waste more time gawking over what is out of our budget. (WE LOVED THE URBAN DECAY EYELINERS--so many colors...H’s hand looked like a rainbow)!!!!!!

Last night, I sat on my bathroom floor and bawled my eyes out while listening to Christina Perri’s song “Arms”...

I had found two love letters from my ex and his old towel that he left and just lost it. Our break up was back in May, but there are still some nights that I just break down and miss him all over again. I am a firm believer that it is still healthy to have those moments of weakness and want everything back to the way it once was, and cry of course. Embrace the memories, take time to reflect on the good and the bad.

Just don’t forget to look FORWARD. I am having to remind myself of this, and that is OK! Maybe our paths will cross again, and maybe we just need time to do our own thing. Who knows?

Relationships are DIFFICULT, especially during grad school.

Here are some ways I am working on pushing through this rough patch:

-Talking to my mom more

-Being OPEN with family and friends about what is bothering me...when they don’t know, they can’t help

-Have regular dance parties in my room

-Find creative outlets (I enjoy painting with water colors, and doing photography)

-THIS BLOG--writing it out is wonderful and a great way for me to track my progress

So that’s all for now, friends. I would like to leave you with some words of inspiration that I used to hear all of the time as a child. “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

-K