Hello!

Kai | nonbinary | they/them | 18 | black | INFP  Welcome to my maladaptive daydreaming blog. Feel free to talk to me. I don't know how blogs work.

[elliotissomadd]

[quotesbooksandmagic]

Me making a parra that’s in the army, without actually knowing anything about war

[homemadde]

I see a lot of madd blogs say they hate it when they can’t listen to music because then they can’t daydream. Fortunately, or unfortunately, I don’t have this problem. I can daydream anytime, anywhere, background noise or complete silence. I could be hanging off the edge of a cliff and I’d be like ‘check out the view haha carmen would love this’. There is nothing stopping me from daydreaming. And you know what? I hate it.

[transcendent-paras]

Whenever people try to give tips on madd and say like “avoid triggers” its so bizzare to me as someone who first noticed signs of their madd at like 9 years old. since I was so young I never “grew out of the imaginary friend phase” and I have a two different day dream modes, one where im fully immersed and seems to be the more common/talked about style but the other mode where its basically like a kid with an imaginary friend like im really never not day dreaming. Even if im with friends or shopping my paras are ‘there’ with me laughing at our jokes or looking at clothes with me. Its just such weird advice to avoid triggers when literally existing is my trigger

[shrekshrekshrekshrekshrek]

Everyone else in the MaDD/IDDcommunity is always like ““I’ve been pacing in my room for hours daydreaming” Like????? What????? How do have the time????? I seriously wish I could that. I have no time to do it. I’m so busy like how DO YOU DO THAT?????? WHERE DO YOU GET THE TIME?????

[maladaptivedorky]

We don’t actully have the time to. THAT’S THE PROBLEM :,)

[daydreaming-addict]

Me, optimistic and naive: I’d love to talk about my paras! Feel free to ask me anything!

Someone: Tell us about your paras! :)

Me, realizing I actually have internalized shame about my madd as well as the fear of my paras (and by extension, me) being “cringy” and “unoriginal” despite the fact that they aren’t even meant to appeal to anyone else and are just a coping mechanism:

[maddbians]

idk if this is a common thing but the faster i walk/run/skip/whatever im doing while daydreaming the more intense and exciting the dream becomes

[celestialmadd]

also when your daydream gets so exciting that simply walking isn’t enough and you feel the biggest urge to just jump around or something

[terror-star1969]

It’s 12:00 am and I just accidentally squeaked, really high pitch while daydreaming. I hope that my parents didn’t hear me.

[doeeyeddyke]

does anyone else incorporate stuff they learn in school into cosms? like i have some seriously intellectual paras and i always take what i learn in school and use it to make some intense scientific revolutionary futuristic stuff.

[maladaptive-dreamer]

I take notes not for my own benefit but for the benefit of my paras

[queer--punk-deactivated20190603]

i think people really undermine how hard madd is.

i felt physical anxiety today, as in i was shaking, my heart was beating fast and i felt sick, all because i had to get tutored for an hour and that meant no daydreaming.

its not just an odd hobby, its not a fun pass-time. its upsetting to deal with.

[dizzociating]

it’s so crazy to think about the fact that i have these completely made up and non-existent people that live solely in my head/imagination who i feel so aggressively emotionally attached to and i love them so much and it makes me so sad that no one else will ever get to meet them cause they’re so nice and amazing but also not real???? but to me, they feel so real sometimes and when i get hit with the realization that they don’t actually exist it fucking hurts

[madd-baby]

mood is your paras not having a definite age and instead saying that they’re 16-25 years old or even 18-45 because concept of time is confusion

[positively-madd]

[sunbeambutch]

when you daydream about wish fulfillment shit and suddenly realize that maybe you’d actually be able to accomplish these things in real life if you weren’t daydreaming every spare moment of your life…

[maddreamer-universe]

Say “no” to your madd

I often struggle to say no in real life. I don’t follow my needs and I am afraid of conflicts with other people.

I actually think it’s because of madd. I don’t listen to my body and what I want. How am I suppose to follow my interests when I don’t listen to myself?

So the next time you are pacing and your feet start to hurt say “no” to your madd in your mind: No, my feet are hurting and I care about my body. I don’t want to pace anymore.

Or when you are too busy daydreaming but you are thirsty, say: I need to drink something, it’s important to stay hydrated.

I don’t say it prevents you from daydreaming, but in my case I stop earlier. And the more I do it the sooner it comes to my mind.

[para-paradise]

This is really important. A lot of the mass community talks about the fun stuff (paras, mood boards etc). I LOVE my paras but there is a dark side of madd, one that leads to aching feet and ringing ears and a bad social life. Idk.

I’m trying to find the balance. It’s possible to have all that imaginative stuff and teach yourself to love and care for your body. It’s hard. It takes a long time. But you can do it, I believe in you 💕🤗

[babydollsmadd]

How to deal with any conflict:

Have your para be a popular streamer and have them rant about said conflict to thousands of people in your head for 3 hours

[xoxodege]

Ik that others seem to mouth words when daydreaming…but I sometimes have entire conversations aloud, and I’m always stressed that ppl will hear/see me just talking to myself. Does anyone else do this?