Male Sexist Behavior

A true safe space to talk about personal experiences with male sexist behavior. A mod has training in safe spaces, and abuse will not be tolerated. Genuine discourse and educating ourselves and others is encouraged.

[alwaysbewoke]

[neurotypical-passing]

She is currently in the hospital recovering from poisoning while UCI refuses to be held accountable for their student’s actions. Last I read she was not doing well. Please share and consider donating to her gofundme page. https://www.gofundme.com/5aca1fk

[neurotypical-passing]

Apparently the school responded to the situation, although if you didn’t have the direct link they posted on social media you’d have a hard time finding it. You’d have to know what you were looking for. I went on the school’s website and it’s under student affairs, under vice chancellor’s office, under important messages. I don’t really know any students that actually follow their school on social media or are constantly checking the school’s website. They still have not sent out a school wide response notifying the students/staff of the incident. A lot of people are still unaware of the situation!! The school is being negligent af and let’s not pretend we don’t know why.

Contact vice chancellor Thomas A. Parham and demand he send out a school wide response!!

[email protected]

[phone]

[neurotypical-passing]

It’s not a coincidence this is being kept under wraps. Thomas A. Parham was just chosen as the new president of Cal State Dominguez Hills. He apparently has an “exceptional history of working wth students from diverse backgrounds.”

[ithelpstodream]

[cookie-sheet-toboggan]

so is Victory

[ashermajestywishes]

LOVE TRIANGLE

[bsparrow]

Don’t forget Truth (Coming Out of Her Well to Shame Mankind)

[justrollinon]

This must be why the Trump administration hates them all 

[acciowine]

The Four Horsewomen of the Trumpocalypse.

[krustybunny-deactivated20221129]

I’ve never reblogged anything so quick

[spectrometon]

The Ultimate Squad, comin’ to wreck your shit and save the world

[quentineliot]

Rb for that art doe

[identicaltwinhalfbrother]

Dignity here to join the girl posse.

[brainwad]

AVENGERS ASSEMBLE

[ryeisenberg]

[fat-posi-for-black-women-deacti]

Dating while fat & black in the black community is just as tough as dating while fat and black outside of the community.

I’m sure it’s extremely tough for hetero black women. There are limitations and standards placed on black women’s physical appearance/size/weight/looks by black men, that they don’t require when they date IR.  They do it too.

Dating while fat, black and woman is brutal. There’s so much stigma attached to fat black women/bigger black women. Much of it rooted in racism.

[pale-manmi]

Yess can we also talk about how when you express these struggles, men immediately want to call you insecure but really your just hyper aware of how most black men view you as a fat black woman.

And while we’re at it let’s address the fact that yes being “Thick” is heavily praised in our community but we all know that if your not proportionately fat black men don’t consider you “Thick” at all.

[fat-posi-for-black-women-deacti]

[deanoru]

[theoriginalblackbarbie]

I love this

[bougiebussy]

Eh, while it’s great that these characters are independent, something about all these princesses of color not finding love at the end of their movies rubs me the wrong way. Just like how Disney patted itself on the back for a black princess but she was Frogger damn near the whole movie.

[esinahs-deactivated20180730]

And it would’ve been a great opportunity to cast moc in romantic roles from that culture :/

[itsmikuisa]

^^^ I’m so conflicted because yes, always having a love interest is annoying but poc never get to have a love interest

[ororomunroedontpullout]

Having the princesses of color not find love reinforces the idea that we have to strong and independent and aren’t needing of any support

But I do like it because it deviates from the norm

[ida-b-wells-b-whippin-yo-ass-de]

It might be cool if they had dudes in the movie who were interested and they had the princesses be like, “naw, I got shit to do, but maybe later!”

[seekingwillow]

Cause then it would obviously be a choice, instead of a worldstate that WoC don’t get hetero love (I’m not even gonna wish for queer love).

[kaylapocalypse-deactivated20201]

This is actually a good example of the need for intersectional feminism.

 it is very common that white girl characters have love interests and finding love be the plot line and basis for all their stories and interactions.

It is uncommon for a girl character of color to be seen as a potential love interest, in need of defense by a male character and/or support from a male character full stop.

This is because of the history of social devaluation of woc and infantilization of white women.

Thusly:

 it is subversive for white female characters to not have love interests for once and to focus on strength outside of male attention.

while at the same time 

is it subversive for woc to be love interests and treated with care and reverence and with support in relationships on screen. 

The “norms” for two groups of women are different based on the historical interaction both groups have had to suffer under patriarchal and sexist/racist media. 

This is why its okay to feel hurt and roll your eyes when you see people screaming about how michonne from the walking dead “dont need no man” because she’s too “strong” to want to be desired and cared for,  while at the same time feel hurt and roll your eyes when Black Widow is suddenly too helpless to get herself free from a basic ass cage and needs to be rescued by her randomly inserted love interest. 

@drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto @itsmikuisa @bougiebussy (the others dont have tagging on i dont think)

[humantested-turingapproved]

Shout out to @kaylapocalypse for saying this so much better than I could.

[sheabutterbitch]

Audre Lorde saying “what woman here is so enamored of her own oppression that she cannot see her heel print upon another woman’s face?” has been my mood for the last few weeks

[thatidomagirl]

When your feminism isn’t intersectional

[malesexistbehavior]

This hotline will help people reject creepy people that want their number

[itamedgojira-deactivated2019021]

throughout history it has been a man’s job to provi..

no, throughout history men have actively prevented the independence of women, they have actively prevented our mobility, rights to an education, and livable income. they’ve abused our reproductive capability and passed us around like properties, they’ve used religion to rationalize their hatred of us, and to put us in a place of subordination. so y’all can shut the fuck up about men being “providers” like it was some benevolent gesture, in an attempt to rationalize sexism.

[nevaehtyler]

THIS

[fuck-customers]

I just deliver...

So I am a car parts delivery girl. I honestly love my job. I work with all my friends and spend most of my time on the road delivering car parts to mechanics. It can be seen as funny when a very small 5'2" girl who is very bubbly bounces in your shop swinging around a car battery or juggling multiple car parts. That still does not give the right to some mechanics to be absurdly creepy towards me. I’ve had to report sexual harassment a few times now to my management.

A little over month ago I went to collect money from one shop and there was this really drunk guy there. I was already on edge because he was drunk, but there were other guys there who I’ve always gotten along with. One of the mechanics was previously kind enough to let me borrow their special glasses so I could see the eclipse! But this drunk guy was just visiting and I tried to pay no mind to him. But he kept telling me I was so pretty and that I looked like I belonged on a car calendar. He told me that he likes me because of how quiet I am. He told me that he wanted to hire me as his new secretary. All while the actual owner of the store was getting the money to pay my business. I went back to my work and shakily told my boss what happened.

Fast forward a month. I come back to collect money and he’s there again. He’s already blasted and I’m super uneasy about him being there. I try to ignore him but once I got my money, the drunk guy stepped in front of me to keep me from leaving. He kept telling me how much he liked me and that i should leave my boyfriend for him. He asked what my major was and i silently said, “biology…” and he said, “does that mean if you take a swab of my lips you can see what’s on them?” When I finally got around him to leave, he followed me to my car and kept telling me he likes me and to leave my boyfriend for him. When I got back my coworkers were laughing saying I must have gotten lost (I’m very directionally challenged and need to use a GPS for most deliveries.) I told them what happened, almost crying, and they grew very serious and told me to tell my boss. I later found out that drunk guy told my boss he wanted to “whip it out” for me.

Then there’s this other shop. It’s run by one mechanic and I don’t deliver there often so I never saw it as a big deal. He would always tell me before that I’m “too beautiful not to have a boyfriend” and “I could be your boyfriend.” I laughed it off but literally a few days ago when I went to deliver things became too much for me. I walked in and said “here are your parts!!” with my usual bubbly tone. He opens his arms and walks towards me. I immediately took a step back and said, “what?” making it clear I did not wanting him touching me. He then wrapped his arm around me and I’m not sure if he rested his head on mine or did that weird family kiss on the cheek thing but I was beyond scared. He pulled away and said “Sorry for grabbing you like that” and I just asked for my money. I came back to my store shaking and holding back tears.

These are the more serious issues that I’d had to tell management about but I’m just a delivery girl. Don’t make those comments about/to me and don’t touch me. As nice and pleasant as I am, I’m a human. I am just here to do my job and give you your car parts. I understand I’m a small girl who goes to places that are generally male-dominated, but that does not give you any excuses.

I have to give props to how wonderful and understanding my team is. Every time I’ve brought up a problem they did their best to make sure I was safe and okay. They called the shop where drunk guy visits and now all the mechanics who work there said if I’m ever there when he is, they’ll make sure he doesn’t bother me. They all one by one talked to me and apologized for that happening. They all said they’d go as far as to punch him out if he even looks at me the wrong way. That may be a little far, but I appreciate it to my very core. I also won’t be delivering to the guy who hugged me anymore. Last I heard, my bosses want to find which guy it is (he may have his own business, but he’s under the same commercial account as several other businesses in the area). I’m not sure if they’re going to call him or anything more extreme. I just don’t want to deliver to him but I’m glad they’re looking out for my safety. I have the best team a scared little delivery girl could ask for <3

[parkistan]

Throwback to this iconic tweet

[ambelle]

Anyway a lot of black women are silently dealing with ptsd and mental health issues (mainly depression) because we are told speaking about it or seeking help makes us weak…that if our abusers are black it is a betrayal to our entire race. I’m telling you to get the help you need to heal and distance yourself from people who don’t have your best interest in mind. Be loyal to yourself for a change.

[inmynature]

Best decision this year.

[softcore-revolutionary]

✨feminist blog✨

[weavemama]

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[girlfromthe-subway]

a couple of things 

1. if your feminism doesn’t include the disabled community, it isn’t  feminism 2. if your disability activism doesn’t include invisible disabilities, it isn’t activism

[softcore-revolutionary]