Call Of The Mild

Mal - 31 - they/she

[whaile]

late summer / early fall thoughts

[escuerzoresucitado]

Pedestrian traffic lights

[carolsturka]

how it feels to talk about anything at all

[shamebats]

Despite it all I was born in the right generation. I love having more than 2 outfits to wear & not being pregnant.

[mixedmedialesbianism]

Types of Butches, as shown through the Muppets

[silvermoon424]

This tweet read me to filth

[probuccalfat]

venus planet of love was destroyed by global warming and me i feel also not so good

[popbubblepngs]

baby lego hotdog

[oceantoyz]

:|

[ahotknife]

park that car… drop that phone… sleep on the floor… dream about me…

[dykeferatu]

i’m not even that much of a pervert i can just find the eroticism in anything. doesn’t get me bricked up necessarily i just like to appreciate it.

[x-files-polls]

Assuming they're living in a metropolitan area with one...

Would the Lone Gunmen go to a pride parade?

Yes, proudly

Yes, discreetly

They would be involved in planning/on a float/etc

They would watch it on TV

Depends on their immediate life circumstances

No, but they would do other pride-related activities

No.

They don't even know what a pride parade is

They are actively trying to harm/hinder the pride parade

All three have wildly different answers that are impossible to summarize as one

Voting ended onJul 6

[roycohn]

there's an old anne rice interview circulating on twitter rn that i remember reading ages ago where she makes a pretty salient point about how submissive men who have bdsm fantasies etc will go to a sex worker and basically order the ala carte version of their fantasy to be performed in real life but women don't really have that same option and certainly not at the same point of availability so they read her horny books instead. and honestly that argument has been in the back of my mind every time people get on their high horses about the popularity of booktok romantasy novels or heated rivalry or whatever the "women are horny and we're upset about that" cultural property du jour is ever since. women, especially straight women, have so few outlets for their sexual desires, especially if they have a partner who doesn't share them, and i will never understand why "someone ELSE'S private sexual fantasy makes me uncomfortable and therefore they should not be allowed to engage with it, even if i am in no way being affected by it or even aware of it at all" is such a popular party line among allegedly progressive young people.

[blacklesbianprincess]

“women, especially straight women have so few outlets” so what exactly do you think lesbians have? like why does it always come back to straight women???

[loreleionthelake]

literally where are all these outlets for lesbian sexuality the op lives around

[roycohn]

i'm literally a lesbian and while i've explained this several times, my point in this framing is that i do not have the same fears for my safety when engaging in NSA sex and hookup culture that straight women en masse have to contend with. if i want to meet a woman off an app and hook up after some basic vetting, i can be reasonably certain that if we're not vibing or the chemistry is off, i can leave safely and nothing bad will happen to me. i don't have to tell 6 people where i'm going and set up a bunch of check-ins and code words for my personal safety. straight women do. i have a reasonable spread of outlets for my sexuality as a dyke in a major east coast city but more importantly, i *do* feel luckier and better-off in this regard when compared to straight women who have to take far greater measures to ensure their personal safety and it takes away nothing from me to admit this. i'm a gay woman who has empathy for women who don't have the option to just withdraw from interacting with men while still getting their sexual and romantic needs met, cope and seethe about it i guess

[livelovelaugh-777]

[oneheadtoanother]

[stufflikethathere]

[antcomrade]

“Leave the Leaves” editorial illustration I neglected to post

[fox-bright]

Years before the covid pandemic began, author Naomi Kritzer wrote the charming, emotionally genuine short story "So Much Cooking," which was a pandemic log through the eyes of a cooking blog. The premise is that the author is a home cooking blogger raising her kids, and then a pandemic hits--and bit by bit she's feeding not only her own, but her sister's kids, some neighbors' kids, and so on, in a situation of pandemic lockdown and food shortages.

It's very good, and was prescient for a lot of the early days of the covid pandemic. I found myself returning to it often in the first couple of years because of how steadfast it was in its hopefulness.

Last year she wrote a novelette, "The Year Without Sunshine," which attacks a similar problem in a similar way; instead of pandemic, this one is about the aftereffects of a distant nuke or a massive volcano explosion (it doesn't say), which has churned a great deal of dust into the air, causing massive damage to society and agriculture. The story covers one neighborhood, pulling together to keep each other alive--not through violence, but through lawn potatoes and message pinboards and bicycle-powered oxygen concentrators.

I recommend both stories. They're uplifting in a way that a lot of what I see lately isn't. They're a bit of a panacea for constant fearmongering about intracommunity violence and grinding hatefulness. We can be good to each other, if we try.

[servantofclio]

These are both excellent stories, and I also heartily recommend her story "Better Living through Algorithms."

[mikkeneko]