[genderistdeku-deactivated202302]

men love pretending that it’s the autism that makes autistic men Like That. sorry but no it’s just his y chromosome. if it was the autism then autistic women would be just as deranged as your finest specimens and guess what. they’re not.

[radfeminismes]

Pure gold that doesn’t deserve to drown in the tags

[cristalplanetheart]

[pearlsasinger-deactivated202602]

hate how almost every portrayal of a lesbian on mainstream tv is like literally just a straight woman who dates women. the writers clearly don’t care to take Any considerations into lesbian/lgbt culture or what our lives/dating is rly like. like even apart from them all being pretty feminine conventionally attractive white women in their thirties, they are literally always the straightest women you could possibly imagine. what’s the opposite of dykery. The utter dykelessness of these women

[lanahelpedmeescapethepsychward]

ftms be like i think im a boy because i like racecars and am uncomfortable w my body post-puberty and mtfs be like i feel like im a girl because i kinned the anime girl in the hentai scene i watched yesterday

[mazzes-deactivated20250218]

i want to smoke crack with her

[pointnclick]

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

We live in wonderful times

[parttimepup]

So I was back in Mandarin class and the teacher let us know that in ancient times sometimes they wouldn’t even give their girl children names. Their attitude was why bother getting attached to her when she’s just going to grow up and belong to someone else? She doesn’t need her own identity because she is the property of her future husband. If they needed to refer to a woman they would say that’s Wang’s wife. In the same way you would say oh, that’s Wang’s car or Wang’s house. Let’s remember that we give names to dogs, horses, ships and buildings but some human women don’t deserve such recognition. She also touched on sex-selective abortion for a bit and it was all in all a pretty sad discussion today.

I was really moved but it felt like everyone else didn’t care or thought that stuff doesn’t matter because it doesn’t happen anymore. And yet even now women’s identities are being erased when they get married. Their personal history and family ties are untraceable because they are “adopted” into their husbands family. It’s disgusting and I hate that its so nomalized and I hate that even women’s names are not our own. We might as well never have been given names in the first place.

[old-school-butch]

This effect also disrupts our relationships. Try finding old friends from high school or your second cousin. They are gone and renamed, lost to you.

[girl-unashamed]

Common throughout history, unfortunately. Women in ancient Rome often weren’t given names beyond their family names; if you needed to differentiate between sisters, you’d often just say “Cornelia the younger / the elder” or even just give them numbers. Their husbands would address them, in private, by the feminine form of their own names (eg. if you married Julius then he’d call you Julia).

A lot of people think the effect has disappeared today, because women typically have less common names than men - a higher fraction of men are named the absolute most popular names like John or Jack whereas women are more spread out over different names.

But it’s really noticeable how often parents give their male children meaningful names - they’ll have a historically important namesake, or be named after a great grandfather, or have a traditional name with a meaning their parents liked. That’s why the common names tend to be common. The names given to female children are chosen because they’re “pretty” names, because their parents just liked the way it sounded, or are even just nouns / adjectives like “Lily”, “Hope” or “Summer”. They emphasise that the role of the female child is to be a pretty ornament, not to achieve meaningful things or inherit anything from a namesake.

They’re often very infantilising - sure it’s cute when you have a two year old named “Poppy” or “Precious” but she’s going to have to grow up and put that name on her CV. They very often use the diminutive -ie / -y suffix (Millie, Tilly, Becky, Georgie, Katy / Katie), which is typically used to indicate something small and cute and which many women have to obfuscate in order to construct anything that sounds like a professional identity. (I know a Katie who is pretending her name is Katherine, even though it’s legally Katie, just so people won’t think she’s being inappropriately informal in a business context.)

They also highlight just how much ageism is directed at women and how much women have to struggle to keep up with fashion, even in something as basic as their names. A traditional male name like “Joseph” or “Edward” or “James” or “Luke” is fine no matter how many centuries it’s been popular for. An off cycle name might be unusual, but that isn’t a bad thing. But dare give a girl a name that was popular too long ago - “Dorothy” or “Mary” or “Dawn” or “Gertrude” - and she’ll be ruthlessly bullied in school for it because it’s a “old lady name for grandmothers”. Don’t you know those names are ugly now, undesirable, associated with old wrinkled women who aren’t sexy? You need a young, new, sexy name like Ava or Madison or Olivia - keeping in mind of course that those will be “ugly” too when your daughter gets old.

The tendency of feminine names to emphasise beauty - and occasionally sexuality, which can be somewhat inappropriate considering the kid has to grow up with that name - is taken to an extreme if you look at porn stars’ stage names, which are all things like Scarlet or Rose or Desiree or Ravyn. Femininity, taken to an extreme, always ends up being about sexual availability.

And when women do try and give their daughters unique names, so they’ll be memorable even if their surname changes, the Daily Mail runs spots to make fun of names like Nevaeh or Unique or Evylyn because apparently that’s chavvy. And maybe it is! I’m not a fan of replacing all vowels with y either! But wow, there are just no good options for women.

And of course the moment you put a recognisably female name on your CV you become less employable, your qualifications worth less. But if you have a gender ambiguous name, you’re punished for being gnc. Good fucking luck out there.

It’s kind of a small thing, next to all the rape and mutilation and career discrimination and all the generally horrible things happening to women. But it’s just… nothing is okay, nothing is equal, no part of the world has actually been completely fixed yet. Even our names are yet another thing we need feminism help improve.

[old-school-butch]

Reblogging for this fine addition

[vou-duvidar]

Ah, language/literature analysis! How I love and hate you. Great addiction tho. Thank you!

[thatkindoffeminist]

One of my mates has an old fashioned legal name which they don’t go by. While she likes the name because it has meaning to her, she’s said that most people think it’s a weird simply because it’s so old fashioned.

When it was popular what were the most popular boys names? Joseph, Robert, John, William, etc. Have they become old fashioned suddenly? Of course not.

Is there any part of a woman’s life which isn’t just a trend?

[discosunfish]

Modern feminists rarely reckon with the true immensity of the legacy of men’s subordination of us. This is the kind of thing I mean. Modern feminists are frequently in total denial about the fact that we were all of us property until, relatively speaking, a few seconds ago.

[naturalbornlesbian7]

And the only way for us women to break this chain is by creating new last names for ourselves, that dont exist. Basically,make them up. Thats the only way. Keeping your last name when marrying someone is not an option because if you track your family history back to your first female foremother, you will find how a lot of women throughout all the generations at some point took their husband’s last names. EVERY last name belongs to men. Thats why the only way is to come up with a new one. Thats what I am gonna do and pretty much recommend to all of you ladies💗 dont let our identities be erased.

[rudefemyukakoyamagishi]

Once I start to become part of the public eye as an activist, I’m changing my last name to whatever I want so whatever I do doesn’t get traced back to my family and also bc I want no part of my life to be tied to a man. I will be the only woman of my ancestral line whose last name did not come from a husband or father. I belong to no man, and neither will my daughters or their daughters.

[ruinedchildhood]

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So someone pointed out to me recently that in a few years, maybe a few decades, the history of the us during covid is probably going to get twisted. The fact that we all had to make and wear cloth masks is going to be hailed as a symbol of how we “"came together as a nation”“” or whatever the fuck propaganda spin they try to put on it.

So I just want to say, for the record, the time of the corona virus pandemic was not a time when america came together.

This was a time when people hoarded toilet paper and sanitizing supplies either for themselves or to sell at absurd prices to the desperate people who didn’t get to the store soon enough during the shortages

This was a time when scared parents were sending their kids to finish school in the spring in plastic trash bags because they couldn’t think of any other way to possibly keep their families safe

This was a time when grocery store and retail and service workers were forced to keep working whether they wanted to risk their health or not because they couldn’t make rent otherwise and the people with enough privilege to have remote jobs tried to repay them with applause instead of fair wages

This was a time when nurses had the hold the hands of multiple dying people every day as their families watched their loved ones die over a video call because the hospital couldn’t risk having visitors

This was a time when city governments had to handle so many eviction hearings that they rented out convention centers and called in the national guard instead of doing a rent freeze to stop predatory landlords

This was a time when racism and police brutality were so unbearably horrible that people protested in the streets for months even though there was a god damn pandemic that our federal government wasn’t doing shit to stop and the cops were so mad that they were being asked to stop beating up black people that they were beating up everyone

This was a time when schools being forced to reopen in the fall or lose their federal funding had to draft templates for letters if a teacher or a staff person or a fucking child died from exposure to corona at school

This was a time when the president of the United states demanded that the cdc stop releasing data about all the people who were dying because of the warnings he ignored for months were making him look bad

This was a time when some state governments didn’t mandate masks and forced businesses to reopen because they didn’t want to pay unemployment to people trying to stay safe at home anymore

This was a time when Jeff Bezos was on track to be a fucking trillionare because everyone was ordering things on amazon instead of going to the store and the people he worked to death to get it didn’t see a single cent of it

This was a time when instead of providing homeless people with housing, we painted boxes on the ground to show homeless people how far away the had to be on the street to maintain social distancing

We did not come together to make cloth masks. Cloth masks represent nothing less than the absolute and utter failure of a nation’s government to inform and protect its citizens

This was not a time when we came together. This was a time when we survived, and not all of us made it.

This was a time when people casually talked about how many human lives the economy was worth without considering the evil that had just come out of their mouths.

This was a time when thousands of us died for profit and the ego of a cheating narcissists con man who scammed his way into the white house

This was a time that we survived. Most of us tried to do the right thing, stay home, limit trips to the store and socializing, wear a mask. And still, so many of us were lost. Thousands every day.

But that wasn’t a good enough reason for some people, for those among us who were too selfish to recognize the responsibilities we have toward one another as human beings.

This was not a time that we came together

This was a time that we survived

Not all of us made it

And those of us who did survive will never forget the evil we saw daily in our politicians and those around us

[witchlingmother]

“Support and protect sex workers!” is such a hypocritical statement.

Who do you think you are protecting them from? From aggressive men, right? So How do you protect sex workers from aggressive men while simultaneously putting them in direct contact with each other?

A woman has a right to be hurt by men so long as she’s getting paid for it? As long as she consents to sexual violence just to get enough cash to survive it’s empowering? Why do you support violence against women if and only if that violence is sexual in nature and ends with a pay out? What the fuck is wrong with you?

[kiefbowl]

online liberal hot takes are like whiteness is a mindset, gayness is a mindset, neurodivergence is inherently queer, karen jokes are praxis, menstruation is inherently suspicious and you are suspected of terf crimes if you menstruate, kink is subversive, porn is important to the mentally ill, let men be soft and kind…….enough already

[everythingfox]

He brought his own snack

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[compulsive]

[ijaazat]

I gotta go I'm doing hot girl shit *continues to peel the yellow wallpaper*

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[doggosource]

The best thing about dogs is you can act like something really good just happened and they’ll instantly start celebrating too they have no idea what the context is, they’re just always ready to party no matter what 

[effinbirds]