[march18th]

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[march18th]

we need to take skinny people away. like just in general. i'm so sick of people being like "ewww fat people" and then the skinny person DEFENDING fat people is like "OMG why would you say fat?? whats wrong with you?? calling someone fat is EVIL" like no it's the connotations not. the fatness? i'm legitimately fat it's not an insult and it shouldn't BE an insult that's the whole point

[bippus]

Oh I just want to hold onto this one forever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever everr

[wasteofprotons]

that dragon is NOT clingy. This is normal behavior when you have been added to a hoard.

[march18th]

thank you for the quiz noobful dog. i dont know if this is really true though these values seem VERY high

[myankleissprained]

Guys can I be honest. I like you guys . You are my Frends. Yay Ok

[march18th]

10 gigglebytes of ticklefiles stashed away in funnyfolders

[dominodamsel]

big day for fujos who can afford a nintendo switch

[march18th]

i unironically selfship with singing machine dont play with me

[fourthkindred]

i like the singing machine

[ivoryheaven]

I LOVE THE SINGING MACHINE!!!I FUCKING LOVE THE SINGING MACHINEE!!!!!!!!!

[roach-emperor]

[march18th]

i think overall the most issue i take is with the idea that sex is a wild, thoughtless, impulsive action taken out of pure need or want or uncontrollable desperation. people even believe it for themselves and it's ridiculous. the idea that sex is not voluntarily, instead of a deliberate choice of actions someone takes, is absolutely why a good chunk of rapes occur. it is genuinely not a "do it or die" like a lot of people seem to think, and it will not fucking kill you to ask for consent. there is no such thing as "ruining the mood". "disrupting the fantasy". sex is entirely a choice that is made. it can only feed into rape culture to believe it isn't a choice.

[march18th]

sorry everybody i reblogged a post and thought about it and decided i didnt like it in some places so i talked so much. hi

[march18th]

i also take issue with the statement "it becomes "contributing to rape culture" to write a work that finds rape hot or romantic or in any way anything but a grueling, dismal, disgusting thing to talk abt", as a statement that should be criticized or dismissed. rape is not grueling, dismal and disgusting to talk about, but it IS grueling, dismal and disgusting to experience. i DO think public, gratuitous sexualization of rape is contributing to rape culture, whether a victim is writing it or not, whether it is based on experience or not. it is somewhat expected for a victim to seek attention with self-harm when experiencing something so horrific but it's also the case that the opposite can happen: perpetrators can bear witness to these things and grow more confident in their own conviction that their actions are acceptable. it is ridiculous to imply that a victim of rape culture and rape is exempt from fuelling rape culture further. the worst, most misogynistic, most rape-y people i have EVER met were people involved in the "consensual non consent" community, because there was so little actual consent involved--it was just "hot" in terms of free use, of uncaringness towards a sexual partner, of treating people like property. it is "just kink", it is "victims coping", but the actual effects of these things are FAR more material and horrific and traumatizing than people who engage in them would like to think. it is not effectively reclaiming your own trauma to traumatize others

[march18th]

and i still have great issue with people just doing things at the wrong time in the wrong places, especially publically. like that motherfucker who made a whole comic about "kids in 18+ spaces" and how "minors were accusing them of being a pedophile" when in actuality, the media they were discussing was sofia the first, a children's show, and they were writing graphic sexual fanfiction about the child characters for "smut"'s sake and posting it online for people to see. i really think there's plenty to be criticized about that and it's not attacking freedom of expression to say the actions taken by this person are not morally correct

[march18th]

although i do sometimes genuinely wonder how people can process their trauma through writing fanfictions about it and shit. i'm sorry, i'm deeply complexly traumatized so badly i cannot make anything artistic and widely consumable out of it, i've told maybe four people about the deepest extent of it. it's not to say you can't, recovery is different for a lot of people and we are all at different stages, but at my current stage--being likely over a decade since something happened to me--i really cannot imagine sitting down and trying to write about this shit without actually bursting into tears and throwing up

[nephilot]

the thing is that rape is eroticized and romanticized allll the time in big ways and small thru all sorts of media - books, movies, erotica - but instead of treating this like something that should be seriously examined, it's treated like something that must be excised. as tho we can abolish rape by banishing certain reactions to rape. it's like ppl don't even want to question why bodice rippers were so popular or why dark romance is so big or why so much of what has been considered consensual sex in so much media is now (i think in many cases rightfully) considered rape (by which i mean we now understand certain circumstances - such as a sober person having sex with someone too drunk to remember anything - as having the potential to cause quite a lot of pain). they want to say, "well, it's bad bc it's romanticized. and when rape is seen as anything other than horrible it's wrong." but ofc rape has not been seen as horrible and is not seen as horrible in so many situations. this is something that rape victims have always had to live with; the situation of their pain not being taken seriously bc in many cases it is not even seen as rape. marital rape, for example, was legal in the us until the 1970s and wasn't illegal nationwide until the 90s! rape is embedded in structure of our societies, so much a part of the substrate that it is often invisible to ppl. when the idea that certain ppl can be forced to have sex is so popular, so old, and so crucial to sexual politics then ofc it is a notion that becomes romanticized and eroticized. and yet it somehow becomes unspeakable to be too explicit abt this. it becomes "contributing to rape culture" to write a work that finds rape hot or romantic or in any way anything but a grueling, dismal, disgusting thing to talk abt. i don't think it's giving in to rape culture to "allow" works that engage with rape on levels beyond pure aversion. i think it actually threatens our ability to earnestly fight back against sexual violence to pretend there is one believable way to respond to sexual violence. as if victims are entirely cut off from the eroticization that is in the tap water! and you can say the way we talk abt rape in general is bad (i agree), but i just don't agree with acting like victims can't have these feelings... when the conditions feel or are inescapable, sometimes the answer is to find those conditions hot.

[angelkoba]

I mostly agree with this post but i think one shouldn’t stop at not shaming survivors who eroticize their experiences or in general not shaming women who for example enjoy dark romance, but this condition should also be analyzed politically from a materialist dialectical standpoint (and then overcome): how are we change these conditions? how do we deal with our own desires of harm? what relationship do our sexual desires have with our political and social ones? Laying off the patriarchal cult of shame is crucial to even start to ask these questions and answer them, in order for us to overthrow these patriarchal conditions, but its crucial that we as women take time to discuss these things and act accordingly with the answers we find! It’s not impossible to change the conditions that lead one to find comfort in patriarchal violence, its possible and necessary to

[parkchanwoohoo]