Rin & Altan Relationship Analysis
this has been in my notes for months and i’ve been like handing it out in like 5 long messages on Tiktok so i decided i just ought to share this little analysis on here alr
(this analysis started as an argument against the possibility of romance in Rin & Altan’s relationship. sorry if it’s not the most articulate lol.)
—————— Spoilers on all 3 books ——————
Altan and Rin’s relationship was NOT romantic in any way, shape, or form.
Claim #1: Rin idolized Altan in a way that made her feel nervous around him, because he was this great hero. He was perfect. He was introduced as a person, darker skin than her, who was the smartest in the school and widely adored in a god-like way for all of Sinegard. That is what Rin wanted to be (her idealized image.. but that’s an analysis for another day). She wanted to be praised despite her upbringing, which is why she favored Irjah. All of Rin’s conflict mostly derives from her upbringing, not just as a woman, but as a dark skinned southerner. She was kicked out of Jun’s class because of her upbringing, wasn’t given any help that other students may have gotten, the kids her age was ignoring her or making fun of something she couldn’t control in hindsight, and nobody was any less than cruel to her. Altan was just like her, an outcast. An outcast where, no matter what, they will always be seen as less because of racism/colorism—yet, he was seen as great to everyone. He was her hero. Her idol. She loved the idea of him, the concept that she can still be something despite everything. She didn’t love him. Once the fictionalized image of him was broken down from his true self, she no longer loved or admired him in the same way because she truly never did because it was never him.
Evidence #1: “There was apparently no end of things about Rin to be mocked: her dark skin, her lack of status, her country accent. It was annoying, but Rin was able to brush the taunts off—until her classmates started snickering every time she talked.” - TPW
Evidence #2: “Since arriving in Sinegard, she’d come to learn what it was like to be presumed stupid because of the shade of her skin. It rankled her. She wondered if Altan suffered the same.” - TPW
Evidence #3: “… But Altan had been fighting then. Then, Altan had been a threat. He was not a threat now, only the tragic, glaring proof that her heroes inevitably let her down. Altan Trengsin was not invincible after all.” … “But here at the end, without a purpose and without a ruler, Altan Trengsin was broken. Rin’s fingers tensed, but then she trembled and pushed his limp form violently away from her.” — TPW pg 480
Counterargument #1: But she dreamed on kissing him multiple times.
Claim #2: Rin did not ‘dream’ of Altan kissing her because she wanted it, but rather because she didn’t want it. The fantasies of Altan kissing her came after his death, where Altan started haunting the plot. She was actively trying to break free on the hold and impact Altan had on her, because at that time she decided that Altan was a coward which was everything she didn’t want to be. Essentially, Altan had control over her and, based on the trauma and experiences Rin went through ever since she was born, Rin hates being controlled. Sex, intimacy, kissing was someone else controlling her. Ever since she was in Tikany, Rin was actively afraid of sex or marriage because it wasn’t a lovely thing for her as it is romanticized in many books; this is because she grew up in a highly patriarchal society where her only options as a woman was to be a wife, work slave, or whore. The entire time she was self harming herself to stay awake on days end, to keep herself awake and diligent for studying for the Keju that takes years to study averagely, what motivated her was the thought of a man being married to her and having sex with her. This is not ‘i hate men!’ silly thing, this is genuine fear of being nothing more than an object to be played around with. It was the fear that if she were to scream while he pinned her down, then nobody would help because, not only would he have the legal rights to do so, but because she was nothing but a lowly dark-skinned orphan girl who had been ‘blessed’ with the opportunity to be married away to a wealthy man. This is most likely a rooted fear from her foster parents. Auntie Fang constantly wanted Rin afraid of her, for that’s what power is. I assume—based on the dialogue and characterization from Auntie Fang given in the book—that Auntie Fang gave Rin this morbid mental image of what ‘love’ is: submission, fear, and violence. This is a common strategy used by abusive parents because Auntie Fang knew that Rin knew that Auntie Fang had the power to place her in circumstance, so Rin had to not act up. Instead of making Rin’s rooted fear Auntie Fang, it was sexual intimacy. On top of that, during the moments where Rin was having the image of Altan kissing her, it was post-war. This was after she saw the millions of raped bodies, after she heard Venka’s story, after she realized what war did to women—how even if women are not sent out in war, they’re bodies will still be used for it. That reenforced the thought that sexual involvement was a means to gain control over one another. An example of this being a big fear is the dream vs. nightmare scenario, where Daji shows Rin two different scenarios: one where she was belonging among other Speerlies in a world where the genocide never happened (One of Rin’s biggest desires is to belong—stemming from her being an orphan, poor, dark, Speerly), the other scenario was Altan kissing her. One of the scenes was a desire, one was a fear.
Evidence #3 (her not wanting the impact from Altan): “I wept for days, until I couldn’t breathe anymore, and then I tried to stop breathing, but every time, Enki brought me back to life, and then I hated myself because you said that I had to keep living, and I hated living because you’re the one who said I had to—” - TDR
Evidence #4: “This wasn’t about lust, this was about power. This was about possession. He wanted to dominate her just so that later he could crow that he had.” — TBG.
⬆️Side Analysis: When I first read this, I thought that’s what genuinely what Souji was trying to do, but you have to keep in mind that Rin is an unreliable narrator. While I do understand the perspective that Rin was correct, you can’t ignore the fact that that’s what Rin’s mind immediately came to. She didn’t think about the prospect that he might find her pretty, or how he might be attracted to her dominance (which i doubt, but for the sake of the argument), but rather that he was trying to assert power over her. She thinks sex is ridicule; it’s only a ploy for power gaining.
Evidence #5: “What was wrong with her? She’d started and ended wars. She’d buried a god. She’d incinerated a country. There wasn’t an entity on the planet that could face her in a fair fight and win. She was certain of her own strength; she’d sacrificed everything to make sure she never felt powerless again. So why was she so afraid?” — TBG
⬆️Side Analysis: Even if Souji was just using sex to place power over her at the time rather than genuinely wanting to have fun with her, she was still genuinely terrified by the insinuation of having sex with another man. She put the thought that he was trying to control her in her mind, and usually she was just burn the problem, but instead she was shaking.
Also, even before that, keep in mind what powered her to cram usually 12 years of studying into 2 years. What kept her motivated to study day and night to the point of self-harm? Keeping married to a man, and having sex with him. Sex is far from something romantic in her eyes.
Counterargument #2: Rin thought Altan was going to kiss her on their departure.
Claim #3: Love is what you think it is if it was never properly introduced. Going back on Auntie Fang feeding her ideas of what sexual relationships are and how Rin grew up in an unsafe environment, Rin never really knew true love. (Even without that idea, she never had a good example of what love is since she grew up in a family that neglected, exploited, and abused her.) She gets idolization, admiration, and etc mixed up with love because she doesn’t know how love truly feels. She mentions, right before Nezha stabs her in the back, that she haven’t had much experience in kissing but she supposes that would be the right time because that’s what the books said; therefore, all she knows of love is description in books she thought were all mindless fiction and the toxic environment she grew up in.
Extra elaborate: one gets introduced to it (love in this situation) in a certain way and now that’s what it means to them, even if it’s wrong. Even if love isn’t actually being abused or hurt, the victim thinks it that because that’s all they’re familiar with.
Side Claim #1: In the perfect world. This is a good example of how Altan and Rin’s relationship is supposed to be. In TDR, Rin is going to get married. In this world, things are perfect in a way that doesn’t make sense: Speer is alive, there is no war, Rin and Nezha are getting married. In the original world, Rin wouldn’t get married due to the trauma that subconsciously linked marriage to submission, but in this perfect would she wouldn’t be introduced to intimacy in the same way. She would understand what love is because there are examples. When Altan is talking to Rin, he mentions ‘father and mother’ instead of ‘your father and mother’ or ‘my father and mother’—this insinuates that Rin and Altan share the same parents/parental figures. In this perfect world, Rin and Altan are viewed as siblings, which is what Rin always wanted to he with him.
Claim #6: Rin wanted a sibling relationship with Altan. When she first found out that he was her kin, she compared him to a brother.
Evidence for that just incase u forgot: “Training with Altan was like training with an older brother. It was so bizarre for someone to tell her that they were the same—that his joints hyperextended like hers did, so she should turn out her foot in such a way. To have similarities with someone else, similarities that lay deep in their genes, was an overwhelmingly wonderful sensation. With Altan she felt as if she belonged—not just to the same division or army, but to something deeper and older…” tpw pg 270. (I will forever mourn how that Rin’s biggest desires was belonging.)
Claim #7: R.F Kuang mentioning that Altan was Rin’s cousin was not some weird mistake. It takes time for a book to be published: drafts, final, editing—I refuse to believe it was a hierarchical accident. In addition, I refuse to believe that R.F Kuang is into that incest shit. I personally believe that Kuang added that detail so the readers could look more into Rin and Altan’s relationship like I just did—look into it in a way that wouldn’t involve romance, because they aren’t romantic whatsoever.