Heroes for heroes

This blog is dedicated to be a safe haven for all fellow markiplites (and anyone else!) who seek help or just a few nice words. Feel free to ask away or reblog and provide help yourselves.

[did-you-know]

There’s a song that’s been proven to reduce anxiety by 65%. It’s called Weightless by Macaroni Union, and it was specifically designed to slow your heart rate, reduce blood pressure, and lower cortisol levels. It’s so effective that it’s dangerous to drive while listening to it because it can make you drowsy. Source Source 2 Source 3

[southern-wilde]

YO O_O

[jackscarab]

I knew within seconds that I’d heard this before.

It was one of the first Tumblr posts I favorited.

Sound therapists and Manchester band Marconi Union compiled the song. Scientists played it to 40 women and found it to be more effective at helping them relax than songs by Enya, Mozart and Coldplay. Weightless works by using specific rhythms, tones, frequencies and intervals to relax the listener. A continuous rhythm of 60 BPM causes the brainwaves and heart rate to synchronise with the rhythm: a process known as ‘entrainment’. Low underlying bass tones relax the listener and a low whooshing sound with a trance-like quality takes the listener into an even deeper state of calm. Dr David Lewis, one of the UK’s leading stress specialists said: “‘Weightless’ induced the greatest relaxation – higher than any of the other music tested. Brain imaging studies have shown that music works at a very deep level within the brain, stimulating not only those regions responsible for processing sound but also ones associated with emotions.” The study - commissioned by bubble bath and shower gel firm Radox Spa - found the song was even more relaxing than a massage, walk or cup of tea. So relaxing is the tune, apparently, that people are being Rex advised against listening to it while driving. The top 10 most relaxing tunes were: 1. Marconi Union - Weightless 2. Airstream - Electra 3. DJ Shah - Mellomaniac (Chill Out Mix) 4. Enya - Watermark 5. Coldplay - Strawberry Swing 6. Barcelona - Please Don’t Go 7. All Saints - Pure Shores 8. AdelevSomeone Like You 9. Mozart - Canzonetta Sull’aria 10. Cafe Del Mar - We Can Fly

One of the comments suggests pairing it with Rainymood.

The combined calm might be weaponized with adding this song and some crackling fire.

[ravenzoe]

this post is for anyone who feels a little lost right now. maybe you don’t know what your path in life is yet. maybe you hate your job. maybe you’re still in school and you’ve changed your major three times. maybe you’re confused about what it is that you want. maybe you know exactly what you want but have no idea how to get it. 

you will figure it out. you are not dead yet. you are going to figure your shit out. i believe in you. 

[bulbabushka]

Pretend ur invasive self hating thoughts r being said to u by a 13 y/o boy on xbox live trying to get a rise out of you like “Your girlfriend dumped you because you’re ugly” that’s nice tim isn’t it past ur bedtime

[hellfucingshitfuck-deactivated2]

also, if you have intrusive violent thoughts, pretend they’re being said to u by an annoying backseat driver

“drive into that pole” thanks karen or i could not do that

[emmmpty]

Perfect

[the-neon-pineapple]

you can also pretend that the Super Paranoid thoughts are being said by that conspiracy theorist in your history class

“maybe they poisoned you” maybe you should fuck off, geoffrey-with-a-g

[venusian--eye-deactivated201606]

OHH MAN I DO THIS SHIT EVERY DAY

[dapperpea]

My favorite for intrusive anxious thoughts is to pretend Spock’s behind you with an answer.

“did I lock the door-”

captain you have locked the door every day for over ten years, and it is very hard for most people to break even subconscious habits, so you most definitely locked the door

[zetsubonna]

I told my new psychiatrist about how I learned this from y'all and his eyes lit up. He didn’t smile but he did nod a whole bunch of times, it was great.

[merelyimmortal]

I like to pretend that my intrusive thoughts are being said to me by a super uptight religious white lady

“god hates you because you don’t believe in him” “your failures are too great to be forgiven by anyone” “everything you do is wrong and you are going to burn in hell”

thanks for the input brenda but fuck right off

[thatoneqprblog-blog]

I would just like to say that I love you all for this idea.

[fandomqueen18]

[fullten-deactivated20240430]

If you’re in that kind of depression where everything is blurry and days blend into one another, taking a lot of photos of positive things might help. If your pet does something cute, you ate something good, got a high score, you cleaned your room, the weather was nice… I’m not saying this will fix your depression, it’s just a good reminder that you are in fact living regardless of the depression distorting your memory and making your past seem like fog of sadness and nothing else.

[cartopathy]

i wish someone had told me this a few years ago i don’t remember my late twenties

[emiemipearl]

A super good trick, could be very helpful if you are strugglin with disassociation. A picture with a time stamp on it would give you concrete evidence if there’s something you vaguely remember but aren’t sure if it was real or whatever. I know it’s been helpful for me in the past 👌🏻

[selfcarepropaganda]

This is why I don’t throw tantrums at people for instagramming/tweeting about what they had for lunch. Microblogging platforms are another really good way to mark time and to commemorate those little achievements that other people take for granted. Even if all you have to record one day is that you thought of a really awful pun, it all adds up to help you remember that you’re actively existing, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

[kushandwizdom]

[thefarawaydreamer]

Being happy is a very personal thing—and it really has nothing to do with anyone else .

Abraham-Hicks, Getting Into the Vortex.   (via itcuddles)

[happysuggestions]

you are strong enough and i’m proud of you

[avant-sad]

the hardest part about recovering from a dramatic mental illness is that the only ones who notices the small things are yourself and your therapist.

your friends, your family, the people you love — they’re flat-out not gonna care if you take a shower instead of cutting yourself, or if you get in all your meals for a day, or if you curb your spending significantly, or if you go for a walk instead of locking yourself away and crying.

to us, these are major accomplishments. they’re fucking cake-worthy victories deserving of celebration.

to everyone else, it’s just behaving kind of “normal”, and will always be compared to your other problematic behaviors — “why are you still behaving so histrionically when it comes to sex?” “why are you still so irrationally afraid of abandonment?” “why do you still get so angry?”

the fact of the matter is, they won’t be happy until you’re cured.

but don’t let that discourage you.

if you think you’ve done well, feel good about it. treat yourself. call your therapist and celebrate with them on the phone, if you have the option.

pull yourself through. don’t minimize the small stuff. they’re big fucking deals.

[kittyit]

i needed this really badly.

[alrightalrightalrightalyssa-dea]

i also needed this

[halleylahlee]

I really needed to hear this today - today I didn’t want anyone looking at me but I spent time with my best friend.  It might not be moving mountains, I might not have cleaned my house but it was a positive step, no matter what anyone else thinks.

[deeplifequotes]

You are worthy. You are someone. You are the only version of ‘you’ to ever exist in the universe. You are great. You are powerful. You are special.

(via deeplifequotes)

[slimedeity-deactivated20170422]

and always have mercy on yourself

[silversarcasm]

It’s International Women’s Day here now so I want to give a shout out to all my disabled sisters

to the self diagnosed girls and the 10-drug-rounds-a-day girls

to the loud disabled girls and the girls who don’t verbalise

to the girls in recovery and the stimming girls

to the signing girls and the girls in hospital

to the girls in wheelchairs and the little girls

to the girls who stay in bed and the ticcing girls

to every disabled and ill girl

your experiences are valid, your words, however you express them, are important and you are absolutely fantastic

[silversarcasm]

Its that time of year again so once more I extend my unending love to all my disabled sisters around the world, you are amazing and you are irreplaceable

[sorrykindofnotreally]

Mark, once again, being the nicest human in the world

[impracticalmagics]

Just so we’re all clear, it is okay to miss people you no longer want in your life.

[cassmarieex]

this is so important

[iaiamothrafhtagn]

some people genuinely have trouble with never being told this. i am reblogging this post in case that includes any of you in my audience.

[pure-earth]

You’re missing the memories, not the person them self

[roughkiss]

You miss the person you thought they were, not who they turned out to be, and that’s okay.

[businesshag-deactivated20160606]

we all need to collectively unlearn the idea that certain achievements (i.e. graduating college, getting a job, moving out, etc) only count if they’re achieved by a certain age or within a “normal” time frame.

going through life at your own pace does NOT equate laziness or failure.

accomplishments don’t have an expiration date.

[quickweaves]

!!!!!

[dansphalluspalace]

I recently became inspired to write this tip list. TW: Abuse

If you are living with an abusive person (be it a spouse, sibling, cousin, roommate, or partner, and whether it is physical or verbal or whatever), here’s some tips.

1. If the person demands you isolate yourself by deleting things like facebook, tumblr, etc, here’s a tip: Do it, and let them watch you delete it. Then, make a new one and download ccleaner.com. It looks like a regular spyware/adware/registry cleaner remover, and one helpful aspect is it deletes history permanently and basically makes it easier to cover your tracks.

2. This is something a relative of mine did; when they are gone, take out one of the base moldings of the wall. She took the whole thing out so the line from a cut wouldn’t be seen. She cut a low notch/alcove. She hid money, extra things like snacks, and other stuff in there. Eventually, she saved up money to get away. She would use wood glue to put it back to the wall and would pry it off again to fill it in with a shoehorn. Even if you don’t get away, this can be your cubby hole for resources.

3. That same relative hid a prepaid cellphone with contacts in it to make infrequent calls and kept the phone off when hidden away.

4. I am not complete in compiling the survival guide stuff, but here is a copy of First Aid for Everyone in case you cannot go to the hospital for any reason.

REBLOG WIDELY and feel free to share and add on pieces of advice, please.

[salt-water-chardonnay-blog-blog]

Safari’s private browsing mode is very easy to turn on and off quickly. Just check or uncheck it in the “Safari” menu. When it’s on, it won’t save your history or any other information.

[missgingerlee]

Adding…if you think they’ve put a gps on your vehicle to keep tabs on you, most police departments (and some domestic violence units) will help you check. 

Wasp spray. Yes, wasp spray. If things go downhill fast, & you have to get away from a person/have something to protect yourself that looks like just another random household product, wasp spray can help you. It sprays 20+ feet, & it will temporarily blind a person if you aim at the eyes. 

As horrible as it may sound…wear the right shoes as much as you can. Running in heels is hard, & at a certain point function comes over fashion. 

Document, document, document. Have that info somewhere either than your home/computer. Even if it’s an anonymous email account on gmail to yourself. If your computer/camera/phone are destroyed, you don’t want to lose all that info. Thumb drives are your friend, & they can be hidden in all kinds of places. DO NOT KEEP IT ON YOU. 

Screencap things like they’re going out of style. If you’re being sent texts, tweets, etc., you want to be able to show them in case your abuser decides to go back and delete things at some point. 

If they have access to your banking information, whether it be by seeing/finding paper statements or having access to your online banking info or having a joint account, your movements around your town/where you are traveling to can be tracked. If you can use cash for things, do it. 

Know alternate routes to get to/from home from places you frequent, as well as police departments, etc. Sometimes losing somebody following you on the road comes down to you knowing more ways out than they do.  

Gaslighting is real. It can make you begin to feel like you are going crazy, because your entire reality can be used as a way to control & frighten you. You know you. Trust yourself. 

[bebinn]

Here are some ways to protect your internet activity

Hide an extra set of car keys.

Along with the practical shoes tip, try not to wear many necklaces or scarves - they can be used to choke.

Keep the car backed into the driveway, with all doors locked except for the driver’s side, and with a full tank of gas.

Arrange a code word or signal for neighbors and family if you are in trouble and need them to call the police or get help in some other way.

Identify safe rooms, where there are no weapons and ways to escape. If an argument occurs, try to move to that area.

For people in domestic abuse situations and victims of stalking, keep a small bag packed in a safe place with:

Money and bank info

Medications

Birth certificates and passports

Social Security #s

Extra keys for neighbors

Kids’ items

Important numbers: law enforcement, friends and family, attorneys/prosecutors, medical care, child care, pet car, creditors

If possible, a change of clothing

This website has more suggestions for safety strategies and steps to take when leaving.

For more support, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).

[fromonesurvivortoanother]

Although GPS was mentioned, there are a few other ways someone can track you:

All iOS devices (ipad, iPod Touch, iPhone) after 2nd generation can have the Find My iPhone app installed, and then someone with access to the iTunes account connected to that device can track it. There’s also a similar app for Macbooks now.

A lot of other smartphones have similar features.

Even if you have Find My iPhone turned off, some apps (such as facebook or instagram) have location tracking whenever you make an update or post…check your settings app to turn off that stuff.

Feature phones with GPS functions or software can be tracked also.

Some car anti-theft services have tracking that can be used, especially if the abuser is the owner of the car.

One other thing:

If it’s an emergency and you have no way to call for help, get to a public school, fire station, public library, or similar building, and try to open the locked doors. Most of these places (especially in larger towns and cities) have automatic security systems which will call the police to go and check on them.

[just-shower-thoughts]

Just broke my personal record for consecutive days lived..Going for the record again tomorrow