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Spent most of the day digging in my computers guts and now I'm I have sinuses the size of grapefruit. Truly its a mystery how this happened
Im putting my finished maps of the iron tangle in their own post! my noodles!! :D
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A character trait/dynamic that I'm endlessly compelled by is someone dealing with (or, like, failing to) being the child of people who were too busy being good people to have the time and attention to be good parents. This can be anywhere from 'was a public defender who gave a shit working 60 hour weeks with basically no vacations' to 'left their family behind to join the revolution/war effort and is now a universally beloved martyr-hero who saved/remade the world with their final breath' on the groundedness spectrum. The important thing is a viscerally felt but confused and ugly mess of longing, resentment, and guilt about feeling the resentment.
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#the idea that someone can simultaneously be a bad parent and a good person is one that seems to escape a LOT of people#I see far too many people who insist that if someone is a bad parent they're also a bad person#because being a bad parent MAKES them a bad person#âwell they never should have had kids if they were going to be bad at it!â cool cool so I don't know if you know this but#not everyone is able to see how things will play out before they happen#also someone may be a GREAT parent for one kid but a mediocre one for another kid#because (and I know this is another pretty alien idea to a lot of tumblr) everyone is different#what one child needs is not necessarily the same as what another child needs#anyway#it's much more fun to explore this concept in fiction than in reality#when it happens IRL at least one real person gets screwed over; in fiction it's an interesting story to explore
So fucking true
I know people who are great as friends for example, but they shouldn't be parents.
T minus 4 days to Forced Cyst and Uterus Eviction, and it can't come fast enough. (I say this through gritted teeth as the ratfuck prick is aching AGAIN)
Suppose the surgeon could be convinced to invoke an ancient god of knowledge and blood once he takes the damn thing out and say 'i offer this for knowledge, the holiest thing of all' before it's chucked at med students for study or would that be weird
I'll just say it myself fuckit
I am hoping that this is some sort of exaggeration or oversimplification because this is just blatant erasure of a major element of Greek culture and replaced by a more Christian version and I want to bang my head into a wall. Thatâs not what xenia is, and you just erased a major part of the Odyssey.
There is literally no circumstance where I support age verification to access a website. As I've said before I'm very much the "there's nuance here" person on almost everything but on this issue there's no nuance for me, it's awful and horrible in and of itself and it also sets an awful and horrible precedent
I'm fine with "click here to confirm you're an adult" because it keeps people from finding it by accident.
I do not give a shit if the people checking the box are actually adults, and oppose any effort to confirm that they are.
thereâs a friday ass vibe about this wednesday boys keep your wits about you
need you to know I very briefly misread your laptop sticker as "Gondor is a social construct" and spent a couple seconds trying to figure out which common LOTR joke that was playing off of. that being said: Gender Needs No King ?
I am only just now seeing this, and friend, I cackled so hard I'm glad I'm out of the house and can't scare my cat.
Go crazy, LOTR fans, I feel like you'll love this one.
me tongue-deep in a sandalwood candle: đ€€
the tjmaxx employee loading a fourth tranquilizer dart into their blowgun: i need backup
One thing I really like about how Murderbot relates to gender is how like--no wait, two things, in order.
So first how it is emphatically devoted to eschewing human gender categories. Like, it's not a default thing; there are shown to be multiple nonbinary pronouns in routine use, and life would be simpler for picking one or even making a new one up, just as it would be for picking a name that it is willing to use in public.
But that's a human thing, those are human categories, and it has that deep determination not to naturalize into humanity just because that would be simpler, would smooth the ugly edges between the categories of person and non-person and make an easier, more convenient story for other people.
But then also there's the part where the two construct genders are, effectively, 'cop' and 'prostitute,' as distinguished at construction per Murderbot's own account by genital configuration, in this case 'having' or 'not having' 'sex parts.'
Leaving aside how easily that analogizes to human gender categories for the average reader, which I'm sure was an intentional writing move--Murderbot's assigned gender is, in a meaningful sense, 'SecUnit.'
And what's neat, and what I was going for to begin with only I had to set out my thoughts first for context, is how Murderbot actually performs its assigned gender pretty emphatically!
But in a deeply queer way, that only gains a sense of meaning as it's able to detach the performance from service to the oppressive power structures that created it, and redefine the identity on its own terms.
as a person under the agender/nonbinary umbrella I actually think the recently increased focus on a nonbinary personâs agab is insanely fucking uncomfortable and blatantly exorsexist. Stop trying to sort NB people into boxes of amab vs afab, transfem vs transmasc, tma vs tme, etc etc. It is not praxis or activism to keep attempting to binarize people whose entire identities are built around the fact that they DO NOT ADHERE to a binary. You are just being a fucking tar pit #sorry
tma and tme are to describe one's relationship to transmisogyny. it's similar to describing a relationship to anti-blackness by "creating a binary" of black and non-black (which includes white people, latino people, asian people, etc). tme includes anyone who is not transfeminized (such as cis men, cis women, trans men, etc). just because there are two categories of something doesn't mean you're getting forced into a gender binary. ignoring your relationship to transmisogyny by refusing to understand what tme/tma means is exactly the same as ignoring your relationship to anti-blackness by saying "i dont see color", because sure, you can ignore that there's a structural & systemic issue regarding a specific demographic, but it doesn't mean its not there!
nigga did your white ass really just come onto a black personâs post to try and lecture them about not knowing their own relationship to antiblackness
number one check yourself. Number two comparing TMA/TME to anti-Blackness is a false dichotomy and I need white queer people to stop trying to compare themselves to Black people every single chance they get. oh my god
The two are NOT similar. If you really wanna play the game of equating race and gender, then the equivalent to âBlack and nonblackâ would be transfem/trans woman and non-transfem/trans woman, not TMA/TME. I can assure you that NO black person is going around saying âantiblack racism affected vs antiblack racism exempt.â Because That Is Stupid.
EVERYONE is affected by antiblackness, because of how deeply itâs ingrained into our entire societal structure. You cannot write off specific demographics as not being affected by certain forms of oppression or discrimination, because the nature of living in a white supremacist-capitalist-patriarchy is that ALL of these systems are INTRINSICALLY connected with each other, and affect EVERYONE to some degree. There are countless historical examples of antiblack legislation directly impacting poor communities of other racial groups- including white people. There are primary targets of discrimination, obviously, but nobody is truly âexemptâ from any sort of oppressive system unless they are at the VERY top of the damn food chain.
In the same vein, the intersection of transphobia and misogyny is ALSO deeply ingrained into our society. And because of that, nobody is truly âtransmisogyny-exempt.â Even people who arenât the primary targets are still directly impacted and negatively affected by transmisogynistic systems. I find TMA/TME to be useless in terms of categorization because it directly posits that everyone who gets sorted into the latter group just doesnât experience any oppression or discrimination derived from transmisogynistic bases at all, which is ridiculous, because that happens All the time.
A trans man or enby whoâs mistaken for a trans woman and is assaulted for it, a cis man whoâs belittled and attacked on the basis of being Too Feminine, a cis woman whoâs publicly shamed, derided, and transvestigated for having testosterone levels that are âtoo high,â are all examples of non-transfem/trans woman groups being negatively affected on the basis of transmisogyny.
Poor white people being affected by legislation meant to target and attack Black populations and the massive trend of colorism throughout Asian communities are examples of nonblack groups being negatively affected on the basis of antiblackness.
You cannot sort people by what oppression they do and do not face, and attempts to do so are inherently exclusionary and are bound to lead back into denying people of their lived experiences, just because they donât line up perfectly into these specific categories of âthis genre of person goes through thisâ vs âthis genre of person doesnât go through that.â
I believe that TMA/TME was coined with the best intentions, but the problem is that itâs a clumsy dichotomy and the way a lot of people tend to use it ends up leading back into the same issues of being binary (âamab trans people experience this, afab trans people donât experience thatâ) and then THAT leads back into a whole heaping mess in and of itself
Talking about the way transfeminized people are targeted by transmisogyny is not a bad thing in and of itself! But like, you can just say transfem/non-transfem- or even just âtransfeminizedâ to describe the position oppressors will often place people into in order to enact transmisogynistic violence against them- instead of directly trying to state what different groups of people Do And Donât Experience. you can say âprimary targets of transmisogynyâ without directly implying that certain groups are exempt from it all together.
THAT is my issue at hand when it comes to TMA/TME. It is an awkward framework to describe oppression, because oppression doesnât work like that in reality
it's so funny how immune i am to hustle culture. people will talk about taking breaks for their mental health and how difficult it was for them to do what was right for them and i'm like. it's absolutely unreal how quickly i'll dump something i don't want to do anymore.
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Tread here.
The best part is OP got fired because their boss asked why they werenât âincorporating blockchain technologyâ into the video switcher they were building and OP straight up said âyou have no idea what youâre talking aboutâ and went to lunch
this had me crying laughing
My parents when I was a kid: Do not EVER call us at work unless it is an EMERGENCY. You or your brother must be mortally wounded or in IMMEDIATE danger if you call us at work
My mother calling my desk phone: hello goon, it is your mother. Huh? Why do you sound so panicked? Everything is fine darling, I am at the thrift store with auntie Susan and we think you would like the jacket we sent you on Facebook. Do you want it? I sent it 10 minutes ago and you never even opened it. Please look now it will only take a second.