uninspired

 || he/they/she (any pronouns are fine :0) || GO CHECK OUT MY ETSY: www.etsy.com/shop/MrBustersShop

[mediocrade]

Im back from the dead to tell u to check out my etsy shop ;)

https://www.etsy.com/shop/MrBustersShop

[anxjetys]

[dimitrescs-moving]

Now, now daughters..... | [x]

[oh-bo-burnham]

My favorite looks from Inside. 

[clickbaitcowboy]

now come out with your hands up we’ve got you surrounded

[avendell]

Zuko Sketches

[spicymochi]

froggy friend

[polebunyan-deactivated20181114]

[yehudigorl]

tis the season

[sansgod]

Our mother Jenny Slate

[pyroland]

this is a fucking grinch rental that we have at my job and I tried so hard to rent it out in december but his big ass kept scaring people 

[abimee]

Oh you can talk about media altering your brain (THIS ISNT IMPLYING ANYTHING) but these two tapped something into my brain as a kid

I can't say anymore

[abimee]

A Challenger approaches

[whitepicketchemtrails]

*gaslighting parent voice* I’m sorry if you feel hurt by anything I did to you, just know that it was never my intention to hurt you and that I love you

[thealmightysystem]

Wait wait wait.

I’m so confused.

Is this not what a genuine apology is?

Now I’m worried I’ve been apologizing wrongly to everyone. How do I tell them I’m sorry my actions hurt them, as in I’m sorry for my actions, and sorry that the other person is having these emotions because of me, if sounding like this is gaslighting?

I thought this was the right way to do it. I don’t understand and I’m worried.

[holmes-at-the-helm]

“I’m sorry if you feel hurt by anything I’ve done” deflecting blame off of you for behaviour and onto them for having the reaction

“Just know it was never my intention to hurt you and that I love you” Not addressing the problem or the pain, making it about yourself and how it was an accident, not addressing the other person

“I’m sorry that I hurt you” is a good start, along with perhaps

“I know that I shouldn’t have treated you like that”

“If there’s any way I can make this up to you please don’t hesitate to let me know”

A good formula is

“I’m sorry for _____”

“It was wrong because” or “I was wrong because” (“i was in the wrong, I shouldn’t have treated you like that” or “I’m at fault here, I shouldn’t have yelled at you”)

“Next time I’ll _____” (“consider your feelings first”/“manage my anger in a way that isn’t taking it out on you”)

“Can you forgive me?”

The most important part of an apology is acknowledging the pain caused and taking responsibility for it. Using words like “I’m sorry you felt that way”, “you don’t understand, I meant it like X”, “you know that I’d never hurt you intentionally” is manipulative and doesn’t help anyone. (Not to say that you use those phrases, or are manipulative, but we all can be and it’s important to acknowledge these behaviours and cut them out in order to form healthy & strong relationships)

[salemwitchtrials-deactivated202]

The Lonely City, Olivia Laing

[rodrickheffeley]

trump got impeached, critics want to bawl their eyes out after watching cats movie, star wars fandom is in shambles after tros release, entire india is protesting against citizenship law, camila cabello's half assed apology for being anti black, jk rowling outed herself as a terf. this is too much info for me to process.

[dovahkiin-official]

what a year this week has been

[skitpost]

final project for my jewish studies class ! the assignment was to answer the question, “WHAT IS JEWISH ART?” after spending the semester studying jewish artists from the 20th century, so here are my thoughts on the intersection of art and identity.

goyim can interact w this post but don’t clown in the comments thx

[tinyangryghost]

Boss & Mooney

[huckleberrycomics]

This is applicable for lots of stuff, actually.

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