The Marvelous Misadventures Of Mattie

Mid-20s — They/Them — ♋️ — INFJ

[textsfromtheborderline]

What Is BPD? 

About BPD

BPD, HSP/Empath Sensitivity, and the Bio-Psycho-Social Model

Identifying + Processing Emotions

The Many Emotions Of BPD

BPD and Emotional Permanence 

Emotional Power

Splitting

Dissociation

Chronic Feelings Of Emptiness, Loneliness, and Boredom

Fear Of Abandonment

Loneliness + Belonging

BPD and Sexuality

Who’s Your Favourite Person?

Coping Skills

Effective Communication and BPD

BPD and Oversharing

BPD and Mirroring

How To Set Healthy Boundaries

How To Build Self Esteem

Challenging Codependency 

Self Care + Self Love

The Importance Of Empathy (see post notes for some great discussions) 

10 Ways To Manage Mood Swings

Rage Management

Paranoia and Hypervigelence 

Motivation Strategies 

Comparisons

Cluster B Crossover

BPD and NPD

BPD and HPD

Fictional Cluster B

Breaking The Cycle

Mental Health Is A Human Right

Self Diagnosis and Professional Diagnosis-Which Is Right For You?

Anti-Abuse

Abusive vs Non-Abusive Borderlines

Should I Go No Contact?

How People With BPD Are Abused

Recognizing and Changing Abusive Behaviour

Disordered Eating

Binge Eating vs Healthy Eating

Addictions

Talking About Self Harm + Suicidality In A Healthy Way

Positivity

Cluster B Positivity

NPD Traits I Actually Appreciate

BPD Positivity 

BPD As A Gift

The Ladder Of Success

[artisticlog-deactivated20231213]

Who loves amethyst? 💜💜

[anxietyproblem]

[skeletonize]

i was looking at old photos and i wanted to show you how our story went, a little

bronwyn and i met at age 12 but i dont have any photos from then, really, but this is from grade 9 science class when we were being goofs and i was 13

this is from our first ever sleepover, we couldn’t stop laughing and we were sleeping on a mattress on the floor and we went to boston pizza and got plastic rings that we both still have (bronwyn kept hers on a necklace after that)

i went to bronwyn’s cottage for the first time in the summer after grade 9

we had our first kiss in grade 10 when i was 14 and were in a weird kind of dating limbo period

then i moved to the states and turned 15 and told bronwyn i was in love with her and we visited every chance we could and she sent me flowers and packages

then i went to junior prom with her and bronwyn cut her hair

then we had the most beautiful summer where i spent 5 weeks at her cottage and i cut my hair

then i went back to miami for 12th grade and turned 16 and bronwyn was 17 and we went to senior prom together

then i moved back to canada for university when i was turning 17 and we finally lived in the same place again and we loved each other so much and got breakfast together every day

then after a beautiful summer we started living together when i was 18 and bronwyn was 19  and we went to bahrain together and bronwyn dyed her hair brown and now i get to see her every morning and every night and we adventure in our city and have a coffee shop and love each other more than i could have thought. there were periods of scary intense darkness but we love each other so much and i’ve never been happier. i’ve known bronwyn since i was 12 and now i’m almost 19 and i love her more and more.

[skeletonize]

i’m never on here anymore, but i wanted to share that almost a month ago bronwyn and i got engaged!! under a beautiful tree on a perfect day and for the rest of my life i get to pursue her and care for her and make her laugh. i’ve said this so many times but now more than ever: if this is all i get, it’s so much more than i could have hoped for.

[sixpenceee]

Via GMB Akash

“I never told my children what was my job. I never wanted them to feel shame because of me. When my youngest daughter asked me what I did. I used to tell her hesitantly, I was a labourer. Before I went to home I used to take bathe in public toilet so they did not get any hint of the work I was doing. I wanted my daughters to send to school, to educate them. I wanted them to stand with dignity in front of people. I never wanted anyone look down at them like everyone looked down at me. People always humiliated me. I invested every penny of my earning for my daughters’ education. I never bought a new shirt, used the money instead for buying books for them. Respect, which is all I wanted them to earn for me. I was a cleaner. The day before the last date of my daughter’s college admission, I could not manage to get her admission fees. I could not work that day. I was sitting beside the rubbish, was trying hard to hide my tears. I was unable to work that day. All my coworkers were looking at me but no one came to speak. I was failed, heartbroken and I had no idea how to face my daughter who would ask me about the admission fees once I back to home. I am born poor. Nothing good can happen with a poor person that was my belief. After work all cleaners came to me, sat beside and asked if I considered them as brothers. Before I could answer they handed their one day income in my hand. When I was refusing everyone they confronted by saying, ‘We will starve today if needed but our daughter has to go to college.’ I cannot reply them. That day I did not take shower. That day I went to house like a cleaner. My daughter is going to finish her University very soon. Three of them do not let me to work anymore. She has a part time job and three of them do tuition. But often she took me to my working place. Feed all my coworkers along me. They will laugh and ask her why she feed them so often. My daughter told them, ‘All of you starve for me that day so I can become what I am today, pray for me that I can feed you all, every day.‘ Now a days I do not feel, I am a poor man. Whoever has such children, how he can be poor. ” - Idris

[matt-the-blind-cinnamon-roll]

I may be drunk but this is fucking beautfiul and i am crying

[allhailtheheda-deactivated20180]

I’m in tears

[goofda]

‘Privilege’ cannot ever replace hard work.

[damselwrites]

Color Synonyms

White

also: pale; blanched; sallow; pallid; waxen; spectral; translucent; albino; 

Grey

also: dust; stone; pepper;  

Black

also:  coal; slate; dusky; ebon; shadow; murky; 

Tan

also: flesh; khaki; cream; tawny; 

Brown

also:  henna; russet; sepia; chestnut; cocoa; drab; bronze; 

Red

also: terracotta ; rouge; carmine;  fire-engine; ruddy

Orange

also:  pumpkin ; rust ; 

Yellow

also: sunny; amber; saffron; hay; straw; platinum; 

Green

also: viridescent; grass; jade; forest; 

Blue

also: turquoise; cyan; ultramarine; royal; aqua; aquamarine;

Purple

also: berry;  amaranthine;

Pink

also: flushed; candy; cherry blossom; petal pink ; 

—– source: http://ingridsundberg.com/

—–additional synonyms added by me

[amphyria]

COLOORRRRRRRRRR

[missgoal-deactivated20180714]

I don’t even care if this shit is cannon, I just love the rainbow bitchslap I just received.

[blackberry-angel-deactivated201]

//Omg! I found it!!!

[humunanunga]

See also: these three pages

[roxilalonde-deactivated20251105]

like! people always reference pride & prejudice as the archetypal “normal girl falls for mysterious brooding antihero” story but they overlook the part where lizzy drags darcy so fucking hard he leaves town and then apologizes for talking to her the next time they meet even though they’re at his literal house

[hiddenlookingglass]

Lizzy Bennet is an icon.

[koyla-deactivated181124-deactiv]

ever wanna raise an emotionally sound child just to flex on your parents ?

[thetruamatrilogy]

IF YOURE MENTALLY BROKEN AND HATE PUSHING YOUR EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE OFF ON YOUR LOVED ONES CLAP YOUR HANDS

[patchedsystem-deactivated202111]

“you can’t just dissociate through all of your problems”  actually, I can and that’s the problem 

[blueberryborderline]

tbh the worst thing about being a self aware mentally ill person is that people assume that because you understand your illness you’re automatically able to actually apply your knowledge to your life and cure yourself

[itsborderlinebitch]

when you have bpd… you don’t just become overly attached to people. you become attached to environments, routines, and feelings. we become so comfortable with things that make us happy and we crave that one constant in our lives and that is why we always feel so empty.. change is forced upon us because that’s how life is.. people change, environments, routines and feelings change and there is nothing we can do but break each and every time

[bpdbot]

sometimes i have too many emotions and sometimes i have none at all but i always always feel like i’m drowning

[thesaurio]

Learn how to swim Bitch

[bpdbot]

i made this post when i was in A Mood and all the replies are so angst and depressing except this Whole Ass Mood. Learn how to swim Bitch it’s 2018 we’re dealing with our problems

[adv3nturelust]

So what’s next? You heal. You grow. And you help others.

[gorgonsach]

x

[justgfy]

Unions are trash. Theyll Destroy a whole company for firing a shitty worker.

[gorgonsach]

unions are the reason you aren’t paid 2.50 an hour with steel beams about to bust ya head open shut up lol

[explorerrowan]

Unions are why you have 5 day, 40 hour full-time work weeks. Unions are why they have to pay you in actual dollars instead of “company credits” that you can only spend at the company-owned stores. Unions are why there are fucking fire exits at your place of work. Unions are why it’s not okay for your supermarket ground beef to be any percentage human.

You think your company pays you out of the goodness of their hearts? Or even out of “market pressure?” The “job market” is a myth perpetuated by the capitalists. Corporations would pay you nothing if they could get away with it. And you argue “oh, but if they paid me nothing I’d just go to another one.” Wrong. Because to maximize profits, they all want to pay you nothing. Corporations exist to maximize profits while reducing risk for investors. It’s part of their entire function to find ways to cut costs as much as possible, and that includes finding ways to pay you nothing.

Unions are your defense against that. You think all a union does is strike? If you pay union dues, a lot of that is spent on lobbyists in various governments reminding your lawmakers that you have rights as a living human being that a corporation should not be able to stomp all over. Unions hire lawyers so that if you’re fired for bullshit reasons, the union can stand up for you against your boss. They’re called unions because workers are uniting to pool resources so that they can stand up to these corporate overlords with more money than God. Unions exist because you might not have the words, resources, or time to fight workplace injustices all by yourself. That’s the whole fucking point.

And if a business shuts down because a union is striking, it’s because the business was abusing people and didn’t deserve to be in business anyway. Don’t make excuses for the corporations. They already have trillions of dollars and a couple million lawyers to do that for themselves. They don’t need your help.

[starfleet-louvelune]

All that and also, the idea that unions go to war whenever anything is done to any employee even for good reason, is: a lie. It’s the same PR scam as the “old lady sued McDonald’s for millions because her coffee was hot” shit. The *company* is the one that wants you to believe, just because they said so, that the firing was legit and the employee’s fault. But guess what? Doesn’t happen. When someone is fired for refusing or failing to do their job, the other employees are *relieved*, because they’ve been the ones catching the consequences. Look a bit closer, and you find the union’s strike responds to OUTRAGEOUS moves, either “she got cancer and it would have been a drag on the company to finance her sick leave”, or “we made profit this year but not enough to our liking, so we’re cutting off 10% of the workers to pocket more”…

[zetsubonna]

People who are anti-union are straight up brainwashed.

Labor outnumbers the capitalists. They want us disassembled to make us easier to abuse.

[sparklingjohannasaesthetics]

[zodiacmind]

Fun facts about your sign here