Melimom Maternity & Parenthood

Sociologist and mother- Interested in family systems and psycho-social development of children- Founder and Owner of the parental website: www.melimom.com

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As Khalil Gibran quoted: "Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughter of Life's longing for it self. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you..." Our children are not the extension of ourselves. Although they are being tought from us the ways of life, this doesn't mean that they will prefer, like, choose the same things with us. They have come to Life to walk their own path. And we have been blessed by God to be gentle companions, their safe ports in which they can always return when the waves get too high. They can rest in our arms and then continue their journey out in the sea... https://www.instagram.com/p/COxG5WalOT3/?igshid=rhspvxc0t616

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To truly discover the truth you have to take a distance from your life as it has been until now. We all have been in situations where we cannot think clearly about the meaning of our life. Whether we are good parents or not, whether we are happy or not, etc. My father taught me a way to discover it: every time I was in a situation where I had to see some things clearly , yet I couldn't, he proposed me to change something in my environment. Either to travel somewhere or to change something in my daily routine. Of course it wasn't easy. My first reaction was to resist. But he always showed me a good motive to think twice and make the first step! After a few days or weeks I had resettled my mind about what I truly wanted and found solutions to my problems.. Today, as a parent I keep this practice in the corner of my mind. It is helpful to show to your child the prospect of the alternative, when it is not able to realize a behaviour or a situation that acts as a vicious circle. Once he/she takes a distance from it, he/she will be able to see clearly the whole "puzzle". Even when you have a toddler, instead of repeating "What have I told you? I don't want you to do this/ to behave like this!" - It's better to show him/her what else can he/she do. #alternatives #alternativeperspective #hope #positivestateofmind #staycalm #positivethinking #guiding #raisinghappychildren #discoveryourself #discoverpossibilities #makethingsbetter #findinghappiness https://www.instagram.com/p/COKUBKnlZ5e/?igshid=1v7r30v1x3b53

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It is our role as parents to recognize and revise our social stereotypes. As I have said in previous posts, being a parent is the greatest challenge as human you may experience in life. Raising a human brings you in front of many many issues which you might be avoiding to cope with and makes you reconsider how you look at the world. At least this is the way it should be.... Let your boys play with baby dolls, cook and help their mother clean the house, because someday they will become fathers and their wife or daughter or boy will need their care too. Do not discriminate the activities into masculine and feminine. Let them be happy... #happychildhood #genderequality #genderdiscrimination #masculine #feminine #human #socialstereotypes https://www.instagram.com/p/CN15L46FjL1/?igshid=68xvreyc9b1q

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Maternal instincts Vs western cultural beliefs. Visit-->https://melimom.com/being-a-good-mother-culture-instinct/ Follow-->@melimom2019 Like-->Melimom on Facebook #motherinstinct #motherlove #trustyourinstinct #trustyourintuition #culture #thinkoutofthebox #parentinggoals #parentingtips #gentleparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CNUicpyFP7L/?igshid=l8c354sljhdj

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How many people come into our lives with the desire only to talk about their reality, their problems, their needs. When it comes to your turn, to express yourself to them, their eyes have already flown away. In the parent-child relationship often happens the same. So many parents describe that their child is a very introverted person and doesn't express himself. All humans need to express themselves, to connect with other humans, to be heard. It's you that you have to catch the signals which are sent from your child. Listen carefully... Observe patiently and give the right amount of time to verbalise his feelings and thoughts. Be present... Be there.... #parentingquotes #parentingsupport #gentleparenting #parentinggoals #respectfulparenting #love #liebe #happychildhood #lifewithchildren https://www.instagram.com/p/CNUXF_ploFm/?igshid=1gjupysirpxuf

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Conceiving a baby can be really stressful. In this post I am not talking about organic pathologies that might be the obstacle in having a baby. This post is a personal story which I find alternative because I will not talk to you about jow to find when you are ovulating or how what to eat in order to boost your fertility. In this post I share with you my personal experience of how I conceived my little angel. I believe that creating life in your body is a psychosomatic issue in which you need to let go all the inn er conflicts there might exist and refer either to yourself, or your relationship with your partner... Conceiving a baby is to co-operating with the essence of life. #conceivingababy #fertility #wishingforababy #babyiscoming #mumtobe #dadtobe #connection #familystartsfromthecouple https://www.instagram.com/p/CMwdf13lcVc/?igshid=1ix1q71lj21ow

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Our family of origin plays a vital role on how we raise our children. Many parents describe baheviors of their mother/father that don't want to repeat to their relationship with their children... Yet they find it difficult to control it. It is ideed difficult.... Because your parents live inside you. You have learned from them jow to be a parent. And this learning is through experience... So its twice hard to seperate the paradigm of your parents in your relationship with your child. It's vital for your family to realize this paradigm and learn to cope with it through consciousness. This mirror will always come forth and the roles will switch constantly. Becoming a good parent means to realize your relationship with your parents, forgive them for their mistakes, praise them for what they have taught you and find your inner buoyancy to do things better for your family now... #buoyancy #mother #mum #kids #raisingkids #thegentleparent #bebetter #forgive https://www.instagram.com/p/CMt5EFYlwNO/?igshid=1w0t7uegq1jre

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Let’s talk about crying babies and small children, a topic that tortures many parents out there and seek some answers and explanations.

Crying babies and small children make us feel frustrated, uncomfortable, and nervous about what to do in order to calm them down. When the stress gets overwhelming we might behave with anger or with fear towards our child. This may have other consequences in the quality of our relationship in the future. Specifically, many mothers react nervously to their crying child and get the feeling of guilt afterward or they get frustrated and feel adrift. Both reactions lead the child to feel unsure and unstable within the communicational motive they constantly establish with their parents.

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So many parents who raise boys are so concerned about their sexuality. In lots of societies to be a man means to be strong, cynical, without weaknesses, brutal and ready to engage any form of combat. We teach our boys not to express analytically their thoughts, feelings and perceptions. They learn that crying is not for their gender. They learn to drown their emotions, because sensitivity and feelings is a "girl" thing. However these boys will grow up and make interpersonal relationships with other humans and as you all might know, you cannot keep a relationship alive without communication and expression of your true self. They will become fathers and raise children, who need to know how much do they love them, they'll need to be able to describe their children's skills, virtues and to handle their emotions. So, let us raise boys who are kinder to themselves first and to their loved ones also. There are no male or female characteristics. We are mammals who are born with the same basis of emotional capacity. All we have to do is to embrace and unlock our emotional intelligence... Raise gentle boys... #raisingboys #raisingsons #stereotypes #fightstereotypes #sensitiveboys #genderequality #motherofsons #happychildhood #gentleparenting Visit--> www.melimom.com Photo credits: Amber Currin https://www.instagram.com/p/CMl90AxFaFr/?igshid=1f9tlm9xjf3i5

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As in every aspect of human life, playing incorporates cultural perspectives of the family and the society, in which a child lives. Sharing toys between two or more children can be considered as a result of socializing and experiential learning. Since the age of three, the social activity of the child has to do about being in the same room with another child. This means that there is no essential interaction between them. A three-year-old child plays with another in order to entertain himself by doing things together.

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Child discipline is big hot discussion for every parent who either has toddlers or teenagers. Everyday in my practice I meet parents that ask desperately :

“How do I discipline my child without creating a drama or even a trauma?” or “How can I make my child listen to me?”

Toddlers who don’t listen, children who react aggressively and you feel so frustrated…” What am I doing wrong?”

All families go through these phases of doubt. Almost every family with more than one child thinks that one of its children is “difficult”…

So, many parents ask every day for parenting strategies and techniques to apply to their children in order to be “disciplined”.

The amount of information you get nowadays about proper parenting is huge and in fact, if you do apply all these techniques to your child, you will probably end having a disturbed child!

This post aims to provide an alternative perspective on how to communicate with children in a way that helps both of you. But first, we have to discuss why parents feel so helpless in “discipline” their children.