you’re not flawed, darling

you’re just a little under-rehearsed Jamie ~ 30 ~ England ~ Queer ~ He/They I'm into a bunch of fandoms, I like drawing, singing, writing, acting and various other things. Chibi commissions open on Ko-fi! Please don't send me chain messges!

[bigwozz]

Lost in space boys,

[harboretum]

Like clockwork

[harboretum]

For reference

[melvinthedepressedrobot]

i do wish vinted didn't take me just tapping on a listing for a closer look bc it's not immediately obvious what I'm looking at from the thumbnail to mean "I want this soooo bad show me a hundred more"

[melvinthedepressedrobot]

i also miss when it would only recommend me clothes that are actually in the sizes I put into my preferences

what do you expect me to do with a size 8 skirt, wear it as a necklace???

[chasing-caws]

I believe this whole heartedly with my full chest

[chasing-caws]

Thanks for the info prev!! Still a little funny to think about tbh lol

[july-19th-club]

[melvinthedepressedrobot]

i do wish vinted didn't take me just tapping on a listing for a closer look bc it's not immediately obvious what I'm looking at from the thumbnail to mean "I want this soooo bad show me a hundred more"

[redlipstickresurrected]

Sue Sareen (British, b. Merseyside, England, based Nottingham, England) - 1: Cheerful Cat Rufford  2: Sleepy Cat  3: Curled Up Cat  Drawings

[apolladay]

On what part of your body is your biggest scar?

head

torso

arms/hands

legs/feet

a different part of my body

I have 0 scars

Remaining time: 4 days 20 hours

[theo-the-door]

Trans guy going on T, call that Project Male Hairy

[ottoillustrates]

today i just (remembers to maintain privacy online) did something really cool. you have to trust me

[your-did-it-official]

Every Saturday is coelacanth Saturday

[bluerose5]

He's so pretty. 💖

[cryptotheism]

If staff reformed the ban system to stop banning trans women and used the resulting good will to re-introduce pornography, this site would become a juggernaut. It would swallow Twitter whole.

[glazeliights]

[faustique]

there's a special place in my heart for people who made an effort to be my friend regardless of how quiet or distant i can get at times

[maggotmuncher0]

request for @glorpalicious

[mcr-themed-brain]

What accent coach is working magic behind the scenes of iwtv. A british man plays an american man with a thick new orleans accent that slowly fades to a standard american accent. Another british man plays an indian man with a french accent that morphs into a british accent. An australian man plays a french man with the strongest most unintelligible french accent youve ever heard

[klaasje]

really good text from my sister in law

[creatingblackcharacters]

Y'all wanna know a trick? A trick as to how you can better understand the mentality of someone who is antiblack (particularly white, but tbh it works on anyone who really buys into antiblackness), if not make them do an Ace Attorney Blow Up? 👀

[creatingblackcharacters]

(Tl:Dr- have a spine and hold the line 👍🏾)

I was being facetious with the trick part lol but you know the joke "I might be racist, but you're mean and that's worse?" It's the root of that. We discussed it back when we read White Fragility. You can see it in Trump, Elon Musk, and your average Tumblr racist:

They really, REALLY want to be liked. Not just liked, no that's not the right word, but validated.

Think about it this way. Racism is the status quo; the default, right? Part of maintaining that default is through normalization, and that includes the solidarity necessary to reinforce that (DiAngelo called it white solidarity).

So, if being covertly racist is the status quo, then that means you will be socially rewarded for being so. When you get rewarded, people are nice, friendly, relatable, they keke and haha right alongside you. But when you confront someone's racism, you're not socially rewarding them anymore- the spigot of validation has been paused! Instead of taking it as a valid critique, you are seen as socially punishing a person. You're being MEAN, because the validation I got from everyone else's also-racism was NICE!

That's why when you confront racism, you HAVE to stand firm on it. You cannot feed into the desire for the validation of their behavior. That's what makes a lot of people snap. The blowup is meant to stop you, to force you back into compliance! The only one being punished really is you for bringing it up.

And hell, if not socially validating a bigot is punishment... 😐 Why would that be... A bad thing? We're not hitting you with rocks, we're just saying we don't fuck with you and your behavior. (But that's also a part of really all of the books we've read in #cbc book club so far; that antiracism is seen as violence.)

Personally, I wanna live in the world where it's normal to boo racists, not coddle them. But that starts with being willing to push back against the normal we're in.