you’re not flawed, darling

you’re just a little under-rehearsed Jamie ~ 30 ~ England ~ Queer ~ He/They I'm into a bunch of fandoms, I like drawing, singing, writing, acting and various other things. Chibi commissions open on Ko-fi! Please don't send me chain messges!

[klaasje]

really good text from my sister in law

[creatingblackcharacters]

Y'all wanna know a trick? A trick as to how you can better understand the mentality of someone who is antiblack (particularly white, but tbh it works on anyone who really buys into antiblackness), if not make them do an Ace Attorney Blow Up? 👀

[creatingblackcharacters]

(Tl:Dr- have a spine and hold the line 👍🏾)

I was being facetious with the trick part lol but you know the joke "I might be racist, but you're mean and that's worse?" It's the root of that. We discussed it back when we read White Fragility. You can see it in Trump, Elon Musk, and your average Tumblr racist:

They really, REALLY want to be liked. Not just liked, no that's not the right word, but validated.

Think about it this way. Racism is the status quo; the default, right? Part of maintaining that default is through normalization, and that includes the solidarity necessary to reinforce that (DiAngelo called it white solidarity).

So, if being covertly racist is the status quo, then that means you will be socially rewarded for being so. When you get rewarded, people are nice, friendly, relatable, they keke and haha right alongside you. But when you confront someone's racism, you're not socially rewarding them anymore- the spigot of validation has been paused! Instead of taking it as a valid critique, you are seen as socially punishing a person. You're being MEAN, because the validation I got from everyone else's also-racism was NICE!

That's why when you confront racism, you HAVE to stand firm on it. You cannot feed into the desire for the validation of their behavior. That's what makes a lot of people snap. The blowup is meant to stop you, to force you back into compliance! The only one being punished really is you for bringing it up.

And hell, if not socially validating a bigot is punishment... 😐 Why would that be... A bad thing? We're not hitting you with rocks, we're just saying we don't fuck with you and your behavior. (But that's also a part of really all of the books we've read in #cbc book club so far; that antiracism is seen as violence.)

Personally, I wanna live in the world where it's normal to boo racists, not coddle them. But that starts with being willing to push back against the normal we're in.

[demonspices]

commission for ArukOrc on twitter (April 16, 2021)

[idrawtoomuch]

Have a very quick 10min doodle based on an old Vine from memory because I have no better use of my time apparently.

[junglejim4322]

Some of you seem to be gay #observations #intuitive

[prokopetz]

Instant loss is the funniest possible kink trope to me. Like, hey, you know that metatextual gag where a character says they won't do the thing, then it immediately smash cuts to them doing the thing, and they seem surprised to find themselves doing it, as though the cut was diegetic? What if it was a sex thing.

[mortimermcmirestinks]

[michaelrotonal]

list of ways to disambiguate identically-spelled words in english

defining them afterward

context

(New!) translate to an entirely different language

[420rellikemit]

Big developments going on in the kink classification field.

[mentafolia]

Leliana. The most tender and dangerous girl of Thedas.

“The darkness closes. I am shielded by flame. Andraste, guide me. Maker, give me your strength.”

One of my six fanarts - glad how this soft colour experiment turned out. Now back to fixing the men… such is the life of an artist

[johannestevans]

He would love it if we could launch him into space. He craves the g-forces

[wordproblemapoligist]

tom nook is NOT a landlord!!! he is a construction worker! he SELLS you a WHOLE HOUSE! He is not CHARGING YOU however many bells a month to live there! You PURCHASE a HOME that he BUILDS FOR YOU and then you PAY HIM FOR HIS SERVICE. He charges no interest he sets no time limit it is a relationship built on trust. the only penalty you get for not paying off your home is that he won't build more home until you pay him for the first one. A guy that builds you a house wherever you want him to and then charges you for the cost of construction is not a landlord you own the fucking home

[brennacedria]

He is, however, in the mafia

[tims-here]

[apocalypsekid]

IRON LUNG (2022) dev. David Szymanski

[marbirds]

My sweet Jello (study) in colored pencil, brush marker, and pastel on an index card

[marbirds]

miss jello

[hollow-head]

"who do you self insert as when you read?"

This is me when I read:

[honestlyitsjustsam]

when lion thinks he is a kitten

[erlinblake]

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These two have been stuck in my brain since the game came out, I'm genuinely confused how I've never drawn a full illustration of them till now 💀💀💀💀

[notlikingbestgirl]

Out of Touch

[is-it-out-of-touch-thursday]

Yes

[ceruleana]

eva stratt makes me so fucking unwell because. imagine months of making hard call after hard call because you gotta, because someone's gotta, and this time it has to be you. and she keeps strong despite it, she keeps going. then the fucking pit in her stomach she must have felt, when she realized that Grace was her only option left. the horror of that realization. having to steel herself for the task. only to have him beg and plead and cry. her friend. how did she not throw up. how did she manage it. eva stratt the woman ever, how many people out there would have the sheer force of will, to be able to pull the trigger on their friend to save all humanity. and she didn't even know if it would work. she didn't know. for years. she didn't know if murdering her friend was worth the gamble. she just had to believe in him. fucking hell.