Who is someone you regret not making a move on?
I don’t hold any regrets, anyone I ever had interest in I pursued
Keni
Peter Solarz

Andulka

Kiana Khansmith

izzy's playlists!
YOU ARE THE REASON
he wasn't even looking at me and he found me
One Nice Bug Per Day

Product Placement
will byers stan first human second
2025 on Tumblr: Trends That Defined the Year
wallacepolsom
Three Goblin Art
I'd rather be in outer space 🛸

Love Begins
Monterey Bay Aquarium
🪼
NASA

No title available
styofa doing anything
seen from United States

seen from Italy

seen from United States
seen from Malaysia

seen from Hungary
seen from Venezuela

seen from United Kingdom
seen from Brazil
seen from United States
seen from United Kingdom

seen from United States
seen from Argentina
seen from Hong Kong SAR China

seen from Poland

seen from United States
seen from Saudi Arabia
seen from United States

seen from United States
seen from United States
seen from United States
@mermaidsgetlaid
Who is someone you regret not making a move on?
I don’t hold any regrets, anyone I ever had interest in I pursued
Arbed’s Guide To Awkward Living: Quitting Your Day Job
Dear 2019,
I’ve started you with quite the bang. Yours truly has let go of her nine to five struggle bus. Officially cut all ties with Corporate America. Have released by myself from the old ball and chain that is my work desk. Oh how I will miss the empty banter by the water cooler, the nodding in pretending to care about what my coworker’s children have going on and the awkward convos made at microwave while I wait to stuff our mouths with yesterday’s pasta.
Sure, we’ve heard the saying before; Don’t quit your day job. Predominantly in movies and corny jokes usually related to someone’s inadequacy to sing. What they never speak on is what happens when someone does indeed quit their day job. Well eff it. I’ve done it and I can tell you it’s not as bad as civilians make it out to be. It feels actually quite freeing.
Yea free, I said it. No shame in my game. No stutter in my speech. No shake in my conviction. I mean its not like I haven’t been preparing for months. Financial security, yea I thought about that. Where will I generate income you ask? You see that’s the shit everyone is always worried about. That’s probably why the issue arises in the first place. Worry only makes space for it.
I chose to walk in my purpose, I mean write. Yes, write.
Don’t know what’s in store for me, just know that I am not crawling there nor walking. I’m running, hands wide, mind free, heart blazing into my dreams.
So tell me...
How’s 2019 treating you so far?
Best,
Arbed
One time for the birthday post! 🍾🎂🎈
Arbed’s Guide To Awkward Living: Dealing With Rejection
At this point, it should really be my middle name. It is quite easy to subject oneself to the victim role. Easy to swallow a gallon of, why me’s? Overdose on FML pills.
I would have to compare it to a house of cards crashing down. You’ve put so much work and patience into something. Something that caused you joy. Filled your heart with pride. Like someone ripping the rug from under your feet. Like how? Like why?
The truth is the more like you make steps towards any desired goal, obstacles are a give in. It’s just different when these things are against you.
I guess the art of letting go needs to be applied to this. Your reaction to your rejection makes you so to speak. Like you have to literally take it with a grain a salt. I am guilty of not perfecting this quite yet in my life.
When it comes to my personal life, I have to be super honest with the fact that I am super sensitive when it comes to my art and anything derivative of it. The artistic cliché of “I’m an artist and I’m sensitive about my shit” most definitely applies. It’s super hard for me not to revert to my super moody self when challenges arise within the scope of my actual goals. Classic fight or flight. I choose flight every time.
Unfortunately living the mundane 9 to 5 lifestyle doesn’t help. Doing this makes me feel that anything I do in my spare time towards my dream should automatically be rewarded. This is pure BS. I have to put my complete all into it. You know, take a risk!
Prove them all wrong!
Who’s them?
Anyone you saw it fit to forget, clip, cut, hinder or undermine Arbed.
Yea, that’s how it’s gunna go down.
I called you over
Don’t know what to do with your existence
You linger
Is it something you want to hear
Can only say it in your absence
Absinthe
Memories
Time capsules
Word vomit
I whisper things in your ear
I forget what was said seconds after
Pretending to hold reason
You see right through it
Yet you pierce through me
With that gaze
My eyes well up
Creating rivers of regret
Aftermath
Disaster soul
Hit me with your best shot
With your hardest punch
Bruises forever sore
Broken pieces
Prolonged hurting
When it’s all said and done
I did it for me
The selfish one
LIFE HACK #9: Be someone else, if only for one night🎈
5 Main Reasons You Might Gain Weight This Winter Season…
1. Cuffing Season
Trust me, I know. You are thinking to yourself, why would anyone want to avoid cuffing season this winter? But, beware honey. Some of us may not be familiar with the term. Cuffing season is commonly referred to as when two individuals decide to enter a semi monogamous union typically during the course of winter. Let’s be honest to the fact of needing some extra loving throughout the winter season but the truth is that the “cuffing” may lead to a serious downside. Another excuse or reasoning behind us gaining some much unwanted weight. Just think about it… You are sitting there with your temporary special someone Netflix and Chillin’ and what not. Most likely ordering takeout. Sleeping it off and such. It’s all fun and games until winter is over and all you’re left holding is your gut.
2. Depression
We are all no stranger to the fact that weather can play a part in affecting our emotional standing from time to time. It rains, we feel gloomy. It’s sunny out, we feel happy. So on and so forth. During the winter months we normally stay inside for obvious reasons. It limits our social interaction drastically. This can shed light on mental health issues we may typically be distracted from in the warmer months. There has been a stigma placed around mental health for some time. We all are well aware. Depression tends to plague us during the winter which causes some of us to over eat. Overeating leads to weight gain. Weight gain leaves us depressed. Abusive cycle, isn’t it?
3. Vacation
As adults, we have become master deflectors. Hate the cold? No big deal. Just schedule your vacation during the winter to escape. Sounds easy right? Wrong, especially if you are trying to avoid weight fluctuations. What do people typically do on vacation? Eat, eat, eat and then eat some more. Just add mucho margaritas at the pool bar and there you have a clear recipe for disaster. I mean we did book this getaway to not be reminded of reality. The downside to this is that those extra pounds end up following you back home.
4. Doctor Visits
Periodic health examinations are common and well recommended. Let’s not lie to ourselves. What average adult adheres to this. Though one would assume that with the change in weather doctor visits would be off the charts but the opposite happens. During the winter most things are excused to be symptoms of a common cold so visits to primary care doctors take a dip. Fewer trips to the doctor means less of a chance of someone being aware of their weight. Out of sight out of mind. Our trusted health professionals love giving us a stern talking to when it comes to stabilizing a healthy weight and diet. We simply skip out on that speech around this time. No buzz kills allowed.
5. Holidays
This most obvious reason out of all five is the holiday season. It’s no secret at all that most people’s favorite time of the year are in fact the holidays. Family and friends come together no matter how large or small the head count. People travel from near and far. We enjoy each other’s company amongst some of the most delectable food. Food that we’ve been waiting all year for. This is the one time of year where there is absolutely no scolding for seconds or third plate refills. In fact, it is encouraged. The season of gluttony.
All Power all the people✊🏽 #PatriceDumas #blackkklansman https://www.instagram.com/p/Bpmo0NTAUpF/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=zgzp8ml569mt
Arbed’s Guide To Awkward Living: Getting Over Your Ex
Here I stand on the corner of the Clevelander Hotel. My phone reads the time, 12:17am. Suddenly the back and forth ping pong game in my head, debating if I should text you a happy birthday message. I felt heavy. The day drinking helped. It was like a subtle anxiety attack. Which I’m a pro at pointing out at this stage of game. Overthinking isn’t a new super power for me. It may sound dramatic, but the truth is I kept clicking on your name and then closing out the message about 5 times. Ridiculous, right? Ugh. I know.
Message sent with an added touch of a red balloon emoji. Because what says I don’t still think about you more than a Pennywise themed text. Oh my gosh! The biggest clown move in centuries. We haven’t spoken for months. Why couldn’t I just let this one go?
Over you? I thought I was. Did sending a birthday text even mean that I wasn’t. I was really hoping that you would be having way too much fun to even respond. Keep it light. Keep it cute. Shut down. Restart. Reboot.
Honest to self that there could be no reconciliation. But awkward girls always do the contraire, no?
Waiting on friends, to head to spot number two. Expressionless face. No one noticed, that I made the most controversial move in my single-life career.
And I wasn’t embarrassed by it.
Growth.
LIFE HACK #8: Come up with your own signature dance
Do you have ig?
Feel free to follow me @our_bed_
Which Female Character from HBO’s Insecure are you?
Find out by taking this quiz.
1. You find out your boyfriend just got fired from his job. What would you do?
A. Pretend to be sympathetic only to complain to your girlfriends later.
B. Take the initiative and update baes resume so that he jump right back into the job market.
C. Encourage him to take a break from working, you guys weren’t having enough sex as is.
D. Surprise him with a home cooked meal and back rub to relax him.
E. Wait for him to get home to go over details. Figure out if there’s a way to sue the employer for unlawful termination.
2. Your boyfriend says he wants to have an open relationship. You would answer with…
A. Hell No!
B. Cursing his ass out only to later think about it.
C. Of course. I mean why not, I always wanted to try something new.
D. Absolutely not and threaten to break up with him if he continues with the idea.
E. Several grilling questions because communication is key in any relationship
3. Its ladies night and you see a hot guy checking you out on the other side of the bar. You will most likely…
A. Give him an awkward wink, because you don’t really know how to wink.
B. Smile and giggle to your friends.
C. Walk right over to him. You know what you like and not afraid of rejection.
D. Whisper under your breath to your friends pointing him out.
E. Do nothing. He’s clearly looking at one of my many attractive friends. I’ve embarrassed myself one too many times assuming the opposite.
4. Your friends tell you that your Tinder profile picture needs to be updated ASAP to attract more traffic, you immediately do the following:
A. Run to take a bunch of selfies that you hate.
B. Change it to a cute work selfie. The office always has the best lighting.
C. Take a provocative photo, one preferably with excess cleavage or exposed tongue.
D. Use one of your recent professional headshots.
E. Upload that cute pic you just took of you and your dog.
5. One of your closest friends is cheating on her boyfriend of 4 years, he suspects something is going on and he confronts you. Your response is…
A. A shady no followed by questioning why would he expect that?
B. Deny it completely and reassure him that he has absolutely nothing to worry about.
C. Hell if I know. Everyone cheats nowadays.
D. Of course not. Why would she ever do something like that, she loves you.
E. Awkwardly avoid the question and find an excuse to leave the room.
6. Your man had a bad day at work, you will most likely comfort him by…
A. Telling him it’s going to be ok. Order in and put on his favorite movie.
B. Giving him some head to help him distress.
C. Surprising him with an edible brownie to forget his troubles.
D. Drawing him a bath and getting his favorite beer.
E. Getting him his favorite veggie burgers from Whole Foods.
7. What are you most likely going to wear on a first date?
A. Something cute and comfortable. Duh.
B. A bomb dress and heels are a must.
C. Any outfit that emphasizes my curves.
D. Something classy and not too revealing. I’m a lady.
E. Definitely something vintage, most likely from a thrift shop.
8. What topics are off limits on a first date?
A. Nothing. I’m an open book.
B. Exes and my body count.
C. Current relationship status. I’ll deal with the repercussions later.
D. Politics and Religion.
E. Sex and/or any other suggestive topics.
9. You got invited to a Halloween party, what costume are you wearing?
A. Something last minute that can be easily created with any outfit already in my closet.
B. Cleopatra.
C. Anything sexy and preferably with some latex. Ummm… definitely a catsuit!
D. Some sort of nauseating couple costume.
E. Something handmade that no one would understand. I like to get people to think.
10. What is your favorite sex position?
A. All the positions in which I can be lazy and pretend to be enthused.
B. I like being in control, so cowgirl is a MUST.
C. Any position in which my flexibility is tested.
D. Missionary with heavy eye contact.
E. Doggy style.
If you chose…
Mostly A’s – You are similar to Issa’s character. Though life may seem a little messy at the moment, you own your differences. You are open to what life has in store for you while being scared shitless at the same time.
Mostly B’s – Molly is your girl! Much like Molly you are strong minded and don’t take ish from no one. A perfect mixture of sassy and stylish. On the outside it looks like you have everything you want. The only thing that is missing is the man for completion.
Mostly C’s – You’re crazy and fun loving. This means you are more like Kelly. The life of the party. A true exhibitionist. You play by your own rules. You’re a squirrel just trying to get a nut, one gorgeous man at a time. Don’t hurt ‘em. Well maybe just a little.
Mostly D’s – There is no one more perfect than you, Tiffany! Planning your future is something that kept you up most nights. You are definitely a relationship type of gal. Family oriented. A bit of a perfectionist, sometimes to a fault.
Mostly E’s – You stick out like a sore thumb, Frieda. You are constantly looking for a sense of belonging. You’re a loyal friend, a ride or die. Likes to be included. Secretly wants to be liked while staying politically correct.
Did you enjoy the quiz? Feel free to leave any feedback!
Oh hey there...
I promise you this isn’t what I came here for
I swear
Oh this thing?
You don’t want it
It hasn’t been polished
Nor praised
I’m not even really supposed to be here
Actually I think I’ll leave
Though I don’t want to
Ready to risk it all
With very little thought
Knowing these few seconds
Will dictate my new forever
You can always edit a bad page. You can’t edit a blank page.
Jodi Picoult
Can you promise me more than promiscuity? Maybe.
Arbed
this one goes out to all the children raising parents
the adults confined to a prison of emotional immaturity
the babies who have to hold their cries to soothe egos
the guardians who protect instead of teach
the students who live and not learn
the caregivers who dwell and never let go
the mentees subjected to tough love
the supervisors abusing power
the employees accused of insubordination
the officers who are trigger happy
the victims who did not ask to be here
living due to your actions
exhaustion has become the mental state
eyes stayed open
boundaries never set
for my existence predates my thoughts
truth is you ain’t ask for me
either
Holding my best self accountable
Arbed