Face your fate, whatever it has in store for you.

Tank you for your visit. In addition to the many colorful pictures in my profile, I try to explain how this hodgepodge comes together. I am a transgender woman and prefer the traditional understanding of roles between men and women. In searching for my place in the world, I like to be inspired and guided by the traditional Islamic philosophy of life. I'm an open personality in many ways! في سعيي لإيجاد مكاني المتواضع في هذا العالم، أستلهم من نمط الحياة الإسلامي الأصيل. بصفتي امرأة مسلمة عائدة (متحولة جنسيًا)، أرغب في الالتزام بأحكام الإسلام واحترامها. وبصفتي امرأة مسلمة، أرغب أيضًا في إثبات جدارتي بالقرآن الكريم في رحلة البحث عن شريك حياتي، وأن ألتزم في المستقبل برجل مسلم ملتزم.

[meryem]

... and life takes its course.

I like doing that.

... a beautiful sentence.

[delicatecollectivewerewolf]

[sometimesmaddie]

🌸💋🌸

[meryem]

A wonderfully beautiful thought ...

[pinknumber5]

dyfashion.ro

[sometimesmaddie]

Femininity satisfies to the depths of my soul 💜💕💋💕💜

[meryem]

very beautiful

[banphrionsa88]

You aren't designed to do everything a man can do

[meryem]

The sooner you realize and accept this, the more easily you will find your place in the feminine role.

[banphrionsa88]

A man who leads his family changes everything.

The calm in the house. The confidence in the kids. The way she moves through her day knowing someone steady is at the helm.

I used to think I wanted a partner who did everything equally. What I actually wanted was someone who simply leads.

The difference is everything.

[meryem]

No, isn't.

[lannie-stuff]

[patriarchy-academy]

her feminist friends used to warn her, that submitting to a man meant ruining your life and your safety. she is discovering that actually, submitting to a responsible masculine man has been the biggest source of joy, peace and happiness in her life.

[meryem]

sweet

[tiananl]

You don't want ...

[meryem]

Is that too much to ask?

[tiananl]

How to dress ...

[sometimesmaddie]

♥️💃♥️

[meryem]

Yes, that is a good guide.

[delicatecollectivewerewolf]

[meryem]

Simply a dream crying out for reality.

[sissyaspirant]

Please yessss

[sokingmusic]

Yes!

[meryem]

... maybe ... ;-)

[delicatecollectivewerewolf]

[babycakeserica]

Looove this so much lol 🩵🩵💖

[meryem]

This idea is probably very accurate for me... and a desirable goal!

[delicatecollectivewerewolf]

[meryem]

mmmh. YES !!!

I think I can live quite happily with those limitations. After all, those "guy talks" about careers and the like don't interest me anyway.

[banphrionsa88]

They lied to you

Modern culture convinced women that being protected is oppression, but being exhausted, anxious, overworked, and alone is “empowerment.”

No thank you.

A good man leading with love is not something to escape from. It is something to come home to.

[meryem]

True.

[owned-by-the-patriarchy]

[patriarchy-academy]

Very well said

[tradgirlb]

this is true alot

[thentisofgor]

she is dressed appropriately

[meryem]

Yes.

[lavenderhearth]

letting love feel safe, steady, and soft again. femininity doesn't mean weakness, and trust doesn't mean being silenced.

[meryem]

I like this statement.

[gymbunnycandiehart]

Femininity can be Your Worth

There might be a sense of taboo about it, which is some of the fun of being girly, but in a greater and more real sense, there is no reason for a guy to feel shameful about being feminine.  It’s who you (we) are.  If some people can’t deal with that, it’s not our problem.  It’s their shame.  For a male to embrace femininity is something of worth because it’s real, personal, and authentic. 

I adore feminine things.  I know that there are some things that aren’t for me, that don’t fit me, that don’t represent me, but for the most part, i simply like femininity on me.  There are certainly times when I feel guilt over this, maybe shame, perhaps a feeling that I am dishonoring my gender because of it.  But it’s not because I truly feel that way.  It’s rather, because pressure from the outside insists that I should feel that way. 

So, perhaps I can offer my opinion for you, because I know many of you struggle with it too.  There’s nothing to be ashamed of.  Be girly.  Be effeminate.  Act the part, dress the part, talk like it, think like it, and just be your feminine guy self–partially or completely.  It’s up to you.  It’s your choice to be you.  Life is too short to be in knots over how some lifeless ogre thinks genders should behave.

With that said, I wish the opportunity afforded us to be a lot more free and open with our effeminate ways.  But no matter how limited our chances might be, there still remains this truth that should remain in your heart and swell there: embracing femininity is not a shame.  Perhaps instead, it’s your worth.

Much love to you!

CandieHart 

[meryem]

YES!!!

[banphrionsa88]

[aspiring-trad-husband]

And that is perfectly ok and encouraged

[meryem]

Me neither.