Professional Overthinker.

Maharani, Indonesian.

[lookitasari]

Mendakilah kamu yang tinggi.

Aku akan menemani.

Akan membantu kalau kamu bingung menentukan kanan atau kiri,

akan menunggumu kalau kamu lelah dan ingin duduk sebentar lalu menggandengmu untuk berjalan lagi,

akan memegang erat tanganmu kalau kamu tergelincir dan hampir jatuh,

akan merawat lukamu kalau-kalau kamu tergores di pendakianmu.

Mendakilah kamu yang tinggi.

Semoga setelah sampai di puncak nanti, kamu bukanlah orang yang malah mendorongku jatuh ke dasar.

[mhrnv]

Hi

Sup?

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Exploring Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Characteristics of an emotionally abusive relationship include:

• Using money as a means of control

• Threatening to walk out or abandon you

• Creating fear through looks, words, threats and actions

• Destroying things (and often things you value) – either in a cold and heatless way, or in an angry outburst or fit of rage

• Using blaming, shaming, minimizing and denial to control you

• Verbally attacking and demeaning you (includes name calling, shouting at you, criticising and putting you down – especially in public)

• Attacking and putting you down in private, and acting loving and charming in public

• Minimising the abuse; acting as if you’re over-reacting and it’s “no big deal”

• Deliberately withholding approval, affirmation, affection and as a means of punishment or control The effects of living with emotional abuse include:

• A fear of being natural and spontaneous

• A loss of enthusiasm or their old joie de vive

• Insecurity related to how they coming across to others

• An inner belief that they are deeply flawed

• A loss of self-confidence and self esteem

• Growing self-doubt (so they’re afraid to make even the smallest decision, or to take on even the simplest of tasks)

• Never trusting their own judgments (as they believe that they misunderstand or misread everything)

• Having a constant critic in their head

• Feeling they should be happier and more upbeat than they are (in order to meet the approval of others)

• Feeling they’re too sensitive, and ought to “toughen up”

• Fearing they’re going crazy, or losing their mind

• A tendency to live in the future (“Everything will be OK when/after ….”)

• A desire to break free, escape or run away

• A distrust and fear of entering into any close relationships again.

[lookitasari]

kaoki, punya cara untuk menghilangkan atau meredakan stress ga? bukan obat ya kak. mulai stress nih menghadapi tingkah laku orang sekitar:(

Kalo saya? Nyanyi. Yang kenceng. Kalo ngga, pergi jalan-jalan sendiri. Nyenengin diri sendiri, beli apa aja yang dimau, makan apa aja, minum apa aja. Setidaknya bisa menuruti apa yang dirimu mau, tidak melulu mengikuti dan menuruti mau orang lain. Kamu juga perlu egois sekali-sekali.

[megadwilestari]

Agree with you!

[mhrnv]

Truuuuu!

[lookitasari]

Setiap kamu merasa senang, sisakan juga ruang untuk kecewa.

[blueraspberries]

the newest episode of spongebob is a little intense

[tastefullyoffensive]

Animal Puddles (more)

[shdidihrhdjs-deactivated2018081]

I will admit I had a crush on you not so long after meeting you and most people would say I’m crazy but look at how far we’ve come. I tried so hard to resist but no matter how hard I tried to push you away, you just kept drawing me in. I am so proud of us, how strong we are now, I’m so proud of you, proud of the person you have become. I’m so thankful, thankful that against all the odds I was led to you, to the most incredible person in the entire world.

Tenari Ioapo // It took me days to fall for the one person I’ll spend my entire lifetime loving. (via tenari-ioapo)

[uchidachi]

Me: Alright, are you ready, Hattie?

Hattie: Meow

Me: *sings* ♪ If you’re happy and you know it, say “meow” ♪

Hattie: Mraaow

Me: ♪ If you’re happy and you know it, say “meow” ♪

Hattie: Mrah

Me: ♪ If you’re happy and you know it, and you really want to show it, if you’re happy and you know it, say “meow” ♪

Hattie: *rolls over* Mwraaah!

[wizardyangst]

This is exactly the kind of A+ content I come to see on this website

[antipeanutbutter]

Omfg

[geekandmisandry]

@rainfelt

[black--lamb-blog]

hattie is a star

[dynastylnoire]

the roll of a joy

[mangatapurnama-deactivated20190]

Jika saya menjadi seorang wanita, dan ada pria yang mengatakan bahwa dia mencintai saya, hal pertama yang akan saya tanyakan adalah “Apa rencana dan apa yang akan kamu lakukan setelah kamu mengatakan cinta kepada saya?”. Silahkan mengatakan cinta, tapi jika tidak ada rencana atau tindakan apa-apa setelah itu, apa gunanya? Yang mengaku cinta tapi hanya berucap dan tidak ada rencana atau tindakan apa-apa, itu bukan cinta.

(via mangatapurnama)

[itsagifnotagif]

Dogs are too pure honestly

[mbeeer]

Aku tak keberatan menunggu lebih lama jika pada akhirnya kau yang dipilih Tuhan di akhir cerita. Pergilah. Bermainlah di banyak hati. Berlabuhlah di banyak tempat.  Berpetualanglah sampai rasa penasaranmu habis, lalu putuskan bahwa bersamaku adalah tujuan akhir dari semua perjalanan panjangmu itu.

(via mbeeer)

[mhrnv]

Hide ur sadness. Ur life should be fun of smiles so why not do something that makes u happier, and forget about the pain?

Iva, ngga lg sad ko ngga.

[febrisakinah-blog]

Listener.

Everybody got their own problems. It can’t be same in everyone–you might got the same case with others but in different time, places, or causes–. Your problem even can be completely absurd that you never found the same case before in others life. In that time, you feel that you are alone, and even people are around you, they can’t help you that much.

I got some before. My case is completely different with other people case. I even thought that my life is suck and its hard to stand alone. When I thought I’m going to reach my limit, someone came up and asked me to told them about my problem.

I chose to explained it that time. That people and I knew we might not found the solution, but right after I told him my problem, I can feel like half of my burden disappear. From that case, I start to understand that, everyone may can’t help you by direct action, but they can remove some of your pain by listen to your story. The amazing thing is, listen is not just about using your ears, but also with your heart. That’s what a good listener do.

For me, a good listener its hard to find and it makes them precious. By become a good listener you can help people to remove some of their problem. You may can’t give any solution, but when you show that you can understand what the ‘victim’ feel, you’re already in the right way.

I do believe that good listener will be longlasting need in this life. Beside of waiting someone to be your listener, start to look into yourself, could you be part of them? I hope, everybody can be a good listener, and get a good listener in their life. Because their existence is really important.

But beside of all… do you remember you will always have the best listener above everyone in this world?

[mhrnv]

Maybe the only thing that doesnt change is “things change”. (at Villa Paniisan)

[mbeeer]

Kau masih belum bisa melepasnya bukan karena kenangan kalian yang begitu banyak, tapi karena diam-diam di hatimu kau masih menaruh harap bahwa suatu saat ia akan kembali dan memperbaiki semua.

Admit that (via mbeeer)

[mhrnv]

We'll be good friends forever bcs u already know too much!! 💩