why canāt i sleep? my body is aching and my mind is exhausted. but why when i try to sleep i just fill myself with thoughts about how i wish i could wake up and be literally anyone else, have different experiences, be able to regulate myself better, not have to battle with the feeling of knowing i cant bully myself into becoming better but only ever being bullied into becoming someone im not. i lost my formative years to not understanding why i canāt be myself and why i feel like i have to pretend to be other people just to inevitably fail and burn out. its disabling. i fear that tomorrow i will just wake up to feel the same. i blame it on my period but when its 2/4 weeks of the month i fear that i think its just me. anyway i have work tomorrow so the mask cant slip just yet. letās hope for a better morning. x
iām sorry for being so down btw i just donāt really have anyone other than my boyfriend to talk to. iām so grateful for him but i canāt burden him anymore than i have so ur turn i guess. i know thereās a lot of you who read this. iām not sure how many of you feel like this but i know i mustnāt be alone. i know there are people going through worse, which only works to invalidate me. anyway iām rambling goodnight x
As the sun sticks around a little longer each day, and the birds serenade the world, there's a sense of awakening. The ice is melting, both literally and metaphorically, bringing in a season of renewal. It just feels like the perfect time to plant seeds for success. š¼šøāļø
february was hectic. it was exhausting, and it took extra strength and belief in myself to stay on track.
there was tooons of low energy days but i made workarounds. i altered my schedules on my low energy days to activities that wouldn't further exhaust me and invigorate me instead.
the one thing that kept me grounded was daily prayer, and gratitude. on the hardest days, find one thing that went right and hold onto that as your hope for the day.
it might be a terrible day but it's not a terrible life, if i have these things to be grateful for.
subliminal of the week
what's in?
subliminals for success
spontaneous acts of kindness
exploring new hobbies for joy, not perfection
setting realistic and achievable goals
surrounding yourself with uplifting people
mindful breathing exercises
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what's out?
seeking validation from others
overcommitting and feeling overwhelmed
dwelling on past mistakes
negative self-talk and self-criticism
engaging in toxic relationships
affirmations for the week
I am a source of positivity and kindness, spreading joy through spontaneous acts of kindness each day.
My goals are realistic and achievable, and I celebrate progress over perfection. I embrace the joy of exploring new hobbies for personal fulfillment, not external validation.
I surround myself with uplifting people who support my journey, and I release toxic relationships that hinder my growth. I am a beacon of positivity and choose mindful breathing to center myself in moments of stress.
Imagine the woman you want to become. Envision her embracing a lifestyle woven with healthy habits that radiate positivity and well-being. Picture her waking up early, greeting the day with gratitude, and setting intentions that shape her mindset for success.
In her daily routine, she prioritizes self-careānourishing her body with wholesome meals, staying hydrated, and indulging in regular exercise that she genuinely enjoys. Whether it's a morning yoga session, an evening run, or a dance class, physical activity is not a chore but a celebration of what her body can achieve.
This woman values the power of mindfulness. Picture her taking moments throughout the day to breathe deeply, practice meditation, or simply appreciate the present. It's in these mindful pauses that she finds clarity, resilience, and a profound connection with herself.
As she moves through her day, healthy habits extend into her work life. This woman is organized and efficient, using time management techniques to tackle tasks without feeling overwhelmed. Regular breaks and moments of reflection help her maintain focus and creativity.
Evenings are a sanctuary for winding down. She cherishes a good night's sleep, prioritizing rest as a cornerstone of her well-being. Unplugging from screens, engaging in calming activities, and maintaining a consistent sleep schedule contribute to the rejuvenation her body and mind need.
Remember, becoming her doesn't happen overnight. It's a gradual process, a collection of intentional choices and persistent efforts. Start incorporating these healthy habits, step by step, and watch as you evolve into the empowered, balanced woman you aspire to be. šæšŖšŗš
Conceal your goals especially the ones that are appealing. Losing weight, reinventing yourself, marrying wealthy. Instead talk about your altruistic goals - to help children, invest in education, this will chase insecure people with vile intentions.
Do not give anyone your source of power: Was is a book that changed your life? a mentor? a movie? Never give up your secret to success. If forced to do say allude to God, the universe, the a random phenomenon
Use the patriarchy to your favor; we live in a world that is, only associate with men who have power, use that power for good.
Never appear too perfect but be selectively vulnerable when needed. Only share something that you will be comfortable saying. You might say āI forget my keys all the time,ā āI donāt know how to perfectly park a car ā. But never disclose something you are not comfortable with just because you are afraid of being perfect.
Maintain distance in relationships. Friends are the best and you need them. But if you feel that they are becoming too dependent, see them at your own will. But also the reverse could be the case. Your friend may keep a distance, and that is the way of life. You have got to move on from it.
Develop your own style that makes you unique, beautiful, and elegant. Avoid trying to fit in the crowd of people who claim to care less about their style yet have too many opinions about other womenās style
Avoid male friends at all cost, you will have male colleagues, male bosses, male acquaintances, business partners. Keep it that way. You do not want a Truman Capote divulging your secrets to the world. Do not keep a man who does not fit your standard.
You do not have to win at every game. Pick and choose what is best for you and leave room for others. And step down if you have attained that level of success, do not let the society do it for you.
Trust people but remember that we are all humans. So trust with discretion!
Confuse people with kindness; people are not always comfortable with beautiful and intelligent women. That power is too intimidating so confuse them by being genuinely generous, curious, kind, and passionate.
Keep your strong opinions to yourself.. if you support a movement, a way of life, do so silently.
We all have dirty laundry, wash them privately, donāt expose yourself. Remain silent when people try to attack you or shame you. Whatever is not confirmed is not true. You are the only one who knows all the truth about you.
Donāt attract pity or praise: People who pity you do not help you, in fact they might think that you are weak and could mock you at their annual gossipping meeting. And if you are doing things for the sake of praise you are wasting your time.
Choose yourself all the time; never put any oneās feelings above yours.
Trust your own intuition if you feel someone is being malicious towards you, giving you back handed compliments then you should let them go
Never speak bad of another woman. Do not lazy around gossipping. Keep your hands clean and your conscience clear.
Avoid women with low self esteem they will bring you down. For some reason they do not like seeing other women who are doing better than them
Be careful who you seek validation from. Not everyone needs to be pleased. If they are in no way capable of contributing to your life in the ways you prefer, then donāt ask them for their opinions or please them.
Do not compete with other women, if you do you are only putting them on a pedestal. You are making the the standard by which you measure your progress. If you do compete, begin digging your grave.
Do not give unsolicited advice, do not share the inner workings of your mind, If your mouth is very charitable you better start journaling.
Be well-rounded and interesting. It attracts people. It also keeps you busy because you are continually improving and learning. An idle mind is an easily subdued one.
Avoid women who want to live vicariously through you; they want to know who you know, shop where you shop, befriend who you befriend, wear what you wear.
Pay attention to the source of your discomfort; get rid of them. You tell them your dreams and they remind you of all your hindrances. They ask why are you dressed so fancy as though fancy isnāt subjective. They undermine you interests and goals. They will also be quick to bring you down because they are afraid of your potential.
Do not fear power or please power. When we see powerful people we try to hard to befriend them, to be close to them but you need to be comfortable without them. Donāt push yourself in the name of friendship, do not try too hard to be in their inner circle. Your independence of mind is the most important. Instead become a powerful woman, aloof to the presence of power but aware of its importance. Be an ingenious and intelligent and use your creativity to uplift yourself. When you do so it will be hard to ignore you. Even the powerful will become an ally.
Enjoy moments of solitude. Use that time to develop yourself, improve your body, learn new skills, create with your mind, read widely, become more elegant, then launch yourself.
Remember the most powerful women are the most intelligent. Inspired by Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. Use at your discretion.
ā¢ Say 5 loving things to yourself in the mirror every morning
These are not difficult tasks. If they are difficult for you, youāre not spending enough time with yourself. Put your phone down and get your life togetherš«¶š»
Your room is the most important place in your life. You sleep, wake up, heal and experience many emotions just in your room. You have to take care of your room, so it is spiritually the ideal place to grow into the best version of yourself.Ā
KEEPING YOUR ROOM CLEANĀ
Keeping your room free of mess is an act of mindfulness and self-discipline that supports your overall journey and connects you with your higher self. It helps with promoting clarity, and cultivating inner balance and is an everyday self-care ritual.Ā
Make your bed every day. You have to respect the place in which you sleep and heal.
Hang up clean clothes after the day or put any dirty clothes in your laundry hamper, avoid tossing them on the floor.Ā
Find a place for everything, and know where everything is. If you do not know where each thing in your room is located, you either have too much clutter or youāre disorganised.Ā
Tidy up your room daily, neatly putting everything away in its place. If needed, buy a few organisers.Ā
Donāt leave rubbish for extended periods. Treat your room like a temple, donāt disrespect it, and pick up after yourself.Ā
Try to avoid eating meals in your bedroom. We forget the dirty dishes over time, and it stinks and attracts unwanted bugs.Ā
Change bed sheets regularly. Once a week at the most, for more hygienic reasons though.Ā
Remove unwanted items on your bedside table. Keep it minimal and intentional with anything you want to place on it.
Regularly clean up the dust in your room, using a duster or a damp microfiber cloth on all of the surfaces.Ā
ENCOURAGING GROWTH IN YOUR LIFE
A room designed to encourage inner growth serves as a physical reminder of your commitment to self-improvement, personal development, and overall well-being. It creates an environment helpful to improvement, self-reflection, and positive change.
Keep specific areas of your room designated to one task in your life. For me, my desk is for productivity, my bed is for resting or relaxing and my bedroom floor is for mindful activities.Ā
Throw away any items that do not serve a purpose to you anymore. Avoid keeping items that bring you painful or harmful memories.
Minimise the presence of technology in your room. I suggest having zones in your room which is device-free or having a time of day in which devices are not allowed in your room.Ā
Create a vision board poster in your room that you can see every day, which helps to visualise and motivate you to create your dream life.Ā
Place meaningful quotes, affirmations, mantras or prayers as reminders of the values, mindsets or intentions you wish to cultivate in your life.
Display personal achievements. If you won any awards or certificates, place them in a way in which you can view them every day. If you have done something in your life that you think is an achievement but have no award to display, just simply create your own. Buy some balsawood and glue it together to create your own medal.Ā
Place items that align with the habits or routines you want to cultivate in your life so that they are easily accessible. Put a workout mat in the corner, always have your journal on your desk or have a cold water bottle ready to go when you wake up.Ā
3. DECORATING YOUR ROOM TO REFLECT YOU
Decorating your room in a way that reflects your true self brings a sense of authenticity and comfort. It creates a nurturing environment that allows for self-expression, reflection, and personal growth which ultimately contributes to your journey of inner development.
Make a mood board or vision board of how you would want your room to look, how it supports you and how it makes you feel. Choose a colour scheme in this process as well.
Add candles or incense that you think embodies who you are, or who you want to be. For example, if I want to be a cleaner person, I would choose a candle that smells like fresh linen.Ā
Put up posters of things that you like, people who you look up to or anything that expresses who you are.
Add a canopy to your bed while you sleep. So cute, and I believe it helps protect you from any unwanted energy entering through you while you sleep.Ā
Add a rug, even if you already have carpet, to enhance the cozy ambience of the room.Ā
An ottoman at the end of the bed can elevate your room to look more expensive, if needed, it can also be an organiser for your extra things.Ā
Put life in your room, adding low-maintenance plants or flowers can liven it up. A little extra, research some plants or flowers meaningās and pick one that resonates with you.Ā
Display any of your favourite jewellery, bags, clothing pieces, or make-up around your room. A nice way to appreciate what you have, without actually using them.Ā
