Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support

My name is Olivia, I got pregnant the first time in 2012 and ended up miscarrying my daughter Dakota Ann (Kody for short.) I was 16 weeks pregnant and ended up hemorrhaging while miscarrying and needed blood transfusions. I started this blog after that loss to help cope with the pain of losing a child and to help others with their pain. In 2014 I got pregnant again. While terrified, I was also over the moon. My husband (who was my boyfriend at the time) and I were so ready for this little miracle. At 21 weeks we found out that something was wrong with our daughter. After 7 horrible weeks of fighting for our daughters life with medicine, doctors, in utero surgery, and bedrest we ended up having an emergency C Section. We held our daughter Avery Faith and kissed her for 86 minutes before she passed away. This blog is here for anyone who's lost a baby or child at anytime who needs support. I'd love to help you and here the story of your beautiful baby.

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After a miscarriage in 2013 and another one two days ago, I am beyond distraught. I don't want to leave the house, let alone go to work. Dad is distant now, which makes me angry and just drives us apart more. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to carry on anymore.

I’m so sorry for your losses. The pain is unbearable and wanting to stay home and be alone is so normal. I still feel like that sometimes. Have you communicated to your work about what happened? Some time off may be good for you. Unfortunately, dads do that a lot. SO many relationships end after a loss. Make sure you’re giving him space but also giving him open lines of communication with no judgment. That was really hard for me to do, personally but when I started that it worked. We also went to couples therapy and I honestly say it saved our relationship. 

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Do you support people who have had an abortion, period.?

Yes

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Always sweetie, always.

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“The Child Who Was Never Born” by Martin Hudáčeka.

[miscarriage-me]

It's my fault

No, it’s not. 

[miscarriage-me]

Do you still support people who have had an abortion, if that abortion was necessary under given conditions but not really wanted...?

Of course.

[miscarriage-me]

I'm sorry for your loss I went through a miscarriage last year and it was the hardest thing I've ever been through and i still haven't properly healed do you think it will ever heal?

I’m sorry for your loss! From my experience and those of my friends who’ve shared with me. It DOES get easier but you never fully heal. There will always been a wound there but it doesn’t hurt as much after awhile. 

[miscarriage-me]

how do i cope...?

Unfortunately there isn’t one straight answer to this. If there were a lot of people would be in a much better spot after losing a child. You’ll have to find what helps you. I’ve found that blogging, talking to other women, crafting, and saying my daughters names help me so much! A support group was also essential in my grieving process. I’m so sorry for your loss. 

[miscarriage-me]

I was 15 weeks too when they told me I had miscarried...

I’m so sorry for your loss! We have a beautiful group of people on this page who are here for you!

[miscarriage-me]

I've been looking for a support group all over !! I'm glad your helping others ❤️ that's how it should be

<3 I’m glad you found this page!

[miscarriage-me]

Is this page still being updated?

It is now!

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Password Recovered

Hello Everyone! 

 I am so sorry that I haven’t been on here in so long. I lost the password and the password to the email this is linked to. I finally got everything recovered. I had 19 emails, 17 Tumblr messages and over 400 Tumblr questions, anons and submissions. I will be trying to get back to them all but if I haven’t gotten back to you please feel free to message me again! I want to hear from you all! If there is anything you would like to see posted please let me know! I want to post what you want to see and what would help with your grief journey. You’re all in my thoughts constantly! 

Much love, 

  Olivia

[miscarriage-me]

I was thirteen when I miscarried my little angel rose. I tried unsuccessfully commit suicide soon after. I'm sixteen now and it still hurts fresh as the day it happened. I try hard everyday to remind my self it's not my fault but it's so hard....

First, I want to say how sorry I am for your loss of your sweet baby Angel Rose. Secondly, I just want to remind you that it is not your fault and it will NEVER be your fault. Please don't blame yourself, trust me it just makes things worse. Once you begin to forgive yourself and think "I know this wasn't my fault" the pain will get a little better. I know the pain will never go away of missing your sweet baby, but once you have that guilt off your shoulders you will feel more peace within yourself. I lived with that guilt for 3 years before I finally told myself that it wasn't my fault and I did everything I could to keep that sweet baby alive. It doesn't make the pain go away, because that will always be there; but it did help me to cope and just miss my sweet angels. Now I am able to cope with losing them, rather than trying to cope with the guilt I was forcing on myself when it wasn't even true. So, please don't blame yourself.. because no matter what it will never be your fault. Your baby loves you, and knows that she was loved and will always be loved and missed. (I hope this helps) ♥ -Sloane