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oliver, 18, he/him & neos, queer aroace trans guy, tired art school student. deleted my old tumblr and starting anew. exploring identity and the self and stuff like that. started t in november 2025, had top surgery in february 2026.

will probably mostly reblog (fan)art, diy & queer stuff here @messerzigzags -> everything marauders fandom

currently: a study in scarlet (audiobook), call the midwife s3

project hail mary, good omens, ofmd, will wood and the tapeworms, bears in trees, the crane wives, heartstopper, AlicebanD, musicals, the hunger games, picturebook illustration, webcoding

neocities / nekoweb (for backup)

#oliver talks

comicallyqueer

I'm not romantically attracted to anyone, but man do I like romantic fantasy. Never with real people.

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I used to be very romance repulsed as an aromantic, but as time went on, I learned to tune out the societal pressures for romance. I no longer felt bombarded by it since I could separate it from my own path in life. As a result, I no longer felt the need to defend myself against the notion of romance now that I didn’t feel it’s expectations on me. I actually discovered I like romance… just in a detached sort of way. I spend hours immersing myself in romance, but only in a way I am not directly involved. I enjoy the magic of being an outside observer of a good romance story. Although I myself never appear in my romantic daydreams, I can get warm fuzzies and butterflies when thinking of a fictional relationship. Part of the appeal is that it’s fantasy. It’s not real so I ger that comfortable separation of romance from life… but I still get the thrill of love. I’m just an aro who loves his romance! I guess that’s why I resonate with the term aegoromantic despite it being a micro label.

#aegoromantic #aroaspec tag #cool art #comic

kindlyanni

A comic about my aegoromantic experience I did for #aroweek in last February and forgot to post here!

Note: You don't need to find a specific label to validate your queer identity. You can have as broad or specific definition as what you're comfortable with, and you don't have to have an analysis of your identity to give to anyone else. It's no one's business but yours, at the end of the day.

For me personally finding a label that fits me perfectly was a relief. Like I've been holding this puzzle piece in my hand for a hot minute and then I finally find the place for it. Like if I found my hole.

I don't need this label to to explain myself to others. It helps me to contextualize my experience and to find my place in the ace/aro spectrum and in the queer spectrum. And I made this comic in case there are others like me, looking for that perfect hole :D

BTW YOU CAN FIND MY ZINE I THINK I'M GOOD BY MYSELF, ACTUALLY ON ITCH IN ENGLISH AND IN FINNISH FOR $4.50!

#aegoromantic #aegosexual #aroaspec tag

onlyfangz

if a trans man needs to hide the fact that he's trans in order to access any form of male privilege, i simply do not believe that is real privilege. i will, and never will, accept that the closet is a privilege. any queer person can go into the closet to access "privilege," and it's dumb when you all try to argue that bs too. are you not tired of making the exact same arguments about recycled queer groups every 5-10 years? nothing is ever new except the New Queer Enemy really IS privileged and evil this time, we promise!

supernova-error

Pls so I am an aroace person just getting that out of the way anyways I do not like grocky for a few fundamental reasons (it’s not the alien thing ppl can like what they like), what bothers me is how it erases one of the main points of their relationship and why their relationship, and more specifically ryland grace himself appeals to so many ppl like me.

My main problem is that it follows the same theme that a lot of fandoms take - the prioritisation of romantic relationships over platonic ones, and the view that they are worth less. There is a stunning lack of well developed fully platonic relationships in media, and it’s that lack of representation that makes aroace people struggle with their identity.

It’s very hard to live your life knowing that so many of the people around you view your connection as lesser just because it’s not romantic, and it just gets enforced by the standards shown in fandom spaces about platonic relationships.

Usually I’m all for shipping like do whatever have fun, but to me Rocky and graces relationship and it’s meaning for both of them is so inherently linked to their platonic value to each other.

One of the reasons grace was sent on the Hail Mary was because of his lack of romantic relationships (despite his apparent friendship with many other people on stratts vatt) and how that lack of what many believe to be a more valuable form of love made him a coward for not wanting to leave his life behind.

However, grace choosing to go back for rocky, not because of some romantic feelings but solely because of their friendship is so important for graces development as a character, because yes he still has no romantic partner, he’s still technically in the same position as when he left except he’s not, because he’s able to place his own value on the relationship he has with Rocky, rather than adhering to what are essentially societal hierarchies of love.

Grace goes back for rocky knowing that he will never have a romantic relationship if he does so, he turns back knowing that he will likely die once Rocky gets back home, and grace chooses to go anyway.

#project hail mary #aroace grace

kosmogrl

no-longer-poet

wow turns out when you engage and look at aroace positivity you feel more comfortable being aroace

balconeko

if you ONLY associate "men" or "masculinity" with negative stuff, then youre not gonna be a good ally to trans masc people. while some transmascs can experience gender euphoria from being associated with the negative parts of masculinity, its not really the best way to give them that. "wow, youre really a man cause <negative male stereotype>" might be funny and stuff, but imagine telling a transfem "wow, youre really a woman cause <negative female stereotype>". while it could give someone gender euphoria but its still a product of bigotry.

if you want to be a better ally to trans men and transmascs, you should probably try to appreciate good qualities of men and masculine people in general.

aro-ace-culture-is

Aroace culture is people not understanding that you can find people attractive aesthetically only

#aesthetic attraction #aroaspec tag

goffelmeansspork

something i think isn't explored enough in the hail mary fandom is that while yes, humans are biologically a weird mess consisting of good enoughts that's just not efficient at all, the reason we're like is because of mutations that all happened because of a bunch of random environmental factors and our biology trying really hard to keep us alive in those situations.

and since that's kinda the natural way for biological things to form it wouldn't be weird if eridians also evolved like that. which means they're most likely also weirdly inefficient in a lot of things.

so i imagine after getting to erid, after hearing about how "stupid leaky space blobs badly designed" grace finds out eridians are in fact also, stupid pointy badly designed space rocks.

#project hail mary #phm aliens and humans stuff

astrotheyge

I'm obsessed with this little moment where Stratt is like reaching out to say Hi to Grace but instead of patting his shoulder or something she pats his tiny little chair. and filmed from behind a barrier

its-timego

Additions:

- She is carrying her two giant coffees here and BALANCES THEM BOTH IN ONE HAND to touch his chair

- He’s like “what the heck is happening” and then he turns around and sees it’s her and does this fond little smile

stevishabitat

PHIL LORD: You know, one of the things I like about Andy’s book, Drew’s screenplay in this movie is that, the barriers that are put in-between characters, that they have to communicate through. I always find it inspiring, the way they overcome the distances and panes of glass between them.

#project hail mary