Maybe Controversial

{ 19 } ~ She / Her ~

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This blog is just me speaking my mind and sharing my (maybe and sometimes) controversial opinions about things I’ve seen, heard, or noticed, whether in real life or fictional settings.

Disclaimer(s) + Notes:

→ My posts are never meant to demean or degrade anyone. If anything ever comes across that way, it's most likely because I worded it terribly or explained it poorly (which happens a lot). I promise that's not the intention, and I apologize in advance if something rubs you the wrong way.

→ I don't like grouping everyone into one thing, so like when i'm talking about things men and/or women (or just people in general) do that I find irritating and whatever, I don't mean all. I'm talking about specific people in those scenarios. If you don't fit the description of the people I am talking about, then it's not about you.

→ Sometimes when I use the word “man”, I mean mankind (aka people in general), not specifically “a man.” But honestly, I rarely phrase things that way, I just wanted to clarify in case it ever pops up.

→ I’m not really here to debate or argue, just here to unload thoughts and opinions that float around in my head. That said, if you want to comment, agree, disagree, or start a conversation in the notes, that’s totally fine! Just be respectful (Or not. It’s the internet, I know how it goes).

→ Some opinions might change over time, and that’s alright.

→ I talk about both serious and random things. Sometimes it’s messy, sometimes it’s overthought, and sometimes it’s literally just me rambling because my brain needed an outlet.

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It's crazy to me that bi women, with or without a preference, get accused of being straight whenever they get with a guy or don't follow whatever "rules" there are to being a lesbian (I guess? even though they're not) and liking women, while bi men, no matter their preferences and if they like and prefer women more, are never accused of being straight and are only seen as gay simply because they like men too.

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I see so many people use the term "pick-me" for literally any woman who simply wants some attention or male attention, but I don't see how exactly that's "pick-me" behavior.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I always assumed that the term was only really used on overly male-centered women (or people?) who indirectly or directly degrade other women or put them in harm's way for the attention or approval of men. Wanting attention is a pretty normal thing, so I don't see how a woman simply wanting some attention qualifies her as a "pick-me" if she's not actively belittling or endangering anyone.

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I don’t think I’ll ever have a super clear or definitive opinion on the whole transgender thing. I guess I’m kind of indifferent? Or maybe somewhere in the middle. Like, I have no issue with trans people or trans-related things, I obviously see them as people who deserve rights, respect, and the ability to live happy lives without hate, just like everyone else. But when it comes to specific topics within the conversation, like kids transitioning, bathrooms, and sports, I feel like my thoughts get more complicated.

For example, with kids transitioning, I can understand why someone would want to start young, waiting until adulthood could make things harder. But at the same time, I feel like making a permanent decision before fully grasping what it means is risky. I don’t know if there’s a right answer, but I just feel like it’s something that should be approached with a lot of caution, and a lot more information.

Then there’s the bathroom situation. I understand why trans people want to use the bathroom they’re most comfortable in, nobody wants to feel unsafe or out of place. But at the same time, I feel like it doesn’t take into account how other people (especially and specifically cis-women) feel in those spaces. It’s like, in trying to make one group more comfortable, another group might feel uncomfortable, and that just seems like a lose-lose situation. Maybe the solution is more unisex bathrooms? (Actually, do those already exist widely? I feel like they probably do and I just under a rock, idk)

And then there’s sports. I mean, biologically, men are stronger than women, that’s just a fact. So I don’t think people who were born male should compete against women in sports because it could put women at a disadvantage, depending on the sport. But then again, I’ve also heard that when trans people transition and take hormones, it affects their biology and might level the playing field? I don’t know how true that is, so I’m just kind of ??? on that one.

So yeah, I guess my stance is that I don’t really have a strong stance. I don’t hate anyone, I just think some of these topics are tricky, and I don’t know if there’s a perfect answer to any of them.

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I don’t like Polygamy or Polyamory, but I don’t really mind it in fiction.

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”i’m not reading all of that”

and it’s literally just a paragraph or two…

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The statement that a gay male pedophile is weirder than a straight male pedophile, is in itself weird.

They’re both equally as weird and disgusting as each other, because a pedophile is a pedophile regardless of said individuals sexuality or preference(s) in (a childs!) gender.

I mean literally, if you were to take out the “gay” from a gay pedo, they’d still just be a pedo! The only difference is that their preference (in kids!) differs, and now they either only like/go after little girls or little girls and boys.

Whether they like or have a preference for males and/or females, or simply no preference at all, they’re still child diddlers! That’s the issue, that is what you should be focused on. One shouldn’t make you more uncomfortable or disgusted than the other, they’re the same thing, be equally repulsed by both!

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Women will be like “I hate all men” one minute, and the next either go right back to their ex only to just get heartbroken by them all over again, or cry over never finding a man to love and marry them.

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The same way men will claim to hate or dislike women, only to desperately want one to love them, open up too, and settle down with.

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Women will be like “I hate all men” one minute, and the next either go right back to their ex only to just get heartbroken by them all over again, or cry over never finding a man to love and marry them.

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Men (and at times even women) will go on and on about how being feminine, or just being a woman in general, sucks because they're weak and stupid, then have the audacity to actually be surprised when women don’t want to be feminine or be seen as feminine and begin to act tomboyish to “not be like other girls.”