ADD/ADHD -reamers

  Adult ADD/ADHD "focused" -Raw journaling. Common challenges. Personal Blog/Progress/Support/info & Inspiration.Including general mental health wellness practices  

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Stuck.

Struggling and battling my own make up. Is this radical? Is this my deficit talking? Am I thinking with my emotional brain or my rational brain. Left or right. Right or wrong. Black or White. Ying or Yang. The Narrorator or Tyler Durden? How do we know if we are properly grounded? What if I want to be in flight? Hop, or jump ? Because we know we tend to Plunge. How to you determine your next move. In some instances I Check myself before I wreck myself. Point me in the right direction

The magnet is set under my compass. Check mate

But wait? I’ve been here before right?

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Can you hear me now?

Hey did you know I have another page? Anything I free write I have on this “sister” blog page. Check it out <3 https://daydreamresdisease.tumblr.com/ A.D.Dreamer

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Just Hold On.

Welcome to the new world dreamers!

Pr-warning this is a long one. Do you feel free or are you suffocating? Just hold on. Did you need this quiet? Did you need a moment? Most of the time we feel overwhelmed, that we are not doing enough, that we are doing so much that something gets left behind. What is this new situation GIVING to you ? I have found myself absolutely intrigued in what individual lessons are to be learnt. . Were you to on the go and the universe is literally HALTING you. Your children & partner need you. Maybe you should have done more? Embrace the beautiful people around us that may be our soul needed to be fed by but we were too tired or decided to hold ourselves back someway. The universe has Separated ourselves from toxic people or environments.Universal detox. One does not need a place of worship to be content with our creator. Necessities not wealth. Validate the importance of well being. Tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow can be a different day. We are really NOT okay being alone. We are very aware that we are totally okay alone. You really do not want to be where you are now.  Whatever it is. The most common response I received was “ Taking things for granted”. Maybe every day we wake up during this Crisis we take a moment to be mindful of what we are grateful for. Roll with all of these emotions we have been presented, What are you going to do with this MASSIVE lesson. Let’s take a moment to recognize how this time can be difficult for us.  Learning your own patterns and recognizing when we are in need of. Stimulation, strategizing when we need to structure ourselves or our day. Are you working from home? Are you laid off? Are you now managing the education of others? All I know is that I am experiencing a place that I did NOT want to be stuck in. Usually Spring is my time shine! Rebirth to a new me. I am the child of the “ True North “:p I just isolated myself ALL WINTER. Here are some things to consider... 1. (Always my first suggestion)  Make a list. If this is in a form of a daily schedule you would like to go by, Things you want to get done around the house, Projects you would like to do, Don’t make a long list. Make several small ones. Check something off it could feel good. Shit! We might be able to accomplish something in between the confusing feeling of not knowing what to do with ourselves.... or if we even want to do anything in the first place. ..... realism :p

2. Know when to remove yourself from the news. It is okay to be aware, I actually REALLY want you to be aware of the proper information. Be aware when you are taking in too much and when you need to remove yourself and walk away from googling current case amounts in your area for the 67th within the last hour. Remove yourself from social media consumption. Remember that there were HEALTHY ways that we occupied our time before technology. You need to give yourself permission and know that it is okay to take a break because we are going to need it. Saying that though... do not isolate yourself away from the beautiful connection like facetime or Zoomin with your loved ones. Check in. 3. Is the sun out today? Go sit by a window, go take the garbage out, take the dog for a walk. Close your eyes, stick yourself in the rays of the sun, plug your ears for 60 secs if the kids are screaming. Take a breath in,  breathe out until you can feel the unknown tension lower. Wholey shit!! I had NO IDEA it was even there. This is not a high expectation, because this took 30 of the 60 secs I mentioned. We need to do this once a day. If you don’t have the sunshine that is okay. One moment. Just one crucial moment

4. Dance. Release. We are currently experiencing being 100% out of control of our situation, so take control of it at least one point of your day ( start back at number one when needed). Go find that sign someone bought you for Christmas in 2001 that has been sitting in the garage sale pile and  9 years and “ Dance like no ones watching”

5. Expect the totally expected. First step is acceptance! This is going to be a VERY difficult time for everyone. Before it gets bad lets reflect where we have difficulties. ADD - ADHD dreamers usual suffer with depression & anxiety. What tools can we use to be proactive in battling it before it happens, also what plan can we put in place when we get there? Talk to your person ( Friend, counselor, video appointments with your psychologist if that's an option). Keep up on self care routines ( Mindfulness, consistency with medication, eating well, exercise, or bubble bath and wine) if that's your thing)

We are human. We are in this together though apart. This is ducked right up. This is overwhelming. This is not our norm. We are grieving our freedom. We are lost. We are afraid. This is fear. This is invasive to our environment. Doggie paddle through the new awkward apocalyptic twilight zone. The world as we know it has changed. This too SHALL PASS. JUST... HOLD ...ON!

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Can’t Wrap Clarity.

Tis the season to struggle,& not just for AD(H)Ders alone. This time of year tends to creep up. I have come to the conclusion that as soon as December approaches the universe plays with our time like a manual wind up clock. How intimidating! I am a sensitive person. I swear I feel Christmas in my guts. Isn’t it funny how a time of year can do this? Here is a reminder that you are not alone. Yes you can simultaneously feel joy & sadness. If a loved one is missing this year, It’s okay to cry over the “After Eights” box at the grocery store. If you are a fair distance from home or family I promise you that they miss & love you and you are a piece missing. Anytime you feel alone, remember you are not alone you are just currently on your own. I wish that you find comfort within the missing pieces. Drop the worry. “ I don’t have everything done!!”.... we manage to find holiday magic in our pockets and somehow survive. Why are we afraid to ask for help? Take a breath & ask., Make a list, fuck checking it twice, check her five times if you have too. What you bought IS enough ...& so are YOU. Soaking in the moments like little ones fingers covered in shortbread, someones laugh, or the smell of love in the food. Keep things simple.Take a moment to think of past years or take one second with your all you senses & look at the present of the presence. <--- This ability is the magic they speak of. Act of kindness, lending a hand, Think of someone extra, open an invitation“ How can I be the light ”? The night ends, the laughter dims, the paper gets ripped & glasses empty. Love is really all we needed. You can’t wrap clarity. Eat.Drink.Be Merry. Love Always, ADDreamer.

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Forward Navigation.

Hello ???  Anyone there? I’m stuck in a rut & I can’t get out!! *** Reaches out for help**** Anyone?..... Unfortunately we are the only ones that can problem solve to get ourselves out. This is a hard one. You are stuck in a hole with no rope or leverage. You are the only human in a 5 mile radius and the universe thought it would make it a little more interesting by slowly filling that hole with water. Chest heavy, water at your neck line, and you somehow found the strength to keep that chin up.  I have officially been on all sides. Struggled, found a path, followed that path and if you could actually believe it I even started to know which way I was going.  A fork in the road made me freeze, I back tracked to almost feel like I was back where I started.  All that way. The trip back was way to easy. I have found myself to settle. Old habits die hard, or so they say. I am here to tell you though that no matter where you find yourself, there is always a way forward.  I left therapy because my support team believed that I would be okay! I left with a escape plan, tools & equipment to help me out of that rut & keep me a float.  I stopped self care, dropped mindfulness, & rolled into my old pattern of seasonal “ lets make this a year” disorder.  ... I essential dug myself that hole.  Spring sprung, I couldn’t do it. I reached out to the resources that started my path and built the road, was re-accessed. Someone believed that I was still doing alright but would like to sign me up for cognitive behavioral therapy so that I can continue learning how to cope.  Has anyone mentioned how actively fighting for your mental health takes a lot of  hard work. Persistence, strength, blood and tears., veins popping HARD WORK.!?! Life coach, wrapping my hands, training for the next event. CBT was great navigation. Highly suggest it & beneficial for all dreamers.  In turn I came to familiar thoughts of should I throw in the towel and should really just consider medication.  (For the record there is NOTHING WRONG with medication...I just feel like it would not be for me.) The answer I found within myself was “ Do not result in taking medication until you try the medication that has already worked best for you!” ...= EXERCISE A day ago I ran the track for the first time in over a year, & I felt the best that I have felt in a REALLY LONG TIME. Free, strong & for the first time in a long time a sense that I knew where I was going.  Be kind to yourself first, then Navigate forward, <3 - A.D.Dreamer

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“Social Norm” What is it really? I never really battled this thought until my “ teacher” looked at me and challenged it. Challenged my thought of social norm and what I think people expect of me & what people expect as a society. Faux pa! fsˌfō ˈpä/nounan Embarrassing or tactless act or remark in a social situation. Expectations - I have never felt anything so heavy ! Though steps we take to “better ourselves” or our family  /loved ones are valuable & important, we are individuals and what might work for you might not be the path for someone else. “Just because my path is different, doesn’t mean i’m lost” I am positive that being an individual with ADD/ADHD this can be really crucial on our already critical self's !  The current world we live in with this “not so new” PRESSURE is real. We live in a high pressure, high stress, judgmental rushed world. No wonder we are losing amazing people to depression! So lets challenge our thoughts a little.. What am I most stressed about ? Education ? Career? Does your living situation suit you ? Are you content ? Are you happy?<------****Biggest Questions**** Who are you trying to please?<--------****Biggest Questions**** What are you trying to prove and who are you doing it for? Who is that person or that social group you are trying to please? Step outside of yourself for a second. Who cares  If you are happy & it is working for you  & you are content & not detrimental to people around you ... consider yourself hitting the jackpot!  Worrying everyday if you are good enough, if you are being judged, or hitting others expectations gets exhausting AND FAST ! Chances are if you are drowning yourself with these worries you need to reevaluate who you are surrounding yourself with. We need a team, a support system and fans to follow! Why would we hang out with the opposing team ? We are already our own worst critics.

[missadddreamer]

Sometimes under Adult ADD/ADHD “Lifing” can feel a little difficult. Thats why I really like this one <#

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“What My Worst Days with ADHD Feel Like”

On good days, my acting skills are worthy of an Oscar. But on bad days, my ADHD pushes me into a dark, quiet personal world that few know exists. Here are 10 circumstances in which I feel overwhelm…

We all have bad days. Try and not get stuck. Learn to dig yourself out.

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Cannot be found.

It always comes back to this. Since being “diagnosed” with ADD I find it easier to recognize what may be a product of the deficit. It always come back to feeling lost - Which made me use the Google to see if others have felt the same. Of course... It’s a thing.  I can recall that I have felt this most of my life, part of the “ I can’t quite put my finger on it” feeling.  In my case lately I feel it has been provoked by life events but on most occasions (&I feel for most people) for no reason at all.  Longing for completion. Friends, school, family, success, relationships, career, hobbies,wanderlust etc. How do we feel complete? How do we find the balance? Please share and comment below what makes YOU feel complete and I will reach out further on this topic. Know that you are not alone, though it is the main emotion.

[missadddreamer]

Exercise Is ADHD Medication

Physical movement improves mental focus, memory, and cognitive flexibility; new research shows just how critical it is to academic performance.

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Free!

http://www.drummerandthegreatmountain.com/free-webinar-adult-addadhd-a-holistic-approach If you are avaIlable this day it  WILL be worth your time. 

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Portrait Of Anxiety

There was a time I had no idea the symptoms that I was feel was a product of anxiety. The connections were not made. When I started to make the connections I kind of felt like my body was already riddled with unknown anxiety for too long - Which inspires me to share what my anxiety looks like - also what anxiety might look like for other people.

Restless Sleep

Light sleep, busy brain thinking about your day or tasks to come. Waking up several times in the night. In extreme circumstances (a close friend passing away ) episodes of a racing heart & palpitations at the of just laying down, getting easily startled by noises which would repeat the process. Restless sleep created a vicious circle because good sleep is crucial to eliminate stress /anxiety / depression.

Space Brain Though brain fog is common with ADD/ADHD – Anxiety also plays a key component to “Space Brain”. Too much on the brain or being in a situation that anxiety is so high the brain draws a complete blank!  During arguments or trama it doesn't serve us very well. Even a “Personal Trama”  something that is trmamtic to YOU – like individuals that suffer from social anxieties.

Breathing. You usually see “Shortness of breath” listed when you read about anxiety. I am changing this for you.  Shortness of breath is not the only reaction. It can be shortness or rapid. In my case it can be full out HOLDING MY BREATH without any recognition.  I was mid way through learning and understanding my mental health, while I was doing a task at work I caught myself GASPING for air. I had no idea that I was doing it, I thought to myself “ What the hell?!?!?! Is this an anxiety thing ?” - I was then more conscious of how often I was doing this. I chose to try practicing mindfulness to see if it calmed down and it did. ( that's usually how I evaluate my stress level, if I can  breath it out and practice mindfulness consistently and it goes away- STRESS). I googled it and talked to my counselor about it and guess what IT IS !

Nerves

           The root of anxiousness. Lets face it this anxiety thing is hard to describe. If you haven't perfected the art of anxiousness like I have, to get your point across might be difficult. There can be no “ Lion in the room” and yet there is feeling of extreme fear and impending doom for everyday lifeing. These nerves can sure do odd things. All of a sudden you realize how heart to stomach is really connected. Ring in your ears, lump of the throat, heartache to sinking stomach – whatever it is, it sits deep & heavy. This is where symptoms like shaking, nauseousness & dizziness come into play, a hot flush of the body from your head down to your toes – These wonder nerves can trigger those unexpected unexplainable Panic attacks. Consider this an ' 3 x 5'' portrait of anxiety. Anxiety is individually different. Being phobia, social, traumatic or deficient- recognizing & identifying can be the first step to a very eye-widening self journey. Please follow me <3 I will be elaborating on subjects, personal theories, & nutrition connections etc. Share your portrait with me in comments below – contribute to helping others.

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atermoiement

(noun) Atermoiement is a French untranslatable word, which projects connotations of a state of mind and thoughts, which cause delay, distractions, and diversions leading up to procrastination.  (via wordsnquotes)

WELL Isn’t that a way to introduce todays blog. Hell my name is _______ and I am a Major procrastinator,. It’s a problem, first step is acceptance:P Is this am ADD/ADHD trait? O just who I am ? I think it’s a little bit from column A And a little bit from Coloumn B .  WHO AM I KIDDING! How can we practice not pushing things aside and starting to do what we mean to do . Make daily/weekly/Monthly goal & task lists that need to get done and check them off. small things at a time and even the small things seem like big accomplishments and it really makes you start doing more.  Phone to change that appointment you forgot about. Make that message you have been avoiding. Write that blog ! Write that song!  nGo see that friend.,  BABYS STEPS !!

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Wanting to learn the want to learn?

Got this link from the Facebook  page to #thedrummerandthegreatmountain A Adult ADD/ADHD book and podcast .ADD/ADHD My approach on learning has been different. I have been able to recognize the “rushed” anxious feeling while doing a project - removing myself and coming back instead of rushing to completion and not doing my best work. etc. I have also ackoledged my want to learn and try and make steps towards actually doing iot instead of not even trying. I WANT TO LEARN!! The anticiaption of not being able to soak it in or focus and complete is intimidating. I am excited to try this. I really want to get my drivers license.. There is ALOT OF INFORMATION !!  I notice lots of different ways that I ;learn best - Audio. visual instead of trying to read it on my own and get bored easy/  Just like any anxiety we have to jump in full force or it will never happen. Don’t ignore - It’s easy but it’s not accomplishing. Accomplishment gives us that FEEL GOOD feeling that we love so much :P Let me know what you think :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tkm0TNFzIeg&feature=youtu.be

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Exercising  the Completion Muscle!

This year I have been taking babysteps. But any small completeion felt like a HUGE deal for me. Following through. My New Years Resolution goals will be different than most. This will be on my list. I owe it to 2016 for the lessons and growth. http://www.standup8times.com/2016/11/exercising-the-completion-muscle/

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I will be referencing this book alot.  Consider this your ADD/ADHD bible. It’s by the Author Michael Joseph Ferguson

FOLLOW.  LISTEN TO THE PODCASTS I have never felt alone since.

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The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little.

Thomas Merton, Interview with Forbes (via thequotejournals)

Reminder: I will learn to settle for nothing less than little <3

ADD/ADHD I think we challenge self worth a lot. I challenge that I want to do SO MUCH but something pulls back my full potential. Do you feel this pull?? PULL is the best word. Pulling you back. Find quotes to push you forward in anyway! Write a list of positives to PUSH you forward.  Write a list of what makes you so wonderful,  Share that list with me <3  Write at least 10 things! What BIG things do you want to do? How will you fulfill this with the New Year?? Feel good practice! NOW GO !!!

YOU ARE WORTH IT!