I love how Wolfstar fans constantly prove over and over again that they barely have two brain cells to rub together, because I think it’s kind of insane that since yesterday I’ve had loads of them in my DMs talking to me about Remadora as if I were some huge Remadora fan. Like, I’m not even a fan of that ship. I consider Remadora a problematic ship and I’ve explained multiple times why. But whether Remadora is problematic or not, whether I like it or not, it’s canon. It’s canon that Remus Lupin never had an emotional or romantic relationship with anyone before Nymphadora Tonks, it’s canon that Remus Lupin only fell in love with Nymphadora Tonks, and it’s canon that his first serious relationship, his first love and his last love was Nymphadora Tonks. That’s canon. I can like it more or hate it all I want, but it’s still canon. I can’t deny what it is.
So when people talk about Lupin not from an AU and not with the self-awareness that what they’re saying comes from a variation of the character adapted to a crackship like Wolfstar, and then have the audacity to talk about Remadora and Wolfstar as if both were equally fanon ships, comparing them like “Remadora has its issues but Wolfstar has its things too” as if they were remotely equivalent, I think that’s pure delusion. Like genuinely living in a reality detached from the actual text.
You cannot compare Wolfstar —which is a crackship and doesn’t even have solid canon basis— to something canon. At least stuff like Prongsfoot has some canon basis from Sirius toward James in an exaggerated way, you can kind of see where people get it from. But Wolfstar? No. Sirius Black barely paid attention to Remus Lupin unless it was to use him as entertainment or as part of the group chaos. He didn’t see him as a person, he saw him as a toy. During the war he literally suspected Remus of being the traitor, convinced Lily and James not to trust him and to trust Peter instead. And Remus was fully aware of how messed up Sirius could be. When Sirius was accused of murdering Lily and James, Remus —who had witnessed firsthand how deep James and Sirius’s friendship was— still thought it was possible Sirius had actually done it. And you people are telling me they were lovers secretly in love since they were 12? What are you even talking about? Are you drunk?
And look, I have nothing against crackships, okay? What bothers me about Wolfstar and its fandom is that they try to pass it off as canon. They completely rewrite the characters, invent entirely new personalities for them, strip away who they originally were and turn them into unrecognizable caricatures, and then still have the nerve to claim Wolfstar is canon. No, it isn’t. It’s a crackship, like countless others. Tons of people ship crackships and that’s fine, we all do it sometimes, but most of us don’t go around pretending our favorite dynamics are canon just because we personally like them.
And the biggest issue with Wolfstar is that it inserts itself into an already canon relationship where the one who ultimately gets erased is the woman. Either Tonks gets removed from the narrative entirely, turned into a lesbian despite canonically being obsessed with one man, or reduced to some replacement for a male character or literally just a surrogate womb. That’s one of the major problems with these “two men” ships that overwrite canon relationships involving women: the woman gets narratively erased or diminished. That is misogyny.
And what you guys do is misogynistic, because even within your ship between two men you reproduce patriarchal masculine/feminine stereotypes and assign them to one of the characters. So even though it’s technically an m/m ship, what you’re actually reproducing are the most toxic heteronormative relationship dynamics imaginable. One character is hypermasculinized while the other gets turned into a soft feminine twink dressed and coded like a woman. So in the end you’re not subverting heterosexual dynamics at all: you’re reproducing deeply stereotypical and toxic gender roles while pretending it’s somehow progressive. You erase the characters’ actual personalities because they are not like the projections you write in your shitty fanfics, and on top of that you erase a female character from the narrative even though she is canonically the partner of one of the characters you ship. And this doesn’t just happen with Wolfstar, it happens in other fandoms too. And it’s awful. It’s deeply annoying because it’s genuinely problematic.
And then, under the excuse of inclusivity and “it’s a gay ship so if you dislike it you’re homophobic,” what you’re really doing is shutting down criticism of attitudes that are actually deeply misogynistic and, honestly, kind of homophobic too. Because at the end of the day you’re not even representing homosexual relationships, you’re just reproducing heterosexual dynamics with two men instead.
So guys, look, there’s literally a Wolfstar and Remadora tag on my blog. If you want to know more about my opinions on this, you can just click the tag and read everything there. You don’t need to keep asking me the same questions.
Second: Wolfstar is not canon. I do not care what you believe. I do not care what you say. It’s not canon. And it’s not “canon in fanon” either, because fanon does not have a canon or official ships that everyone has to accept as the main ones. If you’re not following canon, then there are no fixed rules, it’s pure anarchy. So when you people try to impose your ship everywhere, barging into other people’s fanart comments like “uhh I prefer Wolfstar,” it’s disrespectful. You’re exhausting. You annoy people. Like genuinely, you insert yourselves into absolutely everything just to make sure everyone knows you ship Wolfstar.
And the version of Wolfstar you know nowadays —the post-All the Young Dudes version— isn’t even the original Wolfstar anymore. At least the original Wolfstar fandom had the decency to preserve the characters’ personalities. You people have completely destroyed Sirius Black and Remus Lupin just to mold them into your own projections as chronically online virgins with no defined tastes could even enjoy this stuff. Like genuinely, you turned Remus Lupin into some fucking alpha male — the tallest guy there, super masculine, this huge bear of a man — when canonically he was a scrawny wreck who hunched in on himself, was ashamed of his own existence and apologized for breathing every five minutes. And Sirius Black — who was basically the embodiment of masculine charisma, insanely self-confident and magnetic, a literal aristocratic heartthrob that girls would obsess over every night — you turned him into some crying twink who spends his life sobbing because his mommy doesn’t accept him wearing crop tops or whatever. Like yeah, because it’s obviously so normal for a 16-year-old at boarding school to show up in crop tops. So there he is crying and needing the big werewolf man to come save him. I mean, come on.
What you’ve basically done is take your horny teenage fantasies —and warped and murdered these characters to fit those fantasies. It’s the exact same thing you did with Jegulus, with Regulus and James. You completely destroyed the characters to force them into your version of a crackship, when the interesting thing about crackships is supposed to be taking two characters who barely interacted — or never interacted — and exploring how their original canonical personalities and character arcs might work together in a new situation. The point is to build from who they canonically are, not to yank personalities out of your ass because you’re projecting your kinks onto them.
And the worst thing about Wolfstar fans is that you try to pass this nonsense off as canon. You even get angry when people ship your “woobified” characters with anyone else, including their literal canon partners. And the same thing happens with Jegulus. You took Lily Evans and turned her into a lesbian, which makes absolutely no sense by the way. Because obviously she can’t end up with Snape since you all hate Snape. So instead she has to be with Mary Macdonald or somehow with Barty Crouch. Apparently she can date a psychotic murderer and torturer, but Severus Snape is where you draw the line. Because, of course, you imagine Snape as ugly, and ugly people apparently don’t fit into your colorful hyper-inclusive fantasy world. So either you make Lily a lesbian or you erase her entirely from the narrative unless she’s needed to give birth to Harry, because obviously James and Regulus need a child together. And instead of adopting or just creating an OC kid, you make Lily have Harry and hand him over to them for some bizarre reason. Like she just exists as an incubator for the gay ship.
Do you realize how deeply fucking problematic and unpleasant this behavior is? The fact that you ship same-gender couples and scream “trans rights” online does not magically make you less bigoted, less problematic or less questionable as people. Because the actual core of your fandom culture is using minorities as aesthetics and instrumentalizing them to get validation and likes online. That’s the reality.
