Took me a minute but I finally think I can articulate why I hate the whole âThis is a psyopâ argument whenever infighting happens (besides the obvious, itâs used to silence people talking about bigotry)
Itâs the refusal to distance from the supposed feds.
Like people will reblog from someone, be informed the person is question has said horrendous shit about trans men and nonbinary people, they will scream about how all this transandrophobia and exorsexism discourse is a government psyop to divide the community and ârealâ queers donât believe those things, then continue reblogging the bigot.
Like, whether you like it or not. Youâre admitting you would rather platform what you (supposedly) believe to be a government agent wanting to tear apart the queer community from inside, then stand with trans men and nonbinary people. Same with all the queer infighting before this.
You would rather be buddies with a fed than with trans men. You would rather be buddies with a fed than with nonbinary people. You would rather be buddies with a fed than with bisexuals. You would rather be buddies with a fed than with asexuals/aromantics. You would rather be buddies with a fed than whatever identity people have decided is this yearâs punching bag.
Honestly I think people should start calling that out. If a person says some infighting is just a psyop then proceeds to reblog from people known for this shit, say theyâre friends with a fed. Cause seemingly pointing out that these people are friends with bigots who laugh at the idea of other queer people dying isnât working, so maybe we should just start saying their friends with feds.
If youâre gonna say transandrophobia is a psyop then Iâm gonna say youâre friends with a fed when you reblog a transandrophobe.
(All use of you is general if not obvious. And sorry if this makes very little sense. I just got off my shift.)
my main issue with "transandrophobia (within the trans community) is a psyop" is that it takes the preseure off of individual trans people and the community to actually make the trans community and trans spaces hospitable to trans men. like when i was a kid the whole deal with bigots in the lgbtq community is that you cant just say "theyre not a real gay person, we dont claim them" when a gay person is bigotted because it takes pressure off of lgbtq people to actually hold bigots in our communities accountable and not accept that sort of treatment for the most oppressed in our communities. when you see a transandrophobic lgbtq person and you say "we dont claim them" youre not actually denouncing transandrophobia and supporting trans men and transmascs, all youre doing is washing your hands of it and claiming that "real" queer/trans people arent bigotted so that you dont have to put in the work to hold the bigots in your communities and spaces accountable
in order to combat bigotry in the lgbtq community, we must first accept and understand that somebody being lgbtq does not exempt them from being bigotted, including to other lgbtq people and even people in their own communities (trans men can also be transandrophobic and its not even that uncommon). saying that they're "not one of us" or are "feds/psyops" doesnt make our communities and spaces safer and more hospitable to trans men and transmascs, they are still in our spaces isolating us from our communities and cutting off our access to social support and allyship. all people are doing when they say that is allowing the lgbtq community to not take responsibility for the transandrophobia and antitransmasculinity in our community and continuing to allow community spaces to be unsafe for trans men and transmascs. yes, real queer and trans people are transandrophobic. its not a psyop, its not (exclusively) terfs pretending to be trans to sow division, there are real queer and trans people who hate trans men and advocate for us to not be able to transition and to be detransitioned, among other (often times very violent) things, and we need to acknowledge that and act accordingly