The Chronically Capable Harm

My name is Harm and I have VACTERL syndrome and CPTSD. I'm a writer, poet, coffee drinker, and cat lover. He/Him

[mistakenlycaughtson]

I’m back I guess

Hello world! I haven’t been on tumblr for....a few years now. But I am getting back into it in case things happen with social media.

I love TIKTOK, but with the restrict act, it might go away along with a lot of our amendment rights...to which I might just delete facebook and IG. (I don’t use FB anyway).

Some things about me? I am 29 years old, I am a trans man, I’ve been 3 years on T 1 year post op top surgery. I work for a non-profit for people with disabilities, and have disabilities myself.

I love coffee, weed, collecting bottles, fidget toys, I love the feeling of squishmellows though I don’t have many. I love technology, chocolate, and horror. I have my own cannabis education podcast, though I don’t always update it.

With things going on in the government, it’s hard for me to trust anything now a days. I’m considering going back to veganism, doing things more holistic, and when I have the energy maybe “prepping” myself for something hunger-games esc. Learning how to run, get in shape, maybe learn how to use a weapon. Even if I can’t own one due to mental health issues.

Feel free to follow, ask questions, connect.

[the-suicide-effect]

"And the sad part is I was getting better.

And now I'm not"

[p-a-p-e-r-t-o-w-n-s]

Autumn 🍂 is here !!

[caribcreed]

[soberscientistlife]

That part...women die.

[liberalsarecool]

The time limit is picked, at random, by a Republican man. It's his opinion based on anecdotal stories he heard from other conservative men with no medical background.

[rapidpunches]

"SURVIVING"

[fluffiest-fox-kira]

Oh this isnt normal, huh

[thepersonalquotes]

consistency‚ communication and assurance shouldn’t have to be asked for

[thoughtkick]

“When a person tells you you hurt them, you don’t get to decide you didn’t.”

— Louis C.K.

[everythingfox]

Thank you come again

(via)

[drmajalis]

Too good to stay on twitter

[hollowboobtheory]

idk when we decided that explaining yourself shouldn't be part of an apology but like. if someone was a dick to me and apologizes but I still don't understand why they did it I'm not gonna feel any better

[hollowboobtheory]

"Sorry for hurting your feelings earlier. I was trying to say x, but I guess it came across wrong. I don't think you're stupid."

or

"Sorry I snapped at you. I didn't get enough sleep last night so my patience is a little low today."

is a better apology than

"I want you to know that I am sorry that my actions offended you. I take full accountability for my actions and I am listening and learning. I hear you."

[wilwheaton]

[indecisive-pandas-deactivated20]

[sunderlights]

thank you @fangirl-ofrandomness for including @slickshoesareyoucrazy ’s tags!

[cthulhuhoe]

#dreamlightvalley #animalcrossing #meme

[permanently-sprained-ankle]

Accessible bathrooms are more than just “a big stall”

There are a lot of disabled people. And a lot of disabilities. Therefore, there are a lot of ways to make a bathroom accessible.

An actually accessible bathroom would have:

A large amount of space that can accommodate mobility aids, medical equipment, a personal care assistant, and/or a service animal.

Sturdy grab bars around the toilet.

An emergency pulls string that calls EMS if a disabled person has fallen and injured themselves (this is common in the UK).

An adult changing table.

A trash can for medical-related waste, such as catheters, -ostomy bags, etc.

A safe sharps-disposal bin.

Floors that aren’t slippery.

And tbh, there’s probably more things that can be made accessible. But those are the bare minimum.

[fine-ass-fatshion]

This is not like a fully completed thought but yk

So I've done my first aid + CPR a few times. And every single time I try and bring up scenarios for fat folks

Specifically like 'what if someone is too large for me to wrap my arms around then to do the heimleich'

And its incredibly rare I get a decent answer.

How absolutely insane is it that me, as a fat person, is asking how to have MY life saved or to save ANOTHER life, is an impossible feat if someone is fat.

Most of the time they tell me to 'just try anyways uwu'

There has got to be a better option.

[whiskeydickclaws]

From a first aid and CPR trainer, who is also fat.

The heimleich is scientifically as effective as slapping someone VERY hard on the back. The only reason it's so well taught is the man that invented it did a lot of great PR for himself. It's also a bit easier for smaller framed people to get the necessary force in, because people are often extremely scared to hurt people, even in life threatening situations.

With larger bodied people, whether they be fat, tall, muscular, etc. If you cannot get your arms around them, literally just slap the shit out of their shoulders. You want hard, open palmed slaps right in the center of the shoulders or slightly below.

If they are too tall for you to reach that high, guide them to lean over the back of a chair, and then slap slap slap slap slap.

It's been proven to be just as effective through many studies. It just doesn't have a trademarked name and a dramatic effect in film.

If you have to do CPR on a larger bodied person, again, fat, body builder, tall and broad, whoever, the trick to finding where you want to put your hands if going to be to take your hand and shove it in their armpit. No seriously. Put your hand in their armpit, then drag it in a straight line towards yourself until you're in the center of the chest, then put your other hand beneath that one. This is where you push. Then you are going to move the arm closest to you out of the way so you can get closer to them, and get the leverage you need to press down for compressions. The more of your body weight that is over your hands, the better the compression will be. Act like you are trying desperately to pack the last of your clothes in a suitcase, and just slam down hard on their chest.

They will make *horrible* noises. You might even break ribs.

But a broken rib is better than being dead.

One day, perhaps, other CPR and First Aid instructors will actually know and teach this shit. But the medical field is filled with people who don't know, don't care, or just outright hate fat people. So while this information won't fix your complaint, I do hope it helps someone out there with saving their loved ones, should it ever be needed.

[thoughtportal]

This is SESTA FOSTA all over again and so many people are falling for it.

[prince-luffy]

I truly hate the word "unalive." There are so many other euphemisms that fictional Italian mobsters worked so hard to provide you with and you just ignore them.

[warrior-of-the-runes]

beautiful compilation from @orc-sign-language