Mocha's Sassy life

Just that. All the interesting goings on and hub bub of life.

[artofthecatt]

You better fuckin believe it [x]

[campfire-whisky]

Exactly how I like my affirmations, vaguely threatening

[fantasies-of-a-dominant]

When I eat you, I want it all…

I want your sweet nectar all over my face. I want the heady, intoxicating smell of you deep within my nostrils. I want the delectable taste of your cunt to flood my mouth. I want you to wriggle and squirm. I want you to be overcome with sensation. I want you swearing, and gritting your teeth. I want you grabbing my hair to steady yourself. I want you to be so sodden with desire, lust and pleasure, that the bed is soaked with you. I want your orgasm to consume you, wave after wave of satisfaction rendering you breathless, as I continue to lick you through them. I want to feast on you.

When I eat you, I want it all!

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[mochahumpsalatte]

Yes.. Every time..

[dominantlife]

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

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Always a reblog when it crosses my dash because there is a lot of good info here.

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There comes a time in our lives where the simple things that we do or try to do to unwind simply are not helpful and do not work. One may like to go fishing to relax, one may like to go for a nice run or even a bike ride… But there are some things that are needed within our minds that sometimes we do not even realize.

On the other hand, we can have quite an acute awareness of what’s going on and what is needed but not be able to actually get that thing… In the case for submissive‘s and Littles, it may seem counterproductive or even strange… But a good therapy spanking every once in a while can do the job to bring them realigned and centered with them selves.

When we think about spanking we often look too deeply at it as being simply a punishment or something negative that has to be done for correction. Therapy spanking though goes very deep on a visceral level to connect with the inner being of a submissive or little, and give them that emotional, mental, and psychological readjustment that they need but yet do not know how to find via typical methods.

A good therapy spanking can do a lot to relieve stress, anxiety, and other emotions and feelings that cause frustration and problems in their lives.

So how does one go about the action of doing it properly without making it into a punishment or a negative action?

Step one; understand what it is and isn’t . Punishment and therapy spankings are two completely different things.

Punishment is a sad but necessary thing in the lives of a lot of couples within our lifestyle, and it has its own set of benefits. But punishing properly is often overlooked in favor of just doing the action itself.

When ever you go to punish your submissive or little, a certain set of actions must be put into place to make it proper without doing any damage beyond the physical.

1.) explain the offense that was committed and why it was a mistake.

I choose the word mistake because that’s what it is… It may not necessarily be wrong, and it’s definitely not a failure… It’s a mistake. Mistakes are the way that we learn, mistakes are expected, mistakes are what make us better and stronger because we can move forward from them.

Yet mistakes need correction… And that correction should always fit the mistake itself. If you do find yourself to the point where a spanking as a punishment is needed, then you should thoroughly lay out the reasons why before hand and explain why the mistake is detrimental to either your submissive/little or the relationship… The future… And so on.

Simply telling her that you’re going to punish her and then going through with the act is borderline abuse and doesn’t do anything but make her fear you in a negative way and see you as a person who has no control or discipline over their own self

2.) deliver the punishment

And as I said before, the punishment should be appropriate and in line with the mistake. Don’t go overboard and don’t lose control of yourself in favor of “making her better”. Because there comes a point when all you’re doing is abusing her for your own pleasure rather than making her a better person.

3.) after care

Always always always perform aftercare and make sure that it’s much more than what the punishment was. Skipping aftercare or slighting her on it is only going to do more damage in the long run.

Love on her and explain to her why you had to spank her and how it also hurts you. Show her that it was necessary and tell her and explain how it’s going to help her grow and be a better person and improve her and your relationship. Give her justification for your actions instead of simply just doing them like some amateur moron who watched Fifty Shades of Grey and thinks that’s the standard.

So to recap… Punishment goes along with correction. Punishment goes along with mistakes. Punishment goes along with rule breaking and other similar actions.

The therapy spanking though, is purely for their benefit and purely for pleasure.

How to conduct the therapy spanking.

Step one; preparation

In my opinion they therapy spanking is something that should be asked for. And not really administered on the terms of the daddy or Dom. It should be something that is seen as a need and then discussed before hand, if not requested by the submissive or little.

Therapy spanking sessions should always be prefaced with discussion and a lot of planning. She will tell you that she needs it and then you need to spend some time caring for her and doing pre-session after care… Which may sound a little strange, but she will need to be put into a certain headspace to differentiate what’s happening between therapy and punishment.

Talk to your submissive or little about what’s been going on lately, what’s been causing all of the stress and anxiety… Tell them that you recognize their needs and why you recognize them because every little and submissive though they may enjoy the same thing have different needs for that same thing. Explain to her with great detail about how much you love her and want her to feel good and feel right and properly set up with the scene for the actions that are about to take place.

Therapy spanking is for her. Solely for her. It’s not about you or what you want or your pleasure at all… It is for your submissive alone and for her therapeutic purposes.

Step two; the action itself and how to go about it

When you conduct a spanking for punishment your submissive will often be very anxious or even scared of what’s about to happen. In the occurrence of the therapy spanking she should be well relaxed and ready to receive it after your proper preparation. Allow her to get into a comfortable position with out your physical assistance. Begin by rubbing their back and bottom and legs, saying sweet words, how much you love them, and so on… Because a therapy spanking can be a rather intimate action and SHOULD be an intimate action. It’s going to release a lot of endorphins, emotions… And more in such a way that will give you or submissive or little relief.

When you feel that they are properly relaxed and ready you can begin your spanking. With a therapy spanking I recommend using only your hand, the reason being that after you give a good swat, you can then follow it up with rubs and grabs and affection. The use of a paddle or belt will only inhibit the speed with which you are able to do this and will take the intimacy away. Because there is nothing like skin on skin contact to make closeness come together.

For added effect you can also light candles and dim the lights and put on relaxing music. Allow her to cuddle her stuffy or pillow or whatever will make her more comfortable in the process.

Spank slow… One strike at a time with lots of rubbing and ongoing after care in between, gradually picking up the pace in such a way where you are monitoring and paying attention to her actions. Listen to her body and go accordingly with it until you are up to a point where you can be freely spanking her.

Pay attention to her body and how it’s reacting, especially her bottom. Find your line between what’s needed and what’s too much and stick to it without compromising because it’s not about you. It’s not for you. And you are simply the instrument which is delivering the therapy that they need.

Step three; after care

It goes without saying and I really should not have to reiterate but after care is definitely needed and will only improve both you, your relationship, and the intimacy that exists between you. Have your aftercare kit standing by with a blanket, her stuffy, and other items that will make her feel safe and secure. Love on her and kiss her and tell her sweet things. Tell her what a great job she did and how much you enjoyed making her feel better. Give her the treats and sweets that she wants… And overall just use it as a time to cuddle and lavish her with love.

Above all else be slow and patient with everything… it’s going to make the difference between cuddling the rest of the night and listening to her cry her eyes out on the bathroom floor with the door locked until she passes out.

Thank you for reading and learning. Be sure to reblog for others to do the same.

- Mister

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THE DD/lg DADDY SURVIVAL KIT - PART ONE

I often get questions that go a little something like this…

“Mister, I am a new daddy and have no clue what to do… how can I be a good daddy?”

“Mister my daddy is new and he needs help, can you help him?”

and so forth and so on…

Well, outside of having him run through every single post on my tumblr… I have devised a daddy survival kit. Just a little something to get your feet wet and hopefully grasp an understanding on your role, what its all about, and how to make it better.

#1. The essentials (Trust, Respect, and Compromise)

Understand right now: DD/lg & CG/l are a subculture of BDSM. A very real and very adult lifestyle and kink. Its not for children, and its not for the weak, lazy, or sexual degenerate.

This is a relationship of mutual action and consent between two adults who are able to make decisions on their own in accordance with trust and respect towards each other. Both share the same traits, themese, elements and so on… but both are very much different at the same time.

Trust and Respect are earned. Not taken, not assumed.

Her submission is a gift. A sacred prize, a priceless treasure and SHE CHOOSES to give it to you once you have shown that you have the standards and measures its going to take to be her caregiver and Daddy.

And thats exactly what you are… her caregiver. When you are blessed enough for her to decide you are the one she will name Daddy, you need to wake up really quick and realize shes now your responsibility, and not your slave. Your responsibility to take care, to be there for, when shes upset about something, when shes having a panic attack, when its 3am and she has a nightmare, when she has trouble coping with anxiety, and her sexual abuse, and adult things, and life in general. When she needs a snack, or a hug… when shes crying and you dont know why, when shes bouncing all over the room, when she sees that new bear, or doll, or game, or pretty pair of socks and screams “daddy I want!”, when shes excited to show you her colorings, ALL THE TIME… things like naughty playtime and so on are all benefits and secondary priorities to the aforementioned.

And before we go any further please realize: There is a difference between age play and the DD/lg lifestyle. One is simply a fetish that people enjoy, and one is a way of life that continues once it leaves the bedroom.

#2. Communicate

The largest downfall of any DD/lg relationship and really any relationship with anyone at all is the inability or outright refusal to properly communicate. Many times, the little will believe its not her place to speak up and let her Daddy know whats going on.

And many times the Daddy thinks hes so elite in his ivory tower that she should not dare speak anything against him.

BOTH OF THESE ARE LUNACY.

This relationships is a two way street in which both parties are WORKING TOGETHER. Yes the little is in submission to her Daddy, but shes not his doormat or footstool. She is his beautiful princess, to be treated with outright respect, love, compassion and mercy. She should be able to speak about her feelings and be given a safe place to do so. She should be able to express when she is sad, hurt, confused, uncomfortable, etc. and be given a safe place to do so. She should be able to reveal herself and her vulnerabilities without apprehension and have a safe place to do so.

Do you see a common word here… Daddy? Safe.

Because its your job to make her feel that way, NO MATTER WHAT.

Learn how to talk to each other, and above that… learn how to listen, not just hear, but listen. In fact, carve out an hour each week to just sit and talk about things. Get a progress report, form a plan for whats difficult. ATTACK THE PROBLEM, NOT THE PERSON.

#3. Understand your little

I get S.O.S messages all the time from frantic daddies who cant fathom why their little is doing what they are doing, and I always say: “Have you talked to them about it?”

Understanding why your little does what she does can sometimes be like trying to understand Chinese arithmetic. But simply getting to know her along with knowing some simple things could shed light on the subject.

As I have said before, theres a difference between age play and this lifestyle. Porn. media and other ignorant outlets like 50 shades of garbage dump are going to have you believe that its all about Dominance and submission and whips and chains and leather and paddles… and while those things are fun, they are a far representation from whats really going on here.

Age play:

The act of getting dressed up in the clothing of your choice, then acting out a scene which most commonly involves some kind of incest related roleplay, or Husband and babysitter, etc where there is an acted out age gap and taboo sexual interaction of some sort.

This is not what your little is all about.

While she may enjoy the sexual aspects, because after all shes an adult (or at least she should be) that isn’t what motivates her and acts as the driving force behind her being little.

Most commonly, its regressive behavior.

Regression (re·gres·sion \ri-ˈgre-shən\)

reversion to an earlier mental or behavioral level

the act of reasoning backward

An action of travelling back in time

A psycho-therapeutic method whereby healing is facilitated by inducing the patient to act out behavior of an earlier developmental stage

Whats that? Healing? psycho-therapeutic? earlier developmental stage?

See the pattern here? See why she slips into little space? See why she does the things she does?

Its simply because when she gets into little space, or acts little, or does little things… shes coping. Most often we mentally return to places in our lives just before big or traumatic events have taken place. Back to times when things were safer, easier, when anxiety and stress were not a factor due to an event, action or occurrence.

Now this can be for any number of reasons and we really make ourselves look stupid when we try to avoid the elephants in the room: daddy issues, abandonment, sexual assault, abuses of all kinds (verbal, physical, otherwise), feelings of inadequacy through childhood, never feeling good enough, being neglected, being made to feel second best, and so on and so forth… the list can really be endless. In fact, many middle children from families of five typically become littles because they end up victim to “second child syndrome”

They are simply stuck in the middle between the first born who was practically worshiped, and the third born who gets spoiled and treated like royalty. By the time the second child comes along, the parents are tired, have been there and done that, and a lot of the times just go through the motions.

We as children automatically desire and seek both attention and discipline from our parents. Girls especially look to their Fathers as the pillar of stability in the household, while also looking to their mothers as the example of the woman they should become. When these factors are skewed in any fashion…. they will seek what they need in alternative ways.

which leads me to…

Kink/Aesthetic:

And some of us are of course attracted to the aesthetic and kink that go along with the lifestyle. The image of a younger girl in a baby doll dress with a teddy bear and a pacifier can invoke a plethora of different thoughts and emotions in someone. Everything from an overwhelming sense of needing to be protective, to naughty thoughts and behavior.

And lets get this out of the way: Yes, there are pedophiles within our community. and no it doesnt make you one for being into this lifestyle.

Most of the stigma that surrounds DDlg/CGl to begin with and really the whole BDSM community to begin with revolves around the way its portrayed in media, online, in pornography and the general ignorance of those who do not care to properly educate themselves in the first place.

It also stems from minors getting their hands on technology so in early in life as a babysitter, that they often end up venturing unsupervised down the wrong paths in an attempt to find attention and validation… often running into scumbags and not knowing any better. So then they end up getting chewed up and spit out and land on my doorstep where they are now broken and defeated and ultimately feel like they will never be good enough for anyone.

They end up getting mixed up with perverted wolves in sheep’s clothing who take advantage of them, ruin them and then move on.

Its one of the reasons I do what I do in the first place. Because people need proper education and warning. They need to know exactly what this lifestyle is all about… and they need proper mentor-ship in the form of someone who is going to lay it out to them in a true way while also teaching them the right from wrong. (because no one was ever there to do it for them in the first place)

That wraps up part one of this series. As always, my ask and inbox are open for questions and discussion. feel free to reblog for others to benefit from.

- Mister

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This is an ongoing and constantly updated list. Bookmark it, like it, reblog it, and check it often

DD/lg 101 - The Basics

The Princess Journal - for rules and structure

THE SAFE WORD - Safety is our first concern

The importance of Aftercare

Punishment 101 - A gentleman's guide

- Punishment, and the abused Daddy

Staying safe: new to the lifestyle?

SUB DROP - The aftermath of a scene

DADDY DROP - The aftermath of the scene on Doms

The DD/lg identity crisis - Who/What am I?

Feminism in the dynamic: Can a Dom be a feminist?

Confidence building

The attitude of gratitude - Confidence building 101

Truth and Lies: methods for confidence and structure

The labels we live with: how you are lying to yourself

THE GOLD STANDARD: Does it exist?

The Success Journal - Methods for daily confidence

Technology for littles

The Booster Buddy

How to find a Daddy

Spotting the Bad Daddy

How to find the “perfect” daddy - Part One

The Mad Daddy - are you in an abusive relationship?

Hero or Zero: finding the right Dom

Common issues in DD/lg relationships

From DOM to DUMB: What to do when your “Dom” is failing you

Other peoples property: A primer on polyamory

Helpful information for Daddys and Doms

Dominance 101: are you a leader or a boss?

Therapy spanking: The intimacy of impact

Hostage play: Consensual non-consent

Do or do not: there is no try.

The Daily: A fun task for structure

Daddy May I pee? : A fun rule for structure and control

Collaring: Its time to get serious

THE NEW DADDY/DOM SURVIVAL GUIDE

PART ONE: THE BASICS

PART TWO: Knowing what she needs

PART THREE: Stucture, rules, etc. 

Understanding your little: little space 101

last updated on 11/07/19 - reblog for others to benefit from.

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The Knightly Pleasures podcast

Are you looking for some new podcasts to listen to in the new year? Do you like romance? Are you over 18? Have you been in search of erotic content since the Tumblr purge? Then I have a podcast for you.

The Knightly Pleasures podcast: Erotica for Women by The Grey Knight (@greyknighterotica on Tumblr and @realgreyknight on Twitter) is a podcast of erotic audio roleplays that help inspire inner strength, confidence, and positive body image.

The Knightly Pleasures podcast has something for everyone from soft and sweet boyfriend experience audio roleplays, to rougher roleplays with a focus on BDSM dynamics, and everything in between.

The Knightly Pleasures podcast has over 150 episodes and updates on Thursdays. The podcast can be found on Spotify, Podbean, Google Play Music, and iTunes. Just search for "Knightly Pleasures podcast".

If you want a non-erotic audio experience, The Grey Knight also has a series of Boyfriend Experience audios on YouTube

ASMR Roleplay (Boyfriend experience) - YouTube

An audio series in which I roleplay your boyfriend. I do my best to encourage and support you, as the listener, no matter what you are going

The Grey Knight also occasionally streams video games on YouTube. His streaming schedule and more information can be found on his website:

I want to make you feel hot, flush, sexy and capable. I want to make you feel like you've always desired. Close the door to the world and le

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His Words

I’m here. It’s me. I found you. You’re ok now. I have you. Trust me.

Don’t worry about them. Ignore them. Hold onto me. I’ll protect you. Focus on my voice. Close your eyes. 

There’s only us. Lean against me. I have you. You’re so beautiful. You are mine. You feel so good. You intoxicate me.

I’m getting you out of here. Taking you home. I’m going to touch you tonight. Hold you. Explore your gorgeous skin. Take care of you. Kiss you and relax you. Just a little longer, baby. 

I’m with you…..forever.

gif credit @italian-erotic

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This is an ongoing and constantly updated list. Bookmark it, like it, reblog it, and check it often

DD/lg 101 - The Basics

The Princess Journal - for rules and structure

THE SAFE WORD - Safety is our first concern

The importance of Aftercare

Punishment 101 - A gentleman's guide

- Punishment, and the abused Daddy

Staying safe: new to the lifestyle?

SUB DROP - The aftermath of a scene

DADDY DROP - The aftermath of the scene on Doms

The DD/lg identity crisis - Who/What am I?

Feminism in the dynamic: Can a Dom be a feminist?

Confidence building

The attitude of gratitude - Confidence building 101

Truth and Lies: methods for confidence and structure

The labels we live with: how you are lying to yourself

THE GOLD STANDARD: Does it exist?

The Success Journal - Methods for daily confidence

Technology for littles

The Booster Buddy

How to find a Daddy

Spotting the Bad Daddy

How to find the “perfect” daddy - Part One

The Mad Daddy - are you in an abusive relationship?

Hero or Zero: finding the right Dom

Common issues in DD/lg relationships

From DOM to DUMB: What to do when your “Dom” is failing you

Other peoples property: A primer on polyamory

Helpful information for Daddys and Doms

Dominance 101: are you a leader or a boss?

Therapy spanking: The intimacy of impact

Hostage play: Consensual non-consent

Do or do not: there is no try.

The Daily: A fun task for structure

Daddy May I pee? : A fun rule for structure and control

Collaring: Its time to get serious

THE NEW DADDY/DOM SURVIVAL GUIDE

PART ONE: THE BASICS

PART TWO: Knowing what she needs

PART THREE: Stucture, rules, etc. 

Understanding your little: little space 101

last updated on 11/07/19 - reblog for others to benefit from.

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snapchat: mistersbeard

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This is an ongoing and constantly updated list. Bookmark it, like it, reblog it, and check it often

DD/lg 101 - The Basics

The Princess Journal - for rules and structure

THE SAFE WORD - Safety is our first concern

The importance of Aftercare

Punishment 101 - A gentleman's guide

- Punishment, and the abused Daddy

Staying safe: new to the lifestyle?

SUB DROP - The aftermath of a scene

DADDY DROP - The aftermath of the scene on Doms

The DD/lg identity crisis - Who/What am I?

Feminism in the dynamic: Can a Dom be a feminist?

Confidence building

The attitude of gratitude - Confidence building 101

Truth and Lies: methods for confidence and structure

The labels we live with: how you are lying to yourself

THE GOLD STANDARD: Does it exist?

The Success Journal - Methods for daily confidence

Technology for littles

The Booster Buddy

How to find a Daddy

Spotting the Bad Daddy

How to find the “perfect” daddy - Part One

The Mad Daddy - are you in an abusive relationship?

Hero or Zero: finding the right Dom

Common issues in DD/lg relationships

From DOM to DUMB: What to do when your “Dom” is failing you

Other peoples property: A primer on polyamory

Helpful information for Daddys and Doms

Dominance 101: are you a leader or a boss?

Therapy spanking: The intimacy of impact

Hostage play: Consensual non-consent

Do or do not: there is no try.

The Daily: A fun task for structure

Daddy May I pee? : A fun rule for structure and control

Collaring: Its time to get serious

THE NEW DADDY/DOM SURVIVAL GUIDE

PART ONE: THE BASICS

PART TWO: Knowing what she needs

PART THREE: Stucture, rules, etc. 

Understanding your little: little space 101

last updated on 11/07/19 - reblog for others to benefit from.

Mistersbeard - Mistersbeard.tumblr.com

snapchat: mistersbeard

[mochahumpsalatte]

Such happiness with this selection of works! ❤️ ❤️

[omghotmemes]

“What if we made them thicc?”

[greyknighterotica]

Kittens

The last few shows have had a rough introduction and today my shit went down yet again and I had to do extra errands.

But nothings stops me from getting excited over a live show, so I better see you there, it’s here, bring a request, throw money in my G-String, tell me how much you want me and let’s keep the jubilee rolling.

[mochahumpsalatte]

See you all there!

[urxputa-deactivated20180319]

How to keep your girl happy:

Step 1: Make her laugh. Step 2: Make her moan.

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Step 3: Buy her food

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Step 4: Fuck her hard

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Step 5: trEAT her right

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Step 6: Make her cum first

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Step 7: Play with her hair until she falls asleep

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Step 8: Text her back fast

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Step 9: respect her

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Step 10: make her feel special

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Step 11: don’t lie to her

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Step 12: Love her with all of your heart

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Step 13: kiss her forehead

[upoulii]

Step 14: hug her

[anapthras]

Step 15 : stay.

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Wow the last one hit home

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THIS!!!!!!

[lesbians-in-heaven]

Listen to her.

[artfulthrobber]

Seems like common sense to me, but lets get this to the ends of tumblr and beyond.

[mochahumpsalatte]

All are true

[greyknighterotica]

Tip show, 10 eastern

It’s here.

It’s free.

I read your requests.

All proceeds go into the moving fund.

Can’t wait to see you there.

[mochahumpsalatte]

It's time!!! Come join us! ❤️ Jack is in rare form!

[mistersbeard-deactivated2022041]

THE GOLD STANDARD

(heres a hint, it doesn’t exist)

Today at the beard we take some time to talk about something I have been getting a lot of messages about, and try to put to rest the common misconceptions and fears that many littles have about their body image in something that I like to refer to as The Gold Standard… or at least, how people perceive it to be.

I commonly get a question that goes a little something like this:

“Mister, I am afraid no one like me and I cannot be a little because I am (short)(tall)(fat)(tattooed)(black)(white)(red)(asian)(indian)(skinny)(big)(bald)(trans)(etc etc and so forth and so on)… what do i do?”

What you do is embrace who you are and love yourself… because the fact is, theres a bajillion people in this world, and if you work hard enough you will find the one that absolutely loves your shape, size, habits, body art, and so on.

Its an absolute shame.. OUTRIGHT SHAME that in this day and age with media, magazines and “beauty” community has created such a gold standard for what a woman has to look like because the fact of the matter is, its inaccurate when compared to what you might actually see if you go outside once in a while and explore your community… or if you spend enough time in our community.

Littles come in all shapes and sizes, creeds and colors, hair lengths, and so on.. AND THEY ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL.

You know why?

BECAUSE NONE OF THAT STUFF DETERMINES IF YOU ARE A LITTLE OR NOT… JUST THE SAME WAY IT DOESN’T DETERMINE IF YOU ARE A DADDY.

I know some incredible dd/lg couples that are “fat and happy”, I know some that are ripped and hit the gym every day, I know some who are average and loving life… and I know littles of every shape and size, short and tall, plump and petite… and guess what? Someone out there… is into it, no matter what it is.

We all have our fetishes… we all have what gets us going and turns us on… Go to google and type in “fetish list” and you will find everything from handcuffs to necrophilia. You’ll also find tall… and short… and skinny.. and bbw… and punk rock.. and goth… and tattoos… and piercings.. and black girls.. and white girls… and nerds… and glasses… and chubby… and gaunt..and bondage.. and spanking…. . and everything you could imagine.

When we throw ourselves into a box and self sabotage the means to our happiness by locking out the rest of the world in willful ignorance, we are only doing damage to both ourselves and the potential person out there waiting to discover us.

I really enjoy meditating.. sitting quietly for long amounts of time with nothing but the stillness in the air and my thoughts running free. But some LITTLES may find that boring and prefer music.. some DADDYS might hate music and want netflix.. some SWITCHES might hate it all and find themselves wrapped up in a book… BUT THEY ARE ALL STILL PART OF THE COMMUNITY.

I’ve been around a while in this lifestyle, and the pure BDSM lifestyle before it. I have owned, trained and fostered many a different type of sub and little..

One was 5′8 and 220 lbs.. AND BEAUTIFUL.

Another was 5′11 with the body of a runner.. AND BEAUTIFUL.

Another was 5′1 and average looking.. AND BEAUTIFUL.

Another was 5′4 and skinny as a board.. AND BEAUTIFUL.

Another was hourglass shaped.. AND BEAUTIFUL.

and so forth and so on…..

and they all had different colors of hair, different body art, voices, ways they walked, personas and attitudes, personalities, clothing choices, music they liked, things they liked to do.. one was black.. one was mixed, one was from the Philippines.. some were younger.. some were around my age… some were survivors of abuse.. some had normal non eventful lives.. some liked punk rock.. some liked rap.. some liked Tchaikovsky…one was even deaf.. AND NONE OF THAT WAS THE FACTOR IN WHETHER OR NOT THEY WERE A SUB OR LITTLE.

It was whats inside… that yearning, burning passionate desire to be their true selves and embrace the being that exists within so that they can feel free and happy, regardless of whether they were owned.. regardless of their shape and size.. regardless of if they spoke a certain way or not. Being a little or a sub wasn’t and isn’t defined by the culture they exist in, or what they see in the papers, or whats portrayed in the media… its defined by how they have come embrace their true self that lives inside. Just as I did my freshman year of college when after a conversation with who would become my first sub… my eyes were opened… everything finally made sense.. and I was awakened.

And it didn’t matter that I was 6′4 and 220 lbs.

Because I would have become the same person if I was 6′4 or 5′4… if i was 220lbs, or if i was 420lbs. I would still be Mister…. and you… are still you. no matter how much weight you gain, lose, how tall you get, the amount of stuffies you have, the clothes you wear… your access to toys… if you are in a wheelchair or confined to a bed… you… are still… YOU.

And you are beautiful.

Feel free to reblog for those who would benefit.

[mochahumpsalatte]

Needed this one today. Thank you @mistersbeard 🤗 ❤️ 🤗

[mochahumpsalatte]

Worked with some awesome pups today for a wonderful cause #bestfriendanimalsociety