[elminx]

I’ve noticed some posts around about how you can’t romanticize your life during a fascist regime and while I deeply sympathize with this sentiment, I want you to try to understand that’s what they want you to believe.

Fascism thrives best in the cesspool of hopelessness. They want us so confused and hopeless that we give in. When you give in, you don’t fight back.

If you wait for life to look good to do the things that bring you joy; life will still be bad - you will just have less joy.

As someone who has struggled with my mental health a lot for the last thirty years, I know this struggle firsthand. And changing this belief system - the one where you spend all of your time expecting bad things so you won’t be surprised when they happen - it’s the hardest work that I have ever done. And I’m not perfect; I still have setbacks. I still experience really real fears about the state of the world and the US, in particular, because that’s where I live.

But I made a vow to myself that I will not let the choices of others ruin my life. When I made that vow, I was thinking of my parents - but it applies to the state of the government right now, too.

There are still flowers in my garden, and ripe tomatoes, and it’s almost pick-your-own apples season, and I have plans with my friends to go to as many cemetery ghost walks as we can find this October.

I still deserve to live. I still deserve to laugh. I still deserve to love. I still deserve to be as happy as I can be.

And you do, too.

[amaliazeichnerin]

This. Regarding this topic, there is a recommendable essay by T. Thorn Coyle, "Flinging Joy in the Face of Oppression".

Here is a short quote from it: "Fighting tyranny is something we can do every single day.

It starts by noticing that the world is a beautiful, complex place. It starts by centering around love.

To fight tyranny is to say, “We are here, and we shall not comply with orders or actions that diminish us.”

To fight tyranny is, to quote Emma Goldman, to insist upon “freedom, the right to self-expression, everybody's right to beautiful, radiant things." "

[koothebird-deactivated20260418]

Hey did anyone notice that the grass is a little greener and all of the birds’ singing is even more beautiful today, or is that just me.

[directactionforhope]

Not only is having intergenerational friendships literally not creepy, imho it's actually essential. You NEED friends who are older to do things like help you when there's a problem with your taxes, and give you job advice, and relationship advice, and especially if you are part of a marginalized group, and especially if you're part of a marginalized group and don't have contact with a ton of other members of it, you need older friends to show you that there IS a future for you, for people like you, and what it looks like, and the way it doesn't even have to involve turning into your parents

[hiccup-queen]

conversely, you need friends who are younger to help introduce you to new ideas. You need friends who are younger to drag you out to try some adventure because they thought it looked cool. You need younger friends to help you fix problems, because they may have faced something similar in the past! You need younger friends to keep you up to date on slang so that you can embarrass your teenage family members by intentionally misusing it.

Cross-generational friendships are not some weird sin. My best friend is nineteen years older than I am - im closer in age to her children than I am to her. She's still my best fucking friend.

[genderkoolaid]

having friends who are older than you helps inoculate you against ageism towards older people.

having friends who are younger than you helps inoculate you against ageism towards younger people.

you need to be able to see people of all ages as people you live in a community with, people who are similar to how you once were or will be, people you can learn from and people you can teach.

[lastoneout]

Sorry we really went from free the nipple, take back the night, slut walks, and ending gender/sex segregation in sports being fucking milquetoast feminism 101 concepts to fucking girl dinner and "I just worry about fairness if we let trans girls play against cis ones" and "it was right of that woman to call the cops on a black man for existing near here in public during the day time because men are all violent monsters" and "radical feminism isn't transphobic we just need to kill all men including trans ones those oppressive traitors" and I will legit never be able to be normal about it. What the FUCK happened. I'd say I wonder what the feminists of my youth would say about this but I'm one and lemme tell ya I want to throw up. Go fucking read bell hooks or do something else useful please because all of this learned helplessness, gender essentialism, and transphobia dressed up as feminism is actively holding us back.

[cetitanhasmoved]

It's so crazy how "Don't feed the trolls" was like the Motto of the internet & in forum culture of the 00s and early 10s and now you log onto a certain website and it's just an endless sea of people pouring gruel into the troll trough day in day out and no one seems to realize or care that their internet experience being a constant deluge of misery and bad faith discussion might in fact be their own fault

[mahgck]

you have to outlive donald trump

[mahgck]

imagine how funny the internet will be on the day he dies.

[omegaversereloaded]

Divorce seems to radicalize american men in a way that needs to be studied

[omegaversereloaded]

A divorced american man will join a right wing terror group because he didnt get custody of the kids he didnt take care of at all

[omegaversereloaded]

An american man will have an affair with a colleague, get caught, get divorced, and join isis

[ficklefeatherflaunter]

Intelligent words from @junequeer

[status-quo-hater]

I need perisex people to understand that the 'corrective' surgeries done on intersex children are nothing like bottom surgeries for trans people. Not just because of the lack of consent, but also because it is literally not the same surgery.

[status-quo-hater]

Bottom surgeries for trans people are done with the intent to maintain function and sensation in line with what the individual wants, they are functional just as much as they are cosmetic.

IGM on the other hand is purely cosmetic. It is done for the comfort of the parents due to the violent biases against intersex people sterily written into medical protocols. Visibly intersex genitalia is seen as already being faulty and disgusting; therefore anything done to change it would be an improvement, regardless of the side effects.

[status-quo-hater]

I need you to understand how they speak about what they do to us.

[status-quo-hater]

I'm 20 years old and I'm new to official queer activism. I'm young. I'm uneducated about the medical field, something which deeply fascinates me. I have a deep respect for doctors and what they do. But I know this is wrong. I know this is wrong. I know this is wrong. I wish the world would listen.

[felix-01000101]

"...leads to great distress in the family" Pause. Why do the family matter?

"It is not a medical problem" Pause. Then why is it an issue?

[status-quo-hater]

Because perisex people's feelings matter more than intersex people's rights to keep our organs inside our bodies and our flesh intact.

[status-quo-hater]

I can understand why, so I'd like to explain.

In cases of ambiguous genitalia, these surgeries are required to issue a legally recognized birth certificate. Everyone must be sorted into M or F.

The thought of just.. not assigning a sex to a child & thus violating the sex binary, is more horrific to perisex cis people than the thought of literally mutilating that child.

This is what the core of medical intersexism is. An unwillingness to question the social construct of binary sex categorization.

[dabwax-deactivated20250410]

This is also what it's like doing research into intersex issues, as an intersex person. We see constant shit like this, and constant photos and accounts of child abuse, molestation, and rape. This is why I cannot fucking cope with doing this research much anymore. It's exhausting. It's hurtful knowing my own clit was trimmed down for no other reason than to be less horrifying to my mother, who never developed a bond with me and told me I was born wrong and abused me for 20 years until I bounced. This is why I break down when any of my posts blow up and people start demanding more info or asking questions that imply shit I never said. It's exhausting doing this and living like this.

[sonderden]

It's important for perisex people to learn about and contextualize what we do to intersex children the moment they're born, and reading this post helped me with some of that contextualization. The way that case report is phrased is almost exactly like what I've seen of conversion therapy for other groups. The focus is placed on "normalization" and making it so the people around the "abnormal" person don't have to think about said "abnormality" ever again.

Conversion therapy for your gay son so he marries a woman and continues the family bloodline in a traditional way and you don't wonder about his feelings or personhood until he dies -- probably by his own hand. Conversion therapy for your trans daughter, so she functions as a traditional man in society and you don't wonder what her real name is or when you last saw her smile until she's dead. Conversion therapy for your autistic kid, even, (called ABA therapy) so they grow up quiet and shut down and isolated but not "weird" or "different" in any way the mask doesn't cover. Conversion therapy for your intersex kid from birth. From the moment they take their first breath. From the hospital they're born in, before they even have the context to process the trauma of what's happening to them -- and the trauma WILL come later no matter how much you tell yourself it won't be a problem for your healthy and understanding family.

Imagine starting conversion therapy from the day you're born, and being told your whole life that you have to align with conversion therapy values, and when other people rightfully decry conversion therapy for adults you feel like you're in a twilight zone where nobody knows you exist. You've gone through the same thing, just earlier and from an even more vulnerable position than an adult who was forced after an intervention meeting. Other people are fighting for their right to bodily autonomy and self-determinism, and you're already starting behind the conversion therapy lines. You're behind and it seems like nobody will glance back and notice you, nobody will offer a hand to help you forward so you can move past the conversion therapy stage and fight for the rights everyone else is demanding for themselves.

Granted, I don't know the intersex experience of this firsthand. I'm trans and queer and autistic, but I've never gone through conversion therapy for any of those things -- only come close to ABA and recoiled in horror when I realized what it was. But you don't have to be the same as another person or have the same experiences to know they deserve rights. The "normalization" of intersex people from birth is not intersex people having rights. We need to do better. We need to fight so intersex people can have it better. Nobody deserves to go through non-consensual surgical alteration, and definitely not as part of a life-long conversion therapy process. Everyone deserves to choose how we do or do not alter our bodies, surgically or otherwise, on our own terms. Without our choices pre-made for us, without aesthetics prioritized over health to pre-make those choices, and without shame or stigma for either trans or intersex people regardless of what we choose to do with our bodies.

[huntress1013]

NASA released the clearest pictures yet of our neighbours in the solar system

Oh and of course us

Honourable mention

[mutant-what-not]

[calcium-supplement]

[ear-a-corn]

We have always existed, and we always will.

[uniguinflutist]

I wish there was a way to completely OPT OUT of AI. Like you could set your ENTIRE Internet browser to NOT shove it down your throat.

When social media was getting big, you could just NOT get a Facebook or a Twitter. It was simple as that. You can't do that with AI.

Trying to find a job? It goes straight to an AI filter. Trying to look at art? Here's 100+ ai shit. Trying to look up who was in what movie from the 1980s? GOOGLE GEMINI IS HERE WITH THE COMPLETELY WRONG ANSWER!

Someone PLEASE create a way to allow people to get AI the FUCK OUT of our lives if we DO NOT WANT IT!

[uniguinflutist]

OK JESUS CHRIST this post caught on. I have NEVER had a post take off like this. Thank you guys.

[sandersstudies]

Thinking you are uniquely undeserving of love is just another form of self-centeredness.

It came free with being human but you have to learn to overcome it.

[sandersstudies]

[capricornluna-deactivated201810]

this blog hates donald trump

[pearlmarley]

Look how many people hate him. I’m pretty damn happy about that 😁😁😁😁😁😁

[aggressivetapdancing]

I’ve never reblogged something so fast

[busket]

"im tired of living through major historical events" is now "dear lord please let me witness a high profile political assassination in the next 1-2 years. amen"

[bobby-luv]

[knightofleo]

"not even trying to be reactionary or "edgy" or say this shit for shock value. i genuinely mean what i say. corporations giggle at protesting. why would anyone ever willingly come down off their throne that they've spent years building off the suffering of their fellow man? nobody is getting visited by the ghost of christmas future. no one is having a change of heart, it's simple. you make them fear for their lives and hit them in the only place they hurt or nothing will ever get done. i don't even see how that's an incredibly radical idea. it seems quite straightforward to me. "violence is never the answer" wrong. sometimes it is ¯\_(ツ)_/ "

"the world is burning and it's very clear who's holding the matches"