Any advice for when anxiety make you think your writing is bad and not worth it? Or like it's annoying?
Anxiety Due to "Bad Writing" Fears
There are three things you can do:
1 - Read the following posts to transform your mindset by learning that bad writing is a necessary part of the process, we all start out at the bottom and work our way up, and that it's normal to be anxious about that.
Guide: Dealing with Self-Doubt & Impostor Syndrome
Building Confidence in Your Writing
Concentrate on Quantity at First, Not Quality
Comparing Self to Others, Insecure About Writing
Overcoming Embarrassment Over Own Writing
2 - Practice good self-care, especially before, during, and after writing to help ease anxiety. Figure out some mantras you can use before, during, and after, like: "I'm doing my best and it's okay if it's not as good as I want it to be. I'm getting better every day." Do things to make the writing process less stressful for yourself... try not to fixate on quality, give yourself encouragement and pep talks, don't compare yourself to others, give yourself grace when you know you're falling short, and try to do things to make your writing time more relaxing (comforting writing spot, soft music, scented room spray, etc.)
3 - Hone your craft by reading writing craft books/articles/blogs, watching writing craft videos, and listening to writing craft podcasts. Follow writers and authors on social media and keep an eye out for free online writing summits and workshops, which offer video talks about a variety of different writing topics. These are usually hosted by a writer who interviews guest writers to talk about an area of expertise, like how to write great characters or how to outline your novel. Sometimes the free videos are only available live or for 24-hours after broadcast, but the cost of admission is merely an e-mail address. Or, if you want to pay, you can get an all-access pass. The more you learn about writing, the better your writing will become, and the more confident you'll become in your writing, and that anxiety will start to ease. :)
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These are just the last three fics I wrote. I appreciate the likes, believe me I do, but you have to understand. Likes do nothing for content creators. It’s the reblogs. Because that’s how you find shit on your dashboard. Through reblogs. Not likes. This isn’t twitter or tiktok or instagram. This is a website that’s run by the reblog system.
Reblogging helps content creators put their stuff out there. Why do you think so many people stopped writing fanfic and creating beautiful fanart and edits? It’s because they put in hours of work and don’t get nearly enough notes for their masterpieces. Yes we do this because we enjoy it but like...some validation won’t hurt. A boost of confidence here and there might be all someone needs to finish whatever thing they started and left.
As a writer reblogs or even replies mean so much. Even if you say one kind thing about someone’s writer it can make their day or change their whole mood. Or just a simple reblog for other’s to see your work is just everything
i have to confess that when i first saw john andre in TURN, i immediately thought he was bad. i mean...british officer = bad. right?
i thought that when he helped abigail he had ulterior motives. i assumed he was like simcoe.
but the show subverted those expectations so beautifully. yes, perhaps andre is the antagonist to the culper ring, but he’s far from a villain. he’s even...a good man. i love how the show gives him a romance, a conflict, an antagonist of his own. i love how he’s not labeled evil because of his allegiance.
that’s what TURN does so masterfully. i don’t think americans fully understand the american revolution. we put the founding fathers on a pedestal. we see them as heroes. and yet, the truth is that neither side was entirely good or evil. the founding fathers were not perfect. the british were not evil.
even simcoe, whom we initially know as a villain is so much more complex than just that (and in actual history he wasn’t like how he was in the show, but i digress). hewlett, whom we saw use tombstones as barricades, isn’t evil. far from it.
i love that george washington isn’t flawless. i love that ben and caleb make mistakes, that abe and mary and anna aren’t always right, that robert townsend didn’t want to get involved at first.
i love TURN for the perspective it gives us: not only for the american revolution, but for history and life in general. the characters of TURN show us that good and evil are complex. that life isn’t made of superheroes and super villains. that, in the end, no matter what side we stand on, we’re all deeply flawed people fighting for what we believe in.
I loved how Turn portrayed Colonists vs British, Patriots vs Loyalists. We have a bad habit of looking at history in a very nationalistic POV. We view the winners as good, the losers as bad. But no war is as cut and dry as that, or as black and white. Many Patriots were complete dicks, and downright mean, racist and flawed. And many of the British were good people, as forced into the war as the colonists, and just wanted to go home, to their families. And Turn portrays that in such a beautiful way.
Ensign Baker is such a beautiful, wonderful person with great morals, who suffers an unreasonable death. Major Hewlett was forced into the war and simply just wanted to study the stars. Major Andre was just a good man who wanted his girl. And Major Simcoe was a career military man who treated everyone equally, depending on how they treated him.
And this isn’t even getting into the Sons of Liberty, the Patriots and Loyalists, and total shit fest that that is.
to all my fellow americans, since tomorrow is july 4th please keep these things in mind.
america was “founded” by killing its native and the indigenous people. they built their country on inhabited land for gold that didn’t exist.
our founding fathers, the reason we celebrate, were basically all racist and sexist.
this country’s history is severely whitewashed and glorifies insanely problematic people because they were cishet white men.
there is no “land of the free.”
not when we’re still fighting for racial justice, still fighting for gay rights, still 13.7% in poverty because the rich are greedy, still r@ping women, still overlooking and overshadowing minorities.
fireworks will not cover up a shitty and unfair history and present.
i’m not saying you can’t have fun, but don’t forget why this “celebration” exists.
remember those we’ve lost and killed for our “free” country.
I notice alot of my followers on here skipping these posts just to mess with my lgbt ones, suspiciously the white popular ones.
Heres a not so friendly reminder, as an lgbt metis person, i dont give a single fuck what your blog is themed or if this is too painful for you to look at. Reblog this post. Reblog this post with the sources of the 751 children who were found.
Your compliance and silence as well as the compliance and silence of your ancestors is what allowed these schools to open and kill first nations children. The children of MY people.
Dont follow me if you cant reblog this post or the one with sources to your political blog or your most popular blog. Add trigger warnings if you must but if your political blog is only focused on the harms you personally face like being lgbt then you need to see some bigger pictures and stop being afraid of angering your racist mutural or actually saying some shit about racism. If you can reblog some antifa graphics or add blm to your bio to be a surface level ally, you can reblog some sources on the genocide first nations people faced and still face today.
A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?)
I’d say a solid 7/10. Affectionate in private, but by that means he’s still a bit hesitant in his actions. Regarding how he shows it, he does it in smaller actions, maybe an arm around your shoulders while walking or while on the couch. He loves it when you initiate acts, because he feels as if he’s on cloud nine.
B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?)
Ben is the ultimate best friend. Loyal, understanding, quite the sense of humor-he’s got everything you seek out in a friendship. The friendship would start maybe over a mutual friend, or through a shared job? Or maybe in a class where you both don’t know anyone.
C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?)
UH-HUH. Ben really enjoys it, but would never say it out loud. Imagine his sassy ass walking into the room and just standing there. And you’re like “…hi Ben.” And he just opens his arms, and you know what that means without him having to say anything.
D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)
Yes. He does, tremendously. He enjoys domestic life and craves it when he’s at work and away from you. Ben would run home if it meant he would be back in time for dinner, not wanting you to have to wait an ounce of time for him.
Ben appreciates a clean space. His side of the room may appear on the surface as clean, but when he gets into his groove books, pens, and papers are known to accumulate.
E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?)
In person, and with his entire heart on his sleeve. He’d probably cry, too. [🥺]. It would really take something explosive and upsetting to get him to want to end things. He’s loyal, but not enough to a fault-he’d know when it was time to end things.
F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?)
Oh? Probably right when he trusts his gut. He’ll know the exact moment when he decided that he was hopelessly in love with you, and it would always get him with butterflies in his stomach.
I wouldn’t say he’d be ready to drop to one knee right away, but soon enough. And he wouldn’t flake either, when he asks you to marry him, he’d want to get married right away.
G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?)
THE GENTLEST PERSON. Soft when he needs to be, stern when he has to be. He’s gentle physically when it comes to all things you, and is known to wear his emotions like a book. So he understands and is almost always the first to understand. I almost classify Ben as an empath, because he can tell when things have gone wrong even as best as you try to hide it.
H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?)
To be in Ben’s arms is like in my top 3 things I’ve ever wanted in my entire life. He’s so good at giving hugs, but he may be a little indifferent to receiving them. It’s not that he hates them, but has he ever really gotten hugs before?? Probably not. He envelops you and smells like the outdoors after a morning shower.
I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?)
Not very quickly. He knows when he loves you, but he has to be certain that you and him are on the same wavelength.
J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?)
A bit. A bit more than he’s willing to admit. Maybe you’ve been hanging around Caleb or Nathan too much. Or Lafayette gives you a hug as a greeting. Or his boss gives you a warm smile when he introduces you to him.
He doesn’t do anything. His stomach twinges, and he knows it’s jealousy, but he trusts you. He knows that you’d never do anything to double cross him.
K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?)
I’ve mentioned Ben’s smooches before, how giggly and bashful he gets when it comes to them. His kisses are like spring, beautiful and warm and full of love.
Ben likes to kiss you on your eyelids, but he loves placing little pecks on your cheeks.
Ben loves to be kissed on his knuckles, and his hands. Your butterfly kisses tickle him and he can’t help but smile as you ‘kiss’ his injuries away.
L = Little ones (How are they around children?)
Mediocre, average. Doesn’t actively seek out to babysit or anything, but isn’t opposed to it. Children do love him, however, and as much as he says he is “meh”, you can’t help but smile as he swings a giggling baby around in his arms.
M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)
Sleepy and loving. He kisses you good morning and rolls right out of bed for coffee. If you have to be up before him, you usually try and slip out without waking him (‘cause he needs his sleep), but he’ll groan and pull you close to him until you give him morning kisses.
N = Night (How are nights spent with them?)
Board games, [comic] books, and vhs tapes. Ben enjoys anything that he gets to do with you, and is awesome at trivia. He’d spend hours scouring the internet for a new sort of game or something to do with you.
O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?)
He doesn’t really have much to hide, truthfully. Ben enjoys sharing his interests, and that follows with his college friends and other friendships he has. He would start revealing things as soon as asked, or maybe a little strained, depending on level of privacy.
P = Patience (How easily angered are they?)
Admittedly has a small temper. But it’s nothing that needs to be worried about, it’s only when he’s reached his absolute breaking point and can’t take another moment more. If you drop a pan while he’s concentrating or accidentally trip him up while he’s walking, he won’t even bat an eye.
Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?)
Every.thing. You can tell him once your favorite candle scent and he’ll buy it for you when your birthday comes around. He nearly has a photographic memory, I’d say. Writes things down on calendars (anniversaries, birthdays, pets birthdays, etc,) and jots notes when necessary.
R = Remember (What is their favorite moment in your relationship?)
When he came home after a long day (usually he beats you home) of work and agony. You had dinner on the table and a record on the machine, humming a low tune that makes his heart flutter. He felt so loved at that very moment, and it was hard for him to choke back tears.
S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?)
Very. Ben defends you to the day he dies, and he does so in very lowkey ways that you much appreciate. Taking phone calls for you when you ask, and stepping into public situations when you beckon him close with a warbly voice.
Ben loves feeling protected, especially by you. When you squeeze his hands in affirmation, or stepping in between him and his work to get him to get some rest.
T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?)
A lot. He can’t get over the idea of getting to see you cry of happiness/thoughtfulness when he watches you take something out of wrapping paper that you offhandedly mentioned once. Ben loves putting the effort in because he’s always so surprised when you return it tenfold, no matter how many times he tries to outdo you.
U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)
Duplicate buying. I headcanon Ben as a collector, so whether it be comics or memorabilia, he’s known for an accidental duplicate buy every now and then.
He’s also guilty of leaving pens and pencils in bed. Oops.
V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?)
Like literally 0%. He’s so effortlessly flawless, and a beautiful human being.
W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)
Yes. A billion times yes. You are accepted into being a part of him when you exchange “I love yous” and feels so lonely when you aren’t around. His heart is fragile and much more so than he’s willing to admit, so when you aren’t with him he looses his own sense of wholeness.
X = Xtra (A random headcanon for them.)
While Ben is by no means scary-looking, he can be very intimating. He does not hesitate to get someone to back off when he feels it’s right to step in.
Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)
Ben admires people who share his interests, and can’t stand when people don’t take time to at least understand a tad bit of what he enjoys. There’s a difference in respecting each other’s space and things, and actively seeking out to disregard them.
I know that this has been mentioned a gazillion times already today, but the fact that every June 5th and 6th, we manage to trend “Les Mis” and “Barricade Day” despite this fandom being so dormant and small will ALWAYS be my favorite thing about this fandom. 🇫🇷🚩🇫🇷🚩🇫🇷🚩
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