i think i'm calm enough now since i'm coming down from being triggered being that i'm also a CSA survivor, and you don't have to answer if it wouldn't be comfortable, but i'm confused as to how someone being a pedophile who is proud of that wouldn't be harmful on its own, even if they aren't in direct contact with children. like, i can understand with most paraphilias, with most situations you can find content of that and it be made with adult actors who consented to being filmed and acting it out whatever it is, so looking at content of it isn't harming anyone, but you can't get content like that of children without child exploitation because children can't consent. it was also my understanding that people with POCD and similar do not actively seek out content of their obsession because the whole thing with their disorder is that it's an obsession with something that is distressing to them, is that incorrect?
I'm not a MAP, but I do have disordered paraphilias because of how they fuck up my ability to consent and come from trauma. The disordered ones for me are hybristophilia and incestophilia.
A lot of paraphilias often come from trauma, especially those that fall under "MAP" (which is a clincal term for more than one paraphilia that is about minors, due to pedophilia being one specific age range) and others harmful to the paraphile or others. So, if someone says that, all you know is the attracted subject is a minor but nothing specific past that.
If your barometer is "If porn can be made of it, it's okay" that is... a barometer I find strange. Many paraphiles who experience distress often turn to avoidance or substitution, like kink and roleplay with consenting adults. Sometimes that substitution is going to be more indirect and out of the box. Even for those who do not experience distress- these are good skills when you can't act on it without harm to yourself or others.
People are their actions more than their inherent traits that they cannot control being. While MAP pride (I'll refer you to @start-where-i-end for more information on MAP pride specifically due to having more information than me. Obligatory "Just because I refer someone to someone else that does not mean I 100% agree with them on everything, all it means is that other person has more information on a topic" disclaimer- blog owner says DMs are fine, even with blank blogs) as a movement is not the same as mad pride (and thus, I am not involved due to not being a MAP and having to unlearn my own kneejerk reactions to it), I see my disordered paraphilias and the fact that my kinks are so related to my trauma as a part of mad pride. I didn't choose to find criminals hot and daydream about dating someone who could smash my skull in when I fantasize (I'd fucking love that, just casual threats of violence and maybe even minor cuts with knives + kidnapping), but now I have to live that way due to trauma's impact on my development. It's a part of me I can't get rid of.
With CSA survivors specifically, we are often shamed if we turn out developmentally fucked up from the CSA, from hypersexuality to developing stigmatized paraphilias. It'd be hypocritical if I felt as if someone's unchosen traits made them dangerous more than their actions do.
Also it is odd to bring up POCD in this. They aren't the same, yes, and can look similar from the outside due to stigma of both, but destigmatizing paraphilias helps those with morality or paraphilia related OCD. POCD is not pedophilia. I don't know why you brought it up.
Little side note because I totally missed my call whoops. Also hello from hiatus! And goodbye again. I return to avoidant Mori mode.
CW for MAP stuff. Block that tag down there if you don't wanna see it (it's the same as my old blog so if you blocked it then you should be good).