BPD Balance

Borderline Personality Disorder

[mrmrjadey]

Being able to identify your emotions and communicate them to others is part of emotion regulation; it can help you regulate strong emotions just by talking about them to others. But when you don't have the skills, when you never learned how to talk about emotions or identify which emotions you are feeling, it's more difficult. You may end up communicating how you feel in the only way you know how...by shutting down or exploding. The good news is that we CAN learn how to regulate our emotions, and one way is through using #dbtskills to begin communicating about how you feel. Not through explosions or silence, but through open, gentle, honest communication with yourself and others. https://buff.ly/2NXvgyG #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #actuallybpd #bpdthings #bpdlife #bpdproblems #mentalhealth #depression #anxiety #ocpd #adhd #mentallillness #personalitydisorder #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #suicideprevention #suicideawareness #emotions #bpdcoach (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4u6s33godu/?igshid=dtu4dpi2rppg

[mrmrjadey]

How to use your journal in your transformation process 😍📝 #mentalhealth #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #anxiety #depression #fear #selflove #goals #boundaries (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4A3n0dgyQi/?igshid=drge2ppd8n8m

[mrmrjadey]

We may not feel strong most days, but check the facts! We have survived immense pain, made it through the worst days one can imagine, and held on through the darkest of nights. Remember what a major battle you have fought, and the strength it must take to be you. #bpdwarrior #borderlinepersonalitydisorder (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2PGG9IgJSi/?igshid=13aoscmw3gyii

[mrmrjadey]

The aspect of Dialectical Behavior Therapy that makes it so effective is the balance of change with ACCEPTANCE. Always pushing change can be invalidating to the person who is struggling to make those changes. Acceptance of their emotions and struggles, combined with the encouragement to changes, is the balance we were missing in typical treatment approaches. Love and acceptance ARE the vehicles for change! #dbtskills #borderlinepersonalitydisorder (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2MWmibAsP0/?igshid=cqce2j5zsjab

[mrmrjadey]

No one would choose to feel this immense pain or watch themselves sabotage their lives by choice. When we say and do things that hurt us and others, we WANT to stop. We don’t know how. Help us learn by having compassion on us. Your compassion on our struggle will help us find the compassion on ourselves to find treatment. Instead of blaming ourselves for something we didn’t want in the first place. #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpdcoach (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2J-zf6A1YX/?igshid=kj4m8vugep4k

[mrmrjadey]

Another piece of false information floating around is that people with #borderlinepersonalitydisorder don’t have empathy. This could not be farther from the truth. In actuality, a vast number of people with this disorder have EMPATHY OVERLOAD, meaning we feel others’ pain as if it’s in our own body. It is a blessing and a curse of being emotionally sensitive. . . Like all humans, our empathy can diminish when we are in immense pain ourselves. THIS HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. The brain is meant to focus on pain and threat first. But don’t mistake someone’s immense pain for a complete lack of empathy, as if it is their personality to not care about others. People with BPD give more of themselves in a day than most people do in a lifetime. I see it all the time. People in so much pain they can’t see straight, but they want to know if you’re okay and if they can help you. . . Fight the stigma around Borderline, and teach people who we really are! #bpdwarriors (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2EotQsgnQH/?igshid=1izwtcbbjoh36

[mrmrjadey]

Feeling worthless? I get it. I have those days too. . . But the truth is, our worth is NOT tied to our to-do list or our level of success. We are worthy of love and acceptance because we are people. . . #bpdcoach #mentalhealth (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B19bAHzgVt6/?igshid=1ndjxhdhyzzgm

[mrmrjadey]

Talking about #borderlinepersonalitydisorder can be uncomfortable and awkward for people, but we will NOT stop talking. Why?? Because to change the mental health stigma, we cannot stay silent. Awkwardness is a small price to pay for a life-saving conversation. You never know who is searching for their recovery path. #endthestigma (at Jade - Mental Health Coach) https://www.instagram.com/p/B16PMO6gkWw/?igshid=1g23ps5iztb8y

[mrmrjadey]

It ALMOST got me...more than once. But I keep choosing the recovery battle because it WORKS!!! I have more peace, less anxiety, more hope, less depression, more love, less isolation. This #borderlinepersonalitydisorder will NOT win!!! 💪💪💪 #bpdwarrior https://www.instagram.com/p/B13t02xAN1H/?igshid=1hc96v3j4z8h7

[mrmrjadey]

One year ago today my best friend took her own life. This past year has been filled with questions. Did she think of me? Did she suffer? If I had called her that day could I have stopped her? The suffering that comes from losing a loved one to suicide is equivalent to the trauma of being in combat. The trauma lasts a lifetime. The grief is treated differently than if your loved one had died from anything other than their own hand. People don’t want to hear about it or talk about it, it makes people uncomfortable. You are left primarily to grieve on your own as the people around you seem to move on with their lives. Suicide is a devastation to the victim, and it is equally as devastating to the ones left behind. After Gillian’s death, I wanted to crawl into a hole. Instead, I decided that I would cherish her memory by sharing her story and continuing to dedicate my life to those who want to take their own. Gillian, you are the reason I will keep fighting. You taught me to care for the outcasts. I won’t let you down. #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #suicideawarness #dbtskills #bpdawareness #suicideprevention https://www.instagram.com/p/By0M5RqgHwp/?igshid=j4qg92db9h07

[mrmrjadey]

Emotions aren’t right or wrong. Sometimes they are based on fact and sometimes they aren’t. But your emotions matter and have value. #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #suicideawarness #dbtskills #bpdawareness https://www.instagram.com/p/ByiAfl7A8mr/?igshid=taxax4in7mjw

[mrmrjadey]

One out of every 10 people with borderline personality will successfully complete suicide. This is one of the highest suicide rates of all psychiatric disorders. Keep talking! If we are going to destroy this statistic, we can’t do it in silence. #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #suicideawarness #dbtskills #bpdawareness https://www.instagram.com/p/BySj9R1AYTM/?igshid=1oavhz1at53cy

[mrmrjadey]

Our limbic system can put us in fight-or-flight mode with no warning, so we are one provocation away from raging, fighting, or self-destructing. This is a huge symptom for many of us with BPD but it’s really not talked about as much as other symptoms like self injury or emotional instability. Pay attention to your anger levels today...are you irritated? Frustrated? Tread carefully. Your BPD might want to take the wheel. #bpdrecovery #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #dbtskills #bpdawareness https://www.instagram.com/p/ByFwEWogzk8/?igshid=nz9h2y50mldp

[mrmrjadey]

This Memorial Day, don’t forget to remember all of our servicemen and women who have lost their lives on AND off the battlefield. Suicide claims the lives of countless heroes. Their sacrifices are often ignored. But we remember you. 💗 #suicideprevention #suicideawarness #memorialday https://www.instagram.com/p/Bx-GXsQAvun/?igshid=11n34vn38nl46

[mrmrjadey]

Thanks to all my followers, my coaching clients, my friends, and my family for supporting me these past few years while I make my career dreams come true! Working with people with #bpd gives me the biggest smile on my face and it is the purpose I was meant for. Thanks for cheering me on everyone! I could NOT have made it this far without you 💗💗💗#bpdawareness #dbtskills #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpdthings (at Hutchinson Island Marriott Beach Resort & Marina) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bx2R3FaAbz5/?igshid=1bv2b47fnnt20

[mrmrjadey]

We care deeply about others, can connect with their feelings and experiences, and are great at supporting others emotionally. When we are sick, sometimes we can only focus on our pain. But that does not mean we lack empathy...many of us have more of it than most! #bpd #bpdthings #dbtskills #bpdawareness #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpdcoach https://www.instagram.com/p/BxxNAnpAisk/?igshid=kenkeopdnhyw

[mrmrjadey]

I beat my BPD yesterday after a particularly challenging hormonal freak out. My reward was time with my sister in law and my family!! #worthit (at Hutchinson Island Marriott Beach Resort & Marina) https://www.instagram.com/p/BxsCw0vFr5w/?igshid=mpd8xh4k9hcv