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“Ghetto is nothing but creativity that hasn’t been stolen yet.”

- Writer, Nezarial Scott, on the hypocritical commercialization and commodification of Black American fashion, vernacular, slang, culture, and livelihood.

http://www.flare.com/beauty/issa-rae-interview-black-girl-magic/

naturalistalife

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17 Struggles All Suburban Black Kids Know Too Well by Pedro Fequiere

Meeting that one friend’s parent that you didn’t know was racist

Being the prime suspect of whatever was stolen at a house party

Your parents encouraging you to make friends with the only other black kids in the neighborhood even though you have your own friends

Not understanding all black culture references because you didn’t have as many black friends to experience them with

People coming back from spring break and comparing their tan to your skin

Searching far and wide for a salon that can do your hair

And people freely touching and grabbing your hair

Being called an Oreo, because… you’re not reeaally black

People assuming you’re good at any and all sports

Everyone looking to you to explain and demonstrate new dance crazes

People dialing their slang up a couple notches when talking to you

Swimming in a neighbor’s pool and having everyone marvel at how your hair reacts to water

People assuming that you have a huge crush on the only other black person in school

That moment when you learn about slavery in class and you can feel everyone staring at you

Being way more cautious than your friends about typical suburban mischief

People saying “You sound white,” because you speak proper English

Feeling constant pressure to represent your entire race, rather than just yourself

baby-berita-deactivated20200413

#13 pissed me off the most

sugarmacaron

#8…

blackraystyles

16….I’ve dealt with my whole entire life…even now.

mstemeka-deactivated20171229

Still going through this too friend @blackraystyles

blackraystyles

Doesnt add up. It’s like they expect us to speak in a manner that’s shorthanded, all the time!

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in 2018, I wish you

better mental health

great looking skin

more energy

open-mindedness

healthy relationships

good dreams at night

success

delicious food

happiness

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#Blackpeoplestaylit ft. Nick Jonas

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I didn’t expect that

yungblackgoddess

this was beautiful

samoforthesocalledavantgarde

The eldest daughter of Eric Garner, who died after a New York City police officer put him in a chokehold, is in a coma after suffering a heart attack, according to multiple reports.

Because this family aint been through enough

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addtothebeauty

All That Glitter with Sonequa Martin-Green (behind the scenes of her CBS Watch! Magazine photoshoot)

alwaysbewoke

Look at how casual it is in our society to promote female abuse towards men. We think nothing of it. Imagine if the genders here were reversed. Imagine if this was the gamifying of abusive and control behavior of men towards women. It would be a fucking shitstorm and the gaming company would have to apologize but this? Nah because society is HYPOCRITICAL when it comes to toxic behavior. That’s why I roll my eyes hard at all the “toxic masculinity” talk because it’s pretty damn clear that overwhelmingly those who are quick to say that shit only have a “toxic radar” that works on men. If males are doing dirt, they are ready to yell to the mountaintops but women and suddenly they are deaf, dumb and blind. suddenly all those stances just go away. suddenly all those belief just disappear. that’s when the excuse parade starts marching in. fuck that. and don’t give me that bullshit excuse about men cheating cause guess what? WOMEN CHEAT AS MUCH AS MEN (here, here, here, here and here)! So unless you’re ready to tell me that as a woman you expect and welcome the invasion of your privacy, the destruction of your personal property and/or other likewise behavior because women cheat, shut the fuck up.

Dudes if you find yourself with a girl or woman like this, dump her toxic ass immediately. Do not even waste your time trying to make her see how fucked up and abusive this behavior is. Get the fuck out of there and find you someone who is secure enough to not freak out cause you have other females in your life besides her and your family. And if you’re about to enter into a relationship with a chick, have the talk. I always tell chicks straight up “I have many female friends and some are among my best friends in the world. We talk, chat, hang, go out and etc. I am NOT going to jettison them for you. They are my friends and they are going to remain my friends. Tell me NOW if you can’t handle that and we will go out separate ways no hard feelings.” I ALWAYS MAKE THAT SHIT CLEAR! Girls and women will fucking demand you get rid of your female friends for them but try asking them to do the same with their male friends for you and they fucking lose their shit. Fuckouttahere!

“Toxic femininity” is too fucking real and the fact that we don’t call that shit out is why “toxic masculinity” is mostly an exercise in misandry.

EITHER CALL ALL OF IT OUT OR SHUT THE FUCK UP!

alwaysbewoke

but notice all you can do is leave. you can’t actually give a reasoned response because you know you don’t have one.

BRING IT!! SOMEONE PROVE TO ME I’M WRONG!! LET’S GO!! LET’S GO FUCKERS!! ALL YOU FEMINISTS AND SHIT!! COME WITH IT!! CLOWNS!! BRING SOME LOGIC TO THE TABLE!! COME ON! ANYONE?! MAKE THE ARGUMENT THAT THIS IS ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!!! IF IT ISN’T WHY IS IT OKAY FOR US TO ALWAYS DISPLAY IT IN THIS FASHION?!?? COME NOW PEOPLE!!! DON’T BE A COWARD AND JUST LEAVE, FACE THIS SHIT! LET’S GO!!

alwaysbewoke

THAT’S FUCKING WHY!?!?!

i’ve seen my boys get caught up with crazy ass controlling evil chicks doing shit like this and yet our society is hellbent on giving them a pass. we never call them out. we never put their feet to the fire. we never roast their asses but we always got something to say about men tho. always. yet women are carrying out all manner of abuses in relationships. shit is disgusting. and when we sit back and allow for the above and we don’t call it out, we normalize the idea that abuse from women to men is okay. this is how you normalize an idea and a concept. you keep repeating it in as many mediums as you can until people see and/or hear it so much that they accept it as fact, as logical, as normal. think about how we talk and treat domestic violence in this country.

remember these domestic violence experiments to understand how differently we act depending on how the aggressor is?

Shocking video shows strangers ignoring domestic violence in the street - but they rush to help a female victim

how do we get to a place where we think abuse and/or domestic violence against women is unacceptable but abuse and/or domestic violence is funny, entertaining and thus acceptable? we normalize the idea that it is so and the above is one of the ways we do it. and it’s all funny until you realize 40% of domestic violence victims are men at the hand of women.

i had a friend who was in physically abusive relationship with a girl who was the mother of his son and it was as fucked up as anything i’ve seen happen to a woman. the scratches to the face, the punching, having things throw at him and shit… it was fucking crazy. but it’s all funny right? we’ll put in everywhere that if a woman is mad at a guy, it’s okay that she slaps him. in games where it’s funny that a woman invades your privacy or wreck your personal property because “some chick texted my man.” however we all know if the genders were reversed it would be all types of shit! this is called normalizing and it’s fucked up. that’s why i’m mad. fuck @amandaseales. hotep. the fuck does this have anything to do with hotep? fuckouttahere with that bullshit!! bunch of fucking hyprocrites.

alwaysbewoke

‘I stabbed him with a fork and reversed over him in my car’: The secret Facebook page where women brag about violence toward men

‘In a mad ass rage at my partner. Just want to punch him in the c*ck and stab him in the leg with a fork. Bad b****es, I want to know what is the craziest thing you’ve done in a fit of rage?’ one woman posted on Friday.

The post garnered hundreds of likes and prompted a colourful discussion about domestic violence.

‘Threw a chair at him through a glass door. Door smashed and cut him the f*** up. Needless to say he didn’t smart mouth me again,’ one said.

The post and the ensuing comments were shared with all 173 thousand members of Bad Girls Advice.

this is what is considered being a “bad bitch.” and y’all fucking telling me i’m overacting? we send the message that this is acceptable through every medium so it’s no shock that 170k+ women gathered around thinking this is acceptable. fuckouttahere with this “you overacting” bullshit. social engineering requires that a message be sent over and over and over and over again through all meduim and channels great and small so that it becomes just standard thinking and the result is THIS. And damn I feel sorry for these dudes cause most probably just stayed with this crazy shitty women or didn’t defend themselves. Let a chick think she can hit me and just keep on keeping on. Bitch you thought!

lastsonlost

Ask yourself how many male abuse victims are on this website right now seeing people fight so hard to justify and normalize the abuse we went through? Why is it okay for us men to be abused?

thathighclassbitch

This post doesn’t have enough notes

alwaysbewoke

This will never get the notes. Anything on Tumblr that calls out the toxicity of femininity is ignored. Even when there’s mad evidence like this.

I mean here’s some more. Think this is going to get notes?

alwaysbewoke

Saw this ad on the train today, Crowded train, couldn’t make it all out but I liked the colors and the art style (the first photo is the one I took on the train the second is the one I found online when I got home). In this ad we have a woman thinking about hitting a man because he wanted to pay her on a net90 which is NOT illegal or wrong. It’s common business practice. However because of her displeasure with this arrangement, she wants to physically harm him.

Just another way we teach females of all ages that hitting a man is okay and acceptable. Messages like these are everywhere. Then you wonder why men ask if gender equality means they can hit back. Imagine if the genders were reversed. It would be fucking armageddon but it’s a woman hitting a man? No problem. Let’s put that in ads all over NYC. In no universe would it be acceptable for an ad agency to use the visual image of a man hitting a woman TO SELL INSURANCE but those same people who would swear up and down they are feminists and believe in gender equality, think this imagery is totally appropriate and the right way to send this BUSINESS message.

Shit like this I am NOT feminist. Fuck that. No one (with a dick, a vagina or otherwise) gets to hit me and walk away unbruised. Fuck that shit. Also I think about this as someone who is going to have sons and daughters in a few years (if everything goes according to plan). I want to teach my kids that regardless of gender, no one has a right to your body. No one gets to hit you because they’re upset, in a bad mood, don’t like what you said, don’t like what you’re wearing, don’t like what you did or otherwise and gets to walk away. Defending yourself is your basic human right however society’s norms would have me teach this to my daughter but not my son. Or at least put some caveats in their when teaching my sons that it applies to everyone except a woman. Yea, a woman gets to slap you around because they don’t want to be paid net-90. That’s totally fine. SMFH.

Feminists love this shit. White, Black, Asian, Hispanic, Native and everything in between. Fuck y'all for real. Imagery speaks volumes in our society and this is unacceptable.

What’s crazier about this is that no reasonable person would think a man is right, healthy or morally correct if he had daydreams of smacking a woman around because she didn’t pay him right away. Imagine that. Would I be a good man if I thought about smacking my coworker Sally around because she didn’t give me what I wanted? So why is this okay? Clearly they knew that in our society this would be acceptable. The question is why? Why are we so fucked up that in the midst of all this gender equality talk, we ride with this?/

alwaysbewoke

119+ abusers just waiting to fuck with their boyfriend. remember…

happily-morgan

Fuck all y'all if you say abuse towards men isn’t real.

burnitalldownism

Call it out when you see it.

Support men who suffer it.

leesacrakon

THIS IS SO FREAKING IMPORTANT

westafricanbaby

The part attacking feminism was extremely stupid and unnecessary because black feminists and womanists usually call out male abuse. Also, when a woman excuses male abuse, people are so quick to label her a feminist, despite the fact that she might not even identify as a feminist 🙄.

other than that I completely agree with everything else. Male abuse, harassment and rape should be taken as seriously as female abuse, harassment and rape. I HATE the fact that it is excused and trivialized.

canwejuststoppls

i call hardcore bullshit here. my sisters and mother are serious feminists and proud of it and they believe up and down that no man can be abused or taken advantage of. it’s one of the reasons we don’t get along much. feminists like to pretend like they don’t have this all over their ranks and all over their movement which is why man haters thrive in feminism. ask @amandaseales if she’s a feminist. i already know the answer is yes but she couldn’t be bothered with the truth that shit like this normalizes abuse from women to men. she turned it into some weird race shit which is fucking odd as shit but she’ll swear up and down she’s a feminist tho. that’s what feminism got going on in its movement and the more y’all deny it, the more it will fester.

and i don’t know what world you live in but i don’t see throngs of black women or black feminists shutting male abuse and shit. a few voices do not represent the whole. the whole will ignore male abuse, pretend it doesn’t happen, write articles about how it’s no big deal, write and support the idea that it’s okay to ruin the lives of men innocent of rape accusations, slap their bf when they’re upset and shit. don’t pretend like feminism doesn’t have major ass problems. if you do you as much a part of the problem as those people are.

alwaysbewoke

i mean y’all want to test the theory? next time a woman brags about abusing their man (or men in general), says some shit about how men can’t be abused, ignores how we normalize abuse to men in every medium and etc, just casually ask them if they are a feminist. don’t make a big deal out of it, just ask. 8/10 the answer is going to be yes.

alwaysbewoke

And to be clearly in 100% pro equality for women. 95% of the stuff men’s right activists are about can kiss my ass (yea like it or not they have some points that are 100% valid like HOW WE NORMALIZE MALE ABUSE IN OUR SOCIETY) however while every movement has its share of bullshit, the bullshit in feminism is not the the kind I can tolerate. #fuckFeminism

msitfits

This literally hurts my heart to read. It's kind of behavior is unacceptable. Violence and abuse shouldn't be promoted period. Women, please keep your hands to yourself. If it's not in self-defense, it shouldn't happen.