Femme tribble of a Multivalent gender

Multivalent gender (kind of like gender fluid?), Femme presenting, Tribble lover.

[multivalent-tribble]

I've got mixed feelings about the Facebook gender thing.

On the one hand it's great news! There's so many people for whom this is a wonderful step forward, as well as being a way to get people to normalize having diverse genders! That's wonderful! (Now if only they let you have more than one significant other rather than IDing a primary and saying it's an open relationship...) On the other hand, it's one more place where my Identity is available where I don't feel comfortable coming out, and so I feel effectively that I'm lying on there.

[one-eyed-pom]

How many other trans people, before realizing you were trans, felt completely genderless before you knew there was an option that was not your assigned gender?

Like in my case, since I felt no connection to the word ‘man’ I felt completely genderless because I did not know I had to option to self-identify as the genderqueer woman I was. I’m not exactly saying I thought I was genderless at the time, because I never thought about it. However, upon further reflection, I can say any feelings I had about gender at all back then were non-existent.

[zjemptv]

Much of my childhood felt pretty genderless - I never affiliated strongly with masculinity or femininity. This continued into my late teens; I once described myself as “I’m not a very manly man, and I’m not a very womanly woman.” I have to wonder if not really knowing what it felt like to actively identify with a gender was why it took me so long to reach a point where I was comfortable thinking of myself as just a woman.

[punlich]

I just defaulted to whatever other people were calling me but hell I didn’t feel like my body was mine, didn’t have a deep self concept. I was completely divorced from myself and my body throughout my youth until I figured out I was a girl

[multivalent-tribble]

I thought for a while that genderless was the best description before I was able to learn about and accept what gender fluidity could and does mean. I have distinct memories of going "no, I can't be x because there are other times when I feel like a y" and ended up just throwing my hands up and thinking I must just not have a gender and it's just situations leveling themselves with me. 

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Eighteen years ago I got my first library card and fell in love with books. My first love was Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston. That story reflected me, filled me with a sense of possibility, and gave me license to dream of a world where I could be exactly who I was and live to tell my own story.

That day is on the horizon with the February 4th release of my first book Redefining Realness. Now, I ask that you join me on this journey as an integral member of Team #RedefiningRealness to ensure this book and its message reaches as many readers as possible.

Team #RedefiningRealness will be my inner circle of trusted comrades, and will have access to private video chats, early, unreleased chapters, and exclusive news and updates.

Our team will be made of loyal, passionate, skilled DOers who want to volunteer their talent, time and tweets to this book’s message of being ourselves - no matter what.

Signup now for Team #RedefiningRealness!

To join the team you must enjoy working with others in a respectful and supportive way, care deeply about fighting for the creation of a world where we can all be our authentic selves, and fill out this signup form.

Please re-blog this invitation so the talented, creative DOers you know can join us! 

[transqueermediaexchange-deactiv]

Being a Transgender Student in the United States: An Uneven Landscape

[multivalent-tribble]

While there have been recent transgender rights victories for students in California and Colorado, there are also plenty of roadblocks in guaranteeing equal representation and protection.

[buzzfeedlgbt]

Undocumented transgender immigrants in the United States are among the most vulnerable to discrimination and violence in employment, housing, healthcare, and opportunities for citizenship under current U.S. immigration law, according to a new report being released Friday by the National Center for Transgender Equality.

“It is more difficult to be an immigrant who is a trans person,” Johanna Vasquez, 32, told BuzzFeed, speaking through a translator. “They treat you differently when you are detained.”

Vasquez fled El Salvador at age 16, after she was beaten and raped by community members who tormented her for being transgender. She missed the one-year asylum filing deadline. After 12 years, she was detained by authorities and placed in a detention facility where she was beaten and sexually assaulted.

[autostraddle]

Who’s Afraid Of The Big, Bad Trans* Woman? On Horror and Transfemininity

I love watching horror movies. There’s a great rush of adrenaline that comes from sitting in a…

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Hey! So, Coming Out Day is coming up soon (Oct. 11) and I just want to post a very stern reminder to NOT out anyone without their explicit permission.

Do NOT out anyone.

Got it?

Okay.

[autbucky-remade]

also don’t “come out” as an ally or anything trivial like a fan of a tv show or i will punch you.

[tmi-tuesday]

It’s that time again! It’s what time, you ask? Why, it’s time for my IRL friends to look at me in horror and exclaim, “R.C., you spent a ridiculous amount of your own money on sex paraphernalia and you’re not even keeping any of it?! You’re crazy!” 

I am. 

I am crazy. 

CRAZY ABOUT SPREADING JOY LIKE SOME KIND OF SEX TOY SANTA, THAT IS.

It’s October, which means it’s Orgasm Awareness Month (idk I made that up last year and I’m sticking to it), which means…

Wait for it.

… It’s time for the second annual TMI Tuesday Sex Toy Giveaway! 

Last year, I gave away about $150 in sex paraphernalia and this year I’ve upped the ante. I’m very excited about this year’s haul. Are you ready for this jelly? Okay, here we go.

1 Grand Prize winner will receive:

- 1 Le Reve Femme Vibe (R.C.’s personal favorite) - 1 Thunderbird Dual Action Vibrator - 1 Doc Johnson Sliders Anal Vibrator - 1 Pipedream Beginner’s Penetrix Strap-On with Dildo - 1 Mini-Miracle Wand (like the Hitachi wand, only smaller) - 1 Tenga Egg (penis masturbator) - 1 set of Ben Wa Balls - 1 bottle of spray anti-bacterial toy cleanser - 1 bottle of Vlube water-based, glycerin-free, ultra-sensitive lubricant - 1 25-pack of Crown Skinless Skin Condoms (voted #1 Best Condom by condomdepot.com 12 years in a row!) - 1 12-pack of Glyde Sheer dams in assorted flavors - 1 storage box - 1 4-pack of AA batteries - 1 4-pack of AAA batteries - 1 $25 Amazon.com gift card

2 Runners-up will receive:

- 1 Sexology Bullet (each)

RULES:

All you have to do is reblog this ONCE. You can like this post all you want, but likes will not be counted. Reblogging more than once will nothelp your chances—let’s keep this fair. No need to follow me, either (unless you want to!). This is pure charity. The best kind of charity. The orgasm charity. 

YOU MUST BE 18 OR OLDER TO PARTICIPATE. I will not have angry parents suing me or coming after me in the night.

The contest will close on November 12th. Got that? Five weeks from today (Oct 8) I will choose a winner at random (by compiling everyone’s Tumblr handle, assigning each one a number, and using a random number generator) and send their care package of awesome just in time for the holidays! 

I will ship anywhere. Europe, Asia, Gallifrey — wherever. This is not limited to US/North America.

Please share this with all your followers and friends! Get ‘em in on the fun. 

RECAP:

- Over $250 of toys, lube, cleanser, condoms/dams, and an Amazon.com gift card for one lucky winner - 1 Sexology Bullet to two runners-up - Contest ends November 12th, 2013 - Must be 18+ (or the legal age in your country) - Only one reblog is counted - All winners will be chosen at random

That pretty much covers it. So, get to reblogging and signal boosting, and I’ll see you all in a month’s time with our winners.

GOOD LUCK!

(Any questions regarding this giveaway can be directed here. Please note: Not everything that is included in the grand prize is shown in the above image.)

[neutrois]

Transgender Health Insurance (Part 2): Why Coverage Is Only the Beginning

[multivalent-tribble]

When I learned that my insurance would pay for my top surgery, I thought the deal was sealed, but I faced two unanticipated limiting factors while preparing for surgery: (1) finding a surgeon willing to work with insurance, and (2) fitting the profile of a “properly” insurable trans person.

[neutrois]

WATCH: Moving New Documentary Explores The Often Unseen Lives Of Rural Trans People

Only a few days to go on their Kickstarter campaign!

"Passing Ellenville" is a documentary film project that explores the lives of two transgender young people, James and Ashlee, living in Ellenville, New York, which is described by the filmmakers as "a small, economically-depressed town 90 miles north of New York City that time has passed by."

I found the angle of their film compelling:

[Filmmaker:] I think this also goes back to that inspiration question, where what I’ve witnessed in mainstream media with transgender youth has been very positive. On March 18 The New Yorker had an article about a female-to-male trans high school student whose parents were helping with the hormones and getting him to transition. Katie Couric had a showwith lots of transgender kids and The Trevor Project [highlights] kids whose parents are helping them transition with hormones and things like that. Whereas the kids that we’ve met — and I think you know that this started originally as a documentary photography project of mine before Sam and I met — they are living the exact opposite. These are kids that were kicked out of their homes or ran away from their homes, ended up on food stamps and Medicaid and they have no one helping them. I feel like they’re very disenfranchised and not what we see in the media and we’re giving them a voice.

[meetingmyselfinthemiddle]

Soo. Before these hormones start changing me, I thought it might be wise to show off/document what my body has done for itself, naturally, thanks to my Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (aka. PCOS). I’ll give a brief explanation as to what PCOS is first. There are plenty of symptoms associated with...

[multivalent-tribble]

Congrats! I have PCOS too, and while sometimes it's nice to have a beard to stroke as a femme presenting person it can be annoying too. I hope the hormones are every bit as lovely as you hope!

[dancingindiversity-blog]

Feminine doesn’t equal female. Gender presentation is a completely separate identity from gender identity. I don’t identify as a woman or female or a girl, but I do identify as a grrl or a lady or a prince or a sir. I’m a strong person, not a strong woman. I’m feminine by choice, not by obligation. Whether I have my beard grown out and I’m wearing a dress or I’m wearing a pushup bra while packing, I’m still me. No less me whether I’m perceived as male, female, neither, or both. I’m not without gender but I’m not defined by gender either. I just am.

My response to a cisgender person asking me about my Trans* status (they said they’ve always seen me as a “strong woman” who is very feminine)

[multivalent-tribble]

I can look at a picture of myself and sometimes I'll know what my gender was at the time. 

There's a picture of me and a friend at [conference redacted]. We both are wearing dresses, and my hair is long and my makeup fierce. She and I are sitting together, hugging each other's sides good bye, and when I look at it I instantly know that when the photo was taken inside I was a dude. 

There are pictures of me in high femme when I was a dude or masculine ish inside. There are slob pictures of me when I look relatively masculine for me where I was 100% lady inside at the time.

There are few pictures of me when I'm masculine inside dressed relatively masculine- the only full set I can think of, I was dressed in a men's costume from the 900s, and it was safe to do so because it was explicitly a costume, and was more suited to what I was doing that day. Everything else is here or there. 

I enjoy dressing femme. I'd do it even if I were out, even if my gender fluidity were safe and accepted by all, because it's fun and strong and beautiful, and I love those factors no matter what my gender is at the time. 

[punlich]

multivalent-tribble replied to your post: I’m just. Guys. Guyssssss.

… I don’t have a gender at all? this is news to me!

Well thank god paradoxicull was here to educate us all right? Thank. God.

You should thank them. I know I did. Mockingly

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[transgundam-deactivated20140908]

dont out trans people

dont out trans people

dont out trans people

if someone who is trans says they are cis theyre saying it for a reason

[multivalent-tribble]

Pronouns

They/She

They because that's under all of this- my shape, my form, and my presentation.

She because I play my presentation. I present femme, I drag or embody, I dress in ribbons and lace, present and play at the feminine elements of culture and perception. It's beautiful and fun and lovely. My she is persona not gender or being, and not because of my assigned sex (though some might interpret it that way.)

They are different things that are both incredibly important to the totality of who I am. 

So it is They/She- and in THAT order.