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24 | plural bi sadomasochistic whore | minors DNI

[murderdreaming]

pinned post/byf (work in progress)

18+ horny blog. system, age 24.

bad at tagging, blanket cw for everything from vanilla to extreme. particularly fond of rape, intox, violence, psychological play. sporadically active with a habit of burying things in my likes more than reblogging.

butch, queer, trans, poly, and married to @muttsnuff.

if we interact in a way you don't like, let us know so we can fix it. happy to make friends, but also happy to block.

[pansyfemme]

they need to make a strap that prematurely ejaculates

[onetomb-art]

stray dog making its way home

[bungerc0re]

I've got to get back into hitting people until they fall over

[bungerc0re]

precisely

[null-physical]

[spiritualdowngrade]

ohhh my god. im not normal

[enne-theos]

hi babe 💖

[futchlingg]

please note that the meat tenderizer was used over a month ago, we just hit them hard enough and for long enough that the scars started bleeding again <3 in awe

[spiritualdowngrade]

I have injuries again yayyyyy 💜💜💜 @enne-theos @futchling

[futchlingg]

Gorgeous ...

[pup-jpg]

Hey you can't just tarnish the sanctity of the fallen angel like that. No no no stop touching its halo. It's not right to sully a pure b—oh. Oh it's moaning. Stop fucking rubbing it like that .. and sliding your fingers along the rim ...

...

Yes I can see that it's nuzzling into your hand. That doesn't mean anything. You wanna pull out one of its feathers? Whoa now—oh my god the angel isn't supposed to say "yes please" and pant harder. Stop you're going to leave a lecherous stain upon its pure consciousnesssssand it just came from that. Never mind.

[ace-trainer-alice]

I'm still kinda caught up thinking about training two people to mirror each other as hive mind formation. It's a fairly automatic process but can be done intentionally. I understand the way it works is really low level. Some animals (eg cats) can learn by mimicry while others (eg dogs) can't. Presumably, you can train two ppl to have a state where they focus entirely on mirroring each other, but ideally, I want passive mirroring. Without consciously noticing, adjusting their body language to match. Picking up language and word choices from each other. I feel like with very precise positive reinforcement you could probably do it but it's such a low level and particular mental process... hm.

Like, another thing about this is if they're mirroring each other closely enough, they'll be mindful of each other's internal states just from the complexity of empathy. Idk. Seems like a really funky experimental play.

[ace-trainer-alice]

What do you mean by force-unmasking?

Oo. Hm. So, I use the term 'mask' to refer to a certain pattern of individuals that for various reasons need to hide certain reactions, behaviors, or instincts. Then, unmasking is letting that pattern go, and force-unmasking is forcing a subject to let it go. Let me elaborate.

First, you can just be someone safe to be around. Make it clear that you won't judge your subject for how it expresses itself with words or posture. Tell your subject it's okay to stim, it's okay to be loud, it's okay to be quiet. It's okay to struggle to maintain your space or your appearance, it's okay to struggle with the sounds of words, it's okay to not meet arbitrary expectations.

Generally, I think the reason for masking is in part because the nature of neurotypicality, the nature of 'humanity', is coercive. There is pressure to hold the appearance of it, both in terms of positive reasons to and negative reasons not to. Asserting to your subject a willingness to let it let go of it should help.

But, frankly, I find all of that exhausting. Communication isn't so bright and cheery, and is on some level the mechanism across which this whole system is asserted. Unmasking means being objectively worse at human communication. Just telling your subject that "it's okay! I'm safe" is useless if you don't mean it. If you don't prove it.

Thus, I recommend a more subtle and intentional approach. Generally, the goal is not to neutrally unmask your subject towards some imagined, objectified target, but to unmask it towards its more genuine self. This requires intentional analysis of what that might be.

Note how your subject moves or tries to move when not directly observed. Cameras can help. Especially observe reactions and stifled reactions in times of strong emotion. Note what types of things cause stronger emotions in your subject. Note what types of things cause distress reactions in your subject. And adjust your behavior and any structures accordingly.

For most subjects, any comments on its "unmasked" behaviors will be assumed to be negative. Figure out how to give positive reinforcement for such behaviors, and do. One goal might be to be comfortable, disarmingly so, until your subject cannot help but lower its defenses. Another goal might be to just create space and let it fill it on its own. Take up the tasks that are difficult and dismiss the pieces that are distressing. Note that this requires active engagement with your subject's own fears and worries.

But, that's not really force, is it? I can talk all I want about how I can weaponize prior assumptions about me, coerce subjects using the things they find special, or take up a special place in their life to achieve my goals, but I'm not really directly forcing anything there. So, I think the truest 'force unmasking' is the category of forcefully making it impossible for your subject to mask.

Behaviorally, the goal here is to remove behavior by "shooting the dog", by making the undesired behavior impossible in the first place. This is the cruelest method, but if all else fails this can be necessary. How you go about this depends wildly on exactly how your subject masks. Binding your subject's mouth so it cannot talk and must instead communicate in other ways, limiting its alone time so it cannot hide and inevitably let's loose in front of you, remove its ability to maintain its own appearance or space and accomplishing what is necessary for it, or controlling its language more directly and forcing it to speak or behave in certain patterns.

Don't be afraid to be very precise with it. Figure out the things your subject believes that it has to do, that it struggles to do, and remove them. Rules and structures are the tool of the enemy, but by making yours more natural to your subject you can achieve better results, or by making them so elaborate that the subject can only act by instinct you can force it to let go. Humanity is coercive, by coercing your own vision you can counteract that. It's perhaps less ethical, but with some subjects it can be necessary.

Of course, once you have asserted a willingness to shoot the dog, that might be enough for some subjects to realize you are sincere and do a better job playing along, but I consider that to be relatively cruel as well. Kinder methods will be more effective in the long term, rewarding creativity and openness in your subject. But, it's important to remember that it's on the table. Hope this helps!

[preydefiler]

hey did you know that if you flash your tits at me, I'll... um, I, uh--... well, you, um...... we might, erm...... if you, ah...... hhh....... woof

[unicornpubes]

hole for their pleasure.

[unicornpubes]

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[schadentekkers]

[chalicechipper]

yes waiter one toxic thighfucking premature ejaculation crying yaoi please

[muttsnuff]

digging around to organize the toy drawer means finding your wife's old piece and trying it on, obviously!

(they/them)

[muzzleslut]

this paddle was the best purchase of my life ever

photo and bruise cred @murderdreaming also bruise cred @muttsnuff

[sapphling]

BE MORE ASSERTIVE: instead of asking if you can please cum inside this time, just ask it if it's cool if you get it pregnant 2 seconds before you grind deep and unload regardless of the actual answer