[mikeru6]

being aro is so confusing because like. I want the emotional closeness and devotion that comes with a romantic relationship but at the same time I only ever see them as a platonic soulmate

what am I supposed to even do

[aromanticofficial]

official aromantic post

[littledudesclub]

[arowitharrows]

The duality of "If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you"

and

"being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience"

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

i think the tags are important

[beesinspades]

shoutout to the aces who didn't always know or wonder what everyone's deal over sex was. shoutout to the aces who were horny teenagers who couldn't differentiate between their libido and sexual attraction. shoutout to the aces who only realized they were ace much later, perhaps after sexual experiences they regretted and couldn't understand why something they were so curious about felt so wrong. shoutout to the aces who made peace with these experiences and are now open to try again. shoutout to those who didn't and/or aren't. we're all valid as hell

[tardistimeladyyeah]

Ace meme hehe

[spineless-lobster]

The weird thing about my asexuality is that it’s kinda like watered down bisexuality in which everyone around me is so so so beautiful and I want to give them all the kisses but anything more and I will bite your hand off

[aroaceconfessions]

So I know I'm aroace, I've known for years but does anyone else feel like "yes I'm ace but I also feel theoretically bisexual"? Like I'm not interested in dating anyone but if I were to I would do so bisexually. Am I alone in this?

[aroaceconfessions]

I don't understand why thinking about fictional/theoretical kissing sounds so good but thinking about kissing someone real sounds so incredibly gross.

Submitted April 7, 2023

[aroaceconfessions]

Hi!! I’m writing a story with a demiromantic character, but I myself am not demiromantic. Can some demi people (who are comfortable) share what they would like to see in this character, please? Thank you :)

Submitted March 27, 2023

[aroaceconfessions]

It really should be mandatory to teach sex-ed in American highschools bc I thought I might be grey-ace for a while, but it turns out the random bouts of horniness that I felt about once a month was just me ovulating 💀

I felt like a damn werewolf 😩

Submitted March 8, 2023

[aromanticmina]

*cries in wanting a queerplatonic polycule*

[scretladyspider]

the ideas that “libido and attraction can be separate and for many aces they are”, “aces who have and enjoy sex are still ace” and “aces who do not have sex and don’t want to shouldn’t be pressured” and “you should accept aces regardless of their sexual behavior” can and should coexist

[aro-and-ace-stuff]

Yes I'm very hot and beautiful and cool and sexy BUT in a distinctive aroace way. Do not ruin my vibe.

[abyssal-xx]

Okay Tumblr, what is your sexuality?

Heterosexual

Homosexual

Bisexual

Pansexual

Demisexual

Asexual

Other

Voting ended onFeb 26, 2023

[shades-of-grayro]

Being an Aromantic Asexual is Weird

Being an aromantic asexual is weird. We defy not one, not two, but three societal norms; heteronormativity, compulsory sexuality, and amatonormativity. It gets even weirder when you’re indifferent (even favourable!) when it comes to sex and romance because you think your experience is universal, that everyone feels the way you do. It’s not feeling wrong and broken and out of place. It’s feeling normal, and then realizing that you aren’t.

Thinking (read: assuming) that you’re straight for most of your life and then finding out you’re not is weird. Mostly because once you realize you’re not straight, it dawns on you that you feel the same way about boys that you do about girls and non-binary people. And then you wonder if you’re pansexual because they’re attracted to all genders, and you have to be attracted to someone, right? And then that thought is immediately dismissed because you don’t feel attraction, at all. But it doesn’t stop you from contemplating every other sexuality and romantic orientation, because you’ve been taught that everyone wants sex and romance.

And then you remember: you like sex and romance in fiction. You like seeing your friends in happy, healthy, consenting relationships, and you’d always assumed that one day, you’d be in one too. But you’ve never pursued one. You never had more than a fleeting interest in boys, and lingering but still platonic affection for your female and non-binary friends. Those “crushes” that you had in elementary school? Maybe not crushes after all, because God knows you haven’t had one in nearly eight years. The most powerful feelings you’ve had for another person have been squishes so intense that you had to look back and question if it was actually romantic attraction (spoiler: it wasn’t).

And then there’s that epiphanic moment when things start to fall into place. Why you were always so vehement that soulmates could be platonic too. Why the idea of loving someone more than your best friend is incomprehensible (because romantic love is always shown as being more. Hello amatonormativity). Why when you ship fictional pairings, there are people you want to get together romantically, people you want to be friends so bad, and the ships that you like the most are the ones that could go either way. Why you desire emotional closeness and intimacy with the people in your life, but that had always been conflated with sex and romance so you wondered if what you wanted was more than friendship. Why you want to take the expression “more than friends”and burn it to the ground because there is no vocabulary for friendship that exceeds “best friend” without crossing over into romantic and/or sexual territory.

You realize that your ideal relationship isn’t necessarily romantic. It’s best friends who cohabitate and snuggle and hold hands and go on adventures to the library together. Kissing and sex? Well, that’s more of an afterthought. A “yeah, that’ll probably happen somewhere in there.” An assumption, because you’ve been taught that primary, monogamous relationships are always romantic and sexual. You reflect and see that there are very few things that you see and inherently romantic, and that there is a lot of cross-over between things you consider platonic, sensual, and romantic. A grey area that you can’t define.

Being an aromantic asexual is weird, because while I’ve always said that you don’t need romance and sex to be happy, I now realize that it applies to me too.

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Note from mod fitz: This has to be one of the most moving descriptions of this I have ever read. This exactly describes how I felt coming to the realization that I was not straight, and I think had I read this when I first began questioning it would have made things go a lot smoother for me. Thanks so much for submitting!

[dracolizardlars]

the trans experience of, after running as far away from your forcibly assigned gender as possible, turning around and cautiously approaching it from the other side

[princessgemma12]

If you like the word “queer” reblog.