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crawly

Governor Mike Parson deserves death, deserves pain, deserves not another moment of peace.

crawly

#context in the comments

destiel-news-channel

[Image ID: The Destiel confession meme edited so that Dean answers 'JK Rowling posted upskirt photos of a woman on Twitter' to Cas 'I love you'. /End ID]

No one doing this should be allowed to call themselves a feminist.

The wealthy author escalated a social media spat that resulted in posting a photo from a 2023 event at the Institute of Economic Affairs in

solarishashernoseinabook

Let's not beat around the bush: Children's author JK Rowling sexually harassed someone. In some jurisdictions, this would count as sexual abuse. JK Rowling has committed a sex crime against a woman and fell back on the old rape apologist standby of "she was asking for it".

I hope your nostalgia is worth it

fakeosphere

So this is happening right now apparently. JK rowling is posting upskirt photos of, misgendering publicly and generally degrading a trans woman because TERFs gonna TERF. This is after she started a women's support organization that is trans exclusionary, outraged that another org is being run by a trans woman. So like are we done enjoying Harry Potter or whatever the fuck? Are we done passively bankrolling this absolute fucking abuser?

pixeljade

Shes also currently attacking Amnesty International UK for them releasing a study showing that anti-trans groups are largely conservative-funded

“They have sued organizations into the ground.”

scots-dragon

This is what you're supporting if you continue to engage with Harry Potter media.

apatheistlesbian

Anyway this disability pride month I would like to shoutout disabled folks whose creativity has suffered because of their condition. I’m talking people with hand tremors and pain that stop them from drawing, knitting, and playing instruments. People whose thinking has become so disorganized that nothing they write makes sense to other people. People with chronic pain who can no longer dance. People so over medicated in a fruitless attempt to maintain stability that the wells of their imagination have run dry.

I see you and I love you. You are more than your creative output. You are not a shell of what you used to be. You are a whole, complete person, regardless of what your creativity has been, is now, or will be in the future.

readingnookcozies

needed this today

segamascott

stormloup

“Ace people can still have sex! Aro people can still date!” SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP

Forcing aro and ace people into amatonormative relationships is NOT the woke take you think it is you aphobic pieces of shit. And yes, I know what y’all in fandom are doing with your favorite aro/ace characters. I know damn well that when you ship an aro character with an allo character you’re not putting them in QPRs, you’re not writing that relationship within the lens of the aro character’s identity. You’re just reassuring yourself because “oh thank god, aro/ace people can still date, they can still have sex, they’re normal!!”

WELL GUESS WHAT YOU PIECE OF SHIT. NO WE’RE NOT FUCKING NORMAL. WE GET SHAMED BY OUR PEERS, BY OUR FAMILIES, BY OUR CLOSEST CIRCLES BECAUSE “OH YOU JUST HAVEN’T FOUND THE RIGHT ONE YET”. WE GET DRUGGED AND TORTURED BY PSYCHOLOGISTS BECAUSE ACE AND ARO PEOPLE STILL GET SENT TO CONVERSION THERAPY EVERY-FUCKING-WHERE. WE GET RAPED EVERY FUCKING YEAR BECAUSE OF OUR IDENTITIES.

Society thinks we’re sad little freaks who need correction because we don’t fit into the patriarcal, heteronormative norm. You’re no better than the people who discriminate against us for our identities when you tell aro and ace people that they should still date and have sex. Fuck you.

liebelesbe

june is over... goodbye pride month, hello disability pride month!!

liebelesbe

let's all be disabled this month... together 🤝

liebelesbe

if you're not disabled yet: no need to worry! i can help. come closer.

william-s-churros

i think i saw a movie like this once

maidslime

Ok I needed to know the story and

Guy makes a really stupid decision and gets in a car accident -> no real damage from accident but insurance goes up -> starts beating himself up over his stupid decision -> gets depressed -> starts to realize he's single and had crash been worse he'd die alone -> realizes he's never had a relationship or even a crush and starts wondering what he'd want out of a relationship -> starts to realize he doesn't really like girls so he thinks he must be gay -> realizes he likes girls and boys about the same amount, so he must be bi -> later realizes that "same amount" is none at all -> he's ace

#ace #asexual

i-got-a-penis-yall

TRANS PEOPLE CONSIDERING SURGERY- READ THIS PLEASE GENUINELY I AM BEGGING YOU IT COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE

If you are getting gender affirming surgery, especially if it’s your first major surgery, PLEASE be aware that you can become SEVERELY depressed afterwards ESPECIALLY if you have a history of depression or suicidal ideation.

Post op depression is a natural reaction to the crazy mix of hormones your body goes through after major surgery as well as the stress and anxiety of recovery. Think of it like an adrenaline crash, but dragged out longer.

For me it kicked in about 6 weeks after top surgery and the worst of it lasted until about 10 weeks post op. EVERYTHING felt IMPOSSIBLE. None of the skills I’d been practicing worked. I thought everything was going to be bad forever. I didn’t attempt, but I was in the hospital. If it wasn’t for my support system I probably would have attempted.

This is not regret, but it can feel like it. I remain happy about my results to this day (going on six years later).

This is not you failing to maintain your mental health, but it can make you feel like a failure.

Things are not hopeless, but through the haze of this depression they can feel hopeless.

It can be terrifyingly sudden or it can sneak up on you. I didn’t even realize what was going on until after the depression finally passed and my mental health went back to normal.

I am writing this post because nobody told me about this before my top surgery. I was caught completely off guard. For my subsequent surgeries being aware has made all the difference. Being able to treat those symptoms as an expected and normal part of the healing journey has made them far easier to deal with. Because even when my emotions go to dark places I *know* they will pass. I have been able to tell the bad thoughts to take a bad seat and focus on healing.

PLEASE have a plan in place for if this happens. I know that this topic is taboo because of how often our mental health is weaponized against us, but I desperately want every single person getting gender affirming surgery to be aware of, and have a plan for post operative depression.

aprilbrowines

THIS IS IMPORTANT!!!!

KOSA IS MOVING FORWARD IN THE HOUSE!

It's part of a package called the KIDS Act, filled with digital ID and age verification and censorship!

MAKE THOSE PHONES RING!! CALL YOUR HOUSE REPRESENTATIVES ALL WEEK

202-224-3121 i HIGHLY encourage everyone to read the bills in the KIDS Act, because you will be doing more than 95% of people who read and introduce these bills

thisrobothasnosoul

All of the bad internet bills. One website.

desultory-suggestions

The Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund (PCRF) is still and always in need of donations. Whether you can offer a dollar or a hundred, please do what you can to fund the powerful and direct support the PCRF is offering during this horrific genocide. Continue to share these resources, and do not let yourself become used to the violence and terror that Palestinians are living through. The money donated to the PCRF will not only offer immediate support to families, but will continue to be used to rebuild and recover in the long term.

The Palestine Children's Relief Fund was established in 1992 by concerned humanitarians in the USA to bring injured and sick children for fr

“Our "Gaza Relief and Recovery" campaign aims to address urgent humanitarian needs and support long-term recovery efforts in Gaza. The funds raised will primarily focus on immediate relief, including providing essential medical supplies, food, medical treatment, clean water, and other necessities for families affected by the conflict. Additionally, our campaign will support rebuilding healthcare facilities and providing long-term support through impactful programs and projects to support the needs of children and the health sector in Gaza. It will also allocate resources towards trauma counseling, mental health support, and other initiatives for children affected by the conflict, aiming to foster healing and resilience within the community.” (PCRF, 2024).

peach-pot

being anti-amatonormativity in a romance centered world is like watching half the people you know put all their eggs in one basket and then drop the basket and all their eggs break and they’re crying and swearing they’re never gonna do that again and then a month later they have all new eggs in a new basket and they tell you the problem was they didn’t have a strong enough basket or fresh enough eggs and then they drop the fucking basket again.

peach-pot

(this post is about putting all your time, energy, and care into one relationship, about staking all your happiness on a romantic relationship, effectively making the entirety of your joy and stability dependent on one person who could exit your life for any number of reasons no matter how great the relationship seems. it’s about the societal expectation to build your entire social life around one long term relationship, putting all your eggs in that basket, so to speak, instead of tending to larger social network and maintaining a variety of strong connections so that even if one very important relationship comes to an end, you won’t be losing your whole social life in one fell swoop.)

#amatonormativity

mattpresents

How do you know you're not Asexual? Maybe you just haven't met the right nobody.

memegetter

happy pride month.

in new zealand, our evil government are trying to legislate definitions of women and men, in ways that are legally incoherent but clearly trying to pave the way for more horrifically transphobic legislation. we have an election in a few months but our main opposition party, and all our mainstream news media, are so spineless and cooked that there's a good chance the ghouls will win reelection.

it took 2 whole months for local terf group 'speak up for women' to get 2,000 signatures on the petition that led to this new bill in our parliament.

it's taken five days for this pro-trans 'they don't speak for us' petition to get 17,000 signatures.

this is a show of support that is really heartening for a lot of trans people in our corner of the world.

cis/ish women, if you're from here but haven't signed yet, please do. and if you're not from here and you know any new zealanders, could you send them this petition? a full fifth of our population lives overseas, and there's a good chance they don't follow the news.

LINK

hungry-skeleton

Asexuals were always part of pride and it really fucking shows when people think it's a recent term.

hungry-skeleton

Although not going by the term "asexual" yet, asexuality was spoken about alongside homosexuality as far back as the 1890s. Asexual history is just as vital to queer history as any other term and I'm so tired of watching us being treated like a new thing

hungry-skeleton