Ethereal Complex

Will your future self thank you?

[dafancyuhinspiration]

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[qadarpriestress]

I cannot overstate how important it is for women to possess things, whether material or immaterial. Let it be your favorite dress, bottles of perfume, a piece of jewelry, linen bedsheets, books, knowledge, degrees, work experience, connections, hobbies, a secret garden that belong to you alone.

Build a life that is unmistakably yours. Form your identity. Explore and refine your taste. Know what moves you, what inspires you. Be your own muse, go to shopping malls and smell new perfumes/try the clothes on instead of getting your inspiration online. A woman without a strong sense of identity risks losing herself in this world.

I remember my mother once saying that she had "nothing." That sentence has stayed with me. Many women were robbed of their identity whether by marrying the wrong man or by being reduced solely to the roles of wife and mother. They were never truly given the opportunity to explore their womanhood in all its depth.

If you are feeling lost in your womanhood, just start to cultivate your taste. Read foreign literature. Treat yourself according to your budget (for instance try to understand what you really enjoy in fashion and you really don’t need to buy anything ) . Explore new hobbies. Invest in your education and your future. If your circumstances allow try new occupations, develop new skills, travel, create, remain curious.

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[stuckinapril]

Best brain hack is taking “this too shall pass” and applying it in the micro. The panic you feel from an argument with a friend, wanting to get on your phone when you should be studying, the absolute obsession with someone you’re crushing on, pain from rejection, utter hopelessness at a situation that is not entirely hopeless. Heavy on situations that induce panic and incentivize you to act out of turn, maybe to send a text you shouldn’t be sending or to blow up at someone or whatever it is. The antidote to knee jerk reactions is literally just “this too shall pass” and allowing yourself to feel the physical manifestation of your extreme emotion. Literally just ride it out. Even for things that can’t immediately be resolved, it makes such a big difference and prevents you from reacting in ways that you would undoubtedly regret down the line.

[theambitiouswoman]

Your routines are a love letter to your future self

[hermajestyimher]

There are parts of you that will only come alive around the right people and circumstances. Parts that you had no idea existed within your personality and that can give you a lot of clarity as to the things you truly want out of life and reshuffle what matters most to you.

There’s a thrill to discovering yourself.

[2productive]

Some notes on habits…

* Build routines that still work on your worst day, not just your best one.

* Decide in advance what "good enough" looks like when your energy is low.

* Keep your standards flexible but your commitment non-negotiable.

* Notice the excuses that you frequently make because they usually follow a predictable pattern that you need to learn to break.

* Reduce the number of decisions you make daily so your goals don't compete with decision fatigue. Put your goal related habits on autopilot, ideally as early in the day as possible. You should never have to guess or ‘figure out’ what you should be doing.

* Let your goals determine your actions instead of letting your mood decide them. You don’t study because you feel like it, you study because you want to be a competent lawyer.

* Create a ‘minimum’ version of your routine that keeps your streak alive. Literally the most embarrassingly low effort task that just barely counts as doing the work. But you are indeed doing the work and you haven’t abandoned your mission, and on days like these that's all that matters. Keep moving forward even if it’s millimeter by millimeter.

* Stop checking to see if you feel like it before you do something. Who cares, just do it.

* Learn to recognize the difference between needing rest and simply seeking comfort. Half the time you take a social media break while studying isn’t because you truly needed a break, but because you are experiencing the friction of not knowing something and are retreating to something easy and comfortable. 

* Pay attention to the first habit you abandon, because it often predicts what comes next. Like an evil domino falling. 

* Make restarting/continuing so simple that one missed day never becomes a missed month. Remember, the itty bittiest actions can be the spark that's needed to ignite big changes. Sounds cliche but it’s true!!

* Judge each day by whether you honored your commitment, even in a lowered capacity, not whether you made jaw dropping strides.

[2productive]

When you don’t feel like working out 🍏

* Commit to just five minutes. Getting started is often the hardest part.

* Focus on how you'll feel after the workout rather than how you feel before it.

* Do it at home in your pajamas if you must.

* Remind yourself that consistency matters more than anything.

* Choose a shorter version of the workout instead of skipping it entirely.

* Track completed workouts to create visible proof of your progress.

* Start with the easiest exercise in the routine to build momentum.

* Remember that not every workout needs to feel amazing to make a difference.

* Focus on showing up and be super proud of yourself for doing even just the bare minimum.

* Use a countdown (5-4-3-2-1) and start before your mind talks you out of it.

* Keep a list of reasons you exercise and review it when motivation is low.

* Reduce decision fatigue by following a pre-planned workout schedule.

* Compare today's effort only to doing nothing, not to your best workout ever.

* Tell yourself you can stop after ten minutes if you still truly want to quit.

* Remember that discipline grows every time you act without waiting for motivation.

[herfleur]

girl, your competition isn’t other people

it’s your bad habits ⋆ your distractions ⋆ your insecurities ⋆ your lack of discipline ⋆ your procrastination ⋆ your ego ⋆ your fears ⋆ your broken routine ⋆ your addictions ⋆ the person you don't want to be anymore

[keptandkind]

😭 posts like this are not for everybody but it genuinely does motivate me because it reminds me that NOTHING is impossible, some things are literally determined by your own laziness. But the brilliant thing is that you CAN ALWAYS CHANGE THAT!

[dafancyuhinspiration]

[rainekeiko]

[icaseybaybee]

[aidashakur]

[corvid-language-library]

Remember that if you want to do more of something, you have to do less of something else. It's that time of year where people set goals for the new year and they have plans and hopes and it's always focusing on what they want to do more of. More studying, more exercise, more crafting, more socialising, more making things from scratch. Okay, great. What are you going to do less of in order to have the time and energy to do more of those things you really want to do?

[corvid-language-library]

And if your answer to this is "less doomscrolling" or "less bedrotting" then great, but please think about why you're doing those things. No one's doomscrolling or bedrotting because they don't have things they'd rather be doing. Actually, I'm willing to bet you have a lot of things you'd rather be doing and you spend your life internally screaming at yourself to do literally any one of the many things you want to be doing instead, but you don't have the energy for them all and you can't work out how to prioritize them, so doomscrolling spares you from making that decision. Or perhaps you're burned out from taking on too many projects and you need to rest your brain, so you lie in bed because you don't even have the energy to get started anymore.

This is going to be a really hard pill to swallow, but the truth is you might not be able to balance all your hobbies and all your projects the way you'd like. If you want to finish writing that book, you might have to reduce your daily drawing habit to a couple of times a week. If you want to do yoga every morning, you might have to accept not cooking from scratch as often. If you want to spend more time with your family, you might have to cut down on your yearly reading goal. I'm not saying give up on your hobbies; I'm be realistic with your time and your energy and be kind to yourself. Stop expecting yourself to do more and do better every single year. You don't have to constantly be growing upwards and reaching for the stars; you can be content with where you are, or even cut parts of yourself back to make space for other things in your life to bloom.

Think about what your priorities are and make peace with doing less of other things. Less is okay. Less is not failing. Less is self care.

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