Totally me

[chronicreality]

“You can’t love someone until you love yourself” is definitely something most people agree isn’t true, but I think we should amend it.

“You shouldn’t love someone until you love yourself” is a much better phrase to go by. Can you love someone totally and fully without also loving yourself? Sure. But don’t because it will feel so much better when you are also in love with you. Let’s say I asked the guy who I’m dating why he loves me and before he said anything I already had 10 things in my head I thought he might say. Why? Because I LOVE ME. I love the way I dance in the car. I love that my favorite band is Bowling For Soup even though I only like one of their albums. I love that I cry at emotionsal commercials. I love that I skip ahead in books because I enjoy knowing the ending before I read the story. I love the Monroe mole on my face.

And when you love yourself, really love yourself, it’s so much harder to have someone take advantage of your worth. It’s harder to sacrifice parts of yourself to be loved, because you are too busy loving all of those parts.

[sleepyowlet]

I think the bottom of the thing is, “You can’t sustain a healthy emotional relationship with someone unless you love yourself.”

Because if you don’t, you will always question why that other person loves you, since, to yourself, you seem unlovable. And that insecurity will poison any familial or romantic relationship, even friendships.

And there’s also the angle that you’ll be taken advantage of, as you said, because you’ll be willing to roll over completely for the tiniest scrap of affection - on the other hand, this also means putting the responsibility for your emotional wellbeing on another person - which - also isn’t great.

[nightsofreylo]

I also think it’s important to remember that everyone is sort of on a path to loving themselves. It’s not black and white, like there are only two options - either you love yourself or you don’t. There will be days where you feel really good about yourself and others where you don’t. There will be days where you might not love yourself, but you are sort of content with yourself, if that makes sense. And there will be times when you’re feeling down about your looks, or your talents, or when you make bad choices. I think the key is to ask whether underneath the day to day feeling of “loving” yourself there is something else you rely on for your strength. It’s not healthy when you feel unlovable to latch on to the nearest emotional tether, in the form of another human being, and to put all of your self-worth on them. It is healthy to remind yourself that you have inherent worth regardless of how you feel that day, to have experienced loving yourself in the absence of another person so that you can remember that feeling and expect to feel it again, to demand respect from your partner and learn to recognize if they are taking advantage of your temporary self-doubt, to understand that this is a journey and they’re traveling with you.

[mypsychout]

Writing prompt: When Y/n loses the most important person in her life, she vows to either heal everyone and prevent all suffering, or if she can't- she'll destroy the entire world to end all pain. The only way she can do this is with the help of either Castiel the healer or Lucifer the destroyer. Both of them tag along, both of them willing to prove that their way is best. But finding the solution is no simple matter, and takes a lot of searching and failing. But as the search goes on, Castiel's optimism slowly fails and he leaves to find a 3rd solution, and soon only Lucifer is left with y/n. The search goes on for many moons when they come upon a mystical garden where there may lay a solution. Lucifer sees y/n eyes light up with joy, thinking that she found a way to save everyone, only for it to be a hoax like so many before- and as the light dims from y/ns eyes, hardening into a resolve to destroy the world, Lucifer then makes a vow to himself: that even though he is known for destruction, he is willing to save the world just to return that brightness back to y/n.

[longseasons]

[catchymemes]

[rewind-on-purpose]

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-08-22/food-plant-solutions-malnutrition-farming-edible-plants/12580732

https://fms.cmsvr.com/fmi/webd/Food_Plants_World

This guy is my new hero. I LOVE learning about native food plants that just grow everywhere without human help.

The database is a little clunky to use (especially on a phone), but still loads of excellent information.

[plantyhamchuk]

Here’s their website - Food Plant Solutions - and they can use volunteers! And $ of course. What they really need help with is connecting with NGOs/groups on the ground already working in countries, to get them access to the database. They also need help from formally trained agronomists, people good with website stuff, and people good at marketing / getting the word out about their project.

[just-spacetrash]

the 'what if you played it a little risky' post literally Changed my life but i cant fujkign find it in my blog because its. a tiktok screenshot

[bluehairedspidey]

is this it?

[tarynel]

What’s your fantasy?

[pleasestopandrew]

I wake up, my debt is all paid off, my bank account is full, my relationships with my family are healthy, and I’m able to travel anywhere in the world.

[sophiamariabaeks]

reblog for this ultimate fantasy life to come true

[mypsychout]

And my family is healthy🌸

[catchymemes]

[tastefullyoffensive]

(photos by Bill Watterson and an octopus)

[transparasite-deactivated201806]

I think this is the best scientist photograph I have ever seen.

[shellysbees-blog]

But people didn’t believe him on reddit. So Watterson made the photo sequence into a gif.

[moonlit-hedge]

Here’s the gif for anyone curious.

[siren-kitten-his-deactivated202]

I had to go through the notes to find the gif. Not because I didn’t believe him but because I wanted to see it.

[roach-pizza]

I’m annoyed people didn’t believe him as if Octopi aren’t known for being incredibly smart.

[thedankmemes]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

sick of this anti-aging obsession. let's go in the opposite direction. i want more characters who are hardened & grizzled & have a face lined with the harrowing tribulations of time--and then halfway through the narrative u find out they're 27

[mypsychout]

Make books more about 27 years olds. Not 18 year old "adults"

[mightofmerchants]

Some people have asked me if I can publish my mapmaking tools. So I developed a software. 🙂

Here is the result:

Canvas of Kings on Steam

Canvas of Kings is a minimalistic mapmaking tool that focuses on randomness and auto-generated elements on user-definable and interactive pa

[geopsych]

Here’s a video so you can hear the water and the thrushes. I took it for you because you couldn’t be there. <3

[olyoil2-deactivated20250812]

People are like “it’s so beautiful no clouds at all” it could use a little clouds if I had to be honest.

[holoprisms]

it literally could use a little clouds if i had to be honest

[danismilek]

[thewightknight]

25% of the people have a 4th cone and see colors as they are

Given the sudden interest for the color of dresses and vision, here some of the fascinating findings we did recently.

The color nuances we see depend on the number and distribution of cones (=color receptors) in our eye. You can check this rainbow: how many color nuances do you count?

You see less than 20 color nuances: you are a dichromats, like dogs, which means you have 2 types of cones only. You are likely to wear black, beige, and blue. 25% of the population is dichromat.

You see between 20 and 32 color nuances: you are a trichromat, you have 3 types of cones (in the purple/blue, green and red area). You enjoy different colors as you can appreciate them. 50% of the population is trichromat.

You see between 33 and 39 colors: you are a tetrachromat, like bees, and have 4 types of cones (in the purple/blue, green, red plus yellow area). You are irritated by yellow, so this color will be nowhere to be found in your wardrobe. 25% of the population is tetrachromat.

You see more than 39 color nuances: come on, you are making up things! there are only 39 different colors in the test and probably only 35 are properly translated by your computer screen anyway :)

It is highly probable that people who have an additional 4th cone do not get tricked by blue/black or white/gold dresses, no matter the background light ;)

(x)

[ahaunteddildoforblaine]

I see 21 colors. I had no idea there are so many more.

[chocolatequeennk]

I see 35-39 colours, and I hate the colour yellow. That was actually what made me curious enough to stop scrolling and count. Who knew there was a scientific reason behind my colour preferences? So the idea here is that what I see as annoyingly, garishly bright, most people don’t see as clearly, and that’s why it’s “cheerful?” (I’ve never understood that description of yellow.)

[sassyhail]

I barely saw 18 or 19. Dang :/

[straightboyfriend2]

Im fucking colorblind

[circuits-unending]

i lost count after 34 and then was like im tired of counting

[wilburian-deactivated20221116]

i got 37 and i fucking hate yellow

[owo-livia]

you always reblog the wildest stuff i got 38

[bmwiid]

I got 35 and I like yellow! I think it’s nice. I painted one of my rooms yellow. I don’t wear it a lot, but I like it!

[mypsychout]

I see 35👌👌

[szynkaaa]

I did it!!! I made 34 cards in the span of a month :)

You can download them here on my Gumroad

You can also purchase prints and stickers here on my Redbubble

The colored Evangeline Fox and Jacks card are not included on my gumroad and rebubble shop - those are exclusive cards available in a physical deck I’m working