Clefair-ly sweet.

Luca/Lucy/Lucas. He/they (she less preferred but okay). 22. Intersex. Bigender, fluidflux, idesexual. OSDD1A, BPD, ADHD. Side-blog for all my social justicing. Anarcho-queer. Antifascist. Anti-capitalist. No TERFs/DDLG/MAPs or aphobes.

[w04m]

This new orange and pink lesbian flag came out of nowhere (I’ve never seen it outside of tumblr lol) and people are getting mad that people aren’t using it in pride merch where they use the rainbow flag for lesbians (as lesbians have always been able to use?)

What’s wrong with lesbians using the rainbow flag? I’m a lesbian and I like using the rainbow flag, I trust it so much more considering the all pink flag was made by a biphobic racist, and I’ve heard this pink and orange one was made by an exclusionist (but I never saw that claim proved so please correct me if I’m wrong!!! I don’t know who made the flag so I can’t look into it myself! As an ace lesbian this topic is pretty. Hm.) the rainbow flag just feels more inclusive of all lesbians imo

There’s so many lesbian flags out there now that so many different people use it’s no wonder no one uses a specific one in merch in case it’s the “wrong” flag and faces backlash. You can’t exactly ask “which is right” cuz there’d be different answers?

[breeeliss]

I've been using Doe and Stag because I thought that it was better for bisexual people to have their own terms instead of borrowing the ones lesbians were using. I get that it's not wrong to use them but I always thought it was just bisexual people wanting to have their own terms since they've always been two separate identities.

well the funny thing is that the separation between women who were only attracted to other women and women who were attracted to women and other genders wasn’t really a point of focus until the rise of lesbian separatism and identity politics. 

lesbian and sapphic were terms that mainly referred to women who slept with women and that was it. before lesbian and sapphic, “tribade” was the word of choice during the 1600s to the 1800s, and it came from the word “tribadism” which literally means scissoring, i.e. the sexual act. so tribade, lesbian, and sapphic weren’t really identities so much as they described women who had sex with and had relationships with other women. there was no distinction besides that. 

the first time bisexual was used was in Charles Gilbert Chaddock’s translation of Psychopathia Sexualis which was one of the first books written on sexual pathology in the 1800s. before this, bisexual was usually used to mean hermaphroditic, usually in reference to plants. this was the first time the word was used in reference to people who were attracted to multiple genders. this wasn’t an identity yet. bi/lesbian women were always in a shared community and they organized and convened under “lesbian.” before the 60s, when studies were talking about lesbians, they usually meant all sapphic women. and of course when butch/femme started cropping up in gay bars circa the 50s and 60s, bi women were at those bars, in those spaces, using those words. 

it wasn’t until monsters like sheila jeffreys and all the other cis white female lesbian separatists popped up in the 70s and coined the term “political lesbian,” i.e. women who don’t fuck or fuck with men. it was seen as necessary for women to only engage with women who have cut all their ties to male privilege. this included cutting out bi women (bc they fucked men), trans women (bc they were thought to still be men), queer women of color (bc of their activist work with men of color and their inability to exclude men from their politics), and a whole other slew of marginalized identities. 

((and for a quick bit of irony: lesbian separatists often critiqued the use of femme/butch by lesbians as well because they felt it was a symbol of oppressive patriarchal standards and a way of replicating heterosexuality)). 

so of course right around when the stonewall riots were going on, bi groups started appearing because they were effectively shut out of both gay and straight communities. LGB created the distinction between lesbians and bi people. and if you skip to now, whenever people do research on the history of lesbian identities, they read “lesbian” as “women who are only attracted to women” and assume that bi women are excluded from that history when in actual fact they were right smack in the middle of it the entire time. that’s where people on tumblr get mad at bi women for “co-opting lesbian terms” and “stealing from lesbian history.” 

doe/stag were coined as a way to mirror femme/butch because bi women erroneously think that femme/butch are not part of their history. the fact that bi women feel the need to come up with/use doe/stag and steer away from butch/femme is the exact kind of thing TERFs and lesbian separatists wanted to accomplish in the first place. they wanted to treat bi women like traitors who would not relinquish their heterosexual privilege and thus posed a threat to lesbians everywhere (which, needless to say, is horse shit). 

so all that to say, it’s not better for bi people to come up with their own terms because butch/femme were terms used by bi women since their inception. you don’t have to feel like you can’t use those words as if they’re not yours because they are yours and they are a part of your history. anyone who attempts to make bi women feel guilty or wrong for identifying as butch/femme are likely regurgitating TERFy rhetoric they’ve found floating around the internet without realizing it. 

sources: [x] [x] [x] [x] [x] 

EDIT: lol i totally forgot to source sheila jeffreys’ fabulous terf bs: [x]

[universalmage]

So does split attraction model also mean ‘trying to identify as gay while also aroace’ because I keep seeing people rail against that like it’s a concept instead of a fact

[intersex-ionality]

I mean, yes and no. Generally speaking, the split attraction model simply refers to differences between a single person’s romantic and sexual orientations. But the logical followup of splitting attraction in this way is that there are going to be people whose attractions are split in more than two ways/types/categories.

Which naturally leads to identities and experiences being described as “aroace lesbian” and what have you.

Though, of course, the only reason there’s backlash against any of this is tied up in the belief that there is only an extremely discrete, limited number of ways to experience attraction and fuck anyone who doesn’t fit into these neat boxes. The same system of beliefs also leads directly to a-spec antagonism, but it’s broader than just affecting a-specs, since it affects anyone who uses split attraction, alterous attraction, etc in any way.

Which, shockingly, isn’t just a-spec people.

[seriouslyamerica]

[amazingatheist]

I’m so glad to see the younger generation waking up to this hypocrisy. 

[goodreasonnews]

The homeowner at 22 one is killing me.

[bankston]

…………………….

This meme makes me so angry because it’s so on-target.

[breeeliss]

hey everyone. friendly reminder that the suggestion that only lesbians can use terms like femme/butch is terf/twerf/lesbian separatist rhetoric and anyone who says otherwise is feeding you ahistorical nonsense and could probably afford to do some googling and learn something if they have nothing to do this weekend. thank you. 

[breeeliss]

ANYWAY SO BI/PAN WOMEN ARE TOTALLY ALLOWED TO USE BUTCH/FEMME IF THEY SO CHOOSE AND ANYONE WHO DISAGREES IS PEDDLING LESBIAN SEPARATIST BULLSHIT THANK YOU AND GOOD NIGHT  

[gahdamnpunk]

I’m just now finding out Anne Frank was bi??? OMG

[luanna801]

Yeah okay, those edits were made by her dad, a cishet person - and also her dad, a Holocaust survivor, who would have been brutally aware that when the diary was first published in freakin’ 1947, had he included anything which people could use to demonize his daughter or tar her as some kind of “pervert”, it would prevent the message he was trying to send about the horrors of the Holocaust and the heroism of his daughter from being properly understood and accepted the way he hoped.

That isn’t fair. It isn’t just. But it is reality. If Otto Frank had let this be included in the published version, there’s a large chance the homophobic backlash would have prevented the book from reaching the audience it did and spreading the message it needed to. It was NINETEEN. FORTY. SEVEN. The Holocaust had ended TWO YEARS AGO. The acceptance of LGBT identities was basically nonexistent. Otto Frank made a decision based on the time and place he was living in, about what the world at that time was and wasn’t ready to accept. 

Let me say this as bluntly as I can - I am a bisexual Jewish girl and I would have made the same decision Otto Frank did. Making sure Anne Frank was unambiguously seen as sympathic and heroic was more important. Making sure people weren’t sidetracked from the main issue of the Holocaust was more important. He shouldn’t have had to make that decision, without doubt. Anne Frank’s sexuality (however she would have identified in modern terms) shouldn’t be considered relevant to her status as a hero or a sympathetic victim. But in 1947, it undoubtedly would have been.

Otto Frank survived Auschwitz and lost his entire family (a wife and two teenage daughters) to the horrors of the Holocaust. He hoped that publishing his daughter’s diary would spread awareness and sympathy for the victims of the Holocaust. If he had to make sacrifices to do that - well frankly, so fucking be it. I don’t know who alive today has the right to judge him. 

[dabwax-deactivated20250410]

When will transphobes understand that the body shaming bullshit they use to describe why they find trans women disgusting very easily applies to tons of cis women lmfao like

LIKE OH WORM?? I’m a cis woman with fuckin INVERTED hips they’re so narrow, a Hank Hill booty, chest hair straight off of a corny romance novel, and I have to contort my body like this to look at all curvaceous and even then I’m all tummy: 

I have muscular arms, a prominent brow, and broad shoulders. Weirdly enough, a LOT of cis women have these traits. Obviously I’m hairier than most, but that doesn’t change that 5 million women are “diagnosed” with “hirsutism” (basically a doctor told them they’re too hairy and marked it in their charts) PER YEAR. Nobody had any idea I was this hairy for 26 years, and there’s MILLIONS of cis women /just like me/.  TERFs are misogynists, plain and simple. Imagine living a life where you’re hated for being a lesbian, hated for being neurodivergent, hated for being fat, and hated for looking the way I do mostly by men and insecure women, only to have people who call themselves feminists describe your exact body with disgust while claiming to want to defend your specific group of people from predators or whatever the fuck LMFAO

Anyway, trans women, I love you all so much. I’m not going to gush about bravery or whatever the fuck, but just know I love y’all and don’t let anyone fucking tell you your body isn’t Woman enough. 

[legsdemandias]

Hey, fyi, if you yell at people for using queer as an umbrella term but use the term SGA, it has nothing to do with you trying to protect the small minority of people who had queer used pejoratively and has everything to do with the fact that you’re just a bigot. 

[legsdemandias]

You can’t say “queer is a slur!! it’s violent!!” and then turn around and say “if you’re not SGA or trans you’re not welcome” because SGA is a term that was coined in violence. SGA is the ~tumblr friendly~ way of saying SSA (same sex attraction) and is a gay conversion therapy term. Just because you made the term more ~inclusive~ doesn’t mean you didn’t take a term used to destroy us and actually force people to use it so you’ll stop harassing them. 

You don’t actually care about the people who had queer used as a slur, you just want to be homophobic and not get yelled at. 

[legsdemandias]

@cassowarhea just google “same sex attraction” and google will autocomplete to “same sex attraction disorder” and about a million christian and violent conversion, but here’s a link to a catholic study published in 2014 on “Same sex attraction disorder”  CW: for extremely violent homophobia and conversion therapy. 

[legsdemandias]

I would also like to note that if you search “same gender attraction”, every single result is for conversion therapy. While most of them default to “same sex attraction”, several links specifically mention “same gender attraction” and one of the results, is a break down list of “how to recovery from Same Sex Attraction”.

“Same Gender Attraction” is as violent, if not more violent than queer and if you use it you are directly aligning yourself with conversion therapy and if you force it on someone else you are pinning conversion therapy terms onto someone. 

Let’s stop pretending that the hatred of queer stems from anything but hatred and bigotry. 

[fatfemmefreaquency]

this is so relevant. to all of my feelings about the whole “SGA” thing. as someone who lived through christian led conversion therapy i wince every time i see someone use that abbreviation on tumblr. it’s like an actual slap to the face.

i have so much trauma around being told by christians to call myself “SSA” or “SGA” and not gay or queer or bi. because christians believe that you only HAVE what they call “same sex attraction disorder” or “same gender attraction” but once you ID as queer or gay or bi then it becomes part of who you ARE. and it’s fine for you to experience having SGA but it’s wrong for you to be queer/ bi/ gay. because the moment you see it as being part of who you are you’re sinning.

whenever i see someone on tumblr talk about how you have to be SGA to be a part of the lgbtq+ community i flinch. physically. viscerally. it’s the worst thing you could ever say to a survivor of conversion therapy. it’s like labeling someone a “homosexual” like there’s some pseudo-medical diagnosis for what’s “wrong” with us.

because that’s what SGA is. a pseudomedical term made by Christians to oppress and violate lgbtq+ people.

[apersnicketylemon]

“Capitalism made your-”

No. LABOUR made it. LABOUR made my phone, my laptop, the internet, this website, my clothing, my house, all social media, and everything else. LABOUR makes things, Capitalism doesn’t because economic systems don’t ‘make’ anything, they just determine who gets paid for making things.

[stealthrockdamage-deactivated20]

people slipping up and saying shit like “biological name” instead of “deadname” is more or less proof these people don’t actually care about real science they just want smart sounding words and i guarantee if we could manipulate chromosomes they’d abandon all pretext of science and start yammering about how people are born with a “masculine/feminine essence” that “cant be changed” like none of these people actually know the chromosomes real fuckin function and they dont care they just know they cant be changed

[daggers-drawn]

“Biological name”

Scientists scanned my dna, I’m genetically a Sally but I chose my own fate.

[softlyfiercely]

i changed my name for non gender related reasons and people like to ask me “what’s your birth name” and i say “oh i actually wasn’t born with a name my parents just gave me one” and that tends to shut people up

[akros-artificer]

Damn nice

[the-marked-man]

that’s an excellent response. gonna have to steal it

[nyational]

Unpopular opinion but if you’re a truscum who blames GNC trans people and trans people who use neopronouns for society “not taking us seriously”, you genuinely do not understand what oppression is. The whole point of transphobia is that cis people don’t like us. The actions that we take will not change the fact that cis people do not like us. Blaming trans people trying to make their experience easier or just simply living their lives for the way their oppressors view them is gross.

[lines-and-edges]

One thing that leads people down the futile path of respectability politics is the fact that individual social circles of bigots actively groom individual people from groups they hate to be their tokens. White supremacists with Jews and POC, TERFs with trans people, etc.

Because if the bigots can find that one person who will endorse their ideology in exchange for conditional respect, it gives them a way to pretend (to themselves and to others) that their beliefs can’t possibly be all that bad.

And the tokens themselves buy into the idea that the hatred is all talk, because as long as they endorse it, the circle of people they’ve found will be nice to them.

The person in this position doesn’t understand that token status is fragile and revocable - that what protects one trans person, at the cost of some of their dignity, cannot be universalized. That being polite to a cop might be situationally valuable for survival, but the problem of police violence can’t be ended by politeness.

[nonbinarypastels]

“but why would anyone transition if they’re not dysphoric? why should non-dysphorics be allowed to transition?”

trans & nb people don’t have to be dysphoric in order to dislike certain things about their body and want to change them or to feel that they would like their body more if certain things about it were different.

cis people are up in doctor’s offices getting work done on them literally every single day—there have even been multiple reality tv shows all about cis people getting extensive plastic surgery, often without having to jump through any hoops other than the ones necessary to get to their checkbooks—without experiencing dysphoria and yet when trans & nb people want to medically change their appearance in the slightest way suddenly y'all want to slam the doors shut and insist that they’re not allowed to do shit with their own bodies unless they experience a sufficiently high amount of misery and self-hatred for themselves and their identity.

medical gatekeeping towards trans & nb people is transphobic. it’s based in a double standard that denies and limits access of care to trans & nb people specifically because they are trans & nb while it freely and easily gives the exact same care to any cis people who can afford it. 

[nonbinarypastels]

@ everyone who replied to this post & sent me asks with “but if people transition without being dysphoric then it’ll be seen as a cosmetic procedure and insurance won’t cover it for the TRUE TRANS PEOPLE so non-dysphorics are evil and need to stop!”

y'all are, as is type with this discourse, putting the blame on other trans and nonbinary people for an issue that they are not at fault for.

if insurance companies deny care to dysphoric trans & nb people then that is the fault of the insurance companies which are ran by cis people. if doctors refuse treatment to dysphoric trans & nb people then that is the fault of the cis doctors and cis-run medical industry. those are decisions that THEY make, there aren’t any trans or nb people standing behind them with a gun to their head forcing them to do that. trans & nonbinary people do not have the societal power to control what the insurance or medical industries do, they are not to blame for the transphobia-based decisions they make.

the root of this issue is not non-dysphoric trans & nb people transitioning but capitalism and the fact that we (in the US and many other countries) are dealing with for-profit medical systems that prioritize making money over the well-being of both individuals and our society as a whole. if insurance companies demedicalize and refuse to cover transition-related medical care then i assure you that decision almost entirely has everything to do with the fact that they (as well as doctors, hospitals, and the pharmaceutical industry who are all in bed together) can make money off of that decision and very little to do with anything any trans or nonbinary person is doing.

the problem with y'all is that you’re trying to work within this capitalistic system as though capitalism gives a fuck about marginalized people and will treat you well if you kiss its ass enough and that is just blatantly not true. capitalism does not care about you, it will happily sacrifice you for an extra bit of coin, and it isn’t worth sacrificing other marginalized people at the altar of respectability politics hoping and praying that that will make it kinder to you when you need it (spoiler: it won’t).

the better solution to this issue is not to beg and plead and attack innocent people to not avail within the current (incredibly cissexist, classist, bullshit) system but to destroy the system entirely. advocate for universal healthcare being implemented and advocate for it hard. medical care is a basic human right and that includes all medical care necessary for someone to transition, dysphoric or not. it is not something people should have to worry about paying for. it is not something people should have to go into debt paying for. no one should have to put off treatment because they can’t afford it.

beyond that, insurance companies are predators who squeeze money out of the already desolate when they’re at their most vulnerable, they should not exist, and though abolishing them in their entirety would be incredibly difficult any time soon given that capitalism has a dick that america never lets get dry, more and more americans are supporting universal healthcare. attaining that is ABSOLUTELY an achievable goal – particularly if some of y'all put half as much time and energy into advocating, raising awareness, and voting for it as you do making blogs talking shit about ~transtrenders~.

other trans and nonbinary people are not at fault for the cissexism you face from the medical system or insurance companies and even in this imaginary dream world y’all want to be in where non-dysphorics (and nonbinary people as a whole, dysphoric or not, for a lot of you) didn’t exist you would STILL be having issues within the medical system because it is the medical system itself and how it’s run is the problem. the cissexism in the medical system would still exist, insurance companies denying coverage for bullshit reasons would still exist, people not being able to afford medical care would still exist.

place the blame for this shit where it actually belongs: on cissexism, on capitalism, on a medical system that is inherently predatory and harmful because when basic human rights are only available for the right amount of cash that’s all the industries who sell them can be. where that blame does not belong, however, is at the feet of any trans or nonbinary person. they are not responsible for these things and while attacking them may feel catharic for you in the moment, ultimately it will achieve absolutely nothing for you or for the treatment of trans & nb people in society at all.

[xeno-aligned]

i see a lot of posts by truscum/transmeds who say things like “we’re not aggressive or violent towards nondysphorics/mogais, they’re just confused and we’re just trying to help!” which, well. why don’t you practice what you preach?

so, to every truscum/transmed, here are some ways you can help!

stop talking about brain sex. it’s been proved false.

stop telling everyone that you need dysphoria to be trans. you don’t. even the APA agrees with me. this is the dsm v’s criteria for gender dysphoria, and here’s a post explaining it. here’s another post about this.

stop saying that nondysphorics are “stealing Real™ trans resources.” it doesn’t work like that. also, instead of fighting over resources, why don’t we band together and fight for more resources…? it’s not like theres only so many surgeons in the world who have a finite amount of surgeries they can perform! maybe read these posts too?

maybe learn about nonbinary identities? or hey, even about xenogenders?

and while you’re at it, why don’t you read about how the idea of binary biological sex is wrong? oh sorry, you wanted some sources that aren’t from tumblr? why not bill nye?

here’s a big post about biological sex & gender identity.

stop hating on neopronouns. they’ve existed for a long, long time (i mean, even wikipedia will tell you this). language evolves. so should your understanding of it! (and yes, one of those links to an article about ‘failed’ pronouns - but the point isn’t that they didn’t catch on, it’s that they tried)

read through this ally page (from a blog focussing on binary trans, btw)

“transtrenders” aren’t medically transitioning and then regretting it. yes, sometimes someone thinks they’re trans and medically transitions and then later realises it was a mistake, but that’s very much not a common experience. a 2012 study says that only 3.8% of people regretted having some type of surgery, but this includes regret from bad & dodgy surgery, not just realising that this path wasn’t for them. this study cites regret rates from less than 1% up to 23%, but “the reported reasons for regret included adverse physical effects of surgery, loss of physical functioning, poor aesthetic result, failure to achieve desired effect, lack of support available before and after surgery, change in intimate relationship, psychological issues not recognized prior to surgery, and incongruence between patient preferences regarding decision involvement and their actual level of involvement.” no reported reasons were “i’m not actually trans.” this analysis from sweden studies cases from 1960-2010, and cites the regret rate as only 2.2%, with rates decreasing.

i could go on. 

yes, this is a post that begins “articles to use against truscum” but i highly suggest actually reading through some of the linked articles & posts.

so just. stop? and think. thanks.

i’m sure theres a hundred other issues i didn’t address. but really, whether you’re dysphoric or not, binary or nonbinary, (medically) transitioning or not… we’re all transgender. we need to stop fighting amongst ourselves and band together to fight for each other. that’d be real nice.

- sincerely, your local dysphoric mogai.

[wild-west-wind]

The arguments against using queer are wrong.

“’Gay’ and ‘Lesbian’ are words we chose ourselves”

Gay was used to mean promiscuous and morally destitute. A “Gay woman” was a prostitute. A “Gay man” was a philanderer. A “Gay house” was a brothel. Later the term meant uninhibited, sexually active, and hedonistic. By the mid-20th century it came to mean all those things AND engaged in sexual relations with people of the same gender. It largely supplanted “homophile” as a descriptor of LGBTQ people in the 70s but has been used as a slur since, especially during the 90s and 00s.

“Queer is a slur”

Queer gained a pejorative meaning in the early 20th century, meaning sexually deviant. It was reclaimed in the 80s, and quickly rose to prominence. “We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it,” became a rallying cry at pride marches. It was especially used by those who worried that the policies of some LGBTQ rights groups were verging toward conservatism and assimilation which was leaving people of color, trans people, immigrants, etc. out of the loop. Queer became an identity that stoop opposed to the cry to keep your head down and be presentable and quiet and private to garner the tolerance of straight society. The Queer identity was seized on by trans rights activists, people who did not neatly fit the labels of “gay” and “lesbian,” and people passionate about political causes (especially AIDS).

Like “gay” and “lesbian,” queer has continued to be used as a slur by straight people. The only difference between the reclamation of “gay” and the reclamation of “queer” is a couple years.

“Reclaiming slurs is individual, you can’t apply it to everyone.”

Queer has been used as an umbrella term longer than most of the people who call it a slur have been alive. Having lived through the 90s and 00s I remember when “gay” meant bad, when everything bad was “gay.” People sneered “gay” at me when they tried to beat me up as a kid and teenager. Gay and Lesbian are every bit the slur today that queer is, yet anyone who said that “gay” shouldn’t be used because of its history as a slur would be laughed at.

“It excludes people who don’t want to be called ‘queer’.”

Refusing to allow queer to be used in public discourse and robbing it of its history and use excludes queer people.

“LGBT is better because it’s been an umbrella longer and no one takes offense to it.”

LGBT has been used since the 1990s.

Loads of people take offense to it and its adoption was and is a fight in activist circles. There are dozens of different variation, addition of + and *, both of which are celebrated and decried in equal measure. There is endless argument over whether the “T” belongs there, whether the “B” belongs (traditionally you see most of the anti-queer rhetoric in-community coming from people who want to pare down to “LG”). People have pitched MOGAI and MOGII and GSM and GSRM. MLM/MSM and WLW/WSW get tossed around. “LGBT” has been fraught with discourse.

“Academia appropriated ‘queer’ without asking, had they talked to actual (LGBT/Queer/MOGAI/MOGII/GSM/GSRM) people they’d have know it was a slur.”

When Queer Studies began in the 1970s who do you think was teaching it? Who was taking it?

So sure, Queer is a slur, Gay is a slur, Lesbian is a slur, newsflash, to the straight world WE are slurs. All our words are taken from the slurs they called us, our identities themselves are reclaimed.

So kids, go learn your own history.Don’t listen to people on the internet making arguments in bad faith. Don’t make assumptions about what is and isn’t ancient history, or what is or isn’t settled fact.

[mx-mythical-deactivated20260319]

To the people who stomp their feet and demand queer never be used when ever given chance: if your argument against using queer is only that it was/is a slur, then you do not have an argument. If what you are trying to argue is instead that queer is too inclusive for your personal preference and that you would like to pick and choose who can be a member of “your” community, then please just say that.

[ghoulgone-deactivated20240904]

You know what I absolutely fucking hate the fact that lgbt people are expected to be detached and logical about their own fucking identities

I absolutely hate that I’m supposed to be passive and docile and just ignore homophobes trying to “get a rise out of me” when they call me fucking slurs

and it makes me fucking sick that My own identity, my attraction to the same gender is considered a POLITCAL STANCE, and that if I say something as harmless as “gay rights” it’s considered starting shit

Even cishets who don’t consider themselves transphobic or homophobic expect lgbt people to just shut the fuck up and “fight hate with love” and love everyone and be all kind and passive and just let bigots walk all over them and I HATE it

Cishets reblog this but don’t you dare say any clown shit

[gahdamnpunk]

Louder for the people in the back 🗣🗣

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

Anonymous asked: Wait, I signed up for a trans kid when I decided to become pregnant? Are you joking or are you really that crazy?

Hey there, 

I’m not joking at all and I don’t really see how this would be a laughing matter to you. 

Yes, you signed up for a trans kid. And while we are at it, you also signed up for a disabled kid. Autistic kid. Gay kid. A kid who doesn’’t look like you. A deaf kid. A kid who will have interests that don’t match up with yours at all. You signed up for a shy kid and a loud kid and a kid who wets the bed and a sick kid.  

That’s the beauty, the miracle of parenthood, don’t you agree? You decide to care for a little person you don’t even know yet. You decide to open your heart and home to them, you promise to nurture and love and protect a tiny human being. How can you promise that, if not unconditionally? 

You can’t pick and choose your kid. Maybe even more importantly, they can’t choose you. They depend on you to keep that promise - and not only if they live up to whatever expectations you had. 

With all my love, 

Tumblr Mom 

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

This

If you don’t want your kid to be trans?

Either learn to use birth control properly or get the fucking abortion, cupcake

If you don’t want your kid to be gay or lesbian or bi or pan?

Same as above

If you don’t want your kid to be autistic?

Same as above

If there are any conditions to loving your kid, if your kid has to be a certain way in order for you to love that kid…DON’T HAVE KIDS

Because the world doesn’t need more shitty, abusive parents in it.

[brookietf]

Children aren’t smaller versions of yourself. They are a physical amalgamation of both parents, are partially raised by the current world and its people, and are subject to the randomness of personality, mental and physical traits that we all are.

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

^ TRUTH

[murpagato]

Bingo, we have a winner! You roll the dice, and treasure whomever you get. They are worth it - are you worthy of them?

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

And like let’s not mince words: when people say that they shouldn’t have to accept and love and cherish a kid if their LGBTQIA or autistic or disabled what their actually saying is “This is the point where it becomes okay to abuse my child”

Let me be clear: there is no point where hating or hurting your child for who they are, who they love or how they were born becomes “Okay”

If your child is autistic you love your autistic child

If your child is gay or bi or pan or lesbian you love that child and support and accept and cherish who they are

If your child is transgender you love that child and let them know your proud of them

If they’re deaf, if they need a wheelchair, if they have any health issues you make sure that none of them makes you any less proud and delighted that their YOUR kid

And if you can’t do that…then don’t be a parent. Because if the only way you can love a kid is if their born the way you want them to be born then your not able to parent anyway.