Hating You Won’t Make You Suck Any Less

Elliot/Envi, 26, he/they. Ask for my osdd/ddnos system blog. Maudlin queer. A fox, a demon, a porcupine, a hyena, alien life form, star creature, star prince, stardust, underwater mystery, a selkie, a ghost, a robot, a demigod, a glitch in the system and/or the universe, Alexander the Great, Hamlet, Tutankhamen, Cain, the modern Prometheus, Cleopatra, Ophelia, a changeling, a Victorian farmer, a disenchanted Bohemian ... human? 12 cognitions in a human suit? Life? Life. ABOUT / DNI

[chapstick-lesbian-loves]

“You guys are such great friends!”

[dysphoricfem-deactivated2020011]

My other favorite thing about the internet 

some people say it’s an echo chamber, but I would say it’s more akin to a thousand different echo chambers. There’s discord servers, private twitter feeds, tumblr mutual circles. An initial idea can get into one of these and bounce around it a whole bunch, changing along the way, before one of them brings it back out into the wider world, by which point it can seem very odd and undecipherable to any/everyone else. For instance:

[losthavenmine]

The Lost Boys (1987)

[swolerbear]

white canadians really think that because their country is perhaps less racist then the united states, this means it's not a racist country, when the reality is that "less racist than the united states" is just a very low bar to clear.

[swolerbear]

actually scratch out canada because this holds true for pretty much every "western" nation

[james-flint]

x

[kaijutegu]

Go OFF, mr mouth.

[externalscreams]

[raimagnolia]

Wow. Who paid Neil to deepthroat the NRA like that?

[tortunabanana]

Neil is also a rapist. 9 accusations now? Trash

[raimagnolia]

[tiredbluejay]

Delusional is a neutral descriptor.

Psychotic is a neutral descriptor.

Narcissistic is a neutral descriptor.

The only reason you see those as inherently negative descriptors is because society demonizes people who fit those descriptors. There is nothing inherently threatening about delusional, psychotic, and narcissistic people.

[tiredbluejay]

Preemptively Adding: If you’re going to add something like “I was with you until you included narcissists,” find a different post and leave this one alone. Someone being narcissistic tells you fuck-all about their character, and it’s not an inherently negative trait.

[aiwa-sensei]

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[swordplease]

so was anybody going to tell me that Keanu Reeves loves the word himbo or was I supposed to read that in this wiki article myself

[star-anise]

Soft skills for the apocalypse

Let’s face it, if the world ends, so many of us will flee somewhere else for safety that we’ll end right back up in communities again. There’s going to be more to it than growing your own food and knitting handspun socks.

I’m linking to resources, but a many of these skills, being interpersonal, are best taught in live trainings by professional instructors, where you can see and feel all the interpersonal dynamics going on in the room, and by experience, trying them out on real people in an educational setting.

When the world ends, it will be helpful to be able to::

Run a meeting

Peacefully negotiate

De-escalate a potentially violent situation

Organize a community

Cope when you’re having a panic attack

Co-regulate to help a child keep calm

Identify community resources

Protest safely and peacefully

Even small local pieces of activism today, like organizing a protest march or lobbying your municipal government to make public spaces more accessible, have a double reward: There’s the work you’re doing, and the skills you learn when you do it.

[a-ton-of-unearned-confidence]

the assumption that people with violent killing skills should be given priority/power in a post-apocalyptic society is the reason it stays post-apocalyptic and doesn’t actually rebuild society

[star-anise]

the assumption that people with violent killing skills should be given priority/power in a post-apocalyptic society is the reason it stays post-apocalyptic and doesn’t actually rebuild society

[tiredbluejay]

“Delusional people don’t know they’re delusional! If you know it’s a delusion, you’re saying it’s not real!”

I call myself delusional because I know that my reality (that is, that I’m not a real person/not human/don’t exist) is not the general, accepted reality. I know it’s a delusion because everyone else says it’s not real, that my reality is wrong. And it’s still real to me, I’m still not a real person. Calling it a delusion because that part of my reality is not the general reality is not calling it fake, it’s just a statement of fact.

[somethoughtseeds]

[iammyfather]

This is the part that the wealthy hate about most people being satisfied with what they have.  If we strive for more then they can threaten us with it, but if we don’t care they have nothing to steal nor to threaten.

[sirfrogsworth]

Monica Lewinsky is funnier than all of the comedians who made shitty jokes about her. 

[thr0atmistress-deactivated20191]

The only people who get upset when you set boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none.

[curlicuecal]

That’s why they perceive it as a personal attack— because your boundary encroaches on space they’re used to owning: eg, yours.

[baixueagain]

Just a caveat: some ND people have trouble learning to navigate new boundaries where they once didn’t exist, and the difficulty of this can cause us distress. Our distress doesn’t mean we want to own you or your space, it means that we are having a hard time understanding what has changed and why, and it may take us some time to fully comprehend those things.

I’m just saying this for myself and all the ND people who immediately felt a stab of guilt upon reading this because of previous shaming and/or punishment for being slow to learn boundary navigation. I spent years learning to forgive myself after being repeatedly told by NTs that I was a bad person because I had difficulties with this stuff as a child/teen and was unable to communicate that I was struggling with it. Years later it’s still a trigger.

Also, I agree with other comments that it’s really dependent upon what one means by ‘boundaries,’ since sometimes boundaries can be set up to humiliate, manipulate, or punish.

[autisticadvocacy]

Inclusion of Disabled People in the LGBTQ+ Community is About More Than Accessibility

Accessibility at major Queer events like Pride is extremely important to disabled LGBT2SQQAAIP (Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Two Spirit

“Disabled people can offer more to the Queer community than just insight on how to create accessible spaces.”

[valtsv]

august isnt even a month its like a long week

[valtsv]

yesterday it was the 1st today its the 5th tomorrow itll be the 31st and i’ll have to finally face the fact that ive done nothing for neither self improvement nor pleasure all summer for the years ive been aliveth year in a row

[synthdicks-deactivated20210903]

honestly im kinda done w most of the dudes who are like “””transmasc activists””” bc very little of what they talk about is relevant to my struggles or the struggles of the guys around me. like, i’m sure happy theres skinny cis passing str8 dudes here to do another pronouns 101 and talk about how gr8 ur cis girlfriend is for respecting ur gender and like do a photoshoot with a company that makes £30 underwear or whatever. but like, are you at like any point gonna talk abt the fact that >50% of trans men are survivors of sexual violence?? you gonna talk about the huge likelihood that trans boys have attempted suicide (>50%)?? you gonna talk abt the fact that almost a third of urban trans men have been or are sex workers?? you gonna talk abt the rates of alcohol and drug abuse in our community?? you gonna talk abt the fact that 36% of us are survivors of domestic violence?? or you just gonna continue w the vapid, empty platitudes that only vaguely resemble meaningful activism

[gayknight]

we could also talk about the widespread eating disorders in our community, the intersection of race and trans manhood, the discrimination we still face (ex: poor healthcare, the fact that many of us are stuck in low-paying jobs and frequently fired, lack of presence in medical research/sex education, etc.) but the only topics that get spotlighted are like, media representation for the billionth time