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my notifications are once again devolving into a spirited debate about the ethics of actions that could potentially make someone uncomfortable, and at risk of sounding like someone about to get a lot of irate anons I think we're frankly giving way too to much moral weight to hypothetical discomfort

batmanisagatewaydrug

the thing about discomfort is that it's an extremely nebulous category that can be triggered by virtually anything and that's far too broad a category to have any inherent moral quality to it. like. my mom was mad uncomfortable when I stopped shaving. that didn't mean I was doing violence against my mom it just meant she needed to get over herself. many such cases it must be said.

batmanisagatewaydrug

there's not a single example I could give that's better than this

baygeethefirst

I was once taken aside by my (female) boss and told that I sounded "too sure of (my)self." She recommended that I emulate the other female employees (who were engineers, btw) and start upspeaking? Like, making everything I said? Sound like a question? So that way, I wouldn't, like, sound too intimidating? Because the other women in our office? Felt threatened?

I just looked at her like she was a three-legged chicken who'd tried to burp the alphabet until she said, "Never mind."

rohirric-hunter

Discomfort is fundamentally something that begins and ends inside the person feeling it. It may be based off of real, tangible, valid facts; or it may be based off of subjective opinions; or it may be based off of some kind of bias; or it may be based off of nothing at all. It is up to you, as someone feeling discomfort, to determine what caused it and if that thing is or needs to be actionable.

A good litmus test for me is saying out loud, "I am uncomfortable because _______."

If I fill in that blank with something actionable, such as, "I am uncomfortable working with this coworker because she informed me that autistic people do not deserve jobs," then that's something I can pursue with our employer, because it's discriminatory. But the thing is that the actionable part is the inappropriate thing she said, not my own discomfort.

Sometimes I fill in that blank with something that is a valid discomfort, but it's not actionable. "I am uncomfortable with this coworker because she is trying to lose weight for her own health and keeps making broad thoughtless generalizations about how everyone needs to lose weight for their health in a time when I'm trying to gain weight for my health." This is a valid discomfort, she shouldn't be doing that, but it's not actually hurting me and it's not coming from a place of malice. The solution to my discomfort is to take matters into my own hands and simply limit my contact with this person as much as possible. (If it was not the same person as in the first example I would say " or attempt to communicate with her and politely get her to be more thoughtful." But it is the same person as in the first example so like. There's other layers here.) If this is not possible then it may become actionable, but for the moment it's a personal issue.

Sometimes I fill in the blank with something incredibly stupid. "I am uncomfortable with this person because they wear tank tops." < This is stupid. This is not a valid discomfort. There may be a reason why I feel that way, but ultimately I need to self reflect and get over myself. Nobody is hurting me or potentially going to hurt me because they wear tank tops.

Discomfort is useful as a warning that something may be wrong, but it is not in and of itself a problem. When the smoke alarm goes off you don't get mad that it went off, you look to see if there's a fire, and you understand it might have gone off because you're boiling water

#people

odyver

alright I've got to do some quick math to explain attitudes towards AI to my boss.

we're looking to create an AI policy, and when we were talking about this, my boss (older millennial) was genuinely shocked to hear that younger people do not (seem) to view AI positively (a la the recent commencement speakers being booed)

please rb for larger sample size!

Question 1/3

What is your age, and do you feel AI is a net positive or net negative in our lives today?

under 18, AI is a net positive

under 18, AI is a net negative

18-29, AI is a net positive

18-29, AI is a net negative

30-45, AI is a net positive

30-45, AI is a net negative

46-60, AI is a net positive

46-60, AI is a net negative

over 60, AI is a net postive

over 60, AI is a net negative

Remaining time: 5 days 15 hours

odyver

Question 2/3

How often do you visit or interact with museums/archives (whether in person or online)?

Frequently (multiple times per month)

Often (multiple times per year)

Occasionally (a couple times per year)

Rarely (once every couple of years)

Never :(

Remaining time: 5 days 15 hours

odyver

Question 3/3

If you saw a museum was using AI in exhibits, marketing, research, etc., would you be more or less inclined to visit that museum?

under 18, more inclined

under 18, less inclined

18-29, more inclined

18-29, less inclined

30-45, more inclined

30-45, less inclined

46-60, more inclined

46-60, less inclined

over 60, more inclined

over 60, less inclined

Remaining time: 5 days 15 hours

Thank you for helping with this data collection. Please rb for as big a sample as possible!

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#poll

fangorn-forest

summer sufferers poll: would you rather have…

the ability to repel all bugs so they can’t touch/bite/sting you

the ability to always be at a comfortable temperature while outside

no chafing ever again

Remaining time: 4 days 5 hours

#COMFORTABLE TEMP SWEEP #poll

roseworth

i don’t want to be angry anymore i’m never going to hate again unless someone says something really stupid or if i see something i don’t like at all or maybe just whenever i feel like it

#worm #text

exitwound

mutuals

the-valiant-valkyrie

Which is prev?

Unmarried girl

Apologist

Craftsman who works with a wheel

Archivist

Dying person

Educator

Girl

Jurist

Knife sharpener

Lawyer

Librarian

Remaining time: 3 days 8 hours

#well you are unmarried…#poll

mochiiknight

Stop asking me for vending machines on my beaches!!!!! This is not design by committee!!!!!!!!

#SKSKDKDK LITERALLY ASKED ME THIS YESTERDAY #tlltd

uekakcqo

The jaylings mhmnn

#:Oc #i love this #jay merrick #marble hornets

famicom

#this is so sad #sth

moveslikekeithrichards

u ever have a stress dream so crazy u wake up feelin like scrooge being given a second chance at life

#yeah #poll

cognitohazardous

no one says big mood anymore. no one even says mood. no one says anything. all thats left is a dry wind, that scours my face until i bleed

#i say mood all the time #i alternate it with worm #text

jerreeeeeee

not every mutual fits neatly into an archetypal medievalism but there are some mutuals that im like yeah addressing you as “my liege” would come strangely naturally

jerreeeeeee

what mutual is prev

my liege lord

my loyal knight

my wise wizard

my evil advisor

my brother in arms

my lady muse

my wild mermaid friend

my fellow alchemist

my dashing rapscallion

my monstrous foe

Remaining time: 1 day 11 hours

#my brother in arms #poll

janmisali

pick whatever option the person you're following who reblogged this post didn't pick. if they didn't say in the tags what they picked or if you're seeing the original post and not a reblog, pick at random instead.

first option

second option

Remaining time: 2 days 13 hours

#second option #poll