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I love you. *3*

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"No one remembered my birthday-" Well, but did YOU tell anyone it was coming up and you wanted to celebrate it with them?

"I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I'm fine-" Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you're doing?

"I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-" Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

"I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-" Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

"No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-" Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

"I miss my friend but they haven't texted me-" Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Sometimes people are mean, uncaring assholes, in which case you get to be mad. But sometimes you just need to communicate better. Try communication before you assume someone doesn't care!

[snipertrifle]

Having someone who knows you on such a deep level that they see past your mask, or sense you need a check in is such a deep satisfying fantasy. It's up there with living in a cottagecore farm, or buying all your friends houses when you win the lottery. But you have to make peace with the fact that this is also a fantasy. It is unfair to expect people to "just know" when to respect your boundaries or to push them.

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

The fantasy isn't the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work. And it sucks. It's embarrassing. But like the meme says, it's not rotten if it's YOU. So do it for yourself.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"The fantasy isn't the caring, the fantasy is not having to do the work"! Thank you for that addition. Because it's not a naive expectation to want someone to care to treat you right. But it requires communication and mutual effort to actually get there

[mentalhellonline]

[impossiblepackage]

[armengoldira]

Guy freezes his hair and it stands tall.

[coughloop]

Guy freezes his hair and it stands tall.

[morwentrouble]

sound on for his adorable gremlin giggles and commentary in a lovely accent

[mikkeneko]

[super-lazer-piss]

When you're driving home at night and you meet a Ford F-150 on the road

[unwelcome-ozian]

[hanavesinauttija]

[calebwittebane]

[brawltogethernow]

Discovered: equation that screams in agony at its own existence

[earhartsease]

fucking dialup modem equation

[sokka-with-his-hair-down-2]

“the parallels between Zuko and Sokka-” hey HEY. I am grabbing you. The parallels between Katara and Azula. Both the younger, gifted bender. Each one being the inverse of the other: a living, breathing what if. Katara being horrified at what her bending can do when pushed to its limits vs Azula always trying to push hers further. Katara instinctively trusting everyone so easily, even though it burns her sometimes, and Azula saying trust is for fools, fear is the only reliable way but still losing everyone she cares about in the end. Katara yelling at her dad and being hugged in return vs Azula doing everything possible to please her father still being harshly reprimanded, so you know exactly why they both turned out the way that they did. Katara’s trauma being connected to losing a mother vs Azula’s being connected to having a mother. Katara ultimately being the one to take down Azula and standing over her, staring pitifully because that’s who she could have been, in another life. is this thing on

[xiaohongshu-for-you-two]

The Zhuang Brocade Fashion Uncles ❤️

[mismagireve]

[andhumanslovedstories]

Heard a lot of beeping coming from a patient’s room last night. Went in to silence the chaos. Patient said thanks, the beeping is so annoying. She tells me that’s she going home on hospice tomorrow. There is no transition between these two thoughts. I have spoken with her for less than thirty seconds. Many such conversations happen at 2:30 am in the hospital. I ask her how she feels about that. She tells me “I mean what can you do?” I tell her I’m glad she’s getting out of the hospital and going home. She asks me where I’d rather die. I say I’d definitely rather die at home. We are about 90 seconds into our acquaintance at this point.

I ask if there was anything else I can do while I’m in the room. She says her back hurts, I’m like “very solvable” and grab pain meds plus a second person to help reposition her. It helps tremendously. I notice her water is low so I say I’ll get her some, and ask if there is anything else she wants from the kitchen. She says no. I get the ice water. I come back. She inquires about cranberry juice. I go get cranberry juice. She wonders aloud about the possibility of getting a warm blanket. I get her a warm blanket. I drape it over her. I go, “is there ANYTHING else I can get you?” This is what I’ve asked her every single time I’ve left the room to get her something. This time she goes “I don’t think I am going to die as soon as they say I will, but maybe I will.”

At this point I sit down. I think, “I could have spared myself a lot of walking if I’d just leaned into the death talk harder from moment one.” People whose second sentences to you are about their own death usually wanna talk. It’s not a subtle tell.

We end up chatting for almost an hour in total about her life, her career, her future, her family, who’s getting the house and who is getting the golf clubs. Towards the end, she says the pain meds are working and expresses a desire for some new socks. I tell her I can get her new socks. She says she’ll probably be asleep in a few minutes. I tell her I’ll walk to get them real slowly, and if she’s asleep by the time I’m back, I’ll just leave them on the table. I take an extraordinary amount of time to walk to the store room and back. She is in fact asleep by the time I finally mosey back. That’s the heart and soul of night shift. And I even get ten whole extra bucks an hour.

[secretmellowart]

The Butterfly Boy: a Fairytale.

A fairytale about the feeling of waiting on the edge of massive existential societal tragedies you are powerless to prevent, the way that we scapegoat the victims of broader societal failures as if they were the Cause, and the way that we treat children who will never grow into a "conventional" adulthood.

Thank you to everyone who followed along as I was sharing the pages for these past couple months! <3 :_:

[maeamian]

If you're in the US military or National Guard, and are given an illegal or unconstitutional order, the GI Rights hotline [phone]) is there to help give you the support you need to do the right thing by refusing it. It would be good to think about this now before it becomes a live issue for you and it would be smart of you to memorize that number.

[maeamian]

You can reblog this without your thoughts about the US Military, btw, that's allowed.

[helltothenaw]

In fact: you SHOULD share it without your thoughts on the US Military. If someone in the military sees this number and is considering it, they already know. Just let them see the resource.

[cparti-mkiki]

"goddess" "matriarchy" "female wisdom" girl your civic rights

[tauindi]

“But I didn’t and still don’t like making a cult of women’s knowledge, preening ourselves on knowing things men don’t know, women’s deep irrational wisdom, women’s instinctive knowledge of Nature, and so on. All that all too often merely reinforces the masculinist idea of women as primitive and inferior – women’s knowledge as elementary, primitive, always down below at the dark roots, while men get to cultivate and own the flowers and crops that come up into the light. But why should women keep talking baby talk while men get to grow up? Why should women feel blindly while men get to think?”

— Ursula K. Le Guin

[yeetus-6942069]

[visionsofgideontheninth]

Jo in Little Women: "I find it poor logic to say that because women are good, women should vote. Men do not vote because they are good; they vote because they are male, and women should vote, not because we are angels and men are animals, but because we are human beings and citizens of this country."

[c3rvida3]

Fish & Chips

[chonny-jash]

I like to imagine the hyrule royal family breathes a sigh of relief every time a child is born that has no resemblance to ancient legends or goddesses, and then when they get one a little too uncanny they just go "fucking dammit we got another Zelda. Pack it up lads we're fucked."

[chonny-jash]

King talking to an attendant like "yeah nah legit blonde hair and all. hanging out with that green kid. started playing music at like 2 years old we're so fucked. anyway this big gerudo bloke is here to meet with me. sure this will be just fuckin grand. NOT NOW IMPA I'M BUSY"

[dragon-in-a-fez]

said this as part of a larger point in a reblog but I'm gonna make it its own post:

humans have the right to do things that are mildly bad for us sometimes.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

you have the right to eat way too many pierogi and make yourself a little sick. you have the right to go skydiving. you have the right to pull an all-nighter building the Imperial City of Tamriel in Minecraft. you have the right to get drunk in your living room watching football.

life is not about making the safest most logically correct choice at all times. you're a blob of salty meat piloting a flesh mech and you get to act like it.

[problemnyatic]

This is called dignity of risk and it's a big topic in disability rights spaces. id elaborate but im fuckin wiped

[fedorahead]

it's always funny how people will advocate for bodily autonomy when it comes to certain things but then shy away from anything they personally wouldn't do to their own body. like yeah, that's why it's your body buddy. i can do what i want with mine.

[junflower123]

[fvlter]

I was gunna put this in the tags but it’s a lot. When i first started going through the process of getting a diagnosis, i was labelled with ODD. I immediately took issue with this, it seemed like an unfair diagnosis based entirely on the session the psychiatrist had with my parents (which mostly consisted of “my child is being really difficult on purpose”), and Hoo Boy when i tell you ODD immediately strips you of your ability to call out anyone on anything, that would be an understatement. I couldn’t even disagree or bring up my concerns about the validity of MY OWN DIAGNOSIS without it being labelled as oppositional defiance. Whenever i displayed any negative emotion the “treatments” did so much more harm than good. When you label someone as ‘defiant’ (ugh), when that word is put on their medical record, that person is never allowed to complain about anything again. Knowing that POC are disproportionately affected with this diagnosis makes me feel sick, i can only imagine what’s being swept under the rug as someone just being “defiant to authority”, not even just in the medical field but as justification for police brutality and mass incarceration. When i say medical racism kills people, this is what i mean.

[noodle-the-queen]

this is so fucking important. reblog.

[fromhersoul]

[hauntedhunted]

kiss this babey