Never Follow the Herd

Forming our own opinions, fighting the causes that need to be fought. Seeking true intersectionality.

[justanoldacc]

[transgender-harms-women]

We’ve seen before in this blog that it’s not uncommon for transgender people, especially those wanting to transition to female, to be jealous and angry at women, for having what they desperately want. Sometimes, it gets ugly.

“I am a woman now, but I really hate women sometimes“, this commenter confesses:

Another commenter in the same thread reports violating their sister’s privacy while she was asleep, in order to “know what my body should have looked like”.

“Does the jealousy ever go away“, asks this poster, who admits that their “lust for girls is completely intertwined with jealousy”:

One commenter chimes in, saying no, it actually got worse.

But maybe that’s just part of being a woman, after all, according to this commenter, “normal women are HIGHLY judgmental“:

This poster hates a 23 year old woman for having the life they always wanted, with a princess bedroom and a prom dress. Also the poster wants to “have angry, passionate sex with her”:

A woman says that this makes her uncomfortable, and another person tells her “I’d probably irrationally hate you too”.

More commenters chime in. “You’re not the only one, hon”.

This poster can’t even look at women without becoming angry:

While this poster gets filled with “sadness, jealousy, and rage” at the sight of a vagina:

A commenter reassuringly says that at least  vaginas can be avoided, while on the other hand “I get triggered every time I need the lady’s room”.

These people admit to hating women, being lustful but at the same time envious and rage-filled. They report wanting to have “angry sex” with someone and even to violating their siblings. These are people who have an obsessive, unhealthy fixation with women and women’s bodies.

[transavant-deactivated20170911]

Dead naming is not violence

I got dead named today in a meeting. Our group finance director called me by my old name. The one I dropped three years ago.

Now 12 hours later it would appear that I’m still alive. Unscarred mentally or physically. It was absolutely no big deal.

So why didn’t I explode, or self harm or kill myself? After all, “dead naming is actual violence” I’m told. “Dead naming and misgendering are literally responsible for the deaths of trans people”.

And I know that for many trans people these things do hurt. They are crushing. I know this because I’ve been there. I used to feel devastated, crushed, invalidated and ashamed.

But something changed. I started to understand how gender is socially constructed. How society conflates femininity with being female and masculinity with being male. I came to accept that it’s ok to be a man who looks and acts like I do. How there should be no need for anyone to think I’m ‘actually’ female to be a perfectly valid and worthy person as I am. Accepting this meant I no longer had to live with the cognitive dissonance of knowing that females don’t father children. It meant I was able to let go of the volatile, unstable belief system that despite objective reality I have a female brain and that made me a woman.

So I wasn’t upset, or damaged by somebody using my old name because it doesn’t burst my bubble of lies.

People don’t commit suicide because they are dead named. They commit suicide because they are volatile and unstable and their self worth is fragile because it’s based on lies.

This is what transgenderism does to trans people.

[thentheysaidburnher]

I'm curious why you call yourself a feminist when trans women are murdered regularly for being women. Why aren't you there for them? Trans women need support and respect. I'm genuinely curious as to why you think that your own view of gender is applicable to everyone else and should be prioritized over the women who are being murdered. Because basically, when you call trans women men, you are advocating violence to trans women. I hope you realize that and reconsider what you're saying.

Trans women are murdered for either being perceived as women or for being perceived as gender non-conforming men. Trans women are at risk from male violence because male violence is the major threat to humans and the planet; no one is safe.

I don’t know what you mean about me being ‘not for’ trans women, or what it means that when I accurately describe trans women as male I am advocating for males to harm them. As a radical feminist, stopping male violence is my priority. Please don’t do the whole ‘reversal and projection’ thing—let men do that. You’re supposed to be a feminist.

Most trans women don’t deny being male, you know. That’s why ‘trans’ is even a thing. Maleness is a biological, phenotypical, chromosomal reality. You cannot change sex, only the appearance of sex, usually by performing gender. Gender, of course, is a hierarchy with women on the bottom which serves to prop up male power and keep women from being whole, liberated human beings. Gender and sex are not interchangeable. When I say male, that refers to sex. Trans women are transGENDER, which means they perform the gender opposite the one they were assigned at birth based on their sex. If they were female, they wouldn’t be trans. Words mean things.

So I don’t understand how stating this reality is advocating violence against trans women, but it sure sounds like you are blaming women for male violence. It is not radical feminists attacking and harming trans women—it’s men. However, trans women and men who are now protected under that umbrella frequently do assault, rape, violate, harass, threaten, dox, silence, and gaslight women all the time. This is never called out by liberal feminists—partially because the threat of male violence by trans women is ever present, as evidenced by tags like ‘violent trans archives’. There are several pages and sites that document trans male violence against women, especially lesbians.

It is not ‘my view’ of gender. Gender as an oppressive construct is a measurable reality. Gender itself is violence against women. It is the result and mainstay of male violence and women’s oppression. I am absolutely in favour of gender non-conformity, in men and women. But appearing as a woman is not being a woman. Femaleness means something very specific. It is not a feeling, and you do not opt in or out of it. You only fight for liberation from the bullshit tied to it (gender). And if trans women weren’t prioritizing getting into our bathrooms, our music fests, and our cotton underwear, they might realize we could actually be allies against gender. Since they continue to use male socialization and male privilege (regardless of whether they still receive it, because getting the privilege is the privilege) to bully, harass, and stalk women, lesbians, and radical feminists, we will continue to be at odds. I urge you to look deeper into our concerns. What does it mean to be a woman if anyone can be a woman? What does it mean to be oppressed if you can choose not to be? How can a member of the oppressor class ‘switch sides’ and become more oppressed than those over whom he formerly had and USED power? Who benefits from the idea that sex is a social construct but gender is immutable? Why are women losing so much of our language, just when we are approaching a true, global conversation on the oppression of female bodies by males?

Trans women are not more valuable than women. Nor are they, in reality, at higher risk of violence, rape, or death than women. And when you say that I prioritize females over ‘the women who are being murdered’ (by which I have to assume you mean trans women due to the context) you assume that women, female women, are not being murdered. We are. For being female.

Lastly, don’t fucking insult me by saying I am advocating violence when I replied to a transactivist telling me they would beat me in the street if they saw me. Words means things. Stop blaming women for male violence, and stop telling women to shut up about oppression. 

[saltandthemoon]

So Obama decided to pull his President card to force all public high schools in America to allow trans kids to use whatever bathroom they please. Funny how this is the thing he uses his executive power to address, while thousands of immigrants are being treated like animals in private detention centers. I’ve got mixed feelings about his order. On the one hand, there’s a possibility that GNC and trans kids in high schools could be less likely to get harassed in the bathroom if they’re using the one that corresponds to their gender expression. On the other hand, this is the beginning of a fucking terrible, dangerous, misogynistic descent into a world where gender is further installed into our society and where males are given unrestricted access to females. A group of high schools girls banded together somewhere to protest a trans male being allowed in their locker room, not long ago. They all clearly felt uncomfortable with this boy who hasn’t even begun any kind of medical, physical transition–and fuck, may never–being allowed in a space where they undress, without any adult supervision. He, of course, doesn’t give a fuck how they feel because he’s male and only cares about himself and feels entitled to everything he wants. So what does Obama’s impending statement tell these girls? What does it tell every girl in this country, who wasn’t asked if they would feel safe and comfortable with boys in their bathrooms? It tells them the truth: that no one cares how they feel. Men don’t care: not the president, not the men in government, not the men who make laws, not the fucking liberal/leftist men who champion the trans agenda without any critical thinking whatsoever, not the boys they go to school with every day, and sure as fuck not trans-identifying males. They don’t care, they never did, and they never will. In fact, not only do they not care, but they’ve been waiting for this opportunity for decades: the opportunity to take away female space, to make female boundaries impossible, and to create a world in which males have 24/7 access to females, all while looking ~progressive~ and morally superior to anyone who disagrees. Obama’s statement is going to tell the girls of America the truth: men decide. Period. Men decide for women the conditions under which women live. That’s what these girls are about to learn, and maybe it’s a good thing they’re learning it early in life, as opposed to getting smacked with it in college or in the adult work force. I’m just sorry for them, for every high school girl who now has nowhere to go on her school campus where she can escape male presence. Who’s going to be reminded every single day that her boundaries don’t mean shit. That she has no right to boundaries. That she’s the bad guy if she feels uncomfortable with males being able to come up in her space or if she feels outraged that she wasn’t consulted by the powers that be before a decision was made that directly affects her. That she’s going to have to swallow this bullshit so soon in life that gender is innate, that womanhood is a feeling men have sole authority to describe and if she wants to be a good, politically correct liberal, she’s gotta nod her head and ask no questions and just accept that any male who puts on a dress and lipstick and grows out his hair is a woman equivalent to her. God, I can’t imagine being a teen girl and having to deal with some shithead boy who says he’s a ~nonbinary trans femme~ or having a “girl” day in his ~bigender~ cycle, all the while looking exactly like a fucking male with nail polish on or pink hair or whatever the fuck, loitering in the girl’s bathroom. Watching. Eavesdropping. Following a girl in there when she’s fleeing him, because now he can.

[postalbabe]

someone: i have a scat kink. i love eating shit and rubbing it all over my body and it gets me hard. there’s nothing wrong with that.

me: i have a kid kink. i love kids and treating them well and making them happy and making boys cum and it gets me hard. there’s nothing wrong with that.

some other asshole: kids???????????????????????????????? demon screech

[postalbabe]

the masses say rubbing shit all over yourself and getting an infection or disease is better than pleasing a kid consensually after taking care of them. take notes guys this is market research at its finest

[postalbabe]

me: takes a little boy out for ice cream, we play vidya, cuddle, and then jerk eachother off. no illnesses 

yall:  Shigella, campylobacter, salmonella and E.coli are four bacteria commonly present in fecal matter. These bacteria, along with parasites like amebas and giardia, can cause severe diarrhea, abdominal pain and cramping, bloody stools, fever, nausea and vomiting. The viruses Hepatitis A and E may also be transmitted through contact with fecal matter. There are very few cases of Hepatitis E in the United States, but almost half a million people contract Hepatitis A every year (though not always through scat play). Symptoms of Hepatitis A are very similar to the ones listed for the bacterial infections, and may also include jaundice, itchiness in parts of the body, and may cause enzymes in the liver to reach critical levels in the body. Relapses may also occur six months to a year after the first symptoms show up. All three types of infections can occur even without eating any scat. If one’s mouth, nose, or any orifice or open cuts or sores touches something that has had contact with the feces (such as kissing an unwashed hand after using the bathroom), then it is possible for s/he to become infected as well.

[transgender-harms-women]

this trans “woman” literally admits to having sex with children below the age of 14 on his blog

[appropriately-inappropriate]

….yeah, dude, shit > diddling little kids.

Fucking creep, can we report this rat bastard?

[0-0110100-deactivated20160829]

i wish i had that excerpt by janice raymond about the phenomenon of men deriving pleasure from any violation of women’s boundaries, including the violation of private spaces meant for women only. 

do you think there aren’t men who get off on hearing women use the bathroom just because they know the women don’t want to be heard? do you think there aren’t men who don’t get off on walking into a public bathroom, feeling the discomfort radiating off of every woman there, and knowing there’s nothing anyone can do about it? 

every woman under patriarchy knows this innately. men love to violate women, anywhere, in any way they can. 

do you think they have to put up with this just because, despite being a violation, this kind of behaviour by men in women’s bathrooms isn’t outright assault? 

do you really think this should not only be legal, but illegal to take action against? 

[uterusperson]

Hi! Do you know of any resources/articles about trans women assaulting women in bathrooms/locker rooms? I have a friend who is insisting this is impossible/has never ever happened!

Men claiming to be women so they can invade female-only spaces is terrifyingly common. Sexual predator jailed after claiming to be ‘transgender’ to assault women in shelterCross-dressing Peeper Infiltrates Cal Women’s Locker Room Police: Cross-Dressing Peeping Tom Arrested Again Cross-dresser arrested in bath house Man disguised as a woman takes pictures in women’s locker roomMale transgender exposes his genitals in a maternity storeMan wearing female mask & wig spies on women in public toiletsMale transgender exposes his genitals to women and childrenMale transgender exposes his genitals to studentsMale transgender spies on women in university restroomA transsexual killer who tried to rape a woman must be moved to a female prison because holding her with men breaches her rights, a judge has ruled.Christopher Hambrook, who claimed to be a woman in order to gain entrance to a woman’s shelter, where he raped two homeless women. Purdue police investigate report of man taking photographs in women’s restroom Police: Man in bra and wig found in women’s bathroom - admitted to other offense where he showered in the girls’ locker room for sexual gratification Police: Sex offender posed as woman, went into women’s locker room Cross-dressing man allegedly videotaped women in restroom Police: Predatory Sex Offender Entered Girls Locker RoomTranswoman convicted of voyeurism in 2012 for taking photos of two neighbor girls using the bathroom.Regarding any crime, male-to-females had a significantly increased risk for crime compared to female controls (aHR 6.6; 95% CI 4.1–10.8) but not compared to males (aHR 0.8; 95% CI 0.5–1.2). This indicates that they retained a male pattern regarding criminality. The same was true regarding violent crime. The Threat to Women and Girls Presented by Bathroom Bills. The story of biological male sexual predators who used nondiscrimination laws protecting gender identity to sexually assault women.These links are from different posts made by different radical feminists on tumblr, I’ll try to reblog the posts too.

[transgender-harms-women]

6′ 3″, 280 lb transwoman and martial arts expert punches woman when she questions his presence in the women’s bathroom. Woman loses 5 teeth and accrues $60,000 in medical expenses

Are Transwomen a Threat in Women’s Spaces?

Men Love The Ladies Restroom- Transgender Edition

Bar owner who saw trans patron attack woman who questioned his presence in the bathroom thinks MTFs with penises belong in unisex/men’s rooms; protests ensue

[transgender-harms-women]

I couldn’t make this shit up even if I tried. A white man named “Daphne Shaed,” who identifies as a “tranny cyborg Hindu woman” is on staff at the University of Victoria Women’s Centre.

I clicked around a bit and discovered this charming stand-up comedy routine where he claims to be “asexual” and then spends the rest of the skit talking about how much porn he watches and tells the story of when he gave anal sex to someone who continuously said “ow.”

It is rather ironic that he claims to be an activist for women’s rights and anti-racism while actively harming women and appropriating the traditional clothing of Hindu women. This racist, misogynist man is being supported by the University of Victoria Women’s Centre.

It’s completely unbelievable that university women’s centres have become safe spaces for narcissistic MRAs and unsafe spaces for feminists. My only hope is that this guy brings more women to peak trans.

[witwitch-deactivated20160508]

Gender identity has nothing to do with personality you stupid fuck. Google sex dysphoria and get a job

“Gender identity” is not used strictly by people with dysphoria, non-dysphoric people are using the term and calling themselves “non-binary” because they like to wear both pants and dresses.

Gender identity has everything to do with gender stereotypes and adhering to them. I stopped being friends with a dude because he thinks he’s part woman because he has a “motherly” personality. That’s fucking misogyny. He thinks womanhood is about being “nurturing” and “warm” and therefore he must be a woman. he stopped being friends with me because I pointed out to him that despite his long hair he’s been a gender conforming male for the majority of his damn life and he has no fucking idea what it is like to live through real misogyny. So he stopped being friends with me because I called him male, and he is male, and he benefits from male privilege.

But no, he thinks he’s “oppressed” because he can’t get in to women’s spaces and feminists won’t prioritize him.

[peaktransmoment]

This man is angry because women talk about themselves sometimes.

But it’s not misogynist because he has pink hair and identifies as “non-binary.”

[celtyradfem]

Translation: Women who talk about their experiences and their bodies must be banished.

[nightgigjo]

This asshole will never understand that women would LOVE to GTFO of our female reality, female bodies, girl- and womanhood sometimes, but the keyword is REALITY: we have to deal with it.

Asshole can keep the fucking sex roles. WE DON’T WANT THEM.

[celtyradfem]

He also reminds me of the assholes who tell women ‘tits or gtfo‘.

[feminism-for-me]

I used to follow this prick back in my queer theory days and he contributed to my peak trans moment, when I started questioning pomo gender crap and no one could define womanhood, except this weirdy beardy guy tryna mansplain saying “its different for everyone”…. Good times. Also he makes ©rap music under the name mc foucault just in case you didn’t realise the extent of his pretentiousness…..and calls himself trans even tho he’s non dysphoric, “non binary” which really seems like…. Not…trans…

[rejecting-the-gender-cult-blog]

wowww

[yourkinkisnasty]

I remember feeling that way when I was a camgirl/stripper. I felt like I secretly had power, because I was tricking these men into thinking i was sexually interested/available to them in order to get money. I felt like I was playing a game, and somehow “winning” because I was gaining money and they were losing money. Of course I was also losing my sexual autonomy, by fulfilling the fantasies of men who I would have considered vile and deplorable in the “real world.” 

Now I realize - I wasn’t tricking those men into thinking i was ~into it~. They don’t care. They know that the girls on those websites are there to fill male fantasies, not their own fantasies. They know the girls on those websites wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t for some level of financial coercion. In fact I’m sure a lot of the men got off on knowing that I was pretending to enjoy things I actually hated for them. 

Can any other ex sex workers relate to this? 

[sociallycommenting]

I have a lot of issues with this. I don’t have any strong feelings about this industry, so zip agenda going on here, but there seem to be a lot of holes in this logic.

1. You don’t actually know what those men were thinking.

2. “Financial coercion” no. You did it because you wanted money. That’s not financial coercion. You weren’t blackmailed into it. There’s thousands, millions of people who hate their jobs but go to work and that’s not called financial coercion. It was a choice, your choice, and unless you have some legit justification for using “financial coercion” other than "I wouldn’t do it if it weren’t for the cash” that you haven’t put forward (if you do have one, I’ll listen with an open mind), I’m calling bull. Stop abdicating responsibility for your own decisions.

[yourkinkisnasty]

capitalism is coercive. i think you’ll find that the threat of homelessness and starvation is pretty coercive. shut the fuck up. 

[genderresister]

What happened to being supportive of sex workers and not talking over them??

[nevertheherd]

The last comment especially

[mysharona1987]

[witwitch-deactivated20160508]

These statistics are literally fake and made up. Stop circulating them as if they’re real, you just make yourself look even more ignorant.

Did you know that white trans women as less likely to be murdered than white female women?

This is coming from an article written by a trans woman. White trans women constantly use the deaths of TWOC as props in their arguments against radical feminists, when these white trans women will never suffer the violence they’re using as a prop.

That is so fucking racist and disgusting and it should piss you right off. Just fucking stop using their murders as a prop in an argument as if it gives you the right to speak over others.

[actual-ex-radfem]

iirc there hasn’t been a year in the US where the total murders of transwomen was greater than 20 people. 

The best estimate of the number of transwomen in the usa is 700,000. If 1 in 12 of them were being murdered there would be greater than 50,000 killed each year. 

[doingoxyinchurch-deactivated201]

It’s really important to be honest when discussing these issues. Faking statistics is unhelpful at best, and makes it less likely for people to take it seriously. You shouldn’t have to lie to say that the murder of transwomen is a real issue, is wrong, and should be discussed. When I see stats like this, I honestly doubt that the person posting gives a damn about the lives of trans people, they just want to look like a good person. Using murder victims as props to make yourself look progressive is so beyond disgusting, do I even need to explain that?

[vaginabless-deactivated20160805]

you don’t have to make facts up to be agains the murder of trans people

[transgender-harms-women]

A 16 year old girl posts in reddit’s community TwoXChromosomes, asking for advice because she has found out that her 18 year old brother is stealing her underwear. (Archived link)

I was doing my laundry today (my parents make us do our own) and my brother had his in the dryer and left before it was done. I needed to use the dryer so I took his stuff out and when I was throwing it in his drawer for him something caught my eye and I looked and it was some of my underwear that had gone “missing.” I’m really disturbed and creeped out that he took it. What should I do? I left it there for now but I’m not sure what to do. Should I talk to him first? Or maybe my parents? Please help!

An adult male who in other comments claims to have been crossdressing for 35 years, who states that “wearing lipstick is my fetish” comes to offer advice!

Listen! DO NOT talk to your parents. I’m a guy who has not worn men’s underwear in decades. I’m a crossdresser. He probably wears them when he’s out of the house or is confident no one will find out.

Do this. Go to Walmart and buy him a package of three panties in the style he borrowed from you. Take your panties out of his drawer and replace them with the new package. Say nothing.

He has no comfortable way of buying his own so he stole yours. If in the future he stops borrowing your panties, you know he almost certainly is crossdressing. It’s harmless. Really. If he still borrows your panties, he probably has a fetish and then you tell him to stop using your things. If this was just some misunderstanding, he will ask what in the hell you are doing.

Keep your parents out of this. Transgender people kill themselves for less. Even if your parents are cool with it, the fact that they know and you told on him will destroy relationships forever.

A 16 year old girl is supposed to keep it a secret that her adult brother is stealing her underwear, and spend her own money to buy underwear for him because otherwise he might kill himself.

The 16 year old then posts to r/asktransgender (archived link), because after confronting her brother, he admitted to stealing the underwear because he is transgendered.

Again she is advised to buy her brother underwear and clothes so the brother doesn’t “have to” steal.

More commenters urging her to buy underwear for her brother:

“Contrary to what a lot of people on the r/TwoX[1] post said, these aren’t masturbation aids for him”, the same commenter assures OP.

That is quite a claim, considering that r/asktransgender is FULL of posters talking about stealing their female relatives’ underwear and using them “for sexual purposes”.

“I’ve sometimes gone into my sister’s closet and tried on some of her clothes. Sometimes, it’s for sexual reasons”

“…wearing my step-mum’s lingerie when she is not home. (…) there is usually a sexual aspect”

“a lot of my feelings are tied in with being sexually excited while wearing womens clothing”

“Whenever I think about transitioning it usually gives me an erection, the same happens if I’m looking at makeup videos on Youtube or wearing women’s clothes.”

“I’ve had experiences of wearing women’s clothing and imagining myself as a girl or woman throughout most of my life. I’d usually just do it in secret for short bursts, and as I got older those periods would coincide with me masturbating.” 

“My first experience with cross gender activity came from wearing my friend’s sister’s underwear (out of a dare or sorts) at around age 10. I took the pair home and idolized it. This spread to searching for more feminine clothing from my sister and mom (and my cousin when she lived with my mom).”

What kind of advice do these panty masturbators receive?

“This type of fetish is [a] really common way to express repressed dysphoria”

“its common for trans people to start out in early like fetishizing”

“I used to get arouse as well cross dressing or even thinking about it” 

“I am a trans woman, but pre transitioning womens clothes, makeup, all those things turned me on.”

It’s probably safe to say that the original poster’s brother is masturbating in her underpants. And the solution to this is for the 16 year old girl to keep it a secret from their parents, and spend her own money on underwear for her brother, because otherwise he might kill himself.

[tqweef-deactivated20160720]

btw bdsm is the only ~lifestyle~ i know of where you need a safe word in case your abuser fucking kills you

[transgender-harms-women]

Conservatives are borrowing “myths” from feminists to undermine transgender bathroom policies, said an article shared by my ex. Trans people just aren’t a threat, the article insisted.

Below, a list of the people who undermine the credibility of that claim. Not radical feminists, not conservatives. These guys, who unfortunately for the trans movement, do exist (and in large numbers).

Due to the oppressively large body of source material to work from, this is a work in progress and will updated from time to time.

[destroymales-deactivated2023032]

I like how men’s clubs that still run quite frequently and around the world aren’t considered transphobic, but anything with the word ‘womens’ in the title is an ‘act of violence’. And honestly, I think it’s out of line for men to speak on how fine it is to completely eradicate women’s spaces, when they’re not the ones who are generally in danger from it. I have no issue with transwomen, on a personal level, they are people who deserve respect and dignity. But there’s a reason the word ‘trans’ is there, and that’s male biology and socialization. If you want more sources of transwomen being violent, particularly toward lesbians, I can be here all day giving you links. And not a single one involves a transman being sexually violent towards men.