Nice or Dice

Nice or dice - where I'll post something and decide whether to Nice it or Dice it

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Sweet talk vs Firework

Firework is lovely and people are usually mesmerize by  it.

Love is also a lovely experience. During courtship, the guy will normally sweet talk to his girlfriend ,promising her the "sky and the sea" ,which delighted his girlfriend  

So, what's the relationship between them?

Firework is like a sweet talk. It can mesmerize you when it's in action. However once the action is gone, it would gone into thin air. If you stand too close to it, you will get burn by the residue.

Similarly, if you believe the sweet talk, you may get hurt if the promises are not fulfilled.

To conclude, do not believe in promises especially when they are too good to be true.

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How to leave Mily?

Staying with Mily is very stressful . Everyday I have to worry if my stuffs were being tempered with or missing. I wish to stay away from Mily however hubby is having difficulty approaching this subject with her. I don't want to stay with her! I want to move out from this place even though its my matrimony house n I have a bigger share. Hope she can MOVE out of my house n go back to her own place to stay with immediate effect!

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Suffering in life

Suffering in life is like a hurricane . The hurricane can blow away all the houses n everything around u. However , if u take proper shelter and hold tight to it without waiver, you will be safe . (Faith n strengthen ) It doesn't matter how much property u had lost(detachment) but as long as u don't lost yourself, u will be able to regain the material losses after the hurricane is over. All sufferings will be over!

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Cooked some simple soup for hubby after work. Serving for 2 -> Smily soup Ingredients 1 packet of fish ball ( cut some pattern on the fishball) 1 carrot. ( sliced) 1 russet potato( sliced) Pinch of salt Pinch of wolfberries Method 1. Put 2 litre of water to boil 2. When the water reach 100 degree , put the potato n carrots into the pot n let it cook 3. Throw in some wolfberries n salt to taste. 4. When the soup is ready, put in the fish ball. 5. Let it boil for 4 min or when the fish ball float on the surface. 6. Cover the lid n close the fire n let it simmers. 7. Serve hot Enjoy

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Some more, with two new year greeting cards from my friends ... Its kinda sad to think that Hubby n Mily never received any .. But the decor is a free gift to Hubby when he brought the other decor... So he have a big greeting too! ^^

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Chinese New Year is coming! I put up a few decor on my wall ! This is the first time I m spending CNY at my matrimony home ! I hope this festive season will be my turning point towards a harmonious family as Mily is bunking with us too #_# .

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WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD?

Haha

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Who say women should do the housechore?!

Do you engaged a helper at home to do your house chore for you? Who does the house chore if you, like me, doesn't have the luxury to engage a helper?

Before my marriage, I was staying with my parents and brother. I used to leave my laundry for my mum to wash, left the plates and tables for her to clear.The free time was used to do my stuffs such as surfing net or watching television. My mum is not a housewife and she's helping my dad in his air-condition servicing business, which required lots of physical work. Yet she have to do the housework for all of us.

Though she never complain but I always saw her very busy, having to do 4 people's house chore.... because of her, my dad, my bro and myself have time to REST!!

I came to realise this is imbalance when I was washing the dishes one day. I was feeling very tired after a day of work and yet I was doing the dishes.. I thought it would be nice if mum can do everything... Hey, what if I'm her??Oh my god! I had contributed to her tiredness. I realised her job is more tiring than me and in the evening she had to attend to us and helping us to do house chore. This is insane! Where does she have time for herself?!

Although our parents brought us up and served us unconditionally, we are all humans and we all have 24 hours. They also have their rights to rest and relax, why should we expect to rest at the expense of their time?

Imagine this scenario

5.30am: Mum woke up to prepare for breakfast , I woke up to do my morning exercise 7am   : I Wash up and having breakfast while mum go to catch up with her sleep 7.30am: I left to work while mum do the washing up and prepare for work 9-5pm : All working 5-6pm : Mum prepared dinner while we return home from work 6-8pm : We wash up, dinner and telly. 8-9pm : Telly continue for us, while mum wash the dishes and laundry 9-10pm: Internet time for us while mum continue with the ironing of clothes and sweeping of floor and mopping 10pm  : Bedtime for us while mum continue with her chore 11pm-12am : Mum's turn to wash up and prepare for bedtime

Based on this scenario, we had the luxury of 2 hours to catch up with telly and do our stuffs while mum's time is all for us. I think let's be fair to her, if we were to do our own dishes and help out with house chore, we can do it faster and don't have to sacrifice someone in the family to do for us.

Just now, hubby was busy doing his assignment, due next month. He brought some fish and pork chops to go with the rice from yesterday. Upon reaching lunchtime, I unpacked the dishes and put them on an aluminium foil and warmed it. I let it steamed for 20 minutes while I heat up the soup.

When the dishes are ready, I went to have my lunch and he joined in later. After I finished it cleaning up my dishes, and I was about to do my stuffs, he told me to clean up the soup as he don't want already. I was flabbergasted and upset  - does he realised what is the opportunity cost of that person who's serving u? I had been doing the house chore all morning while he's working on his assignment and now I had finished my lunch wanting to do my stuffs and he asked me to clean up for him?! In the end, I protested and end up he done the cleaning up ...hopefully he'll learn to be more independent soon.

Who say housework should be done by the woman at home? In this century, doing house chore is everybody's business, unless u engaged a helper...

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Claypot Egg Pudding aka Claypot Chawanmushi

Today I was not feeling well, although doctor suggested I ate porridge to heal my gastric, I felt that eating the porridge made me more sick.

Hence I decided to whip up some simple and delicious dish!

I brought some kampung eggs and thinking how to make some nutritious meal.  I decided to prepare chawanmushi

Here's how to :

Ingredient :

2 Eggs

2 teaspoon of light soy sauce

1 Russell potato

50 ml hot water

Equipment :

Steamer

Small claypot with cover

Strainer

bowl

Instruction:

1. Slice the potatoes thinly

2. Toast the potatoes at 240 degree celsius for 10 min or until they became slighty baked.

3. Dice them or leave it as it is - put them aside

4. Crack 2 eggs into the bowl

5. Beat the eggs

6. Pour the hot water into the eggs and continue beating

7. When the eggs are evenly beaten, pour some light soy sauce.

8. Pour the mixture through the strainer into the claypot, to remove the bubbles.

9. By now, the mixture should be in the claypot, pour the mixture again through the strainer into the bowl.

10. Repeat step 8 and by now the bubble should disappear.

11. Gently put the sliced / diced toasted potatoes into the mixture to avoid any bubbles from building up.

12. Cover the claypot lid and put them into a steamer with boiling water.

13. Let it steam for 10 minutes and close the fire. The heat will be trapped inside the steamer and claypot should continue to cook the egg. Over cooking will turn the egg into a hard and dry egg pudding.

14. When it's time to serve, remove the claypot from the steamer and put them into a bigger plate and fill the plate with hot water, to preserve the heat of the claypot.

15. Ready to serve.

The benefit of using claypot to whip up this dish is because Chawanmushi is best served hot. Claypot is able to retain heat and it's can retain heat till the consumption.

Enjoy :)

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Human Revolution

My senior in faith (Aunty M) told me "I watch u grow up from a child to a bride, I want u to have a happy marriage". I was touched to tears that I cried non-stop even though I was in a public place.

I admit I had a very unhappy marriage because of Mily. Mily is staying with me in my matrimonial home and it's a struggle living with her. 

I had to endure mental and physical torture from profanity , destroying of my stuffs and even assualt. Sound dramatic right , but it's true. I wasn't able to retaliate as she's an 'elder' hence I normally don't answer her back and choose to ignore her nonsense.

Whenever hubby talked about her,I'll get very worked up as I really hated her to the core. Whenever people asked me how's my marriage life, I'll be so negative, thinking how my 'happily ever after' dream turned out.

I had been living with stress and the stress at work doesn't help at all.I decided I'm not going to lead this kind of life anymore. I'm going to challenge it squarely and build a harmonious family so that I can focus on my hubby, career, study and spriritual growth.

Aunty M advise me to spend at least 15 minute solely to pray for her happiness and a harmonious family. Of course, I have to pray for my courage and compassion to pray for the person I HATE.

Since Aunty M is my beloved senior, I decided to follow her advise.In the beginning it's very painful that I was contemplating leaving my hubby as I thought this predicarment is uncalled for.Hubby have been very encouraging and cheered me on.

One day, I felt I was ready to talk to her.

In the morning, we found a broken bamboo pole outside our door. Hubby asked Mily why was there a pole and she confessed it's her. I realised I was not angry at her but just genuinely felt she must be very strong to broke the bamboo stick.

I commented she's 'power' when hubby was not very happy and told me how she may react.

To compensate for it, I decided to do something to end this vacumm. She cooked some porridge for breakfast, so we ate it and I invited her to join us but she doesn't want. I asked her how she managed to cook the porridge with my Toshiba rice cooker.

I told hubby that our washing detergent is running out and suggested to buy . We seeked her opinion on what brand of detergent she would recommend and she mentioned X brand. I heard X brand is not doing well, so I suggested Y brand. Hubby mentioned, why not we buy Y brand first then buy X brand. I'm ok.

In the end we went to buy X brand as it's relatively cheaper. Mily looks happy when we buy X brand and mentioned her sister also recommended her to buy.

Next we went down to the supermarket to do some marketing for dinner. Hubby went to cut his hair while I went to take my Telur Bawang. After that hubby brought pig kidney and some other dishes.

I freaked out thinking how would the pig kidney soup turn out to be if hubby were to cook it. I know awfully well it will not turn out well as it's difficult to cook.

Hubby went back first while I went to get some fruits for offering and some yakult.

When I'm back, I went to the kitchen and saw her working on the dish. I told her I'm glad she took over the cooking as I have no confident hubby would make a good dish from pig kidney.

I went to take a shower and washed the toilet. After my shower, hubby grumbled at me to do housework. I told him I'm not free and did my morning prayer.

Hubby went on to sweep and mop the master bedroom, and even change the bedsheet.

I wanted to wash all the floor mats and she mentioned she'll do it later for me as she need to hang her laundry. She asked me to helped her with the fishball by soaking it while she go to hang her laundry.

After that I went to clean the window.

After cleaning, I was wondering if I should clean the kitchen toilet used by Mily and hubby, since I'm using only the Master Bedroom toilet. Ugh... u know,it's a struggle to clean the toilet that I never used and yet it's used by someone I don't like.. I decided to clean it anyway. I asked Mily to clear her clothes from the toilet and she moved all her stuffs out of the toilet.

I clean the toilet without any complaint - afterall, it's my house.

I'm amazed to see the toilet so dirty and they can use it without cleaning... 

After that, I'm relieved she took over the cooking as I noticed she boiled the pig kidney and cooked the soup separately. End up we at at 6pm. The soup is quite ok, except she added ginger in a pork soup which taste a bit wierd.

Anyway I started to do small talk with her, by asking how she know how to cook and told her the ginger taste special.. and she kinda open up and talk.

After the dinner, I cleaned up the dishes and she's quite happy. She went out to take a walk and she's so happy to see the neighbour and talked to them happily.

I felt happy as well. The air is clearer. 

I just greeted her and she mentioned she bought kueh for us.. 

let's hope we can sustained this ...although it's platonic but it's better than being hostile to each other.

I dare say I had started to do my human revolution to improve my family situation :)

NICE the outcome, and DICE the past!

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A fly lands between the eyes of U.S. President Barack Obama while he speaks in the State Dining Room of the White House in Washington Picture: REUTERS

(My 8,000 Post)

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NICE!

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My Secret Recipe of a Happy Breakfast !

It was a raining and cold morning.The temptation to snuggle in bed is attractive, however it's a Tuesday today! [And it's Obama's inauguration day!]

Had a bad nightmare about MILy and I woke up sobbing..:(‘

In order to make myself happy, I made myself a simple happiness breakfast when I reached office!

+++My Secret Recipe of a Happy Breakfast!+++

Ingredient:

Sandwich: 2 slice of corn bread (or any bread of your choice)

1 slice of honey ham

1 slice of cheese

A sheet of aluminium foil to toast the bread

Drink: 1 English Breakfast tea bag

2 satchet of brown sugar

How to :

Make the sandwich: 1. Lay the aluminium foil on the plate of the oven

2. Lay the each slice of the bread neatly on top of the aluminium foil

3. Place the ham on one of the bread

4. Place the cheese on top of the ham

5 Toast it to Light / Medium, or until the bread turn golden.

6. When the bread turn golden, u should be able to see the cheese become thicken and slightly creamy.

7. Turn off the oven and let it cool down.

8. Remove the aluminium foil with the bread from the oven.

9. Hold the slide of the aluminium foil and use it to close the bread!

10.Seal the aluminium foil and let the heat melt the cheese further.

[There you can see the cheese melting as the bread lays on top of the cheese..]

Make the drink : 1. Place the tea bag into a cup 2. Pour 200 ml of hot water 3. Empty the 2 satchet of brown sugar into a cup 4. Let it simmer for 5 minutes. Yummy! A slice of melted cheese sandwich plus a cup of English Breakfast Tea is a good way to start my day!

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Nice vs Dice

Life is full of surprises.

At one time, u will get lovely surprises - where u'll keep them in a nice chamber in your heart .*Sweet*

On the other hand, if u get nasty one, let's chop and dice it and make it disappear!

I hope for my subsequent posts, I can contribute more Nice post than Dice's post

Conclusion : I want more nice post than dice post !