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[nightlongnight]

intro

(update April 11. 2026)

This a blog that contains mentions, descriptions and reblogs related to trauma and mental health. I'm not avaible in these moments for social stuff, but I'm very happy with people talking and relating to my post, be yourself in the tags. There won't be anything nsfw, but I still warn you about tw content if you might find that triggering.

I also speak a lot about being sex repulsed and asexuality. I mostly speak about my experience, but this blog is completely supportive of sex repulsed people (whether they identify as ace or not, or if they became sex repulsed due to a trauma). I'd like to say that, while my blog does talk about asexuality, I'm not really interested on any gender debate of any type. I'm simply gonna talk about my experiences, and if it doesn't apply to you then just block.

Keep in mind that the experiences and opinions shown here are my own, and I'm not a replacement of a mental health professional nor do I intent for others to take my word. I'm simply venting and expressing my opinions, you can completely close this blog if you simply don't feel comfortable with it.

I know that my blog has triggering content, so if you are only interested on my ace posts, you can go here: #sex repulsed and #sex repulsed asexual and other similar tags.

You are also free to block me, I'm not forcing anyone to agree with me nor do I pretend to speak for all people who are either sex repulsed or who have trauma. I'm obviously speaking for myself, and I shouldn't shut my opinions just because I'm a minority. So, feel free to block my account if you feel like it. But don't pretend I'm particularly forcing anyone to agree with me or something.

[aroace-ryland-grace]

you people can't do anything without romance

[aroace-ryland-grace]

you people are so fucking boring

[nightlongnight]

tw: incest, sa, csa

oh boy sure I do love fandom annd internet people rightfully complaining about "homophobic" jokes but the moment someone says a incest "joke" you just can see how people genuinely don't see incest as sexual and psychological abuse inflicted on a minor so they just say "why are you getting offended at that" ...

The fact that I even doubt of using the word "incest" instead of SA says a lot, because If I use the first one people might imply there was "consent"... 😐

[bdbeady]

shaming sex-repulsed aces for not liking sex scenes by calling them prudes or conflating them with puritans won't make them hate sex scenes any less. just so you know.

[nightlongnight]

Being on fandoms made me realize about how people genuinely hate minors, don't understand or remember what was like to be a child and will do anything to erase childhood-teenhood of a story because they cannot relate to a character who is a kid and makes mistakes any child would make, and also will do EVERYTHING to insist that they are not really a child to sexualize the fuck of them and ship them with adults or to ship incest.

That Mabel Pines meme is a whole mood lmao

the meme of the century dude

And mind you, I was only talking about fictional characters who are minors.

Real minors have characters aimed at them, created for them, and people do everything to take them away from them, to make them normalize horrible things, will punish them for making mistakes, for being innocent, for being young, will groom and abuse children and for some reason everything gets accepted because "children should not be on the internet and the parents should care for their kids", yeah if I told you that people should be good that's a good but thing but guess what? It doesn't change anything! 😀!!

[decompose1]

i dislike the weird jump to blame suicide victims for their suicides and call them selfish. suicide is very frequently in some way a social murder. i think instead of blaming someone who was in such a dark place that they saw no other way out we should maybe be blaming the people who threw gas on the fire, such as those with a lot of power to make that person's life that bad or those who abused them into it. is that really that unreasonable

[decompose1]

not once has being told i was being selfish- or seeing people talk about how selfish suicide is- EVER made me feel less suicidal. it creates shame. it makes me shut down and never want to disclose feeling this way because oh, g-d, doesn't that make me a bad person? oh, g-d, they'll think i'm a monster, they'll think i'm guilt tripping them, they'll think, they'll think, they'll think (....)

and worse still, nearly every time i've been pushed this far- and, indeed, a lot of my mental health problems to begin with- often stem from the idea that i am less important than anyone else. my thoughts, my feelings, my safety, my life are less important. so to hear people essentially say to me, "but how would everyone else feel!?"?? it doesn't help at all. it makes it so much worse. once more, i am not the important one. even at my lowest, i have to be the one to make compromises and consider how everyone else feels. how could that ever help me? how could you say that to someone?

[the-aro-agenda]

if you think headcanoning an autistic character as aromantic or asexual is infantilizing them i will disintegrate you with my laser eyes

[leumeistersgotablog]

at risk of being laser'd by OP's eyes, I think it depends on the intentions behind the aro/aceing headcanon

I'm Autistic myself and while I haven't knowingly been infantilized, I know that a lot of people do infantilize autistic people an inordinate amount, up to, including, and possibly even beyond enforcing romantic and sexual innocence onto them, and this naturally extends to characters. In that case, I would invite you, though totally up to you of course, to direct your laser eyes to those people :P

of course, if the autistic individual, fictional or not, is aro and/or ace, then this need not apply

[the-aro-agenda]

okay i'm not gonna laser eyes you because it seems like you're saying this in good faith and this is a chance to further explain what i'm criticizing. my post is meant to criticize the idea that a lack of interest in romance or sex is childish in the first place (which is an aspect of amatonormativity). obviously viewing adult autistic characters (and by extension, people) as children is so fucked up and automatically assuming lack of interest is bad but i've literally seen writing advice that says if you write an autistic character then they HAVE to have a romantic and/or sexual relationship to avoid infantilizing them. which, when you're autistic and aromantic, really fucking hurts.

also, as a response to that last line, i know you meant well but the idea that lack of interest in romance and sex is ONLY not childish if the character or person is confirmed aro and/or ace is a big problem. it's amatonormativity. it's a caveat to the societal norm rather than deconstructing it. that line of thinking hurts people who are questioning and non-aro or ace people who don't participate in romance and sex for other reasons

[qcharlie]

i wish we were able to talk about women's rights without someone mentioning how much they do or don't want to have sex with them. i don't care if you're a lesbian Stop finding worth in women purely from their perceived attractiveness

[qcharlie]

"I think women should not be expected to shave for societal respect / to avoid discrimination" "yeah🤤 i love bush" ok well that's not what we're talking about is it.

[qcharlie]

i hate how many posts about trans women deserving respect always devolve into "I love girldick" or "trans rights but I don't want to date a trans person" because that's entirely unrelated to the topic at hand. you should not respond to feminism with "YESSS I loveeee you because I see you as nothing but a sex object" you people sound like other men I get stuck talking with that end up saying "free the nipple so I can see boobies in public" and thinking they're feminists. why can't we just respect women regardless of your attraction to them or not. why does it need to be brought up in every conversation regarding their rights

[nightlongnight]

When people say that "things happen for a reason", "we get what we deserve" but I trusted people, gave them my trust, only to be discarded and to be left traumatized. I believed in people, if not you got labelled as a "negative" person, I did iit, and that's what I got in return...

[hello-friends9500]

Feels like my innocence was gone too soon, if that makes sense.

[genderqueerdykes]

after this website decided to attempt to ban porn and ns fw content, it's honestly become a nightmare to navigate as an asexual person w/ sexual trauma. because next to no one uses the mature filter, or tags things as ns fw or even ns ft for fear of having their content or blogs taken down, it means that tumblr has returned to the wild west of random porn flooding your dashboard with next to nothing you can do about attempting to filter it out again

it's not great for a lot of people in general, even outside of asexuality; people with jobs who browse tumblr in their down time, people who have or work with kids, people who spend a lot of time in public, people who are often at religious establishments or events, children and teenagers- there are load of children who lie about their birth date in order to sign up for just about any website ever, the amount of minors are on here is staggering. this is not good many people in general.

as an asexual person with a long history of sexual trauma, i struggle to navigate my dashboard or even certain tags right now. even the act of tagging certain posts will have tumblr suggest 'related' tags that are nsf w even if you are tagging things something simple like "ftm" or "enby" or "butch lesbian". it's great that other people are flourishing and embracing their sexuality, but it comes at the cost of making this website very difficult to browse for asexual people and people with sexual trauma

my heart goes out to the rest of you who are absolutely exhausted and triggered by this. again it's wonderful for the people who enjoy it, but because of how strict the tagging and filtering systems are on this website and how easy it is to get your entire blog deleted just by having a single thing flagged as mature, this website has gotten significantly worse at actually filtering the content they set out to remove in the first place.

[poorlythoughtoutdescisions]

Being sex-repulsed is fucking annoying. I want to be anti-censorship and pro-do-whatever-you-want but I despise seeing any content about like sex/sexual kinks/etc. I hear people complaining about the fact that you can't post like porn on here and I think a brief that's great because I don't want to see that, and I already see enough vaguely sexual stuff on here as is. I'm a minor, I've been clear about that, and a sex-repulsed ace at that. I'm watching the latest discourse about kinktober and wondering why anyone would like some of that stuff, but reminding myself that they do, and I shouldn't judge. It's frustrating I guess. I don't feel broken or whatever, just... tired? I block tags, block people, don't interact, but there's so much of it coming in from every side, and some of it I agree with, even if I want to stay far away from it. I want to post about being sex-repulsed, but I don't want to be called a puritan or prude. I want to be anti-censorship without seeing sexual content.

Like what you like, but for the love of god, keep it away from me. And I know that it's my responsibility to keep away from content I dislike. So I do my best, but it's tiring and frustrating, and I'm sure there's some people who can relate.

[how-do-these-people-exist]

Please remember there are asexuals who want nothing to do with sex, and that's okay.

Y'know what no actually I'm posting about this because it's genuinely really fucking getting to me. I'm so fucking exhausted by how it feels like some people just took "some asexual people can still want sex, and that doesn't make them no longer ace" and just devolved into "oh so ace people can want sex? cool well i'm going to assume ace people/ace characters must want sex at least a LITTLE 'cause who doesn't?" It's genuinely really fucking upsetting that as an aroace, even in LGBTQ+ spaces, even in asexual spaces, I feel like I'm STILL faced with the same acephobia I would get from non-LGBTQ+ people. From non-asexual people. I feel like I'm still having to face the bullshit of "I don't care if you say you're asexual, there are asexual people who do want sex and do have sex so you're still the weird one." I feel like I still have to face that fucking idea that "everyone wants it, you'll want it eventually, or you'll do it because a partner wants it." No! I don't! and I'm tired of people in my own fucking community making me feel even more fucking broken and alone and making me feel like now instead of being discriminated against for being asexual, it's just turned into being discriminated against for being "one of those asexuals." in the fucking "I'm not like those queer people" way. I'm just so exhausted by this shit. Obviously I think asexual people who do want or have sex are valid. But I'm fucking tired of people making me feel like I must be broken and there must be something wrong with me if I'm an asexual who doesn't have or want sex. it just genuinely makes me feel like.. if being asexual means you're still gonna get perceived as maybe wanting sex and if being open about being a sex-repulsed asexual gets people saying "well don't push your trauma onto other people/make it other people's problem" then what the fuck am i that people can relate to. because it just. makes me feel like the community of people who are like me is a lot smaller than i thought.

[repulsed-confessions]

Kind of tiring to me that people for the most part seem to find it impossible to believe that someone can be entirely non sexual. You tell them you don’t have sex and they either treat you like you’re missing out on something, don’t believe you, or throw ‘Aces can still have sex!!!’ In your face (some can, but not an appropriate thing to say when somebody is telling you they DON’T). You tell them you don’t masturbate, fantasise sexually, or have kinks, and they don’t believe you. You tell them you don’t experience any sexual desire or attraction at all, and lack a libido, and they don’t believe you. Even amongst other asexuals, people on the sex favourable side of the spectrum speak over us so often and don’t seem to believe that people who lack any desire or interest exist.

‘Everyone’s into something!!’ WRONG

‘Everyone feels sexual arousal sometimes’ WRONG

‘Everyone masturbates’ WRONG

‘Everyone has kinks’ WRONG

Why is it considered so impossible that somebody like me exists??

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[repulsed-confessions]

Kind of tiring to me that people for the most part seem to find it impossible to believe that someone can be entirely non sexual. You tell them you don’t have sex and they either treat you like you’re missing out on something, don’t believe you, or throw ‘Aces can still have sex!!!’ In your face (some can, but not an appropriate thing to say when somebody is telling you they DON’T). You tell them you don’t masturbate, fantasise sexually, or have kinks, and they don’t believe you. You tell them you don’t experience any sexual desire or attraction at all, and lack a libido, and they don’t believe you. Even amongst other asexuals, people on the sex favourable side of the spectrum speak over us so often and don’t seem to believe that people who lack any desire or interest exist.

‘Everyone’s into something!!’ WRONG

‘Everyone feels sexual arousal sometimes’ WRONG

‘Everyone masturbates’ WRONG

‘Everyone has kinks’ WRONG

Why is it considered so impossible that somebody like me exists??

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[underthesedarlingskies]

qft

[balaclava-trismegistus]

can everyone within the community be chill about nonbinary people for like one month out of the year please

[balaclava-trismegistus]

"youre not performing gender the way i want you to so your perspective is invalid and your experiences dont count" - half of The Community Online