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i'm just horny for no reason-

Guys… I am literally heartbroken. Not just because of the recent news, but I’m worried that Arohas will be mistreated just like how Shawols were. Please remember that they are human and PLEASE (for the love of god) DON’T SPEND THE NEWS AND FUNERAL VIDEO. Allow them to grieve in peace.

As a Shawol, I know how it feels to feel like the odd one out and alone. I’m here if you need it. My guy Moonbin is gonna live forever. I’m so sorry for all of you guys.

#MOONBIN NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

mothgf

hey if we’re mutuals you can literally interact w me whenever. send me whatever u want i will probably be very excited

rensneko

things hasn’t been the same ever since the two left…

#i agree on isamu #why can't they mind their own business after a heated argument #they literally caused someone who isn't even a part of the argument to delete his account and create a new one

jonghyuns-husband

hello everyone, i would like to make things a bit clearer since @/1eos is spreading misinformation.

i never said that i don’t like black women. i was saying that there’s a pattern of black women resources being advertised more than anything else. this ISN’T me dogpiling on black mental health. i was pointing at what i see the most. i am NOT american so i don’t know if there’s anything out there as the uk doesn’t really provide very much for anyone of my demographic specifically.

as for my argument against the “black girl breathing” ads, this was in behalf of my FRIEND who has seen the poster saying “being lonely in a digital world” making him think that it was a BLACK WOMAN or a group of people speaking out about feeling lonely being online as THIS WAS EXACTLY WHAT HE WAS GOING THROUGH just for him to find out that it was a resource ad for black women and girls.

THAT WAS WHY HE WAS COMPLAINING. it was because of the misinformation. do you guys understand now or do i need to talk to you guys like babies. this is why he’s even afraid of speaking out because of lowlifers like them taking him out of context and then twisting his words. i am speaking out of anger because i want him to know that there’s people who is in the same boat as him. this is why i spoke out in behalf of him. and for those who are harassing me for speaking for him, kindly shut the fuck up. this is for a friend who is struggling with mental health. i hope he’s doing well and hopefully he knows that there are people who loves him for him.

vilethot

1eos apologized for what she said and the misinformation here

jonghyuns-husband

now it’s not a good time for jokes. it’s fucking disrespectful when you consider that this is a serious claim towards me.

sammiesbloggingsession

how fucked up do you have to be to make that reblog? she literally harassed him when he was literally talking about his friend's experience. it's kinda distasteful in my opinion.

theokimurakk

how insensitive are you mate? someone is being cyber bullied and you decided to go for a clickbait to a random kpop music video? stupid.

rensneko

i'm sorry but that's fucked up. i'm on his side in this one.

taeminscheesetouch

that's fucking disrespectful man

nihaojj

don't listen to that fucker you're an amazing friend @jonghyuns-husband and i hope you're doing well @jjongolese ily both <3333

blxckhwa

first of all… i would like to say thank you guys for speaking out in behalf of me.

yes i am the black guy who was affected by this banner. although i’m not the target audience, the fact that they would advertise a literal black women’s advocacy campaign for mental health by putting something like “being lonely in a digital world” and expecting only black women to respond.

it was super disheartening to see this banner. i’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety due to online bullying since around the beginning of 2020 and it has been getting worse from dec 2021.

seeing a banner that resonates with me was something i’ve never thought i’d ever see in my life. i finally thought that i was not alone, that there were people who were also feeling the same as me whilst being online. i didn’t even know that it was a real thing until i saw that banner.

that’s why it’s super damaging and why i wanted to speak out. thanks to my friend @jonghyuns-husband i had came out of my shell to finally talk about my side and how it could be damaging for me as a black man, as someone who doesn’t fit the criteria but related to that banner alone.

clickbait may seem like harmless fun, but it can really damage people. i thought there was hope for me, until i realised that it was too good to be true. i never thought i would ever find someone who would understand me and find a group of friends who feels exactly the same way.

i often feel like a loser for going online and not enjoying it like my siblings or cousins. everyone seems to be having fun — but me. i thought i was overthinking for a second, until i’ve met asahi. he felt exactly like me and knows how i feel. i’ve even found someone with online social anxiety like me, who is too afraid of being ghosted after a fine conversation.

yes the banner is racist, but i just want people to hear me and to be heard. i’m sick and tired of suffering in silence. if i’m getting shadowbanned, please make sure to reblog so i could reach more people.

thank you for all my friends that stuck up for me. you guys are the best. i love you all.

#i love you man #boost this

1eos

these black girl mental health ads on the hating black women website is wild. this app is truly so shameless

jonghyuns-husband

(responding to the last tag)

i wouldn't be surprised if that was the case. they would a subject that can touch all types of people but only advertise it for specifically black women. although i wasn't the one who spotted this out (it was @jjongolese in which he was a black man who related to the post "being lonely in a digital world") it did feel kinda wrong seeing that post even though what they're posting seems to be positive.

i was literally talking about this banner to my friend (black woman) the other day. i found it weird that resources like these including target audiences being either gender specific (mainly female — trans or cis) or/and race specific (mainly black/african-american or hispanic) being advertised and barely see anything else and those didn't fit the criteria are expected to "find other resources" when it's literally ever anything that is "black women" or "trans black women" that would be shown more in adverts. how are people supposed to know that there are stuff for them out there if there isn't much people talking about them.

idk but the people who has replied to me sounds kinda salty in a way. i may had acted off because my friend was saying it to me first but has anxiety posting it himself due to cyber bullying on this app. he wanted to speak more, but doesn't have the courage to. that's why i said it myself.

i'm pretty sure if that "black girl breathing" banner wasn't just for black women, he would also be one of those people that could tell his story — or at least that was what i remember it was about when i read the description. but now that i've realised that it was a way to hate on black women, it is starting to make sense as to why the advertisement rubbed me the wrong way.

also, can you guys elaborate as to why black girls breathing is racist? i lowkey want to learn more about this. you may need to ask to dm since i've locked down anyone other than friends from messaging me.

1eos

...............wow. just wow. im not surprised ppl had an attitude when talking to you bc getting on a post abt performative activism to be like ‘why is everything for black women and trans woman 😤😤’ is like. a sure fire way to have ppl mad. like this post is not for you im advocating for GENUINE support for black women and you seem to be mad that its focusing on black women in general 😂😂😂i truly cannot believe u typed this all out in seriousness and don’t see a problem with your words

jonghyuns-husband

bro that is not what i meant. there’s nothing wrong with advocating for black women’s mental health. i was saying for the resources. it’s ONLY ever advertised if it’s for black women and you never really see any variations of that same subject such as something as common as “being lonely in a digital world.” this is why my friend wanted to speak out because he felt alone for the longest time but because he’s a BLACK MAN he’s not included in this project and the fact that people just expect him to go elsewhere like people even advertise mental health support for black people or even someone who speaks about being lonely online after getting fucking cyber bullied. of course he’s gonna go ahead and think weirdly about that.

if it was like a post advocating for black women’s mental health in general, then we wouldn’t be having this conversation right now. but because it was a situation that MY FRIEND experienced but was blocked out of getting any support because he’s a black man rather than a black woman or girl, that’s when it becomes an issue. he has been struggling for OVER a year and he felt like nobody cares about him. just when he thought someone felt the same way, he’s locked out because of his gender. it’s kinda stupid in my opinion.

kumigrl

@1eos you know he’s on your side, right? the only reasons why he’s saying this side of the argument is because he has a friend who was complaining due to the false advertisement which made it seem like someone was telling their story as someone who felt alone only to find out that it was a black women’s resource campaign.

not going to lie, it is a bit scummy the way they advertised. if it was just an “advocate for black women’s mental health” then it would be better than basically clickbait advertisements in his darkest moments.

basically saying, you both don’t like the mental health ads. i feel like it would be better if you guys tried to listen to one and other and maybe you could figure out where you two stand in this. it is obvious that both of you guys wrote your posts in anger but isn’t understanding anything.

taeminscheesetouch

BRO HE'S AGREEING THAT THE ADS ARE SHIT! STOP ARGUING!

rensneko

HE AGREED! STOP HARASSING HIM!

nihaojj

i don't understand the unnecessary harassment at all. you two just disagree with the ads but in different angles. he doesn't like it because it was basically clickbait and caused his friend who is afraid to speak out pain and you don't like it because it's racist towards black women. just talk it out and be mature. jeez.

brigwife-deactivated20240426

Imagine getting medical treatment done "by the NHS", and the day finally arrives and you're waiting on the hospital bed and then the door opens and the surgeon comes in and it's fucking. Nie Huisiang.

#fuck

jonghyuns-husband

do y’all pretend that jonghyun had his military service?

yes

Voting ended onMar 23, 2023

#who wouldn't? man finished his military december 19th 2020 lol #it just feels right tho T-T

woolandflax

The person you reblogged this from is

My bestie

Pretty cool

Evil

In need of some therapy

Funny

A terrorist

Kinda weird but I like them

A worm

on thin ice

John Cena

Voting ended onMar 10, 2023

#pretty cool

tremendousmasculinity-deactivat

no @nihaojj your birthday is on jonghyun month 😒

jonghyun's birthday is just before easter and yours is just after easter. easter saturday and easter tuesday!

Nooo dude forgot his own birthday month? Thats so sadd 😭 I do that too but with names, i know a Theo irl (not the Theo in here its another one) but i accidently call him Peter all the time

nihaojj

TF IS PETER 😭 man turned from a lightskin to white

theargylegargoyle

Reblog if you think it’s okay to platonically say “I Love You” to your friends

pixie-mage

Slams the reblog button so damn fast

ezrasarm

jonghyuns-husband

princessjjongie

CW // Dec 18th (this is the last time I’m going to mention it in this blog dw)

Can you guys PLEASE add a trigger warning to your posts if it mentions or suggests Dec 18th? Anything that includes it triggers the hell out of me and me simply adding dec 18th to my filters won’t do very much.

In case you was wondering why I’m not posting, I’m taking a break for now.

#THANK YOU KUMI