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[zmpl]

before we start posting that july is gay wrath month let’s consider that july is disability pride month first and foremost. the “be gay do crimes” memes can wait

[zmpl]

before this post breaches containment and people start going “why not both hehehe” i want you to seriously consider the very long history of disabled people’s existence being pushed aside and/or seen as secondary. i promise you it’s not going to hurt to hold onto the memes and give disabled people space for visibility and celebration.

i say this as a disabled trans person whose trans identity is made front-and-center to the (mainly cis) people who know i’m trans but my identity as a disabled person is brushed off by the very same people.

[caspercryptid]

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.

[wolfsteax]

I humbly offer this contribution.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[roach-works]

when i was getting trained as a welder the guys started playing sneaky grabass with each other and with me. i almost hit a few people while holding dangerous tools in my hand because they wouldn’t stop grabbing me from behind, then laughing that i ‘almost’ hit them, so i finally had to go to the instructor and say, look, i’ve had years and years of self defense training due the fact i’m a very small weirdo who is in legitimate danger of getting hatecrimed and at some point one of these guys is going to goose me again and im going to bury a wrench in his eye. get them to stop grabbing me, because i don’t want to get kicked out for hitting people.

the next day i ended up punching someone in the face with a doughnut in my fist because she thought i was being a big fucking buzzkill who tattled to teacher about a harmless game, and, guess what, grabbed my butt. i got icing all over her hair. she complained to teacher...who let everyone know that this was why they weren’t supposed to be playing grabass in the fucking shop.

anyway don’t fucking sneak up on twitchy little queers with hypervigilance, it fucking sucks and you’re lucky if you get a doughnut to a face instead of a hammer.

[kyraneko]

given that this was a welding class, I was expecting this to end up so much worse

[bobbole]

Leslie Levings, An Effort to Release It

[strangegutz]

Little Menaces - Bug Tea Party - Star

OOAK handmade art doll

[ayviedoesthings]

Saying this with all the love in my heart, "Trans" is not a magical title that erases all social biases and discriminations you hold in your mind the moment you transition.

You have to actually ACTIVELY unlearn all that shit. You can actually be trans AND hold TERF and racist beliefs, it is in fact very easy.

Read studies and essays, Engage with the works of other minorities, Don't think you're just better by virtue of losing *some* privilege.

[kaylasartwork]

This is something I am still learning to this very day. Growing up in a Christian Conservative Town and family gave me a lot of unfortunate views that I struggle with constantly. Everyday I try to chip away at those views.

[youthincare]

people should be allowed to have low ambition, and also be able to feed a family on the salary of a cashier at a convenience store.

[ritahayworrth]

happy fourth of july to the philippines ONLY

[ritahayworrth]

link to article

[cassiterite-tenring]

hi, filipino here. just want to say that our independence day is june 12, not july 4. july 4 is when the united states government decided that they would recognize our freedom, specifically because it is your independence day and they wanted to cement their cultural hegemony over our country. and because of their influence on our country this was recognized for a time as our independence day. we still commemorate it, but i hope you can understand why we don’t want our independence day to be associated so closely with our former colonizer. it wasn’t even a work holiday for us.

june 12 is the day that we filipinos declared our own independence for ourselves, and that is what we celebrate as independence day

[houseofglass]

happy june 12 to you

[depsidase]

[theartofmadeline]

happy pride to the gay people in my computer <3

[pupfettipaws]

happy pride month to those in the closet. to those who went back into the closet. to those who have unsupportive families, friends and relationships. those who were bullied and harassed because of their identity. those who were killed because of who they truly were and loved.

you are loved and appreciated.

[darkandstormyranger]

finally some relatable content on ig

[dreamycastaway]

The original pride flag and the sewing machine it was sewn on

[lgbtranswoman]

I've been trying to formulate a post along the lines of

"Saying you hate all men is bad"

but also

"Men as a group/class are statistically more likely to commit violent/sexual crime"

both being true with the goal of trying to say

"Generalizing harm originating from a group hurts good people in the group, makes excuses for the bad people, and does nothing to help people suffering from this harm and we need to focus on making the harm being done properly punished and protecting the victims"

But by god every time I try and find resources on this its nothing but radfems/radqueers and general man hate and I don't have the time nor spoons to sort through all of that slop

[shinra-makonoid]

To be honest even the idea of punishment is not really helpful if we want to get rid of the bad behaviour. We have to understand the source and fix it. Punishing people isn't gonna make it go away. Giving people access to resources allowing them to not resort to commit crimes is the thing that will help decrease the number of victims. Which is the thing that bothers radfems and a lot of feminists: we have to help men to fix society. Not punish them. Not torture them. Help, with empathy and all.

[notyournoma]

[sqwermz]

hey everypony !! since i’m supporting the DCblackout boycott, i figured i’d make a small info post with links and summaries !!

DCblackout:

DCblackout is the second stage of the DCsowhite discussion that took place earlier this year, which pointed out that DC hasn’t publtished a solo, on-going black title in over 1200 days

DCblackout has 3 main goals: 1. establish and announce 1-3 black on-going titles (with black creative teams) that have cancellation immunity for a minimum of 2 years, 2. educate fans on how sales work so they can accurately support the titles they love, & 3. greenlight a power company book if the titles do well (which would help a fanbase grow)

the goal of DCblackout is to raise awareness of the lack of black DC stories and give fans heroes they can relate to and see themselves in.

blackgirlnerds.com

their official public statement is as follows:

bleedingcool.com

DCsowhite and why now:

DCsowhite brought attention to the fact that there has been no black on-going title in over 1200 days. the last title was ‘I Am Batman’, which ran from 2021-2023 and ended on its #18 issue.

dc heavily relies on mini-runs or one shots for black characters, and black female characters receive even less.

james portis III (aka JPenumbra) posted a piece to comicsbeat.com focusing on the issue.

comicbeats.com

this has been an issue for a long time, but it doesn’t have to continue this way !! below is a link to the DCblackout petition, and blow that are links to JPenumbra’s original piece, the DCblackout website, and blackgirlnerds.com and bleedingcool.com’s pieces (in that order).

Sign the Petition

#DCSoWhite: End the Black Superhero Drought

DC Comics, Blinded by Whiteness Examining the Lack of Black-Led Ongoing Titles

It has now been 1171 days since the last time DC published an ongoing series for a Black character in their mainline continuity

DCBlackout - a DC Comics boyocott.

Black Comic Alliance Announces Stage 2: DCBlackout, Escalating Calls for Structural Change at DC Comics | Black Girl Nerds

Following the viral #DCSoWhite conversation, creators demand sustained investment, visibility, and accountability for Black representation

DC Comics Boycott: 1200 Days With No Ongoing DC Universe Black Lead

DC Blackout: a DC Comics fan boycott launches after 1200 days without an ongoing DC Universe comic book series with a black lead character

[nocturnalbruiser]

cousin suggested i host a t-party, where everyone comes dressed as a gentleman and there is an assortment of different teas available to celebrate me starting t,,,,, seriously considering the idea