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bi woman and learning more and more about feminism

[homunculus-argument]

The Odyssey but retold as a low-stakes modern adventure of one guy out with his girlfriend leaving the bar with his buddies to do just one (1) simple thing real quick, it'll take like 15 minutes tops, he'll be right back, but then some bullshit happens and the trip keeps getting more complicated as more bullshit keeps happening while he just tries to get back to the bar because he promised his girlfriend that he'd get back and he knows that she's still there because she told him she'd wait there.

And by the time he finally gets back it's almost 3 am and the bar is about to close while she's sitting there stone cold sober, surrounded by 5 drunk guys unsuccessfully trying to convince her to give up on waiting for him and go home with one of them instead. And the guy shows up to proceed to beat the shit out of them before explaining himself to her like hey sorry bullshit kept happening, my phone fell into a storm drain and my wallet got stolen when I was trying to find someone who'd borrow me a phone so I could call and

[nonagesimusgff]

The first part is actually just the plot of Detective Conan

[marbleguard]

our biggest problem is that women believe men are the people they pretend to be around women. That is not a real guy, that is his 'interacting with a woman' costume. I was reminded this for the 6897th time the other friday where not many people were in the office and the nicest young guy in the department who crochets and is very kind to all the women here was talking to a few other young guys about his girlfriend and his friends' girlfriends, and it was harrowing. What he was saying was bad enough but he and the others even stopped themselves and laughed and said "well, that's about as much as I can say in the office." like what there's MORE?

All the while I am sure his girlfriend thinks she has struck gold with her nice long haired golden retriever crochet boyfriend

[nonagesimusgff]

Being the only woman in my team has been the most radicalizing experience ever, because my colleagues wouldn’t even try to hide their true selves. So for months i had to listen to the disgusting ways they talked about other women at my workplace or women in their lives. I can’t even imagine what they would think or say if i wasn’t there

[sadofeye]

'fucking your wife' 'fucking your mom' etc these were always bad jokes. they contribute to the idea of women as property to be pillaged and desecrated like that was obvious wasnt it. and yet leftist men have such a soft spot for this type of humor

[nonagesimusgff]

Why is everyone putting their substack under a paywall istg

[avicecaro]

the other thing about claiming tradwives have a fetish is that it really reveals the issue in consent politics. the idea is that there is no actual moral value positive or negative in how these men treat women or even how societally women are denied rights; the issue becomes only whether or not she’s agreed to it, whether or not she likes it — basically, whether a man who wants to abuse and control a woman is able to find the right target, or can convince a woman to put up with it. it’s true that it’s consistent with the consent argument of bdsm. there’s no moral value in hitting your partner, only whether you are able to find an acceptable partner to hit. (it’s also consistent with consent models or rape law; there is no actual act or circumstance which constitutes rape, an act becomes rape if a man can’t find a woman able to be convinced to submit) it places the burden on the woman to prove she didn’t want what happened to her so that she can access intervention, provides no help at all to women who do romanticize or eroticize male violence and control, and still provides no meaningful definition of abuse.

[captainsjack]

not letting op leave these in the tags

[nonagesimusgff]

everytime i come across one of colleen hoover books i always wonder how could they not have been written by a man.... the level of misogyny is unparalleled (for context: i was watching a video roasting what I believe is one of her latest books, Layla, and I became more and more terrified as the video went on, like wtf man)

[dangerousdykes]

I’m not interested in dedicating my feminist effort to making masculinity more comfortable for men, I could not care less; they created it, they uphold it, so they fix it. I’m not gonna wade through their toxic waste to try to awaken some core of softness and compassion in men. If men are supposedly as good at analysis and reflection as they like to claim then they can fix their own shit. Demanding that women use up our effort to do it for them in the name of feminism - a women’s movement - is just another facet of the same masculinity they supposedly disapprove of.

[dark-skin-fem]

[bodacious-ass]

it makes me so sad how womyn feel the need to make themselves smaller for men. we're supposed to be quiet for them. they tell us that small equals beauty. they want to make us small, literally, so we can't fight back. they make us proud to starve ourselves. we should be proud of being well fed, taking up space, and not being afraid to fight back. don't let males shrink your voice

[claudias-diaries]

[andreadworkinq]

While gossip among women is universally ridiculed as low and trivial, gossip among men, especially if it is about women, is called theory, or idea, or fact.

Right Wing Women, Andrea Dworkin

[majchic]

[onlytwitterpics]

[unsentimentaltranslator]

If he can’t grow without leeching off a woman, he’s a parasite.

[enchantingcheesecakepersona]

This is the entire point of why arranged (forced) marriages happen in certain cultures. Parents with violent and abusive sons that can’t be controlled are married off to burden an unsuspecting girl/woman.

[angharadical]

Pregnancy is not a punishment for having sex. Yes, even unprotected sex.

Parenthood isn’t a punishment for having sex, either. Parenthood is a lifelong responsibility that should knowingly be opted into; it isn’t a penalty for having sex and getting pregnant one (1) time.

Having sex is not an immoral act. Women having sex is not an immoral act. It does not need to be punished.

[tomatosplat]

actually disgusting that a victim should have to recount her sexual assault to the public in horrific sickening excruciating detail to finally be believed. we knew months ago that neil gaiman was a rapist but it really took knowing *exactly* the ways that he raped and dehumanized her for you people to decide that it was *really* rape?? fucking ghoulish.

[tomatosplat]

@lilacsupernova i can't allow you to just leave this in the tags. it must be reblogged sorry

[colombinaa]

women create life and then men appropriate it by giving his name to the child; “she’s pregnant with his child”, “we’re pregnant” we’re expecting”; he celebrates the “dad bod”. contemporarly, men say it’s women’s job to reproduce, it’s her duty, it’s her purpose; her pregnant and post-partum body is ruined and disgusting, she can’t “let herself go”, she needs to do better and “get back on track”.

women create community, art, technology and then men appropriate it by locking her away and stealing her labour, energy and time. contemporarly, men say she has to serve his unilateral society, he calls her art bland or absurd, her technology is forgotten, stolen or unimportant; nothing is ever enough to compare to his society, his art, his technology, she always needs to do better.

do you see the connection? this is why i say creation is female. a man can only create because a woman decided to create him first. this is why patriarchy destroys.

[latinaradfem]

male “feminists” don’t exist

[nonagesimusgff]

the pinnacle of male feminism I've encountered was one of my colleagues saying that a pro-abortion slogan he read somewhere sounded like "something a terf would say" and that's all I needed to know about his so-called feminism

(I don't think I need to specify this but, for anyone wondering, trans people were not mentioned at all in the slogan, nor were any parts of the female reproductive system)